This is intended for men who are dating so if you’ve chosen your woman, get to know the top desires of  her love bucket and FILL THEM!!!!  See http://the-man-class.com

Guys, if you are dating, you need to get clear and really hone in on your they type of woman you are interested BEFORE you go out there and start dating market yourself extensively (that particularly applies to what you are writing in your online dating profile). One of the major reasons this is so important is that most guys make the mistake of trying to attract to EVERY WOMAN, fearing that if they clearly define themselves, they’ll narrow down their prospective DATING POOL too much. As a result their dating effort is less than compelling and doesn’t pull ANY women in.

We now know that being a generalist is not Dating Attractive, quite the contrary, because CLARITY OF PURPOSE not being a jack-of-all-trades helps a guy stand out in the dating marketplace and it’s much easier to attract to a specific type of women than it is to attract a whole bunch of different women. Otherwise, your dating message gets lost and isn’t compelling enough and you don’t catch any woman’s attention. Your love and sex life depends on your clarity.

I want to take you on a different spin of your “ideal dating.” I want to talk to you about the surefire signs of women to AVOID; at least in my point of view. I suggest be very selective about whom you date. You should consider cherry-picking your dates and go so far as to state exactly what type of woman you want (personality-wise) and what doesn’t work right up front.

You want to date the best women who are “high caliber” and who meet your carefully thought-out criteria especially the no-compromise criteria. You don’t enjoy dating whiners or skeptics or women who make excuses because its easier to blame others.

I know it’s a little bold, and I’m certain it ticks off some guys (usually though, it’s the women who recognize themselves as bad cases of whiners, skeptics, and women with a general bad or negative attitude about everything). The funny thing is; your IDEAL date will say SHE LOVES it that you have clarity and it strengthens their conviction that they want to date you again. Having clarity is attractive in dating.

So, if it’s a little bit controversial to some women, and turns some women off, why do I suggest you do this? Because, probably like you, in the beginning, you dated ANY woman who was breathing, had a female body, and was remotely interested in dating you, despite sometimes having a strong feeling in your gut that you were doing the wrong thing and might regret it. You were simply desperate for dates.

Lo and behold, every single time you dated one of these non-ideal women, you regretted it. You ignored all the signs, shunned your gut feeling, and later wished you hadn’t taken her on that date. It was always a disaster. Either her attitude made you think “why is this woman SO negative!?” or perhaps they stopped dating with you after just one month, blaming you for the fact they weren’t getting what they needed or the standard, “it’s not you, it’s me” line.

These were the same women who became what call “heart-sink” date. You know the ones. They give you that sinking feeling in your heart. She’s the women you’ll be seeing that night but in reality your heart sinks with the prospect of the looming date. Instead of being excited for the date, you dread it, drag your feet on preparing and generally get in a bad mood knowing you’ll have to interact to her.

You can’t afford to have your energy brought down by ONE dating experience with a woman who’s a chronic cranky-pants. It’s just not fair to you. You’ll never be able to fill her love bucket. Actually, it will be impossible to fill her love bucket:

If you’re not having that “YESSS!!!” feeling with every date, you may need to listen to your intuition more and better yet, make a list of your own surefire signs NOT to pursue a dating relationship with a woman, no matter how much how good looking and sexy she is.

Here’s are some surefire signs of non-ideal date:

