Who’s On My Team? (and ready to Fill The Love Bucket®)

July 20th, 2017 Posted in The Love Bucket® | No Comments »

Who’s on my team? This question was posed by Greg W. Anderson, today on Facebook.

My response was “Here!”

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Greg shared with everyone who replied:

“Wow, I have some AMAZING People on my team.
Now that you’re on my team let’s do some good in the world today.

Here is your challenge.

|I want you to send a message to someone that is important to you. This could be a spouse, a friend, a co-worker, or someone you have neglected for a while. Basically ANYONE you want to have an impact on today.
Start your message with "What’s Special about you is …" or "What I appreciate about you is…", then tell them.
This next part is critical.
After you have told them end the message. DO NOT try to get them to respond or have them tell you what they like about you.
THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU!!
If they don’t respond, COOL.
If they simply say thank you, COOL.
If they respond and ask if you’re drunk or on drugs, COOL.
What is special about you is that if you are on my team you care about making other feel loved and appreciated as much as you care about being loved and appreciated.
After you have completed your task report back on this thread how it went.

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So here is how it went:

This was clearly an opportunity to Fill the Love Bucket®

I called my friend Lance. His birthday was April 1st (April Fool’s Day). I had only left a voice message and now almost four months later, it was time to actually connect.
I called and left another message for Lance.

“Lance, we’ve been friends for so long, I wanted to tell you how special you are. I always admired your relationship with your Dad, especially after your Mom died. You had a special bond. He thought the world of you and so do I.”

Almost immediately, my call was returned. We has a nice catch up and it was surprising how much had occurred in four months.

Lance is a cinematographer is now also teaching his craft (share the knowledge!). He got a new dog, Aggie. And, he signed up for flight school specializing in helicopters.

We made a plan to get together in person next time I am in Los Angeles.  Lance said he loves to hear from me because I make him smile.

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Thanks, Greg, for the inspiration. Would have done it anyway, because I’m a proponent of Relationship Riches, but the timing was absolutely perfect.

RESULT: Happy and Filled Love Bucket®

The Top Three Reasons People Can Fall Out Of Love

July 10th, 2017 Posted in The Love Bucket® | No Comments »

The top three reasons how people can fall out of love and never know why:

Feeling Unheard,
Feeling Unappreciated,
Feeling Unwanted.

Any or all of these three make you feel UN-LOVED and over time that can cause YOU to fall "out of love clip_image001 ".

Does this look and sound super simple?

If you’re struggling with your partner and want to keep your marriage/relationship alive and happy then make sure you’re addressing all three of these.

If you are the one who is feeling any of these please share this post message with your loved one. Then it is not you who is providing the words, which could be taken as criticism, but from an authority on the official Love Bucket Blog which has been running since 2008.

Do not assuming your partners know these three reason noted above. A refresher may be an eye opener and help kick-start the love machine.

I love when people are love. Love makes the world go ‘round. When you see a couple of any age holding hands, gazing into each other’s eyes, smiling that “I love you” smile, it rubs off and people around are infected with the good love vibrations.

Let’s all figure out how to love more deeply and change the vibration of the earth with the vibes of love.

If you are not in love or not in a partner relationship, start by sharing a smile or a kind word. Respect one another and share love in simple ways.
If you are in love in a partner relationship, and your love seems to have taken a dip, give it a boost. If you look at the three reasons noted above, what is the common element?

The common theme is attention.  The right attention is:

Feeling Heard,
Feeling Appreciated,
Feeling Wanted,

Means you’re getting that attention you desire and deserve. And that all comes from knowing how to fill The Love Bucket the right way. There are 7 Ways to Fill The Love Bucket®. There are probably three or four that are the primary ways that are important to you and will make you feel you are getting the attention you desire. The Rings of Desire of The Love Bucket® will “shine up” like a smile lights up a face when your Love Bucket is getting filled!

Inspired by Greg W Anderson
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Love, Babies, and Pimping Out Your Life #fillthelovebucket

June 7th, 2017 Posted in The Love Bucket® | No Comments »

There are a lot of ways to fill The Love Bucket®

One way is to share your love, everywhere in everyway.  And by everywhere, we mean social media.

Whether you use Periscope or Facebook Live, you instantly have an audience to broadcast your love and your life.  Our friends at Periscope tell us you can instantly become a talk tour guide, talk show host, or commentator for your Twitter audience. Just remember to start with a full battery in an area with little or no background noise.

Apparently, Facebook is prioritizing and promoting live video right now. Facebook is promoting FB Live videos right now into news feeds. When you go live that chances are that anyone on Facebook at that moment will see it at the top of their newsfeed.

Facebook has made live video even more findable with their new Live Maps that promotes Live videos happening around the world. This makes our live videos even more findable by people beyond those who like our Facebook pages which is one of the advantages that Periscope used to hold over Facebook.

Back to filling The Love Bucket®  If the Contact Ring of Desire has a public consideration, then FB live is the way to go. 

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Look at this announcement from expectant parents, Nick and Megan Unsworth.  The have a baby boy, Aiden, at the end of last year, and now Megan is 20 weeks pregnant with their second child. 

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Here’s the email copy from Nick with subject line: Wanna join the surprise with Megan and I?

