Love: Steve Job’s Supreme Virtue (Fills The Love Bucket)
Sunday, October 30th, 2011 Posted in Heart, Love Bucket | No Comments »
Love was Steve Job’s supreme virtue, his god of gods.
Steve was like a girl in the amount of time he spent talking about love. Love was his supreme virtue, his god of gods. He tracked and worried about the romantic lives of the people working with him.
| This is written by Steve Job’s sister as posted in the New York Times on October 30th. It is part of her eulogy given on October 16 at Stanford University.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/30/opinion/mona-simpsons-eulogy-for-steve-jobs.html |
Whenever he saw a man he thought a woman might find dashing, he called out, “Hey are you single? Do you wanna come to dinner with my sister?”
I remember when he phoned the day he met Laurene. “There’s this beautiful woman and she’s really smart and she has this dog and I’m going to marry her.”
When Reed was born, he began gushing and never stopped. He was a physical dad, with each of his children. He fretted over Lisa’s boyfriends and Erin’s travel and skirt lengths and Eve’s safety around the horses she adored.
None of us who attended Reed’s graduation party will ever forget the scene of Reed and Steve slow dancing.
His abiding love for Laurene sustained him. He believed that love happened all the time, everywhere. In that most important way, Steve was never ironic, never cynical, never pessimistic. I try to learn from that, still.
… He treasured happiness.
…And every time his wife walked into the room, I watched his smile remake itself on his face.
I remember my brother learning to walk again, with a chair. After his liver transplant, once a day he would get up on legs that seemed too thin to bear him, arms pitched to the chair back. He’d push that chair down the Memphis hospital corridor towards the nursing station and then he’d sit down on the chair, rest, turn around and walk back again. He counted his steps and, each day, pressed a little farther.
Laurene got down on her knees and looked into his eyes.
“You can do this, Steve,” she said. His eyes widened. His lips pressed into each other.
He tried. He always, always tried, and always with love at the core of that effort. He was an intensely emotional man.
I realized during that terrifying time that Steve was not enduring the pain for himself. He set destinations: his son Reed’s graduation from high school, his daughter Erin’s trip to Kyoto, the launching of a boat he was building on which he planned to take his family around the world and where he hoped he and Laurene would someday retire.
What I learned from my brother’s death was that character is essential: What he was, was how he died.
Tuesday morning, he called me to ask me to hurry up to Palo Alto. His tone was affectionate, dear, loving, but like someone whose luggage was already strapped onto the vehicle, who was already on the beginning of his journey, even as he was sorry, truly deeply sorry, to be leaving us.
He started his farewell and I stopped him. I said, “Wait. I’m coming. I’m in a taxi to the airport. I’ll be there.”
“I’m telling you now because I’m afraid you won’t make it on time, honey.”
When I arrived, he and his Laurene were joking together like partners who’d lived and worked together every day of their lives. He looked into his children’s eyes as if he couldn’t unlock his gaze.
Until about 2 in the afternoon, his wife could rouse him, to talk to his friends from Apple.
Then, after awhile, it was clear that he would no longer wake to us.
His breathing changed. It became severe, deliberate, purposeful. I could feel him counting his steps again, pushing farther than before.
This is what I learned: he was working at this, too. Death didn’t happen to Steve, he achieved it.
He told me, when he was saying goodbye and telling me he was sorry, so sorry we wouldn’t be able to be old together as we’d always planned, that he was going to a better place.
Dr. Fischer gave him a 50/50 chance of making it through the night.
He made it through the night, Laurene next to him on the bed sometimes jerked up when there was a longer pause between his breaths. She and I looked at each other, then he would heave a deep breath and begin again.
This had to be done. Even now, he had a stern, still handsome profile, the profile of an absolutist, a romantic. His breath indicated an arduous journey, some steep path, altitude.
He seemed to be climbing.
But with that will, that work ethic, that strength, there was also sweet Steve’s capacity for wonderment, the artist’s belief in the ideal, the still more beautiful later.
Steve’s final words, hours earlier, were monosyllables, repeated three times.
Before embarking, he’d looked at his sister Patty, then for a long time at his children, then at his life’s partner, Laurene, and then over their shoulders past them.
Steve’s final words were:
OH WOW. OH WOW. OH WOW.
Previous posts on Steve Jobs on the Love Bucket Blog:
http://lovebucketblog.com/1967/the-love-bucket-is-a-little-emptier-with-the-loss-of-steve-jobs/
http://lovebucketblog.com/1987/love-bucket-consideration-private-the-love-between-steve-and-laurene-jobs/
“If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.”
