When the Harvard Business Review starts focusing on happy employees you know that putting people first is a core driver.  That’s because the landscape in business is changing and the attention is people (not just profits).

What does that have to do with the love bucket?  Explanation will follow after a few excerpts in italics from the recent HBR.org article

There is a sign of the growing recognition that happy, engaged employees are more productive and generate better outcomes for their companies.

Just as a full love bucket helps a woman become a more happy, engaged girlfriend, wife and partner who is more attentive, more passionate and a better cheerleader in the relationship.

If you want happy employees, you can just pay them more. You can give them more time off. You can give them free lunches by celebrity chefs. Only a few of the things that make employees "happy," however, result in real, sustained benefit for the company.

The Provisions Ring of Desire of the Love Bucket is about providing which can be in the form of gifts, vacations, presents and other goodies.  And, as noted above with employees, the stuff alone does not sustain happiness.

We have been studying the links between employee engagement and customer loyalty for a few years now, and we’ve found that the only route to employee happiness that also benefits shareholders is through a sense of fulfillment resulting from an important job done well.

For men, the feeling of a job well done on the job is critical.  For women, in a relationship the feeling of being part of a deeply committed relationship where her love bucket is being filled regularly and she is part of making her man’s life better leads to mutual benefit.  Filling the love bucket is part of fulfillment.

Direct feedback from customers. The most important step, of course, is providing a steady stream of feedback from customers and then "closing the loop" quickly by sharing it directly with employees in its most raw form. When frontline employees and managers hear directly from customers — when they see how customers scored their experience, when they hear what went right and wrong in the customer’s own words — the effect is dramatic. Applause in the form of positive feedback inspires them to keep up the good work. Criticism often inspires employees to improve their performance on their own or to seek additional coaching so they can do better next time.

Applause and positive feedback work the same. Here’s where things change from the boardroom to the bedroom.  Criticism usually does not inspire your woman.  It creates distance.  Because criticism in an intimate relationship is personal.  There are ways to broach wanting to make changes but outright criticism is not one of them.

Loyal, passionate employees stay longer, work harder, work more creatively, and find ways to go the extra mile.

Loyal, passionate lovers who have a regularly filled love bucket put more effort into the happiness of the relationship.  And your sex life improves. 

Being the “Chairman of the Relationship” is about having your shareholder become more invested in you and your relationship with more SHARING of love, sex, passion, and FUN!  See Love Bucket Article describing “Chairman of the Relationship” here Chairman of the Relationship

And, speaking of business, boardrooms and bedroom, check out the items with various love bucket logos in The Love Bucket store.

A recent message received about a “Transformational Course” was entitled Authentic Relationships. Authentic relating fills the love bucket. The art of relating transforms where you are to where you want to be.

It starts with filling your own love bucket so to speak and understanding the 7 Love Dynamics, two of which are personal. Personal love dynamics are your relationship not with another person. Personal love dynamics are love of self and love of God. Some say they are one and the same.

There is a beauty and dignity in all relationships.

Are you finding it?

Or is the joy, the fulfillment of relationships elusive?           

Authentic transformation gives you the experience of new ways of perceiving yourself, others, and your environments, opening you to the simplicity of limitless perception where the magical ways of love are found.

The message went on to describe Authentic Relationships Transformation as an experience that breaks through the blocks that prevent you from experiencing our interconnectedness, helping to heal the illusion of isolation and separation. This transformational experience will provide you with the tools that can help you integrate Authentic Relationships into your lives and covers the following aspects of relationships:

• The Experience of Authentic Relationships
• Love and the Infinite Game of Life
• The Law of Polarity in Relationships
• Living as Your Authentic Self
• Divine Delight and
  the Play of Masculine and Feminine
• Legacy and Lineage:
  Passing on Grace and Consciousness

We are connected to everything in the creation and we exist in connection to everyone and everything else. Our greatest illusion is that we are somehow separated, isolated or hidden from others. That sense of separation is a tool well-wielded by our ego for purposes of defense, control and fear.

Relationships can be just a connection. Or they can be a deeper reflection of your core process as a human being-to fulfill and complete your soul and personality. Experiencing relationships with this sensitivity gives you more perspectives, choices and awareness of the effect of each of your actions.

This sense of Authentic Relationship with yourself and all others requires intuition, depth and caliber.

