Guys, Do You Convey Value? (enough to fill her love bucket…)
Saturday, March 6th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Sherrie Rose Recommends | 1 Comment »There are lessons are out there in the real world on every street corner. Everyday guys do this. (And, remember to check out the resources at the end.)
This is the gospel of ATTRACTING women and KEEPING women.
It’s there every second if you have the eyes to see. You don’t need X-RAY vision.
Open your eyes.
Look. Watch. Listen.
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The secret of getting women to be attracted to you is….
CONVEYING VALUE |
Do YOU Convey Value?
Create and convey a value that ONLY YOU can fill. She has to come to you to be satisfied, to quench her desire, to be fulfilled.
The value you convey let’s her know that you can FILL HER LOVE BUCKET!
The term "conveying value" describes the process.
Here are a few ways you convey value to women.
1. Show the benefits over time
Show how being with you today results in benefits to her now and in the future. Great sex, fun, adventure, laughter; did I mention great sex?
(women typically want long-term, not short-term)
2. Show the instant benefit
A lot of times women don’t believe they’ll get a benefit.
So if it’s instant, you raise believability.3. Show ALL the WAYS a woman benefits
This sparks the imagination to the DEPTH of your value and shows a woman you are a multi-dimensional man. It is not about YOU it is about what you can do for her in the ways she’ll benefit.
4. Demonstrate the benefit
Show her instead of just telling about it. Actions speak louder than words. Even if is simply entertaining her and keeping her intrigued. That’s a benefit.
5. Have a wing man or wing woman talk about you.
Nothing like a positive recommendation to reinforce the value that you are conveying.
6. Tell STORIES about other women in your life who benefited.
A sister, aunt, mother, a female friend who’s similar to her would be good here rather than an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife. Then let her know you want to do it FOR HER.
7. Your appearance conveys value
You know the saying,"the clothes make the man." How you look conveys value. This also goes for the things that represent you like the cleanliness of your car and home.
Here’s my question to you:
HOW could you convey value?
Brainstorm all the ways you could do that.
Your conversation should convey value as well as creating urgency so she wants to take action and go on a date or take it to the next level because she sees you as a “HOT” guy that has value and she needs to act now since OBVIOUSLY other women will see your value, too.
A lot of guys get caught up in pick-up lines and forget it’s all about conveying value. The more value you convey and display to her, the more she’ll hang onto your words and even “chase you” to be with you.
You’ve got to SHOW and TELL her all the ways you’ll create VALUE for in her life. Whether it is for THAT NIGHT or value for the long term. And do it in such a way that she doesn’t think you’re selling yourself. It must be natural.
She’ll keep coming back for more if you convey value that triggers her desires. If she feels you can fill those desires and fill her love bucket, you’ve got it made!
To convey value, you’ve gotta get out of your head and into the woman’s head (not easy to do). And say, "What does SHE want?"
To help understand what she wants, *HER RINGS OF DESIRE*, if you are dating, you can learn about the 8 TYPES OF WOMEN from my friend Vin DiCarlo. This is a free video and I’ve listed the types for you. If you’ve got a gal in your life and you want her to be more responsive to her, the you can take the man class and learn about the 7 ways to fill her love bucket.
Because the VALUE is NOT in you. Conveying value, not surprising, is satisfying the desires of a woman.
That’s how value is demonstrated.
Now once you CREATE that value by showing you can satisfy her desires, you have to CONVEY and DEMONSTRATE the value. The best guy does NOT win. The guy that CONVEYS the right VALUE that matches the particular type of women in dating and the guy that fills her love bucket in relating to her, WINS.
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Just knowing about conveying value does not get you the gal or help keep the gal you love. Those guys who DO the most exquisite job of CONVEYING the value to satisfy her desires are the real winners.
There’s an art to conveying value.
Some guys do it by bragging and hyping really hard.
Some guys do it subtly with skill and implication.
Some guys do it via the brute force of overpowering her senses.
Some guys do it via multiple attempts to get her attention.
It’s more art than science. Although there’s a science to it.
But the common theme is CONVEY VALUE.
I LAUGH so hard (to myself) when I see guys fail with women because they don’t know their own value and don’t understand how their value will positively contribute to a woman’s life.