— Steve Jobs
William Fills Jacqueline’s Love Bucket!
Monday, August 29th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Gifts, Heart, Her Love Bucket, Love Dynamics, Masterman, Mastermen, Romance | No Comments »William Fills Jacqueline’s Love Bucket!
When a man wants to honor is wife for their anniversary and takes two months to plan and build a gift he automatically moves up to MASTERMAN status. 
That is exactly what William did when he recreated the most amazing and wonderful parts of his wedding and married life. He presented the beautiful Jacqueline with this “Heart & Soul” gift that is hand crafted with intricate detail.
He provided this present in the form of a beautiful physical object that accompanied a weekend getaway. But what he really provided was a memory that will last forever.
Keeping his gift clandestine was tough. He built it at home and had to do it while Jacqueline was not around. William, an attorney, does not usually have cuts on his hand. His clothes are not sprinkled with gold. His two children were sworn to silence which was a miracle in itself that they could keep it a secret. In fact, their daughter told a while lie and said to her mother, “Daddy got you a piece of jewelry and he’s trying to fool you by putting it in a big box!”
The love story of Jacqueline and William goes on long before their twelve years of marriage (Congratulations!). They met when Jacqueline was 21 and William was 34. Jacqueline felt she was too young for marriage and they went their separate ways. Jacqueline moved away. Years later she came home for a funeral and thought of William. Jacqueline decided she would stop by his office and see him on her way to the airport but there was so much traffic that she did not have time.
When she arrived home she found a letter waiting for her. It was from William. He had actually hired a private investigator to find her. He loved her after all those years and wanted to see her. A marriage proposal quickly ensued. Like many marriages it is not perfect but they communicated and work on it together.
Jacqueline and William got married in Venice, Italy, on a Gondola on the Grand Canal. Deep passion fills both their hearts! They have been back to Venice several times and their home is filled with Italian chandeliers and tapestries that reflect their romantic love.
The wedding in Venice represented their romantic sentiments but to make it all legal in the United States they got married again at the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco. All the details of their two weddings are captured in the hand-carved sculpture from William.
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On Facebook, Jacqueline shared the photo above of this amazing tribute adorned with LOVE – She wrote: “I just spent an amazing weekend with my husband & received the most priceless gift! He spent two heartfelt months making my 12th year anniversary gift. We were married in Venice, Italy, and at the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco. He hand-carved a Gondola, gold leafed the four horses of St. Marks, and built a little replica of our most memorable and cherished moments. I Love my man & am sooo blessed!!!” |
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William researched the details, painted the gondola seats blue (Jacqueline’s favorite color), covered the stars (which are crystals) and horses with gold foil. He filed off the horses saddles. He painted the hair on the figurines and attended to the minutest details. He ordered the Lion charm to represent the Venetian Lion of St. Marks. The columns represent the columns of the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco.
A gift like this is priceless. A gift like this that represents your love provides a memory that only two lovers can truly appreciate. It is personal, cherished, and intimate. When William explained every detail of his creation to Jacqueline he was beaming with pride. She felt his love coming from every part of his being. Each ornament and item is a monument of his love for her.
William filled the love bucket with the Provisions Ring of Desire. Provisions often has a physical form like gift or present but it is so much more. The Provisions Ring of Desire of Jacqueline’s love bucket provides not just the physical present but the history, memory, and future dreams of a life filled with more love.
CONGRATULATIONS, Jacqueline and William!!! May you share many love-filled anniversaries, special occasions, and days of love!
"Love is a state of being not a state of feeling. It goes well beyond the realm of the emotions. It’s an attitude of benevolence and kindness towards all creation, including one’s self, at all times and under all circumstances. Love is the most powerful magnetic force in the universe." ~ Carnelian Sage
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Marriage Proposal that hits it out of the park and into the Love Bucket!
Friday, August 19th, 2011 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Heart, Her Love Bucket, Lifestyle, Love Bucket, Romance | No Comments »
Marriage Proposal that hits it out of the park and into the Love Bucket!
See details for September 16th wedding here:
http://wayneandnancy.com/index.cfm?fa=welcome
The Oakland A’s baseball team has never hosted an "on-field" wedding until now and the big event happens on Friday, September 16, 2011 at home plate at the Oakland Alameda County Coliseum. Just after batting practice and just before the Oakland A’s take on The Detroit Tigers on "Fireworks Night." If you know Nancy and Wayne’s "story", you know there is no more perfect location for the wedding and to start their married life together.
