Four Seasons of Love Introduction (Fill The Love Bucket)
Sunday, March 4th, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, The Love Bucket® | 1 Comment »Four Seasons of Love Introduction
The Love Bucket is all about fulfilling desire. This motivates both sexes as they experience the four seasons of love.
The four seasons of weather relate to the four seasons of love. Spring and summer often bring to mind courtship and weddings. Seasons of autumn and winter are times to pull close and prepare for the bleak, blustery and sometimes very frigid moments.
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DATING - Season 1 of the Four Seasons of Love INTIMACY - Season 2 of the Four Seasons of Love COMMITMENT - Season 3 of the Four Seasons of Love BREAK-UP & MAKE-UP - Season 4 of Four Seasons of Love |
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The well-known Dummies books have several volumes relating to the four seasons of love.
To honor our friends and authors of the Dummies books we will dedicate the four seasons of love to them. Here’s some of their sage advice:
Communicate by Listening to Improve Your Relationship
Improving communication is a key part of improving your relationship. In fact, it’s the single most significant improvement you can make. To be an effective communicator, you have to be a good listener first.
· Attending: This means showing that you’re paying attention. You can do that by ensuring that your body language is open and that you’re facing your partner, and by giving good eye contact. Also nod your head to show you’re listening, and provide minimal verbal cues such as uttering ‘uh, um’ at key points.
· Restating: If your partner has said something particularly important, demonstrate your understanding by repeating it back – ‘So you’re saying you want me to pick up the kids on the way back from work tomorrow.’
· Clarifying: If you’re not sure that you’ve understood something, ask for clarification – ‘So are you saying you want me to pick up the kids on the way back from work tomorrow?’
· Summarizing: When you’ve shared a lot of information, you can draw together the main threads to show that you’ve got the full story – ‘So you’re going to have a really stressful day tomorrow and you’re worried about finishing on time, so you want me to pick up the kids on the way back from work.’
· Encouraging: To demonstrate that you want to listen and you want to hear more, use minimal encouragers to keep your partner flowing. For example, say something like ‘And then what happened?’ or ‘In what way?’ or simply ‘Go on.’
· Being quiet: Make sure that you don’t do all the talking. Give plenty of space for your partner to speak, and allow quiet times when she can think about what she wants to say next. While this is happening, make sure that you don’t get distracted and start fidgeting or writing tomorrow’s shopping list, but continue to attend physically.
Rules for Effective Communication In Your Relationship
Communicating effectively is the keystone to any relationship. Use the tips in this list to make sure your message gets across – and to help you listen to what you’re being told.
· Be clear on the objective of the conversation: Before you open your mouth, make sure that you know why you’re doing so. No communication is effective unless you know what you’re hoping to achieve by it.
· Choose your timing: Make sure that you’re both as relaxed as possible, have plenty of time and can’t be interrupted.
· Stick to the matter in hand: Don’t try to get everything of your chest at once. Keep focused on the issue you need to deal with.
· Avoid starting sentences with ‘You . . . ’: Don’t start out with an accusation – or by sounding as though you’re making one.
· Never say never or always: Categorical statements are provocative and unlikely to be true. Cut them out.
· Watch your shoulds and shouldn’ts: Unless you honestly believe that you have the right to take the moral high ground and preach to your partner, don’t do it
· Don’t interrupt: Even if you’re 100 per cent sure that your partner’s got nothing else worth saying, keep quiet and let him finish. If you want your partner to become a better talker, then first you must become a better listener.
· Stay calm or postpone the conversation: When people get angry, reason tends to disappear. Relax or take a time out.
· Avoid sarcasm, monologues or mind reading: Don’t try to manipulate the situation to your advantage. If you speak to your partner or act in a way that you’d never dream of doing with your boss, then ask yourself why.
· Express your feelings as well as your opinions: Saying that you feel unvalued when he’s late explains not just what the problem is, but the effect that the problem is having on you.
