In a recent New York Times article: “For a majority of undergraduates, beyond the two and a half hours per week in class, contact (with professor) ranges from negligible to nonexistent. ”
It goes on to say: “In their first year, 33 percent of students report that they never talk with professors outside of class, while 42 percent do so only sometimes. Seniors lower that disengagement rate only a bit, with 25 percent never talking to professors, and 40 percent sometimes.
One measure of interest in what professors believe, what wisdom they possess apart from the content of the course, is interaction outside of class. It’s often during incidental conversations held after the bell rings and away from the demands of the syllabus that the transfer of insight begins and a student’s emulation grows. Students email teachers all the time — why walk across campus when you can fire a note from your room? — but those queries are too curt for genuine mentoring. We need face time.”
Any by face time that means interaction in person not the app.
So what does this have to do with the Contact Ring of Desire of The Love Bucket?
It has to do with the type of interaction in the digital realm and the need for real, deep, and soulful contact and connection.
The text or email experience of interaction is NOT a substitute for in-person connection. There is definitely and time and place for digital contact but it cannot replace in-person connection. If you are out of proximity with you lover then facetime and skype are great ways to interact until you get together in person.
Are relationships going the way of the dinosaur? Are lovers falling in a similar pattern as higher education? “When college is more about career than ideas, when paycheck matters more than wisdom, the role of professors changes… Sadly, professors pressed for research time don’t want them, either. As a result, most undergraduates never know that stage of development when a learned mind enthralled them and they progressed toward a fuller identity through admiration of and struggle with a role model.”
It is through contact, connection, and conversation that you grow and transform. What is the role of your partner? Lover, friend, companion? How important is your relationship? Are you investing in relationship riches? Do you devote the time and attention to grow lovematism? Are you priorities in the right place?
The Contact Ring of Desire of The Love Bucket is very important. Do you know how to use it to your advantage?
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