1. Women who don’t show up time for the date and make up not-so-believable excuses for why they are late. (Take a no-excuses approach to the early dating experience and to life in general. Start on the right foot.)
2. Women who don’t meet your criteria during interactions prior to your first date. (Don’t let those love biochemicals kick in with her sexy photo or sultry voice. Put the testosterone aside and activate your pre-frontal cortex. If she doesn’t meet your criteria now, she’ll probably not meet them later either.)
3. Women who aren’t nice to a waitress, valet or service staff. (That should be a HUGE no-no for you. If she treats someone like less than equal from the get-go, she should have ZERO chance of a second date with you.)
4. Women who are rude to you too. (Not much more to be said here.)
5. Women who whine, complain, or resist everything, make excuses, or sometimes even lie. (You prefer to hang out with really fun, upbeat women, and women who are “up” to good things.)
6. Women who try to manipulate, despite the fact that you are clear up front about who you are and what works for you in dating and relating. (It’s been my experience that women who take an inch will always try to take a mile down the road.)
7. Women who clearly have two personalities – one for you on the date all lovey-dovey and the real one. The real one is the nightmare.  You’ll start to see this by month three if not beforehand unless she is a really good actress.  

Have you ever experienced women doing one or more of these things? Most likely if you are breathing. Perhaps you’re not good at recognizing the sighs. After a while, you’ll start recognizing the signs and their consequences.

How do you deal with these situations? If they’re a prospective date, stop before you begin. Move on. Don’t start something that has no future as a relationship, and explain to her that you’re probably not the right guy for her. If she’s been on several dates with you, find a graceful way to end the relationship. It should only happen rarely, but when it needs to happen, do what it takes.

Let’s face it. Non-ideal dates will never get you the love you want. Don’t prolong it. Stay away from them!

At this point in your life, you have to decide if you are DFS or have gone through the SHIFT and you’re DFL. If you know EXACTLY what you want in a woman, then the right women will show up with your dating effort both online in the “sorting” process and offline with your dates in person.

Your Assignment for YOUR IDEAL WOMAN:

• Make a list of common denominators among your non-ideal previous dates (not every bad date has all of these, sometimes just one or two). Find the patterns.
• Set standards and criteria in your love life about whom you’ll date and whom you’ll turn away.
• Then, follow those criteria as if your love life depends on it (it does).
• Even consider sharing your list with a close friend, which shows your commitment and they can keep an eye out for a good catch for you!

You deserve top-notch, top 10 or “A+” dates, not boring “D” women. The only person who can let them into your dating life is you. You’re the ultimate decision-maker. Besides, when your “dance card” is filled with “D” dates, you become so irritable that you’re not going to BE dating attractive for the right woman. That’s not good when the right woman comes along. So take action on this and don’t break your own standards. You have the ultimate choice, so use it.

If you’re not yet attracting only “A+” dates in your love life, you need to start over with your criteria. Get clear. Understand what you have that will appeal to the best women for you. It will take a few passes to fine-tune and hone your list of what you want in your ideal woman and what you have to offer her. Don’t leave it up to chance.