Heighten your existence. Learn to connect on deep, expanded levels.  Allow intrinsic wisdom to become your guiding force.  Enter a realm of utter & thorough reality — pure, profound and complete.

And in this everlasting newness of relating find constant and consistent happiness. This is a journey of change to let all the brilliance, gentleness and precision of relating be at your command.

Before jumping into the more esoteric relating, start with understanding the 5 Love Dynamics which are the keys to relationships over time no matter how authentic you are. What your transform today is part of a continuum and if you do not know where the love flows you will need to start over again. Get the 5 Love Dynamics today.

Ex-Homeless Guy Gets The Girl

Several years ago, as the story goes,

co-founder of now successful MLM,

David Woods, was in a natural health

food store grabbing a quick bite to eat

when….

….the sparkle glimmering off the

face of a girl caught his attention

and consumed him almost instantly.

She was sitting with another man -

obviously her boyfriend – enjoying

lunch and good conversation.

Dave felt his chest tighten up.

Emotion rushed through his veins.

A compelling urge inside him made it

impossible to walk out the door of the

store without saying something to her.

So he mustered up the guts to walk

over….and at the very last minute, he

swerved – and walked away.

"Wussie" he muttered to himself.

He started to walk back over and

again – at the last minute, he swerved.

Sweat puddled up in his hands and

started to bead on his forehead.

His chest was pounding.

The wrinkled dress shirt he was wearing

was sticking to his back.

"Screw it!" he exclaimed.

He walked straight over and said……

"I know you two are together, and I

don’t mean to be rude….but I think

you are the most beautiful girl in the

world…."

"We’re not together…" she said.

"He’s just a friend."

A short period of time later, they

were married.

Everyday people walk away from

situations that could be a defining

moment in their lives.

Don’t walk away, seize your moment.

Don’t be a wussie.

Stop over thinking it.

The results are right there when you have the confidence to act.

Be a Masterman and fill her love bucket!

Check out the interview and Carlos Xuma’s program to
make this happen for you!

Any negative emotion, like an argument with a spouse or a disagreement at work can cause negative emotions.  The love bucket starts to empty not fill up.

The b-spot (brain) is affected by negative emotional responses particularly at bedtime. A study by University of Massachusetts at Amherst neuroscientists concludes that if you have a negative emotional response—their examples were for viewing an unsettling picture or experiencing a traumatic event—the response is reduced if you stay awake afterwards.

The old anecdotal saying that you should never go to sleep angry just got backed up by science, thanks to the neuroscientists at UMass.

If you go to sleep immediately, the response is "protected," which means that when you are exposed to the effect again, your negative response will be just as negative as the first time. There is a built-in survival value to our ancestors by preserving very negative emotions and memories of life-threatening situations and a strong to incentive to avoid similar occasions in the future.

Don’t go to sleep angry

The scientists pointed to people who suffer from post traumatic stress disorder and witnesses to accidents as examples of how their conclusion is applicable in practical terms. If a witness to a gruesome accident remains awake after the event, the next time they see a reproduction or photograph of the scene, their emotional response will be much lower than if they had slept right after. Researchers even said that their b-spot, as a defense mechanism is averse to going to sleep and the brain keeps active.

The researchers found that contrary to previous assumptions that sleep might soften negative emotional effects of a disturbing event, a period of sleep was associated with participants’ maintaining the strength of their initial negative feelings compared to a period of wakefulness.

The study points to the practice that you should try to resolve negative emotional feelings before you go to sleep so that you can have a less visceral reaction to the problem in the morning.

 Source

CARLOS XUMA INTERVIEW WITH THE LOVE LINGUIST

*** So Carlos, first a little introduction about how you got into this business of helping guys meet women… dating is the first of the 5 Love Dynamics.

*** How long have you been doing this and how did you get into it?

I’ve been helping men have more success with women for the last 7 years using the Internet as my medium to share information.

Before that, I went through a long and hard journey of trying to figure out how and why my dating life had gone so very wrong. I was reading books on relationships, and all the stuff you find in the bookstores, but they were all written by people who really weren’t getting very good results in their own lives. They talked about the way things SHOULD be – logically. But, as we know, attraction is anything but logical.

My big focus now is helping guys overcome their own self-limiting beliefs and master both the INNER game of attraction (confidence, self-esteem, etc.), as well as the skills – the OUTER game of attraction.

I also teach guys about MOTIVATION – which is the fuel for all the things a you will accomplish in your life. This is part of being a “MASTERMAN” as the Love Linguist likes to call it.