Thanks to the Dummies books who are celebrating in March and for kicking off the Four Seasons of Love.
Four Seasons of Love celebrates love providing ideas for experiences for couples in the real world and online. The Love Bucket of romance and intimacy gives you and a chance to rekindle the flames of passion… Four Seasons of Love define the four seasons of the lifecycle of love in four parts. Part1 = Season 1, Part 2 = Season 2, Part 3 = Season 3, Part 4= Season 4
Want To Get Your Ex Back? (WARNING)
Tuesday, February 21st, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, SEX, The Love Linguist® | 1 Comment »Warning: Want To Get Your Ex Back?
Break up, make up, getting back together, win your ex back and win their heart and enjoy the magic of making up sex.
When there is a break-up, the love bucket is broken!
If you want relationship help, ask an expert. If you are searching online and found website that is open to the public with articles, contributors and forums – BEWARE! This comes with a warning if you are searching online!
You may see a link like the ones below that take you to the site
Bf Broke Up With Me Because He Needs To Sort His Life Out …?
Gf Broke Up With Me Because She Wasnt Ready For A Relationship …?
Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Because He Needs Space And Is Really …?
Broke Up Because He Needs Time But He Still Loves Me!? Scared Of A …?
If you click “ask an expert” one of of these free advice sites you may find they are too busy.
Ask an Expert – “Currently too busy to respond. Will not be able to respond to expert questions.”
Why, because they are real people, not experts. Their expert status comes from answering posts by you, even a couple words. They want the “points” and get badges and titles. It’s social media for the broken-hearted, looking for love, and relationship confusion.
The articles are designed to help with get search engine rankings to be found on Google. You are creating “user generated content” in the form of your problem/question. Whether it gets answered or not (hey, it is a free service) you still add content and text to the website.
Top Articles | Top Contributors | Forums
Top articles are the questions that have a lot of comments and worded in such a way that many people can relate to the same problem.
Top contributors have answered questions in these active relationship subjects: The most active/popular relationship subjects are:
Dating, Breaking Up, Getting Back, Singles (dating), Being Married, Divorce, Affairs
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So why take the time to create a website to help others with dating and relationships when the experts are just other people who have answered a lot of questions regardless of any expertise or training?
It’s the ads! Yes, advertisements like these ones below:
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Is He the One? Read 6 Dating Deal Breakers
You Shouldn’t Ignore.
HOW DOES THIS WORK?
Your question or statement becomes the headline news for break-up, relationship woes, dating, ex girlfriends, boyfriends, like the ones below which are perfectly designed for advertisements which show up after the questions and in the columns beside and below the question.
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Next time, ask The Love Linguist or another bona fide, awesome Relationship Expert!
Also read the February love bucket article:
Love Bucket News: Break-Up Season Begins
Love Bucket News: Break-Up Season Begins
Monday, February 20th, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating | 1 Comment »Valentine’s is the start of Break-Up Season.
Never heard of it?
It’s a very real phenomenon.
It’s the 2-3 weeks, immediately following Valentine’s where the peak of relationship statuses across the 800 Million users of Facebook changes to "single".
It is the highest peak 3-week period of break-ups in the entire year.
And it starts with Valentine’s Day.
You see, you (probably), most of your friends (almost certainly) and just about everyone THINKS that Valentine’s is a "love" holiday.
Here’s a pretty picture (one of MANY based on this statistic):
It’s February Statistics time:
The legal world has another fun-statistic for us.
February is the single most popular month for divorce.
Perhaps this is because seeing other couples express their Valentines affection serves as a wake up call that our hearts are no longer in it – and the love bucket is empty. The majority of divorces are initiated by women.
Valentine’s is smack in the middle of the highest divorce filling month of the year and kick-starts the highest peak of all break-ups in the year.
Some Free Tips…
If you missed the Free Romantic Tips giveaway, you still have time to get them and fill the love bucket before it is too late. Click here for your Free Romantic Tips
Some Free Tips for Breakups…
Do you want to be part of the February Break-ups, the Most Active Month for Divorce? Even if you’re not married, 80% of break-ups are the result of a one-sided decision.
