Impossible To Fill Her Love Bucket: The 7 Surefire Signs of Women To Avoid
September 3rd, 2010 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Heart, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket | No Comments »Impossible To Fill Her Love Bucket: The 7 Surefire Signs of Women To Avoid
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Guys, if you are dating, you need to get clear and really hone in on your they type of woman you are interested BEFORE you go out there and start dating market yourself extensively (that particularly applies to what you are writing in your online dating profile). One of the major reasons this is so important is that most guys make the mistake of trying to attract to EVERY WOMAN, fearing that if they clearly define themselves, they’ll narrow down their prospective DATING POOL too much. As a result their dating effort is less than compelling and doesn’t pull ANY women in.
We now know that being a generalist is not Dating Attractive, quite the contrary, because CLARITY OF PURPOSE not being a jack-of-all-trades helps a guy stand out in the dating marketplace and it’s much easier to attract to a specific type of women than it is to attract a whole bunch of different women. Otherwise, your dating message gets lost and isn’t compelling enough and you don’t catch any woman’s attention. Your love and sex life depends on your clarity.
I want to take you on a different spin of your “ideal dating.” I want to talk to you about the surefire signs of women to AVOID; at least in my point of view. I suggest be very selective about whom you date. You should consider cherry-picking your dates and go so far as to state exactly what type of woman you want (personality-wise) and what doesn’t work right up front.
You want to date the best women who are “high caliber” and who meet your carefully thought-out criteria especially the no-compromise criteria. You don’t enjoy dating whiners or skeptics or women who make excuses because its easier to blame others.
I know it’s a little bold, and I’m certain it ticks off some guys (usually though, it’s the women who recognize themselves as bad cases of whiners, skeptics, and women with a general bad or negative attitude about everything). The funny thing is; your IDEAL date will say SHE LOVES it that you have clarity and it strengthens their conviction that they want to date you again. Having clarity is attractive in dating.
So, if it’s a little bit controversial to some women, and turns some women off, why do I suggest you do this? Because, probably like you, in the beginning, you dated ANY woman who was breathing, had a female body, and was remotely interested in dating you, despite sometimes having a strong feeling in your gut that you were doing the wrong thing and might regret it. You were simply desperate for dates.
Lo and behold, every single time you dated one of these non-ideal women, you regretted it. You ignored all the signs, shunned your gut feeling, and later wished you hadn’t taken her on that date. It was always a disaster. Either her attitude made you think “why is this woman SO negative!?” or perhaps they stopped dating with you after just one month, blaming you for the fact they weren’t getting what they needed or the standard, “it’s not you, it’s me” line.
These were the same women who became what call “heart-sink” date. You know the ones. They give you that sinking feeling in your heart. She’s the women you’ll be seeing that night but in reality your heart sinks with the prospect of the looming date. Instead of being excited for the date, you dread it, drag your feet on preparing and generally get in a bad mood knowing you’ll have to interact to her.
You can’t afford to have your energy brought down by ONE dating experience with a woman who’s a chronic cranky-pants. It’s just not fair to you. You’ll never be able to fill her love bucket. Actually, it will be impossible to fill her love bucket:
If you’re not having that “YESSS!!!” feeling with every date, you may need to listen to your intuition more and better yet, make a list of your own surefire signs NOT to pursue a dating relationship with a woman, no matter how much how good looking and sexy she is.
Here’s are some surefire signs of non-ideal date:
- Women who don’t show up time for the date and make up not-so-believable excuses for why they are late. (Take a no-excuses approach to the early dating experience and to life in general. Start on the right foot.)
- Women who don’t meet your criteria during interactions prior to your first date. (Don’t let those love biochemicals kick in with her sexy photo or sultry voice. Put the testosterone aside and activate your pre-frontal cortex. If she doesn’t meet your criteria now, she’ll probably not meet them later either.)
- Women who aren’t nice to a waitress, valet or service staff. (That should be a HUGE no-no for you. If she treats someone like less than equal from the get-go, she should have ZERO chance of a second date with you.)
- Women who are rude to you too. (Not much more to be said here.)
- Women who whine, complain, or resist everything, make excuses, or sometimes even lie. (You prefer to hang out with really fun, upbeat women, and women who are “up” to good things.)
- Women who try to manipulate, despite the fact that you are clear up front about who you are and what works for you in dating and relating. (It’s been my experience that women who take an inch will always try to take a mile down the road.)
- Women who clearly have two personalities – one for you on the date all lovey-dovey and the real one. The real one is the nightmare. You’ll start to see this by month three if not beforehand unless she is a really good actress.
Have you ever experienced women doing one or more of these things? Most likely if you are breathing. Perhaps you’re not good at recognizing the sighs. After a while, you’ll start recognizing the signs and their consequences.
How do you deal with these situations? If they’re a prospective date, stop before you begin. Move on. Don’t start something that has no future as a relationship, and explain to her that you’re probably not the right guy for her. If she’s been on several dates with you, find a graceful way to end the relationship. It should only happen rarely, but when it needs to happen, do what it takes.
Let’s face it. Non-ideal dates will never get you the love you want. Don’t prolong it. Stay away from them!
At this point in your life, you have to decide if you are DFS or have gone through the SHIFT and you’re DFL. If you know EXACTLY what you want in a woman, then the right women will show up with your dating effort both online in the “sorting” process and offline with your dates in person.
Your Assignment for YOUR IDEAL WOMAN:
- Make a list of common denominators among your non-ideal previous dates (not every bad date has all of these, sometimes just one or two). Find the patterns.
- Set standards and criteria in your love life about whom you’ll date and whom you’ll turn away.
- Then, follow those criteria as if your love life depends on it (it does).
- Even consider sharing your list with a close friend, which shows your commitment and they can keep an eye out for a good catch for you!
You deserve top-notch, top 10 or “A+” dates, not boring “D” women. The only person who can let them into your dating life is you. You’re the ultimate decision-maker. Besides, when your “dance card” is filled with “D” dates, you become so irritable that you’re not going to BE dating attractive for the right woman. That’s not good when the right woman comes along. So take action on this and don’t break your own standards. You have the ultimate choice, so use it.
If you’re not yet attracting only “A+” dates in your love life, you need to start over with your criteria. Get clear. Understand what you have that will appeal to the best women for you. It will take a few passes to fine-tune and hone your list of what you want in your ideal woman and what you have to offer her. Don’t leave it up to chance.
You will be able to fill her love bucket when your criterion matches her personality. Check out the 5 Love Dynamics for more on Real Love Dynamics of men and women. http://5lovedynamics.com
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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
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