This is what I call the "Triple-Threat": Motivation, Inner Game, Outer Game. With all three of these in place, you’re unstoppable. It’s the triple benefit.

*** What is the biggest mistake guys make when they go out to meet women?

In my opinion, the biggest mistake is how most guys THINK when they go out. It is their mental positioning and mindset. You see, all of the questions I get from guys have two parts – the inner and the outer, and one is a matter of *beliefs*, and the other is a matter of knowing the correct WHAT to do – the ACTIONS.

First, when most guys go out, they are thinking about GETTING women. This is the first big mistake. You’re focused on your own needs and wants and not enough on GIVING to other people. If you go out with this "I want to get a woman" mentality, women will pick it up. Even guys can sense a selfish agenda.

But you can have a healthy DESIRE for a woman that creates something much more intense than just physical intimacy, and that involves a change of attitude. You need to focus on her RINGS OF DESIRE. That’s a great concept with the love bucket – desire!

Ask yourself a simple question: "If she knew what my motives were, could I blame her for her reaction?"

Guys don’t realize that women want sex even MORE than they do. That’s why the Sex Ring of Desire is RED HOT! Women enjoy it more than we do, why wouldn’t they? But they have a much better ability to control that desire with protective instinct.

*** What, in your opinion, is one of the best places to meet women that a lot guys don’t know about?

Apart from online dating, honestly, in the real world, speed dating has a lot of promise. I used to run speed dating events all the time, and I’d come away with a girlfriend every time I did one. Plus, they are excellent places to hone and refine your social skills. I’d try out new conversation and new questions, and I’d really get a feel for what works with a woman.

You see, you have to work the numbers. You need to open your horizons and meet many women to hone in on the one you want. 95% of the guys I talk to are meeting LESS than 1 woman a week. Once you get past the "approach anxiety" challenge – something that every guy has, and I show you how to get past it – you see that it’s all about meeting enough women that you can make an educated choice as to the one you create a relationship with. You need to know you can be the Masterman, her hero and fill her love bucket.

The next best place for guys is online dating. Every guy knows about this one, but not every guy is using it to his advantage – or correctly. Most guys quit before they get the results they’re looking for, and it’s simply a job of tweaking his approach. In my opinion, you need to have more than 2 ways to meet women that you’re using ALL the time. Dating is the first of the 5 Love Dynamics and dating dynamics must happen to get to the rest!

*** When you’re training guys could you give a little run down of the process in which take them through?

The first step is a complete reboot of their masculine operating system. This is a clearing out of their old thoughts and mistaken beliefs about women and social dynamics of dating and relating. Next up is a complete reload of their operating system with MASTERMAN or Alpha Man OS. This is simply re-educating a guy to what being a MAN in today’s world really is. The better Masterman you are the better you are with women and in life in general.

Once you understand the changes in thinking that need to take place, you then have to have a game plan for implementing them into your life so that they become your natural way of acting and thinking. Again, I’m teaching guys the big picture stuff here, so you can you can make an educated choice as to eventually create a relationship.

The next step after that is to unlock your motivation.

*** What is one thing a guy can do right now to increase his attractiveness to women?

First of all, get in touch with your real passions in life. A Masterman knows his purpose and passion. There is no single thing that I have found that has had such a drastic effect as really getting in touch with what gets me fired up about LIFE. And let me assure you guys out there that are thinking:

"Women are my passion!" NO. Women are not a true passion. They are an outlet of your sexual drive, but not your TRUE passion. Women can help motivate you so you can have more energy for your purpose and give you a reason to be a better man.

(And when women find a guy that’s just into women, or appears to be, he trips their radar in all sorts of bad ways. She knows that this guy is not a good bet for her evolutionary success.)

When you find the things that get you excited about life – like your hobbies and your goals and your relationships in general – you will pay less attention to women for your fulfillment, which ironically makes you more attractive to them. Women don’t want to be the prize, they want to cheer you on to achieve your “prize” however you define it through your passion and purpose.

Know what you want in a woman and make your “love bucket list.” All the things that you want in a woman.

Then, with your life, get focused on your passions. So, that being said, guys still want to be more successful with women along the way, so we can do that, too. Here’s a way you can use this right now:

Right now, take out a piece of paper and make a list of all the things that really get you fired up about life (your burning passions). Detail them in terms of their sensory experience. If you like snowboarding (as I do), then you might write something like: Snowboarding – the sense of wind and biting air on my face, the relentless rush of speed down the mountain, the moments of catching air and feeling your heart stop in your chest, etc.