Last May, I was blessed to witness an amazing marriage proposal of Sean and Mindie.
http://lovebucketblog.com/1440/the-most-amazing-marriage-proposal-fills-the-love-bucket-sean-mindies-engagement/
And that same weekend I heard Sir Anthony Hopkins talk about his wife in superlatives (he definitely filled her love bucket!)
http://lovebucketblog.com/1420/anthony-hopkins-fills-the-love-bucket/
When I came home I got the news about another proposal that took place at the Oakland Alameda County Coliseum. Even hearing about Nancy and Wayne’s proposal story filled my love bucket!
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| “Nancy, I love you forever! Will you marry me? – Wayne” |
Maybe I’m Amazed – Paul McCartney
Maybe I’m amazed at the way you love me all the time
Maybe I’m afraid of the way I love you
Maybe I’m amazed at the way you pulled me out of time
And hung me on a line
Maybe I’m amazed at the way I really need you
Baby I’m a man maybe I’m a lonely man
Who’s in the middle of something
That he doesn’t really understand
Baby I’m a man and maybe you’re the only woman
Who could ever help me
Baby won’t you help me understand,Oooohh
Baby I’m a man, maybe I’m a lonely man
Who’s in the middle of something
That he doesn’t really understand
Baby I’m a man and maybe you’re the only woman
Who could ever help me
Baby won’t you help me understand, oohhh
Maybe I’m amazed at the way you’re with me all the time
Maybe I’m afraid of the way I leave you
Maybe I’m amazed at the way you help me sing my song
Right me when I’m wrong
Maybe I’m amazed at the way I really need you
Oh,Oh,ohhh, yeah, oh,oh ohhh yeahh Oo-oo
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CONGRATULATIONS, Wayne and Nancy!!! We’ll see you on home plate!
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Fill The Love Bucket with Laughs and Smiles!
Sunday, July 10th, 2011 Posted in Heart, Intellisense, Love Bucket | No Comments »How Smiles Really Work (to fill the love bucket)
Emotional Intellisense and Social Intellisense are part of the physical experience because you can sense and see what is happening in the body and FACE of another person.
A fake smile uses only the zygomatic major muscle — the one that runs from your jaw to the corner of your mouth. It’s easy to control this muscle, so it leads to fake smile. Guy Kawasaki has said this was called “Pan American smiles” (because Pan American flight attendants supposedly weren’t truly happy to see passengers). We’ll have to check the new Pan Am tv show this fall!
A “real” smile uses the orbicularis oculi muscle, too. This muscle surrounds your eyes, and it makes you squint and produces crow’s-feet (laugh lines). A great smile is so special that it has its own name: the Duchenne smile, in honor of Guillaume Duchenne, a French neurologist. I honestly thought it was after some Royal Duchess who lived in the happiest kingdom; alas, just a romantic notion!
Ladies, make laugh lines aka crow’s-feet and for the sake of your smile, skip the Botox treatments and face-lifts.
Emotional intellisense is being able to sense what is happening emotionally in another person. A great smile is a give away and you can tell if it is a real smile. Social intellisense is paying attention to what is happening in social circles (time will tell if the digital social circles in G+ Google Plus will have this ability). So when you meet people you like, think happy and pleasant thoughts, it is the orbicularis oculi muscle that gets activated.
If you have your intellisense tuned in, you can can even tell is someone is smiling when you are speaking to them on the phone and shining the ever popular Contact Ring of Desire of The Love Bucket!
A real smile comes from the heart not the head. A genuine smile fills the love bucket!
Keep laughing! Keep smiling!
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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No Regrets – Go Fill A Love Bucket Now!
Monday, June 13th, 2011 Posted in Heart, Love Bucket, Lovematism | No Comments »Life is too short to have regrets – So Go Fill A Love Bucket Now!
Love seems to come to top of mind just like the KISSED
graphic above – You SHOULD kiss your lover more!
Top Five Regrets Before Dying
Based on 500+ interviews of people at the end of their lives going through “a variety of emotions…denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance…When asked about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, here are the 5 most common answers:
1. I wish I’d lived the life I wanted, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. (fill my own love bucket- good place to start)
6. I wish I had filled my lover’s love bucket (added to make the point!)
You can fix these NOW, not when your dying. Go fill a love bucket and maybe even kiss someone today!
So who’s love bucket you going to fill today. Yours, His, Hers? Remember the motto: ENRICH OTHERS!
Share the love, share the lovematism, and go fill a love bucket today!
Annotated Cited Perry Belcher on June 9, 2011 · via Original Source http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html
