Good Advice, Insight and Direction Is Almost Never Pretty (ask The Love Linguist)

January 24th, 2010 Posted in Her Love Bucket, Masterman, Mastermen, The Love Linguist, The Man Class Series

Men take heed; John Carlton has spoken! This is straight from the blog of John Carlton who is a top notch marketing copywriter a.k.a. wordsmith. I simply changed a couple business words to relationship words and the message is spot on! (original blog post Jan 22 2010 http://www.john-carlton.com/2010/01/bamboozled-by-babble/)

1. Don’t confuse experience… with wisdom.

Took me a while to nail this concept.

Experience does NOT automatically translate to wisdom.

You nearly always need experience before you attain wisdom, yes.  But it’s not a guarantee.

In fact, over my career, I’ve always spent the first minutes of any consultation diving into the experience-wisdom correlation with new clients.

Their ego screams “wisdom”.  But their actual savvy whispers “hasn’t learned shit in all those years”.

The smart ones remember why they went looking for a consultation in the first place, and we can get moving on solutions and fixes.

The dumb ones fight it.

3. Do not confuse ego… with self-awareness.

Ego is bullshit.  At most, it’s a sense of being in the game, and keeping score (often in ways that no one else cares about).

Self-awareness must be earned.

And while most modern people can’t entirely murder their ego… they can at least overwhelm it with self-awareness.  So when it flares up, or gets bruised, or starts interfering…

… you can just say “oh, hell, my ego’s involved in this” and get over it.

Do you set goals?  If you set goals to satisfy your ego, your life will be miserly and grim.

The really good goals in life are always larger than “you”.

Don’t get confused about who’s running the show.

4. Don’t confuse expertise… with fast-talking charm.

This problem — confusing charm with real expertise in what you need — is like a weed or rat problem in the entrepreneurial world.

People who can talk the talk… but can’t walk the walk… are causing some serious financial damage out there.

It has ever been thus… until you get hip to how things really get done.

When money is on the line… especially your money (connected to the success or failure of your biz)…

… screw charm.

Some (actually, maybe most) of the best marketing and business minds I’ve ever met…

… are charm-challenged, grizzled, anti-social quasi-nut jobs.

You don’t have to like the dude who rescues your ass.

You just gotta learn to tell the difference between him, and the dazzling scumball out to gut your wallet.

Let your trust be earned.

(Love Linguist comment: Women often fall for the charm and if it’s not backed up by solid integrity she’ll soon be gone)

5. Don’t confuse cocking teasing women… with righteously angry ladies who have a legitimate complaint.

You blackball the first.

But you embrace the second.  As tough as it can be to hear someone point out the flaws, foibles and blunders in your life…

… you cannot grow without that kind of reality check.

Getting good advice, insight and direction is almost never pretty.

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