Fill The Love Bucket – Selfish Lovers Have More Fulfilling Sex Lives

Study: Selfish Lovers Are Better in Bed

A new study defies the common belief that those who focus on their partners’ needs in bed make the best lovers. The findings were presented at the Association for Psychological Science convention in Boston and conducted by Kwantlen Polytechnic University’s Hayley Leveque and Cory Pederson.

The researchers studied 60 couples, two groups Under 26 & Over 30 ~ half of whom were between the ages of 18 and 25 and the other half over the age of 30. Participants were asked about their motivations for having sex and their levels of sexual satisfaction with their current partners. Their motivations for having sex included "horniness" and wanting to feel good. The over-30 group stated different reasons for having sex, including wanting to show love and affection for their partner as a reason for engaging in sexual activity.  Summary: Under 26 Sex = Relieve Horniness, Get Pleasure \ Over 30 Sex = Show love and affection (in addition to Relieve Horniness, Get Pleasure).  The younger age group tended to be more sexually self-focused.

"We found that as a partner’s sexual self-focus decreased, their partner’s satisfaction decreased," says Leveque. "You would think it would be exactly the opposite, with a partner being more attentive to the other partner’s needs, but that’s not what we found. It was sort of counterintuitive."

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I agree: "We have to be generous as lovers, and yet, selfish at the same time."  That is part of Sexual Dimension.

How can we feel sinfully lustful without losing that loving heart connection?

Sexual Dimension is to know how to merging these two the polarities of expressing lust and tenderness in the same love-making session. To go from a gentle, sensitive sexual encounter into a rough, animalistic sweat-fest so that you get your sexual needs filled and titillate and turn on your lover at the same time.

Sexual dimension allows lovers to express intense passion and loving intimacy at the same moment. It’s about bringing the bond of lovematism into a sizzling physical expression that manifests the divine. It’s a spiritual and mystical connection, but it’s also hot and steamy. . Sex includes orgasm; but the sexual dimension goes beyond as you explore and know every aspect of each other fully and deeply.

For the average person, sexual multidimensional experiences are a mystery.

You must be able to open yourself up on all levels, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually to bond in lovematism. Leave behind the issues of control, trust, childhood, family parents, religion, culture, personal fears, and other sexual complexes.

The perfect place to explore is in a committed relationship where you can express your sexual feelings for a fuller, richer experience of multi-dimensional sex.

"We have to be generous as lovers, and yet, selfish at the same time," said Patti Britton. "Sex is a partner dance. One of the reasons that people don’t experience the full capacity of their sexual pleasure is that they’re hung up on whether they’re doing a good enough job."

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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
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