Because girls and even experienced women can get so caught up in the pick-up lines guys deliver. The pick-up lines can have short term effect.
THINK about it.
The one thing ALL those other guys have in common is they want the girl to satisfy them (basically get laid). He wants HER to give it up FOR HIM.
Now — go and do the opposite. Convey value that shows what you’ll do for her. Then she’ll be all over you.
You have to be in the Game a long time before you really see how simple and wise that advice is.
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Attraction is in conveying value. Not the pick-up. |
Again, attraction is in conveying value. Not the pick-up line or technique.
So the smart woman gives it up to the guy who helps her life and fills her love bucket. That’s how I see it.
Guys are a dime a dozen. Guys have this ILLUSION that if they just act like an Alpha Male they’ll win (tho’ acting with ALPHA Masculinity IS important). So guys get all caught up in the just be alpha thing that they forget it is about convey value that you know what she wants and that you KNOW how to shine up HER rings of DESIRE and fill her love bucket. It’s about her, not you.
The best guy does NOT win. Guys are a dime a dozen.
The guy with best VALUE DISPLAY wins. And the guy wins who does the best job of CONVEYING value that aligns with her desires.
So stop obsessing over being an alpha man (thought that does help) and be the guy that CONVEYS VALUE that’s consistent with her rings of desire. Shine up her rings and she’s hooked on you.
Then get busy CONVEYING your value via every means possible. Or at least the values that you enjoy the most or find interesting or challenging to attract the RIGHT woman. It is not an act, it is your life so you’ve got to able to naturally keep it up.
It’s funny that guys can be in this Game so long and not understand that it’s all about creating value for the woman and then CONVEYING that value effectively through multiple means (The 7 Ways to Fill Her Love Bucket).
Are you a guy that is a value creator?
(You spark her imagination and she desires and wants it)Are you a guy that is a value conveyor?
(You listen and observe her and match what she has expressly desired)
If you aren’t doing this, then it’s high time you start to learn how others guys create and convey value.
This goes for any guy that loves women and wants a girlfriend or who wants to make the woman in his life HAPPY. Here are a few resources: Vin’s 8 Types of Women (candy store video), Sherrie’s Man Class Accelerator on the 7 Rings of Desire or Women (how to fill her love bucket) and Carlos Xumas Alpha Masculinity Program Stop Wasting Time Learning New Pickup Tricks… Learn To Supercharge Your Masculine Confidence.
And now you know the secret of getting women to be attracted to you and want to stay with you.
To Your Love Success,
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life! 
Special Thanks to Michael Fortin for his contribution to VALUE.
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MASTERMAN - Dating Over 30 - Response to Adam Gilad
Thursday, March 4th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Lifestyle, Love Bucket, Masterman, Mastermen, The Love Linguist | No Comments »My friend Adam Gilad posed a question on his blog about dating over 35 and accessing your inner king. Here is my response. The link to his blog is at the end.
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Adam,
I read your post with amusement not because the information is not good, but because, you (and everyone) see the world through your phase of life, in this case, with two teenage sons sharing custody. And, those teenage sons may be messy and have chaos in their lives. Although, they are both EXTREMELY talented and intelligent young men and you are very proud of them as you should be. Chip off the old block.
Your questions:
“How should you date after 30 - 35 - 40? Should you act different? Should you BE different?”
First, I like the title of your upcoming new book, Adam, “Embodying Mastery.” As you know, the term I use is MASTERMAN. (See definition on urban dictionary)
It is not about having order and slaying chaos as a page, prince, knight or king. Those archetypes from Tarot and other teachings are not about being a MASTERMAN. A MASTERMAN embodies all those archetypes.
About chaos. I’m known for THE LOVE BUCKET® concept. One of the rings of desire of the love bucket is LIFESTYLE. How a person lives with neatness and hygiene, finances, location of home, and the full gamut of the business of living is part of lifestyle. Some areas you can compromise on and others you can’t. But there’s more to the love bucket than lifestyle.
Next, the over-30 - 35 - 40 dating question first revolves around two big “elimination” questions:
PHASE of LIFE: Are you in the “lets play and have fun” or “let’s settle down” phase. These are not mutually exclusive but one is the prime motivator. Which is it?
