This is intended for men who are dating so if you’ve chosen your woman, get to know the top desires of  her love bucket and FILL THEM!!!!  See http://the-man-class.com

Guys, if you are dating, you need to get clear and really hone in on your they type of woman you are interested BEFORE you go out there and start dating market yourself extensively (that particularly applies to what you are writing in your online dating profile). One of the major reasons this is so important is that most guys make the mistake of trying to attract to EVERY WOMAN, fearing that if they clearly define themselves, they’ll narrow down their prospective DATING POOL too much. As a result their dating effort is less than compelling and doesn’t pull ANY women in.

We now know that being a generalist is not Dating Attractive, quite the contrary, because CLARITY OF PURPOSE not being a jack-of-all-trades helps a guy stand out in the dating marketplace and it’s much easier to attract to a specific type of women than it is to attract a whole bunch of different women. Otherwise, your dating message gets lost and isn’t compelling enough and you don’t catch any woman’s attention. Your love and sex life depends on your clarity.

I want to take you on a different spin of your “ideal dating.” I want to talk to you about the surefire signs of women to AVOID; at least in my point of view. I suggest be very selective about whom you date. You should consider cherry-picking your dates and go so far as to state exactly what type of woman you want (personality-wise) and what doesn’t work right up front.

You want to date the best women who are “high caliber” and who meet your carefully thought-out criteria especially the no-compromise criteria. You don’t enjoy dating whiners or skeptics or women who make excuses because its easier to blame others.

I know it’s a little bold, and I’m certain it ticks off some guys (usually though, it’s the women who recognize themselves as bad cases of whiners, skeptics, and women with a general bad or negative attitude about everything). The funny thing is; your IDEAL date will say SHE LOVES it that you have clarity and it strengthens their conviction that they want to date you again. Having clarity is attractive in dating.

So, if it’s a little bit controversial to some women, and turns some women off, why do I suggest you do this? Because, probably like you, in the beginning, you dated ANY woman who was breathing, had a female body, and was remotely interested in dating you, despite sometimes having a strong feeling in your gut that you were doing the wrong thing and might regret it. You were simply desperate for dates.

Lo and behold, every single time you dated one of these non-ideal women, you regretted it. You ignored all the signs, shunned your gut feeling, and later wished you hadn’t taken her on that date. It was always a disaster. Either her attitude made you think “why is this woman SO negative!?” or perhaps they stopped dating with you after just one month, blaming you for the fact they weren’t getting what they needed or the standard, “it’s not you, it’s me” line.

These were the same women who became what call “heart-sink” date. You know the ones. They give you that sinking feeling in your heart. She’s the women you’ll be seeing that night but in reality your heart sinks with the prospect of the looming date. Instead of being excited for the date, you dread it, drag your feet on preparing and generally get in a bad mood knowing you’ll have to interact to her.

You can’t afford to have your energy brought down by ONE dating experience with a woman who’s a chronic cranky-pants. It’s just not fair to you. You’ll never be able to fill her love bucket. Actually, it will be impossible to fill her love bucket:

If you’re not having that “YESSS!!!” feeling with every date, you may need to listen to your intuition more and better yet, make a list of your own surefire signs NOT to pursue a dating relationship with a woman, no matter how much how good looking and sexy she is.

Here’s are some surefire signs of non-ideal date:

1. Women who don’t show up time for the date and make up not-so-believable excuses for why they are late. (Take a no-excuses approach to the early dating experience and to life in general. Start on the right foot.)
2. Women who don’t meet your criteria during interactions prior to your first date. (Don’t let those love biochemicals kick in with her sexy photo or sultry voice. Put the testosterone aside and activate your pre-frontal cortex. If she doesn’t meet your criteria now, she’ll probably not meet them later either.)
3. Women who aren’t nice to a waitress, valet or service staff. (That should be a HUGE no-no for you. If she treats someone like less than equal from the get-go, she should have ZERO chance of a second date with you.)
4. Women who are rude to you too. (Not much more to be said here.)
5. Women who whine, complain, or resist everything, make excuses, or sometimes even lie. (You prefer to hang out with really fun, upbeat women, and women who are “up” to good things.)
6. Women who try to manipulate, despite the fact that you are clear up front about who you are and what works for you in dating and relating. (It’s been my experience that women who take an inch will always try to take a mile down the road.)
7. Women who clearly have two personalities – one for you on the date all lovey-dovey and the real one. The real one is the nightmare.  You’ll start to see this by month three if not beforehand unless she is a really good actress.  

Have you ever experienced women doing one or more of these things? Most likely if you are breathing. Perhaps you’re not good at recognizing the sighs. After a while, you’ll start recognizing the signs and their consequences.

How do you deal with these situations? If they’re a prospective date, stop before you begin. Move on. Don’t start something that has no future as a relationship, and explain to her that you’re probably not the right guy for her. If she’s been on several dates with you, find a graceful way to end the relationship. It should only happen rarely, but when it needs to happen, do what it takes.

Let’s face it. Non-ideal dates will never get you the love you want. Don’t prolong it. Stay away from them!