The more sensory description you can put into it the better. Then, memorize this and talk about it when you’re with a woman. I guarantee you this will work better than almost any "script" or fake routine you can find out there. Why? Because it’s genuine and YOURS. Women can feel you passion when you speak.

If there areas from your love bucket list and your passions list that are I sync and you find a women who has similar interests then you’ll ignite a great connection.

Also, the most potent and immediate thing you can do with a woman to generate attraction is to be FUN.

If you’re too serious and too focused on what you’re trying to get, you can’t be fun. And when you create the frame of giving her fun and excitement, you will also be focused on the GIVING.

"Tease to Please!" Make FUN your focus, and you’ll start seeing a radical difference in your results.

*** What was one of your biggest A-HA! moments in learning about attraction and dating social dynamics?

I remember I was reading a book that talked about the fact that relationships between people are not logical. As much as we want things to be the way they SHOULD be – like everyone treating everyone fairly, no prejudice, etc. – it isn’t this way. We don’t relate in any logical ways. And if you fight this reality, you’ll always be crying about life not being "fair" to you.

Then I realized that it didn’t really matter what *I* wanted. I could want a woman to like me and do everything I could to impress her. If she wasn’t attracted to me, it wouldn’t change anything.

You can’t force someone to like you or desire you. Plain and simple.

Unless I can see through a woman’s eyes and see what it is that makes her interested and attracted, I could push forever and never get her interested in me. So I switched my point of view.

Ask yourself this question: What matters more to the woman you’re interested in – what YOU want, or what SHE wants?

Then it all came down to a matter of one more question – What can I do to influence others that gets results? AND does it so that we BOTH win?

The answer to that question is what I teach guys. Because that’s the ethically correct way, and the way that gets me what I want at the same time. Win-Win.

*** What is one of the craziest experiences you have had during your time as a dating guru?

Well, when I had finally started to get the hang of how to handle social interactions with women where I was getting a lot of good results, I remember I once had a weekend where I was meeting 6 different women in two days. I thought that was really cool – complicated, but very cool. I finally had that sense of "arriving," you know? Where my hard work had finally gotten me to a turning point in my life.

Since then, I’ve had up and down times, but I’ve never felt like I would ever be "alone" or wanting for female companionship. I always feel like I’m within a few minutes of meeting a woman, whether that’s on the street, or online, or whatever. I got past my scarcity mindset, and now life truly feels abundant. And not just with women.

Now I spend my time helping other guys get to that same place in their lives.

(I’ve been sworn to secrecy about some of the other crazy times, like waking up in the back of a truck full of band equipment… but that’s another story…)

*** What is it about "Dating Dynamics" that you feel differs from the competition?

I teach a holistic approach to dating. I don’t JUST teach guys how to be attractive to QUALITY women – and I teach them how to attract friends, success, money, and a balanced peaceful lifestyle. I teach guys the BIG picture of how success with women translates to the rest of their lives – and how to do it with honor and integrity.

Guys get massive results from what I teach because I’m not giving you an imaginary magic pill or magic bullet. There is none, and I’m sure there’s quite a few guys reading this that have bought some program in the hopes that it would be.

I give guys lasting and deeply fulfilling success in their dating – and in the rest of their life, too.

*** How do you feel about natural, improvised conversations vs. canned scripted material in meeting and attracting women?

I know there are a lot of guys out there that see this picture as very black-and-white. There’s one camp that thinks that you should NEVER use anything memorized or pre-rehearsed because that’s fake.

The other camp thinks that you must use canned material because you can apply it in a predictable way.

Here’s what I feel…

You DO need pre-rehearsed material to get the hang of how social interactions work.

BUT only as long as you need them to start generating your own results.

If you’re talking with most people with no problem, and your social ability is okay in 90% in most situations, but when you get in front of a woman that you’re attracted to you lose your cool, it’s not a matter of what you’re saying. It’s what you’re THINKING. And that’s part of my Alpha Man operating system that I show guys how to be a Masterman.

You want to shift to natural conversation as quickly as you possibly can. Anything you’ve rehearsed or memorized is only a tool to get you past those occasional moments where you have a brain-fart, or you blank out because you’re in a low-energy state.