KIDS: Where do you stand with kids? Do you have kids, do you want kids, does she have kids, does she want kids.
Again, your questions: “How should you date after 35? Should you act different? Should you BE different?”
The answer is not about being different. It is about being clear. Clarity in what you want in dating whether it is dating for fun or dating to get into a serious relationship. Be clear YOURSELF on the two elimination questions. Know what you want out of your phase. If you just want to play and have fun and you start dating a woman who wants to settle down and have kids you are not acting in integrity with either of your best interests.
A MASTERMAN would determine the answer to the elimination questions up front so he can act in integrity when he is dating. Remember the dating experience is for the highest good for all involved. If you don’t have clarity you’ll be wasting your time and her time.
Now about TIME: Time is an investment. As you get older, time is more in the forefront of the mind of men and women. When you date over thirty you realize that you are investing your time (and possibly your money) into the date or several dates that may lead to a relationship.
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For women, what is the TIME INVESTMENT in dating? Men need to understand and value the two very essential capital investments that a woman brings to the dating game. 1) A woman is investing HER LOOKS. 2) A woman is investing HER FERTILITY. Both LOOKS and FERTILITY have an expiration “shelf life.” |
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That is why it is so important to be clear upfront with what you want while dating as dating can lead to a relationship. If you date and she wants a commitment and kids you are spending her fertility. Over 35 it is much more serious. Enough said.
Even with LOOKS. If she wants a serious relationship, with or without kids, and the guy is spending her looks because he has no intention giving her a commitment even though you may be serious and exclusive, you are spending her looks. When a guy is “done” she is now older, has another wrinkle, and the guy is off to a younger woman.
Her LOOKS helped attract you to her. Spending her looks when she is young is not that big a deal. If you spend her looks over 35 you’ve got to keep the timeline in check past three months of dating.
So if you are not conscious or are unaware of the expiration date of these two capital investments that women bring, you become part of the angry conversation that women have about men.
So how should you BE (as a man) when dating?
Be a MASTERMAN. Here’s the MASTERMAN definition: A man who exudes mastery and integrity because he has self-discipline, confidence, clarity of purpose on a daily basis, and strategic direction of his life. Women are extremely attracted to a masterman (think Rockstar), young boys clamor to be lead by a masterman, and peers seek the counsel of a masterman often in the context of a mastermind group.
A MASTERMAN has mastered the art of initiative and positively contributes and participates in the lives of others.
A MASTERMAN is a success in all aspects of his life.
Again, a MASTERMAN would determine the answer to the elimination questions (phase and kids) up front so he can act in integrity when he is dating.
A MASTERMAN does not need validation or approval of women. A MASTERMAN has other strong men in his life in a group or BROTHERHOOD of MASTERMAN that keep each other in check, activate friendly competition, and challenge each other to rise to their greatness and potential.
The concepts and ideas here will soon in be available in a free PDF document.
To Your Love Success,
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
Adam’s Blog: http://attractconnectinspire.com/dating-after-30-accessing-your-inner-king/
Simply, Men Want … A Best Friend and Lover (and her happy love bucket)
Thursday, August 20th, 2009 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Her Love Bucket, The Man Class Series | No Comments »After having open and honest discussions with men who truthfully lay it on the line, I know for a fact most men deep down inside really want that ONE special woman, who will accept them for who they really are.
Simply, men want … a best friend and lover.
Women want to make love to ONE man a hundred different ways. The more they participate with you, the more comfortable and safer she feels doing lots of things with you. This makes her want to do these sexy things with you more often and in more places.
It’s all about making a woman feel safe, comfortable and able to trust you. Using the Rose Formula you can stay in the benevolent power position and “Chairman of the Relationship”
Once you learn how to fill “her love bucket”, you’ll have more exciting adventures than you’ve ever dreamed possible.
One of the keys to winning with a woman is understanding your “Relationship Design.” Here’s what one client of THE MAN CLASS Series said after learning about “Relationship Design” -
What I learned about Relationship Design
What I learned about “Relationship Design” really opened my eyes. I’m a young guy and I can make changes now that I understand “Relationship Design” as part of the 7 Ways to Fill Her Love Bucket.
