Impossible To Fill Her Love Bucket: The 7 Surefire Signs of Women To Avoid

September 3rd, 2010 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Heart, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket | No Comments »

Impossible To Fill Her Love Bucket: The 7 Surefire Signs of Women To Avoid

This is intended for men who are dating so if you’ve chosen your woman, get to know the top desires of  her love bucket and FILL THEM!!!!  See http://the-man-class.com

 

Guys, if you are dating, you need to get clear and really hone in on your they type of woman you are interested BEFORE you go out there and start dating market yourself extensively (that particularly applies to what you are writing in your online dating profile). One of the major reasons this is so important is that most guys make the mistake of trying to attract to EVERY WOMAN, fearing that if they clearly define themselves, they’ll narrow down their prospective DATING POOL too much. As a result their dating effort is less than compelling and doesn’t pull ANY women in.

We now know that being a generalist is not Dating Attractive, quite the contrary, because CLARITY OF PURPOSE not being a jack-of-all-trades helps a guy stand out in the dating marketplace and it’s much easier to attract to a specific type of women than it is to attract a whole bunch of different women. Otherwise, your dating message gets lost and isn’t compelling enough and you don’t catch any woman’s attention. Your love and sex life depends on your clarity.

I want to take you on a different spin of your “ideal dating.” I want to talk to you about the surefire signs of women to AVOID; at least in my point of view. I suggest be very selective about whom you date. You should consider cherry-picking your dates and go so far as to state exactly what type of woman you want (personality-wise) and what doesn’t work right up front.

You want to date the best women who are “high caliber” and who meet your carefully thought-out criteria especially the no-compromise criteria. You don’t enjoy dating whiners or skeptics or women who make excuses because its easier to blame others.

I know it’s a little bold, and I’m certain it ticks off some guys (usually though, it’s the women who recognize themselves as bad cases of whiners, skeptics, and women with a general bad or negative attitude about everything). The funny thing is; your IDEAL date will say SHE LOVES it that you have clarity and it strengthens their conviction that they want to date you again. Having clarity is attractive in dating.

So, if it’s a little bit controversial to some women, and turns some women off, why do I suggest you do this? Because, probably like you, in the beginning, you dated ANY woman who was breathing, had a female body, and was remotely interested in dating you, despite sometimes having a strong feeling in your gut that you were doing the wrong thing and might regret it. You were simply desperate for dates.

Lo and behold, every single time you dated one of these non-ideal women, you regretted it. You ignored all the signs, shunned your gut feeling, and later wished you hadn’t taken her on that date. It was always a disaster. Either her attitude made you think “why is this woman SO negative!?” or perhaps they stopped dating with you after just one month, blaming you for the fact they weren’t getting what they needed or the standard, “it’s not you, it’s me” line.

These were the same women who became what call “heart-sink” date. You know the ones. They give you that sinking feeling in your heart. She’s the women you’ll be seeing that night but in reality your heart sinks with the prospect of the looming date. Instead of being excited for the date, you dread it, drag your feet on preparing and generally get in a bad mood knowing you’ll have to interact to her.

You can’t afford to have your energy brought down by ONE dating experience with a woman who’s a chronic cranky-pants. It’s just not fair to you. You’ll never be able to fill her love bucket. Actually, it will be impossible to fill her love bucket:

If you’re not having that “YESSS!!!” feeling with every date, you may need to listen to your intuition more and better yet, make a list of your own surefire signs NOT to pursue a dating relationship with a woman, no matter how much how good looking and sexy she is.

Here’s are some surefire signs of non-ideal date:

1. Women who don’t show up time for the date and make up not-so-believable excuses for why they are late. (Take a no-excuses approach to the early dating experience and to life in general. Start on the right foot.)
2. Women who don’t meet your criteria during interactions prior to your first date. (Don’t let those love biochemicals kick in with her sexy photo or sultry voice. Put the testosterone aside and activate your pre-frontal cortex. If she doesn’t meet your criteria now, she’ll probably not meet them later either.)
3. Women who aren’t nice to a waitress, valet or service staff. (That should be a HUGE no-no for you. If she treats someone like less than equal from the get-go, she should have ZERO chance of a second date with you.)
4. Women who are rude to you too. (Not much more to be said here.)
5. Women who whine, complain, or resist everything, make excuses, or sometimes even lie. (You prefer to hang out with really fun, upbeat women, and women who are “up” to good things.)
6. Women who try to manipulate, despite the fact that you are clear up front about who you are and what works for you in dating and relating. (It’s been my experience that women who take an inch will always try to take a mile down the road.)
7. Women who clearly have two personalities – one for you on the date all lovey-dovey and the real one. The real one is the nightmare.  You’ll start to see this by month three if not beforehand unless she is a really good actress.  