Your first focus should be relaxation and calming your mind, then use something convenient to open the conversation. From there, your focus is purely on the "vibe" in the interaction. The "vibe" is the ability to be in-the-moment with a woman and get improvisational with her. It’s not hard, and again, it’s a huge topic to discuss here. I wrote a book on vibing that guys can get from me directly.

*** Do you have a favorite opening line when you go up to approach women?

I like to let the situation dictate what I say to a woman because it allows for such a natural flow to the interaction. Being authentic is the most important way to walk up and start a conversation. However, there are some things that I will say if my mind is blank, and that’s where having a few good "lines" memorized can come in handy. (Let me emphasize here that this does not mean you should rely on canned routines for your conversation. ONLY the opening should be memorized.)

One of my favorite openers is this: "Hi, I just had a second to come over and let you know that I think you have a really great energy about you. I really liked that about you and I thought you should know. My name is Carlos…"

It’s simple and direct, and it NEVER fails to get a positive response from a woman – if it’s delivered with sincerity. Again, I won’t say it if it isn’t true.

*** 5 Love Dynamics starts with dating. What type of guy do you feel is most likely to succeed with "dating dynamics?"

Let’s put it this way – if you’re getting all the women you need in your life right now, and your confidence is through the roof every single day, you probably don’t need my programs. But if you feel there’s an area of your life – and not just your dating life! – that you want to take care of – to find more passion and purpose, to live what I call the Alpha Lifestyle to be a Masterman, then you owe it to yourself to take a look at the information I share with guys every week. And especially if you’ve tried other "seduction" programs and found that you aren’t making the progress you think you should.

*** Thanks Carlos for your time.

If guys reading this wanted to take advantage of your services and products, how would they go about doing it?

CARLOS:

The best way for them to get acquainted with what I have to offer is to get on my free newsletter list here

I’ve got a ton of great information, including audio and video training on everything from inner confidence to how to approach.

Then, if it makes sense, they can take a look at my other programs, such as dating dynamics that can help them massively increase their skills with women.

And of course, once you get into dating and want success in the other love dynamics, check out, Sherrie’s 5 Love Dynamics.

Do you have an entry on your love bucket list of a wish for your date to ‘friend you Facebook’ and to change Facebook relationship status to “in a relationship”?  Is your social dating life and relationship life on your love bucket list?

Here’s a Facebook Relationship Status Post and Comments about Facebook and Dating (images and names removed)

Post: Is FACEBOOK a friend or foe in the early stages of a relationship (and why), how can FACEBOOK be used for a higher good? When to "friend" someone you met organically or on a dating site, when to change your relationship status, using Facebook as a background check, stalking a past relationship or even spying on a current date.

Comment 1 facebook can be a very slippery slope when part of romantic relationships in many ways…

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Comment 2 one of the biggest deficits I see is it circumvents actual conversations and can result in a lot of projection and assumptions

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Comment 3 I see nothing wrong with looking at a past or present’s Facebook page. That’s just curiosity. I see a big problem with creating a fake profile and acting in an obsessive manner. A slippery slope indeed.

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Comment 4 I really hate the relationship status feature….I have hidden mine for now ….waiting for the divorce to happen and plan to fix it in the middle of the night when no one is up LOL! I will never use that feature again. so much on Face Book isn’t real I would hate to use it for any real measure against any future relationship I may have. I try to keep things fun on here, after all, my kid is a "friend" and that helps me tow the line!

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Comment 5 name – good observations. It can be wonderful as a way to connect initially and ongoing but no way is it, for me, as good as or ato replacement for direct connection voice to voice or especially in person.

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Comment 6 Auto correct thinks "ato" is a word lol.

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Comment 7 Just a side note….one thing my ex did do when Yoville (Facebook app) was popular. He did go to my fake "pad" and leave a box of chocolates…..It was nice to know he was thinking about me (then again, he could have been stalking!)

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Comment 8 I’ve toyed with the idea of telling anyone I’m dating "I will not friend you on facebook, nor will I text back and forth on any "relationship" subject". I might friend them once the relationship is well established, but not in the beginning… too much potential drama.

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Comment 9 I think it is an excellent platform to launch relationships and from then on it’s not about FACEBOOK at all. It’s fun and that’s all it is….but it does turn us into snoops sometimes.

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Comment 10 I have a line on my online profile that says "No lateral moves to Facebook or iChat" !!!!!!