You will be able to fill her love bucket when your criterion matches her personality. Check out the 5 Love Dynamics for more on Real Love Dynamics of men and women. http://5lovedynamics.com

~~~~

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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Since Mari is the source of this new #GPD10 experience, I choose to write about her since she is truly awesome and good. 

I was introduced to Mari by Michael Peak. Both Mari and Michael worked with the T.Harv Ecker organization, Peak Potentials.

First, here are some photos of Mari Smith at recent events and seminars. Mari Smith is a sought after speaker with a big, generous heart!   

	Mari with Adam Lipinski (@pimpski)
	Mari with Trevor "ToeCracker" (@toecracker)
	Mari with Mike Wesely (@MikeWesely)
	Lovely Ladies, Mari in her signature turquoise, and Lucky Brian Elliot in the middle. Awesome and good people! The Love Bucket is in the front.
	Mari showing the ladies at the Seth Godin event pics. Yes, these ladies, Deb Cole Micek, Emma Tiebens, are all wearing "VIP" signs on their back sides. Awesome and good people!
	Thanks to Michael Peak for introducing me @TheLoveBucket Lady to awesome and good @MariSmith

So what does Mari Smith have to do with "filing the love bucket"?  We know that she is awesome and good.

CONTACT is one of the 7 Rings of Desire of The Love Bucket. One of the forms of contact is electronic contact which can be anything from a phone call, text message, tweet, Friendfeed, Facebook, blog post, etc.  Mari is a social media maven with much electronic contact expertise.

Per Seth Godin’s definition, Mari Smith is a Linchpin in the social media world as a fabulous representative of proper use of the CONTACT RING OF DESIRE. I’m sure someone will be singing her praises today.

April 3 is good people day.  Mari Smith is good people. #GPD10 on Twitter.
See what’s up with #GPD10 on Twitter: http://search.twitter.com/search?q=%23GPD10

To Your Love Success,

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

Special Thanks to Gary Vaynerchuck and Michael Peak. http://bit.ly/awesomegood

Sherrie Rose Recommends: www.Twitter.com/MariSmith

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Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist,  Wishes the Luck of the Irish to You!

St. Patrick’s Day, March 17, 2010

Photos of the St. Patrick’s Day Parade in Dublin, Ireland by
Jesse Jameson – gorgeous!

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Hot Topics for Valetine’s Day Romance to be discussed on this show:
* Open the heart
* Intimacy Building
* Relax the Body
* Expand Pleasure

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Sherrie Rose “The Love Linguist” and Phil Johncock, SkyDancing Tantra Facilitator, share unique Valentines Day Romance Secrets for you and your lover. Open the Heart, Build Intimacy, Relax the Body, and Expand Sexual Pleasure.

Heart, Intimacy, and Pleasure
(Get Yours this Valentine’s Day!)

Women have strengths that amaze men…..

They bear hardships and they carry burdens,

but they hold happiness, love and joy.

They smile when they want to scream.

They sing when they want to cry.

They cry when they are happy

and laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in.

They stand up to injustice.

They don’t take “no” for an answer

when they believe there is a better solution..

They go without so their family can have.

They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.

They love unconditionally.

They cry when their children excel

and cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about

a birth or a wedding.

Their hearts break when a friend dies.

They grieve at the loss of a family member,

yet they are strong when they

think there is no strength left.

They know that a hug and a kiss

can heal a broken heart.

Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.

They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you

to show how much they care about you.

The heart of a woman is what

makes the world keep turning.

They bring joy, hope and love..

They have compassion and ideas.

They give moral support to their

family and friends.

Women have vital things to say

and everything to give.

HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,

IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.

=> RECOGNIZE a woman today –
Please tell her and show her just how amazing she is.

And remember…

God doesn’t give you the people you want; He gives you the people you NEED… to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you into the person you were meant to be.

P.S. This came in an email, you know the ones that you are supposed to pass on… so I am posting it here so you can pass it on and recognize a woman today.

Hearts are the symbol of love.  The human heart symbol is everywhere and is given virtually (as in this dancing heart gift on Facebook) and through chocolate hearts wrapped in colorful foil.  Express from the heart fills a woman’s love bucket.  Providing symbols of love through especially chocolate hearts (most women love chocolate) fills her love bucket.

Hearts are symbols. 

Symbols also show up in fetishes.

Shoes associated with hookers and strip clubs connote a certain lifestyle, desire, and attitude. 

Shoes that elicit a fetish such as those show on the left are actually from another Facebook page.  I think I have become quite fascinated by the types of fan pages on Facebook that people are openly and publicly joining for all to see.  No behind closed doors here. 