Since taking full responsibility as a man for my actions, decisions, and outcome of my now failed relationship, I’ve looked back and seen TONS of mistakes that were made that could have easily been avoided.
For example…
1) Never going out and having no social life. BAD idea. My constrictions due to financial and car situations would not let me leave my house EVER, and cabin fever made its way into our relationship design.
2) Not going on “date nights” and treating her like a lady. I did not fulfill the “provisions” ring of her love bucket, at all. Neither did I really take them seriously. And that was a major issue. We lost touch of what we had in common (i.e. adventures) and stop having fun. Had I implemented these types of things into our relationship design, it would have supported the relationship as a whole.
3) FULL PRESENCE WAS LOST - The “time” we spent together (cooped up in my house) consisted mostly of split-focus time in which we were both doing our own thing…even while lying in bed. Bad bad bad. I never gave her my full presence because my mind was preoccupied. This lack of presence came across as being selfish and unappreciative, which I can see now and totally understand.
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This is only scratching the surface and it all seems obvious after the fact, doesn’t it?
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Sherrie Rose Recommends: The Man Class Series MAN CLASS
Facebook Break-up (Hysterical!)
Tuesday, August 11th, 2009 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Her Love Bucket, Romance, Sherrie Rose Recommends | No Comments »
Public Service Announcement: Facebook Break-up
by Throw’d TV (videos) 5:00
Uh oh, some couples are taking this Facebook thing a little too far!! Let’s find out what happens when Facebook goes wrong…
http://bit.ly/facebook-break-up
This Goes Out To All The Lovers Out There…
Don’t let Facebook, mess up your relationship…
it’s just a website.
Find me, Sherrie Rose, on Facebook - http://www.facebook.com/sherrierose
Facebook, Twitter, and all other forms of electronic contact can be handled if you know
the secrets to her love bucket. One of the 7 Rings of Desire is contact - so get your
relationship on track with the right kind of contact, physical contact, electronic contact,
and all the other forms of contact that fill her love bucket 
Special thanks to THROW’D TV for this great video.
Women Love Sex - Cosmo Magazine Covers (Her Love Bucket)
Friday, July 31st, 2009 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Her Love Bucket, SEX, Sex Sells | No Comments »Three recent covers of Cosmopolitan Magazine show how much women love sex, read about sex, and buy sex information, sex books, sex magazines. That’s good news for guys. And, that’s why sex is the red hot “Ring of Desire” of her love bucket.
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Sex is one of the “7 Rings of Desire” |
This photo is of three Cosmopolitan magazines being read by a woman who likes to sunbath by the pool and read magazines (I am more of a book reader myself).
The Cosmopolitan SEX headlines and articles include:
- The Hot Issue
- The Sexy Issue
- The Orgasm Whisperer
- Sex Extras: Secrets his sex style reveals
- Guys Rate 125 Sex Moves: Thousand of Men Agree: These are the Techniques that send them over the edge
- 100 Sex Questions: We Answer Every Dirty Thing you want to know
- Sex He Craves: We help you discover his most dirty-licious fantasies - so you can deliver the naughty good
- The Easy Way to Boost Your Sex Drive
- The Sexiest New Kind of Woman
- Love and Lust: Date Night Just Got Hotter
- The Sexy List
- Summer Foods that Make you Sexier
- Naughty Sex-Dare Game
- 50 Things to Do Naked: Sure you get naked when you have sex and take showers, but…
And a NON-sex article: What you must know about a guy’s boyfriend, husband, mate or marriage potential (1) How does he feel about his job? (2) What was his last relationship like? (3) How does he handle debt? [thrown in just to cool you down from all the hot sex headlines]
The smell of all the perfume samples in Cosmo doesn’t do much for guys. Hopefully women DO LEARN SOMETHING ABOUT SEX in these types of magazines.
The good news for guys is that yes, SEX is definitely on her mind and one of the 7 Ways to Fill Her Love Bucket.
And, most guys, when they hear the term “LOVE BUCKET” smile and think of a woman’s anatomy. That’s not what the love bucket is but sex is one of the 7 Rings of Desire of the love bucket.