Now, it doesn’t have to end in divorce.
“How to Get Your Ex Back… Or…
How to STOP Your Break-up
Before It’s Set In Stone”
Discover the 4 Steps Now:
How To Get Your Ex Back By Filling Her Love Bucket
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Simply Use Mike’s Text My Wife Into Bed Right Away or Use a Textramessage (Extra Text Messages) to Text My Ex Back for men and women (different psychology for men and women’s texts)
Last, if you want to read WHY WE BROKE UP and the reasons “we broke up because” check this book and all the break up stories.
Love Bucket: The Only Pick-Up Line You’ll Ever Need
Saturday, February 18th, 2012 Posted in Attention, Dating, Mating, Relating, The Man Class Series | No Comments »In The Man Class Accelerator, there is an awesome interview with Stephen Nash, known as Playboy in the book, The Game.
Now, The Man Class is not simply about dating and picking up women. In fact, The Man Class is about keeping a good woman happy and filling her love bucket.
Valentine’s is over and the pressure is off, so to speak, but dating continues. You have to meet her first to fill her love bucket.
To begin dating, a guy needs to have a great conversation starter or pick up line. Your opener is important. It is the way that you give and get her attention.
Stephen has one that he says works about 90% of the time. He said that he grew so weary of the mass amounts of pick up lines and gimmicks that he developed a very simple, elegant and smooth way of approaching women in any/all circumstances. The following is in Stephen’s own words:
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That’s it.
TRY THIS FOR YOURSELF.
Why does it work so well?
A few reasons:
1) You aren’t overtly hitting on her. All you say is that you “noticed” her which always piques her interest. Inevitably, she will reply to your statement with “Well, what did you notice?” (so, be ready for that).
2) You pace the reality of this being slightly awkward and different when you say “risk complete embarrassment”. She will relax when you say this as it confirms to her that you are aware that this is not the norm.
3) You tell her your name, which is polite WHILE patting yourself on the back a bit by honoring the fact that this is a “risk”.
Does this phrase automatically insure that you get a date with her? Of course not. But it does guarantee that you get a conversation with her around 90% of the time. Women respond to direct, romantic gestures very well…if you do this technique, you will see what I mean.
Being direct conveys a lot of REALLY GOOD things to women. And, I have found that this technique is the only romantic pick up line that isn’t terribly cheesy and that truly, actually works.
Try it!
And here’s a list of places to meet women that does not include a bar or club:
1. Seminars/Events
2. Dog Parks
3. Concerts
4. Home Depot
5. Plane or Train Travel
6. Online Chat and Networking
7. Sporting Events
8. 8 at 8 Dinner Party for 8 Strangers
Checkout http://www.eightateight.com/ This site also lists modern pickup lines if you think you need more ammunition than Stephen Nash’s solid one above.
1. “Hey, I love your shoes (or handbag, or coat, etc.)!” Who doesn’t love being complimented?! This is an easy, non-awkward way to start conversation and get brownie points at the same time.
2. “Hi, I would love to get you a drink.” Perfect for when you spot someone in a bar setting. It’s simple and direct. Try not to sound cheesy…it’s pretty easy with this one. And PLEASE, take “no” for an answer. Persistence is not the key here, it just weirds people out and makes everyone uncomfortable.
3. “What kind of dog is that?” Everyone loves talking about their little pal. It shows you’re interested and instantly gives you something to talk about. As e-Harmony says, if you’re feeling brave/witty, add “Does he/she have a phone number?”
4. “Are you single?” I agree, this sounds scary and forward. But after working for a matchmaker, and actually USING this line in real life, I can assure you it’s not as awkward as you might think. If you ask with your most charming smile and maybe even with a little laugh (like you know this is very direct, but you’re going for it!) then if the answer is “no,” most people will be impressed with your straightforward approach.