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Comment 11 Plus, my facebook profile is my home… lots and lots of personal information there (including exposure to my children). I’m very selective about who I friend. I also think it can be too much info, too soon when just starting to learn about someone. Best to let some of the life details unfold more gradually…

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Comment 12 Love it name!!!

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Comment 13 Foe when comments with others appear inappropriate…or when there is never a recognition given to a partner, yet the person is definitely on FACEBOOK. It can certainly be used for the higher good when there is still an occasional endearing acknowledgment of your partner….if not just to let people know that your partner is actually important to you.

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Comment 14 That’s a wee bit hostile name..just don’t say anything about it. You either will or you won’t.

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Comment 15 If you use your privacy options and blocking option correctly non one will be able to spy on anyone.

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Comment 16 I think too many people want to "e-maintain" vs. engage. I’m with name, if you want to get to know me, man up and do so in the real world..

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Comment 17 Any "drama" that happens is caused by issues that need to be dealt with anyway – facebook just reveals them faster and more blatantly. Better to shine the light on it all I say. You have to really be ready for an intimate relationship though.

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Comment 18 However, some people don’t deal as well with that bright light but need more baby steps and softer lighting for facing those demons, name. Doesn’t mean they aren’t ready, they just aren’t ready for THAT much exposure so quickly.

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Comment 19 I would say they’re not quite ready then for an *intimate* relationship but may be well on their way… in a relationship and easing toward intimacy…

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Comment 20 Nothing wrong with that either…

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Comment 11 I never ever friend anyone I am dating– -or potentially dating– on FACEBOOK

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Comment 22 It is what it us. FACEBOOK is here to stay. What I find interesting is married couples who don’t friend with the spouse. I always thought that was not cool. Having privacy is one thing, but privacy from your primary partner when the rest of the world is allowed to see doesn’t make sense. The spy factor is a bit invasive but then it does allow you to see your potential partner and vice versa being their true selves! If they can’t be trusted, or IF YOU can’t be trusted, it’s gonna reveal itself one way or the other. Why not here?

Love Bucket List: Is Facebook on your love bucket list when dating? Has Facebook Caused You To Change Your Dating Patterns? See previous article on what’s on your Love Bucket List here

Love Bucket: Filling The Love Bucket Before Valentine’s Day Is A Smart Move!

Happy New Year 2012 seems like a distant memory now that we are bombarded with Valentine’s Day which is less than 40 days away.  The Christmas cards have been replaced by Valentine’s hearts, cards, and chocolates. 

The easiest way to fill the love bucket, whether you are filling a woman’s love bucket is to shine up the Recognition Ring of Desire.  There are 7 Rings of Desire®” of “The Love Bucket®”

Spencer Tracy may be right, but so is Gerald Eakdale when it comes to recognition. She their recognition quotes.

“It is up to us to give ourselves recognition. If we wait for it to come from others, we feel resentful when it doesn’t, and when it does, we may well reject it.”    – Spencer Tracy

“Recognition is the greatest motivator.”  -Gerard C. Eakedale

Since the love bucket blog focuses on men filling women’s love buckets, I tend to agree with Mary Kay Ash and William James.

“There are two things people want more than sex and money… recognition and praise.”  -Mary Kay Ash

“What every genuine philosopher (every genuine man, in fact) craves most is praise – although the philosophers generally call it ‘recognition’!”
-William James

Often the word appreciation is used interchangeably with recognition. This is a huge hunger, a huge desire.

"There is more
hunger for LOVE
and APPRECIATION
in this world
than for bread."
~Mother Teresa

You’ll begin to see LOVE BUCKET showing up in stores (below with candles, buckets, aprons) and online (above).  Images that say love bucket in the headline that don’t have a love bucket (did you “The Love Bucket®” is a registered trademark?) and handmade buckets with hearts. 

The Recognition Ring of Desire of “The Love Bucket®” needs to be shined up on a regular basis.  It needs attention.  Do you give the right kind of attention to you loved one?

I’ve switched the word motivation with recognition in Zig’s quote to illustrate the point about giving regular recognition to fill the love bucket.

“People often say that recognition doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily." -Zig Ziglar

Thank you for filling the The Love Bucket® before Valentines, on Valentine’s Day and every day.

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist

Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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The best way to fill her love bucket is to discover the 5 Love Dynamics that will lead you to Great Love, Sex, and Life!

