Guys, Do You Convey Value? (enough to fill her love bucket…)

March 6th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Sherrie Rose Recommends

There are lessons are out there in the real world on every street corner.  Everyday guys do this. (And, remember to check out the resources at the end.)

This is the gospel of ATTRACTING women and KEEPING women.

It’s there every second if you have the eyes to see.  You don’t need X-RAY vision.

Open your eyes.

Look.  Watch. Listen.

The secret of getting women to be attracted to you is…. CONVEYING VALUE

 

Do YOU Convey Value?

Create and convey a value that ONLY YOU can fill.  She has to come to you to be satisfied, to quench her desire, to be fulfilled. 

The value you convey let’s her know that you can FILL HER LOVE BUCKET!

The term "conveying value" describes the process.

Here are a few ways you convey value to women.

1.  Show the benefits over time

Show how being with you today results in benefits to her now and in the future.  Great sex, fun, adventure, laughter; did I mention great sex? 

(women typically want long-term, not short-term)

2.  Show the instant benefit

A lot of times women don’t believe they’ll get a benefit.
So if it’s instant, you raise believability.

3.  Show ALL the WAYS a woman benefits

This sparks the imagination to the DEPTH of your value and shows a woman you are a multi-dimensional man.   It is not about YOU it is about what you can do for her in the ways she’ll benefit.

4.  Demonstrate the benefit

Show her instead of just telling about it.  Actions speak louder than words. Even if is simply entertaining her and keeping her intrigued. That’s a benefit.

5.  Have a wing man or wing woman talk about you.

Nothing like a positive recommendation to reinforce the value that you are conveying.

6.  Tell STORIES about other women in your life who benefited. 

A sister, aunt, mother, a female friend who’s similar to her would be good here rather than an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife. Then let her know you want to do it FOR HER.

7.  Your appearance conveys value

You know the saying,"the clothes make the man."  How you look conveys value. This also goes for the things that represent you like the cleanliness of your car and home. 

Here’s my question to you:

HOW could you convey value?

Brainstorm all the ways you could do that.

Your conversation should convey value as well as creating urgency so she wants to take action and go on a date or take it to the next level because she sees you as a “HOT” guy that has value and she needs to act now since OBVIOUSLY other women will see your value, too.

A lot of guys get caught up in pick-up lines and forget it’s all about conveying value.  The more value you convey and display to her, the more she’ll hang onto your words and even “chase you” to be with you.

You’ve got to SHOW and TELL her all the ways you’ll create VALUE for in her life.  Whether it is for THAT NIGHT or value for the long term.  And do it in such a way that she doesn’t think you’re selling yourself.  It must be natural.

She’ll keep coming back for more if you convey value that triggers her desires. If  she feels you can fill those desires and fill her love bucket, you’ve got it made!

To convey value, you’ve gotta get out of your head and into the woman’s head (not easy to do). And say, "What does SHE want?"
 
To help understand what she wants, *HER RINGS OF DESIRE*, if you are dating, you can learn about the 8 TYPES OF WOMEN from my friend Vin DiCarlo. This is a free video and I’ve listed the types for you.  If you’ve got a gal in your life and you want her to be more responsive to her, the you can take the man class and learn about the 7 ways to fill her love bucket.

Because the VALUE is NOT in you.  Conveying value, not surprising, is satisfying the desires of a woman.

That’s how value is demonstrated.

Now once you CREATE that value by showing you can satisfy her desires, you have to CONVEY and DEMONSTRATE the value.  The best guy does NOT win.  The guy that CONVEYS the right VALUE that matches the particular type of women in dating and the guy that fills her love bucket in relating to her, WINS. 

WIN = More sex, more respect, more love, more fun.

Just knowing about conveying value does not get you the gal or help keep the gal you love.  Those guys who DO the most exquisite job of CONVEYING the value to satisfy her desires are the real winners.

There’s an art to conveying value.

Some guys do it by bragging and hyping really hard.

Some guys do it subtly with skill and implication.

Some guys do it via the brute force of overpowering her senses.

Some guys do it via multiple attempts to get her attention.

It’s more art than science. Although there’s a science to it.

But the common theme is CONVEY VALUE.

I LAUGH so hard (to myself) when I see guys fail with women because they don’t know their own value and don’t understand how their value will positively contribute to a woman’s life.

Because girls and even experienced women can get so caught up in the pick-up lines guys deliver. The pick-up lines can have short term effect.
THINK about it.

The one thing ALL those other guys have in common is they want the girl to satisfy them (basically get laid).  He wants HER to give it up FOR HIM.

Now — go and do the opposite.  Convey value that shows what you’ll do for her.  Then she’ll be all over you.

You have to be in the Game a long time before you really see how simple and wise that advice is.

Attraction is in conveying value.  Not the pick-up.

Again, attraction is in conveying value.  Not the pick-up line or technique. 

So the smart woman gives it up to the guy who helps her life and fills her love bucket.  That’s how I see it.

Guys  are a dime a dozen.  Guys have this ILLUSION that if they just act like an Alpha Male they’ll win (tho’ acting with ALPHA Masculinity IS important).  So guys get all caught up in the just be alpha thing that they forget it is about convey value that you know what she wants and that you KNOW how to shine up HER rings of DESIRE and fill her love bucket.   It’s about her, not you.

The best guy does NOT win.  Guys are a dime a dozen.

The guy with best VALUE DISPLAY wins. And the guy wins who does the best job of CONVEYING value that aligns with her desires.

So stop obsessing over being an alpha man (thought that does help) and be the guy that CONVEYS VALUE that’s consistent with her rings of desire.  Shine up her rings and she’s hooked on you.

Then get busy CONVEYING your value via every means possible.   Or at least the values that you enjoy the most or find interesting or challenging to attract the RIGHT woman.  It is not an act, it is your life so you’ve got to able to naturally keep it up.

It’s funny that guys can be in this Game so long and not understand that it’s all about creating value for the woman and then CONVEYING that value effectively through multiple means (The 7 Ways to Fill Her Love Bucket).

Are you a guy that is a value creator? 
(You spark her imagination and she desires and wants it)

Are you a guy that is a value conveyor?
(You listen and observe her and match what she has expressly desired)

If you aren’t doing this, then it’s high time you start to learn how others guys create and convey value.

This goes for any guy that loves women and wants a girlfriend or who wants to make the woman in his life HAPPY.   Here are a few resources:  Vin’s 8 Types of Women (candy store video), Sherrie’s Man Class Accelerator on the 7 Rings of Desire or Women (how to fill her love bucket) and Carlos Xumas Alpha Masculinity Program Stop Wasting Time Learning New Pickup Tricks… Learn To Supercharge Your Masculine Confidence.

And now you know the secret of getting women to be attracted to you and want to stay with you.

 

To Your Love Success,

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

 

 

 

Special Thanks to Michael Fortin for his contribution to VALUE.

Sherrie Rose Recommends: 8 Types of Women,  Man Class Accelerator, Alpha Masculinity Program

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