Have you ever experienced women doing one or more of these things? Most likely if you are breathing. Perhaps you’re not good at recognizing the sighs. After a while, you’ll start recognizing the signs and their consequences.

How do you deal with these situations? If they’re a prospective date, stop before you begin. Move on. Don’t start something that has no future as a relationship, and explain to her that you’re probably not the right guy for her. If she’s been on several dates with you, find a graceful way to end the relationship. It should only happen rarely, but when it needs to happen, do what it takes.

Let’s face it. Non-ideal dates will never get you the love you want. Don’t prolong it. Stay away from them!

At this point in your life, you have to decide if you are DFS or have gone through the SHIFT and you’re DFL. If you know EXACTLY what you want in a woman, then the right women will show up with your dating effort both online in the “sorting” process and offline with your dates in person.

Your Assignment for YOUR IDEAL WOMAN:

• Make a list of common denominators among your non-ideal previous dates (not every bad date has all of these, sometimes just one or two). Find the patterns.
• Set standards and criteria in your love life about whom you’ll date and whom you’ll turn away.
• Then, follow those criteria as if your love life depends on it (it does).
• Even consider sharing your list with a close friend, which shows your commitment and they can keep an eye out for a good catch for you!

You deserve top-notch, top 10 or “A+” dates, not boring “D” women. The only person who can let them into your dating life is you. You’re the ultimate decision-maker. Besides, when your “dance card” is filled with “D” dates, you become so irritable that you’re not going to BE dating attractive for the right woman. That’s not good when the right woman comes along. So take action on this and don’t break your own standards. You have the ultimate choice, so use it.

If you’re not yet attracting only “A+” dates in your love life, you need to start over with your criteria. Get clear. Understand what you have that will appeal to the best women for you. It will take a few passes to fine-tune and hone your list of what you want in your ideal woman and what you have to offer her. Don’t leave it up to chance.

You will be able to fill her love bucket when your criterion matches her personality. Check out the 5 Love Dynamics for more on Real Love Dynamics of men and women. http://5lovedynamics.com

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Sherrie Rose
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Love Virgin: Empty Love Bucket?

September 2nd, 2010 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Love Bucket, Romance, SEX, Seduction | No Comments »

Love Virgin: Empty Love Bucket ?

Are you a love virgin?

Allow me to explain. If you go by the traditional definition of the word “virgin,” it means a person who has not had sexual intercourse. If you’ve ever bumped uglies in the night, hid the hot dog, or taken the bullet train through Yonker’s tunnel, then no, you are not a virgin.

What about a love virgin?

The term “virgin” can also be used in non-sexual contexts to mean a lack of something. A Pina Colada Virgin, for instance, is a Pina Colada cocktail without alcohol. A love virgin, therefore, is someone who has never fallen in love.

If you’ve never fallen in love, you probably have not filled the love bucket….

Some people go through life never experiencing love. Some do and don’t know it. Still others do and won’t admit it. While all three are potential dating hazards, the first kind — the true love virgin — presents an especially difficult case.

Most people have experienced it at least once. While there isn’t a limit to the number of times one could fall in love, it would be logistically difficult to have felt it more than, say, twenty times. Unless, maybe, you’re a thousand-year-old vampire or something.

For most people, love isn’t an emotion or a state of being that happens easily. It’s not like buying ice cream at the supermarket. It’s more like buying a condo or house, relatively speaking.

I’ll bet some of you are shaking your heads right now. “I fall in love almost once a month,” you’re thinking to yourself. “It’s not as rare as this doofus makes it sound.”

Sorry to do this, but see your bubble there? Now look at this pin in my hand. Burst!

If you fall in love that often, chances are you haven’t been feeling love. What you may have been feeling is infatuation. A very deep, passionate infatuation, perhaps, but infatuation nonetheless.