Hey hey!

  Holy moly I’m like a little kid the night before Christmas waiting for presents lol.  Remember what that felt like?  So fun.

So my amazing wife Megan is 20 weeks pregnant and we are going to find out whether we’re having a boy or girl tonight :)))

We decided to turn it into a fun little event and Facebook live.
I’m going to blind fold Megan and she’s gonna wack a piñata that’s filled with either blue or pink candy (Starbursts I hope lol).

So if you’d like to join us in the festivities just head to our Life on Fire Facebook page at 7:30pm June 7th for the Facebook live

https://www.facebook.com/nickunsworthlifeonfire/

***Megan and I will be surprised as well…the nurse put the results in a sealed envelope and the good folks at Party City filled the piñata for us.

Now in full transparency…I did try to find the envelope twice at home!  lol

Good thing Megan hid it from me hahaa.  She’s the one with all the discipline.

I love surprises and if you want to join us and share in this fun moment come on by the Facebook live and say hi.

Hope you’re having an amazing day!!

Nick "Curious George" Unsworth

P.S.  What’s your guess, boy or girl!?? 

Filling The Love Bucket® with deep intimacy

April 22nd, 2017 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Drive Her Desire, Seduction, SEX | No Comments »

Is deep intimacy is lacking in your relationship?

It is understandable why so few couples reach the level of deep, deep intimacy.

Vulnerability can be downright scary.

Filling The Love Bucket® is an easy concept but their may be obstacles in your way.

Perhaps you’ve been hurt once or many times when you exposed your deepest longings and passions. But chances are you haven’t even come close to experiencing mutual vulnerability in your relationships.

Here are some steps you can take to deepen the intimacy and the Sex Ring of Desire with your partner.

1.  Take baby steps. Don’t share your entire life story when you are new in a relationship. If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, don’t suddenly *spill your guts* about everything you’ve ever thought of, dreamed of, fantasized about. Build your castle one brick at a time.

Whenever you have the opportunity (date night for instance) share maybe one new thing that you’ve never talked about before. Taking your time will not only build trust, it will build a stronger foundation for your relationship to rest upon.

2.  Make time and space for deep sharing. It is hard to share personal thoughts and ideas if you have kids running around or while sitting in the spectator stands at a sports match.

Seek out private places like parks, nature walks, candlelit dining tables or even backyards watching fireflies.  Sometimes having a beverage and/or a snack can help slow you down and give you enough time to begin some important conversations.

3.  Talk about intimate issues. You can’t grow deeply if all you ever talk about is the kids and work. Your sexual life is (or will be if you are working towards that goal) an incredibly important part of cementing you two together. The bonds you build are directly related to how open and honest each of you can be about your intimate desires.

Bringing up "sex talk" can be uncomfortable, can’t it? And depending on how you approach it, the questions and answers might be so vague that you really don’t accomplish much.

One of the best ways I discovered to make these discussions fun and non-threatening is to make our way through a list of questions that someone else wrote so there isn’t that feeling of "I wonder why he/she is asking that question".

Michael has used the experience of helping couples over the last 20 years to create a resource that will help create the deep intimacy you crave.

==> 500 Questions to activate the SEX Ring of Desire

An effective way to go through questions like this is to have them on your night stand or even cut up and put in a jar or box where you pull out one or more to answer.

Deep intimacy takes time and effort to achieve but like building a castle a brick at a time you eventually have a fortress that can weather almost any attack.

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Shine up the Sex Ring of Desire and Fill The Love Bucket®!

Love and the Lasting Relationship #Valentines

February 14th, 2017 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »

This Valentine’s Day give love to another unconditionally – The simplest way to fill The Love Bucket.

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We all want love and spend time searching for a lasting relationship. But, soon after we find it, many start running in the opposite direction. It always seems as if relationships are difficult; difficult to find, difficult to keep and enjoy.

The fundamental truth is, there is no inherent problem with relationships.  “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi

There is never a scarcity of relationships or love. Love is our natural condition, why aren’t we in it all the time? What keeps us from this love we are so hungry for?

In dating, the usual answer is that there are no good men or women around, or that there is something essentially wrong with me.

The truth is that we don’t know what love really is. We fall in love with a fantasy and when it starts to wear off and the real person peeks through, we recoil. Where has the love gone? We complain. That person hasn’t fulfilled our longings or dreams. We become so disappointed.

The answer is that the love hasn’t gone anywhere, because it wasn’t love from the start. We haven’t been in love with that person, we haven’t known them. We’ve fallen in love with a fantasy, dreaming of what that fantasy will do for us.
When the person before you appears and you know everything about them, and still love them, that is love.

A great teacher Virginia Lloyd, once put it beautifully, she said, "Love is wanting for the other what they want for themselves, even if you aren’t the one who is able to give it to them."

Love isn’t about getting your own needs and dreams met, it’s about opening your hand and giving. And as Rumi the poet said, ‘Open your hands if you want to be held.’ ~Rumi

Love is based in action. Pure-hearted giving, with no thought of what is coming in return is not only a wonderful gift to the other, it is the ultimate gift to yourself as well. Try and see.

“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” ~Rumi

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By Dr Brenda Shoshana shared by Dr Harlan Kilstein

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