Above is a snapshot of what the Facebook Adult Social Media Group is about “America’s Sexuality Day” “Where Your Fetish Fantasies Come Alive” “The World’s Favorite Pantyhose Fetish & Nylon Fetish”   Several of these are promoting websites and sales of products. 

In addition to hearts – shoes, pantyhose, and fetishes may just fill her love bucket. 

I met my friend Michael for tea at a coffee shop in Flower Hill.  A week before the Del Mar races so it was still fairly quiet.

We were at an end table and on the wall beside us was this handwritten message:

“Open Your Heart
there may be
someone waiting
to get in”

It was one of those messages that is so simple and yet so true.  You must be open to receive.  To create the possibility of love in your life an open heart is a key ingredient.

The love bucket is ever-expanding and has an open rim ready for more lovematism. 

The heart is only open with the attitude, feeling and belief that love will find you.  Are you ready?  Open your heart today.

In my program, http://www.TheManClassSeries.com, Sheva Carr, the founder of Fyera.com, introduced men to the technique of listening through their hearts.  Words only compromise 7% of communication.  It is the feeling behind the words, sometimes called the metamessage, that counts.

And it is listening with appreciation that brings the greatest coherence between two listeners.  When the listeners are lovers, the heart-brain synchronization is in a magical harmony. The electromagnetic signal produced by your heart is registered in the brain waves of people around you, especially your lover.

To learn more, register for a free teleseminar at www.Fyera.com  Your life will truly be changed forever. 

Sheva teaches you to control your autonomic nervous system so every reaction is turned into a controlled response. 

The heart is the first organ to form in the body. It is the organizing factor for physical formation including for brain formation. The heart contains extensive brain-like neural matter. In addition to our cerebral brain, we indeed have a “heart brain.” The heart sends out its own balancing and regulating hormones, and also instantaneously communicates electromagnetic and biochemical information to the rest of the body and the bodies of other people within proximity or remotely when focused upon.

The heart communicates with the brain and body in four ways:

• Neurological communication (nervous system)
• Biophysical communication (pulse wave)
• Biochemical communication (hormones)
• Energetic communication (electromagnetic fields)

Can you imagine every time you felt anger you can transform it into a feeling that gives you an energy boost instead of taking your energy and focus?  Try it today at Fyera!

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The intuitive guidance of your heart has sometimes been called your emotional guidance system.  The emotional guidance system is the gut feeling.  The intuitive guidance is from the heart, your true hearts desire behind your surface desire.  What is your true desire behind the surface desire?  Heart focus, heart breathing, heart feeling will give you the feeling NOW – quantum causation and resonance causation.  Living into your future and have the feeling of the result now. It may sound new age and metaphysical and it is.  But the results are for the here and now. 

It takes energy to create heart desire.  It takes focus.  Then head and heart are synchronized.    There is more power generated by heart focus, heart breathing, heart feeling that brings a laser-like focus to bring heart and mind in sync.  Having  laser focus in your life is powerful and what you initiate you must be accountable for and my must be ready to take responsibly for what you create.  Are you ready to take charge of your life with your heart?

Let your heart be your guide.  That is the essence behind the words: “Follow Your Heart.”

Fill Her Love Bucket with Heart-Brain Synchronization!!!

Sherrie Rose Recommends: http://www.Fyera.com based on the science of HeartMath.

Density Dissipation Lock-In – Do this for 5 to 10 minutes
New Density Dissipation Lock-In Tool

Preparation: It helps to find something to appreciate for a minute or two before doing any global transmission, because it helps open the heart more and increase coherence. Then sending heart energy is even more effective.

To help transform the mental and emotional density cloud that surrounds the earth, do the following:

1. Imagine radiating love and care from the heart into the density and seeing it dissipate, the way the sun dissipates clouds.

   (You can imagine that your heart is like the sun streaming gold light into the density cloud. For some people, this adds more texture to the experience, but it’s not necessary for effectiveness. It’s the feeling of genuine care that counts.)

When to Use the Density Dissipation Lock-In

Doc Childre explained that the Density Dissipation Lock-In helps to clear the negative emotional energy buildup that has accumulated from past greed, separation, violence, etc: for example, people living out of alignment with the heart. He advised people not to limit use of this tool because it can be effective at any time.
As caretakers of the earth, we all are responsible for helping to clear the planetary field environment, Childre said. “By taking responsibility, we can significantly offset the amount of stress the planet experiences during the coming years of obvious changes.”

Source Website: http://www.heartmath.org/templates/ihm/e-newsletter/2009/May-June-2009/online/new_density_dissipation_lock_in.php