It is easy to confuse infatuation with love. Love isn’t a feeling that fades in a matter of weeks. It takes years, decades, even lifetimes. Or perhaps it never truly fades; it just evolves into a more elemental emotion.

Infatuation, on the other hand, is defined as an “all-absorbing passion” (see why it’s so easy to confuse it with love?) that doesn’t last. It doesn’t grow or evolve. It just remains at that level, then dips like the sunset.

If you are still in your teens or early twenties, it isn’t uncommon to be a love virgin. Some may even argue that you don’t really know what love is until you’re older, though I think that’s bullshit. But if you are still a love virgin at this age, don’t fret. You are not alone.

If you are in your thirties or forties, however, then you should be concerned. That’s a long time to go through life without ever falling in love. It isn’t impossible, but, well, something may be wrong.

Are you afraid of being hurt so much that you avoid relationships? Are you consciously or unconsciously isolating yourself from strangers? Are you ending relationships before they have a chance to mature?

There is something beneath the surface that isn’t quite socially healthy. Or at least, socially acceptable by the norm.

On the flip side, if you are dating a love virgin, then be careful. Just as a sexual virgin isn’t quite sure what to do with all the rods and cones, a love virgin isn’t quite sure what to do with all the messy emotions that come with being in love. This isn’t a slight against love virgins, it’s just a fact. Lack of experience begets lack of understanding.

Don’t expect that your love bucket will be filled right away by a love virgin…

For example, jealousy can play a big part in love. Most people new to love will find this curious, yet nagging emotion sitting on their shoulder from time to time. The little green devil may occasionally nip at them, throw an all-out tantrum, or crawl away and lurk just behind the ears.

With experience, many learn to cope with this emotion. They realize its roots in insecurity and put it away appropriately. However, a love virgin doesn’t yet have this experience. Thusly, the little green devil is out to play.

There is more. Mutual love is a delicate sheet of rice paper. Push too hard and it will crumble. Pull too hard and it will tear. With experience and a few failed relationships under your belt (no pun intended), you will hopefully have learned how hard to push and how hard to pull.

A love virgin at age forty, unfortunately, hasn’t had the benefit of such experience. Such an individual may unknowingly come on too strong and suffocate the object of their desire. So dater beware.

To be fair, there are many patient people in the world who can deal with a middle-aged love virgin, just as there are many understanding people in the world who can deal with a middle-aged virgin. (“You know what? I respect women! I love women! I respect them so much that I completely stay away from them!”) So it isn’t the end of the world if you are a love virgin.

It takes confidence and bold moves to fill the love bucket….

But to those dating a love virgin, if you don’t have the patience or tolerance to deal with a new crop of emotions and lack of experience, be careful. Their only experience with love is what they’ve seen in movies. And as we all know, life isn’t like the movies.

Love Virgin by Mike Lee http://www.mikelee.org/love-virgin.html

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6 Types of Lovers: Which One Are You? Can you fill ‘The Love Bucket?’

September 1st, 2010 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, SEX | No Comments »

6 Types of Lovers: Which One Are You?

From a romantic to a player, experts say there are six different ways you can be “in love.”

Love can look very different. Some couples fawn over each other in a lovey-dovey way with sparks and passion flying, while others might be called stodgy, content with sitting side-by-side in an easy companionship. In addition, love styles can change as a relationship matures over the years. Knowing your love style can help you evaluate your relationship, allowing you to have more realistic expectations about how love occurs and how it evolves over the years.

What kind of lover are you? Health.com, with input from Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle, describes the six types of lovers:

The Romantic
Swept away by your lover’s good looks and physical attractiveness, you just love being in love. The problem? When his hairline recedes or her waistline expands, you are disappointed. Remember that romance doesn’t have to fade as the relationship ages.

The List-Maker
You have very high standards–so high that you may put too much pressure on your partner to live up to them. It’s time to let go of that list or you could be living a very lonely life. Remember, what’s most important is companionship, love and forgiveness–not the size of a bank account, an Ivy League education, job title, the square footage of a house or anything else that impresses others.

The Obsessive
You want to spend every minute with your partner. Even though you’ve been together for years, you still worry about the relationship. Watch out! Your insecurities are making you overbearing. You may need professional help putting your relationship into a realistic perspective.