Hearts, dates, and the relationship status, “in a relationship” on facebook is one of the life events that gets everybody talking.  And even more so when it is the guy to posts this photo and adds it to his facebook timeline live event.   That fills her love bucket!  A proclamation of love is him claiming her as his. 

A proclamation of love is him claiming her as his.  He recognizes her and shines up the Love Bucket’s Recognition Ring of Desire with his public proclamation of love.

Here’s what the friends say as he takes this bold move in a public form (some men would never publicly state their love for a woman)

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  Kyle T. Garrett …this is that someone for me who walked into my life and made me realize why it never worked out with anyone else.

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  Brad Davies yeah buddy, congrats…. great way to start the new year

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  Kyle T. Garrett thanks a bunch Brad, it sure is:)

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  Tim Chedester Well deserved Kyle !

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  Kyle T. Garrett thank you very much Tim, she’s the one for me:)

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  Styers Watkins Congratulations to both of you and God bless!

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  Kyle T. Garrett really appreciate that Styers!

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  David B. Davis Six years later and I still feel the goose bumps and butterflies. So I can definitely relate! Congratulations Kyle!

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  Alex Guillen congrats Kyle!

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  Christine McLeod They say "you just KNOW" and that was absolutely true with my husband JP – we met through a friend, spent a day skiing our hearts out and by that night I just "knew" I had found my soulmate. No weirdness, just comfortable, familiar and safe- your instinct kicks in and it feels like this is the person you have been waiting your whole life for : )

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  ‘Dave Dorian’ LOVE IT!!!!!!

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  Kyle T. Garrett

  i love hearing that David, that’s so awesome! congrats to you and yours!! ..i’m super committed to creating that same kind of relationship where the magic moments never end:)  ..thank you so much Alex! ..and WOW, Christine, you absolutely …See More

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  Kyle T. Garrett me too ‘Dave! haha

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  ‘Dave Dorian’ You don’t know what your made of until you fall in love

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• Sherrie Rose Smiles that say *LOVE*

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  Kyle T. Garrett they sure do Sherrie :)

   

  

• Blake Ashley Fergus OMG so cute!!

Kyle speaks from the heart when he writes: “She’s the one for me.”  Relationship status = love   A true Masterman has the courage to share his feelings because he is secure in himself and has emotional intellisense.

May your New Year and your love life be filled with every blessing and happiness.

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist

Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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Meme Proposal | Tim * Audrey from Crazy Monkey Studio on Vimeo.

Tim used the Love Actually style flip cards sprinkled with perfect beats and pauses of classic Internet memes (complete with the requisite cat with big eyes). Tim was nervous and flipped the cards outside the window.

Tim got his friends to document the whole proposal as he flipped placards to show Audrey his true intentions. “Will you marry me?”

Audrey said YES!

And since the Love Actually scene has Christmas music we’re adding it for your viewing pleasure:

May your Christmas and your love life be filled with every blessing and happiness.

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist

Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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Research-proven signs you are smarter than average:

You’re a guy who does not sleep around.  You’re smart and know that filling the love bucket of one gal helps you achieve more of YOUR potential.

Sexual behaviors may be reflections of intelligence, a new study finds.

Evolutionary psychologist Satoshi Kanazawa at the the London School of Economics and Political Science correlated data on these behaviors with IQ from a large national U.S. sample and found that, on average, men who identified with exclusive sex partners had higher IQs.

This applied to sexual exclusivity in men, but not in women. Kanazawa did not find that higher or lower intelligence predicted sexual exclusivity in women. This makes sense, because having one partner has always been advantageous to women, even thousands of years ago, meaning exclusivity is not a "new" preference.

The reasoning is that sexual exclusivity in men goes against what would be expected given humans’ evolutionary past. In other words, none of these traits would have benefited our early human ancestors, but higher intelligence may be associated with them.

"The adoption of some evolutionarily novel ideas makes some sense in terms of moving the species forward," said George Washington University leadership professor James Bailey, who was not involved in the study. "It also makes perfect sense that more intelligent people — people with, sort of, more intellectual firepower — are likely to be the ones to do that."

Source: March 2010 issue of Social Psychology Quarterly.

Now, go from Dating to Cultivating and pay attention to the in between dynamics like the Sexual Dynamics!  It is all about filling the love bucket!

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist

Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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The best way to fill her love bucket is to discover the 5 Love Dynamics that will lead you to Great Love, Sex, and Life!