5. “Nice to meet you, I’m ____ and you’re beautiful!” With a lot of people, flattery will get you everywhere. This approach is again, very direct, but could also brighten someone’s day and your chances of grabbing a date.
7. “How much does a polar bear weight? Enough to break the ice!” This classic, marginally cheesy pickup line is actually pretty sweet and funny. Who doesn’t enjoy a joke? This can show you don’t take yourself TOO seriously, which in the dating world is definitely a plus.
8. “Excuse me, but you have something on your face,” (when she goes to wipe it off stop her and say) “No, no leave it. It’s beauty.” Ok, this actually made me laugh out loud. Yes, it’s super cheesy, but if a cutie came up to me and said this, I don’t think I could resist. Actually, I might start using this. Watch out, boys!
Basically, most of these fun and direct pickup lines are a great way to start the conversation and involve that person you’ve been eyeing.
Love Bucket: Valentine’s Day WARNING (and Free Gift)
Monday, February 13th, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Drive Her Desire, Her Love Bucket, Power Her Passion, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »
This just in from Mike Fiore . . . Valentine’s Day WARNING – What Not to do
Message to Men:
Valentine’s day is tomorrow and I want to make sure you don’t make a huge mistake . . .
See, a lot of guys think what women really want for Valentine’s day are flowers and candy and expensive dinners and pieces of jewelry that cost as much as your car (hope you have cheap car.)
But what women REALLY want for Valentine’s day (and EVERY day) is to KNOW how you really feel about her.
Honestly, I [Mike] think of flower and candy and all that BS as "romantic methadone."
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If you really want her to swoon (and get out of the romantic dog house you’ll get into if you don’t do anything at all) you need to bring her down the "golden path" of romance . . .
That means teasing her . . .
Seducing her . . .
Making her feel like the most special woman in the world . . .
And to me the EASIEST way to do that is
To Fill Her Love Bucket.
End of Mike’s letter.
Actually Mike wants you to send her a text message. Mike is great and smart and he is a copywriter. Wordsmith. He calls himself “Moneyfingers” as he types cash comes out of his keyboard.
But words are not enough. As The Love Linguist, words are very important. They are very important to me. But if words were so important, then why are there so many messages that state:
“Actions speak louder than words”
Mike thinks the right words are like crack to women. And to some women words work magic. Definitely try it and check out Mike’s texting program video– www.TextLoveNow.com
The good news is that sending a text does show you are putting in effort. But, if it is out of character for you’re and you use the “magic texts” prewritten for you… it may backfire.
Texting is certainly the easy way to go.
A Valentine’s gift will be given to the first 10 guys who response. The Man Class is yours FREE! Follow the instructions in the image.
Some women have a very tarnished recognition ring of desire and words, being one form of recognition might work wonders. Also using the contact ring desire when you are OUT of proximity using a cell phone and TEXT can get her motor running. You can hide behind the text and let her know how you really feel if you haven’t done it for a while. Text messages can break down her low self esteem and give you something to play with in a back and forth banter that can make her feel like a queen.
But if you are in close physical proximity, toss the text and look her straight in the eyes. Tell her that she is loved. Take action and hold her. And also, DO something together which is the DO WITH ring of desire. Or if she has been wanting you to do something for her then shine up her DO FOR ring of desire. Fill her love bucket with her top desires. Power her passion and drive her desire.
And if words of love are what she wants, a hand written love letter or love card will speak volumes over a text message. Text messages used in combination with an anticipated card or gift may get you VERY lucky!
Now, I fully know that a woman’s BIG erogenous zone is her mind – her “B-SPOT” brain. Mike says a text might get you laid too =-) But knowing her combination of top desires, the 3-4 Rings of Desire of her love bucket will get her juices flowing for sure!
Show her you love her by knowing her rings of desire and shine the ones that mean the most to her.
And get your free romantic tips here: http://freeromantictips.com
Happy Valentine’s Day!