The Giver
You are so selfless and love your partner so much that you often give more than you receive. While that’s laudable, you need to make sure you look after your own needs, too. Do make sure you develop a life outside your marriage with your own friendships and interests.

The Player
It’s all about the chase for you. Long-term relationships bore you and when you’re in one too long, your eye may roam. If you’re married, make sure you avoid situations that could lead to an affair. Take temptation out of your life and instead find excitement inside your marriage.

The Pal
First, you were friends. Then one day you realized, “I’m in love!” Your relationship may be quiet, but it’s strong. Just make sure things don’t get too platonic. Plan a romantic evening for two and rev up the sex and excitement.

(Source: Health.com)

Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist is providing this list just for fun.  These are not her opinions.  Check out the 5 Love Dynamics http://5LoveDynamics.com to discover more about love dynamics, sexual dynamics: From Dating to Cultivating.

Honey Love Pot Tattoos! (not Love Bucket)

August 26th, 2010 Posted in Her Love Bucket, SEX, Seduction | No Comments »

Your Lady May Surprise You with a Vattoo…

The Honey Love Pot (see Urban Dictionary for definition below) is comprised of multiple parts that eventually lead to the O-Spot (see Urban Dictionary).

There are always trends in your Love and Sex Life and currently the hottest rage is decorating the mound of the Honey Love Pot. Accessorizing the body has always been a favored activity of women and some of the naughty trends include vajazzling, vadge blush, and vadge accessories.

This is not exactly vadge blush… the color is called Orgasm.  see honey love pot http://honeylovepot.info

The V relates to the female body part that is often, but incorrectly thought of as the Love Bucket.

Spas that provide bikini waxes in major metropolitan areas will most likely also provide the application service as you select from the range of temporary tattoos or bring your own. Like most temporary tattoos, depending on a variety of factors like frequency of washing, rubbing, and oil on the skin, they’ll they lasts for about five to seven days.

Not every naughty love diplomat would decorate her honey love pot but, just like henna tattoos that are temporary, vattoos specifically designed for the mound of Venus. Special designs are being created by artists now that this demand is on the rise. Truth is any nicely designed temporary tattoos will do the trick!

The real trick and treat is the surprised look on the face of the man who gets the full visual of the vattoo on the mound of her honey love pot.

 

Adultery does not fill the love bucket

August 22nd, 2010 Posted in SEX, Sherrie Rose Recommends | No Comments »

The Love Linguist goes to the Dictionary to share the story about ‘Why is it called “adultery” when being unfaithful isn’t a particularly “adult” thing to do?’

A celebrity marriage spotlight has raised some very grown-up questions about the words we use to talk about love, commitment and desire, and particularly adultery.

Gossip-mongers look for stories and are transfixed by the curious romantic situations of TV and movie star celebrities.

Where would “People” magazine or “US” be without celebrity gossip. These salacious scenarios are exactly what we need for an excuse to look at a dilemma of language that is as enigmatic as the state of celebrity marriage: the complexities of “adult” and “adultery.” How can such similar words have such different meanings?

Remarkably, the answer is that the words don’t share a common ancestor. “Adult” comes from the Latin verb adolescere, “to grow up, mature.” Students of Latin will understand what we mean when we say that adultus is the pluperfect of adolescere. Adultery, on the other hand, derives from a French word, avoutre, which in turn evolved from a distinct Latin verb, adulterare, “to corrupt.” The verb adulterate, “to debase or make impure by adding inferior materials or elements,” stems from the same source.

The sense of “adult” that means pornographic emerged as a kind of reverse assumption that adult and adultery have more direct links than they do.

Let’s look at the dictionary definition of adultery: “voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.” In fact, there are two types: single adultery (with an unmarried person) and double adultery (with a married person.) Here is the definition of adult: “having attained full size and strength; grown up; mature.”

What conclusions can we draw regarding relationships from these twists of etymology? Maybe that a real-life definition of adult is the condition of being responsible for our choices, and that the choice of whom to love and honor is probably the most adult decision of all.

Sherrie Rose Recommends: Go to dictionary.com for your etymology and linguistic reference checks!

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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

 

 

 

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