At this point in your life, you have to decide if you are DFS or have gone through the SHIFT and you’re DFL. If you know EXACTLY what you want in a woman, then the right women will show up with your dating effort both online in the “sorting” process and offline with your dates in person.

Your Assignment for YOUR IDEAL WOMAN:

• Make a list of common denominators among your non-ideal previous dates (not every bad date has all of these, sometimes just one or two). Find the patterns.
• Set standards and criteria in your love life about whom you’ll date and whom you’ll turn away.
• Then, follow those criteria as if your love life depends on it (it does).
• Even consider sharing your list with a close friend, which shows your commitment and they can keep an eye out for a good catch for you!

You deserve top-notch, top 10 or “A+” dates, not boring “D” women. The only person who can let them into your dating life is you. You’re the ultimate decision-maker. Besides, when your “dance card” is filled with “D” dates, you become so irritable that you’re not going to BE dating attractive for the right woman. That’s not good when the right woman comes along. So take action on this and don’t break your own standards. You have the ultimate choice, so use it.

If you’re not yet attracting only “A+” dates in your love life, you need to start over with your criteria. Get clear. Understand what you have that will appeal to the best women for you. It will take a few passes to fine-tune and hone your list of what you want in your ideal woman and what you have to offer her. Don’t leave it up to chance.

You will be able to fill her love bucket when your criterion matches her personality. Check out the 5 Love Dynamics for more on Real Love Dynamics of men and women. http://5lovedynamics.com

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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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The Honey Love Pot (see Urban Dictionary for definition below) is comprised of multiple parts that eventually lead to the O-Spot (see Urban Dictionary).

There are always trends in your Love and Sex Life and currently the hottest rage is decorating the mound of the Honey Love Pot. Accessorizing the body has always been a favored activity of women and some of the naughty trends include vajazzling, vadge blush, and vadge accessories.

This is not exactly vadge blush… the color is called Orgasm.  see honey love pot http://honeylovepot.info

The V relates to the female body part that is often, but incorrectly thought of as the Love Bucket.

Spas that provide bikini waxes in major metropolitan areas will most likely also provide the application service as you select from the range of temporary tattoos or bring your own. Like most temporary tattoos, depending on a variety of factors like frequency of washing, rubbing, and oil on the skin, they’ll they lasts for about five to seven days.

Not every naughty love diplomat would decorate her honey love pot but, just like henna tattoos that are temporary, vattoos specifically designed for the mound of Venus. Special designs are being created by artists now that this demand is on the rise. Truth is any nicely designed temporary tattoos will do the trick!

The real trick and treat is the surprised look on the face of the man who gets the full visual of the vattoo on the mound of her honey love pot.

If you are into dating women…

The “Love Bucket”

Every woman is built at birth with a “love bucket.” Their love bucket is filled with the affection and love they receive from the man in their life.

Are you filling or draining your partner’s bucket?

THE LOVE BUCKET® is encircled by the 7 Rings of Desire® and if those rings are not shined and sustained, holes develop… and her love drains out. THE LOVE BUCKET® because Everybody Loves Love® THE LOVE BUCKET® is a registered trademark. (c) 2008 Love Bucket® Image

…Every time, we show love and affection to our wife, fiance or girlfriend, we add a little bit to their bucket.

Here’s the problem… there are constant holes opening up that will drain this love and affection. These holes can be caused by our actions, inactions or by her simply dealing with “women only” issues. If you don’t show love or affection, even for a few days, a hole opens up and her bucket is not quite as full as it was before. Over a long period of time, if we are not consistently filling her “love bucket,” she will withdraw from us. We’ve all heard someone say, “I just don’t love him anymore,” or we just seemed to grow apart.” This is a good indication that her need for affection and need to feel loved, were not satisfied by her man.

An affair is typically formed between two people who’s buckets’ are empty. Men…, we have to constantly “fill” her with our love and affection, expecting nothing in return. To receive love, you have to give love away. Keep this analogy in mind the next time she asks you, “honey, do you love me?” That’s a good sign it’s time to turn up the love and affection you’re showing her.

(Thanks, imitation is the highest form of flattery – this men’s organization started in 2009 loves the concept behind THE LOVE BUCKET®)

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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

Follow @SherrieRose on Twitter and you’ll get a Direct Message with bonus link for a free Love Bucket Book

No is a very powerful word.

It’s one too easily spoken, as any parent of a small child will tell you. It’s also detrimental to your love and sex life, because it’s an absolute brick wall of resistance.

The minute a potential lover or your current wife or girlfriend says no, you’ve either lost a night of passion or possibly a lifetime of love. You will have to pull out some pretty convincing arguments to sway her back to a YES. Chances are you’re not going to make it.

It’s much harder to change her mind when it’s already made up.

Here are practical tips on how to turn a woman’s no into yes, where you’ll learn specific resistance you’ll face and how to magically turn it into passion and love.

First, Address the Doubts

To believe that a woman is immediately going say, “This guy is exactly who I want – or – This guy is the man I want to take home tonight,” is a belief best left to delusional dreamers. (Of which you are not one, because only smart guys read the love bucket blog.)

Everyone has doubts. You have them, I have them, potential lover or current lady has them.

Now, no one enjoys having doubts, because they make us feel worried and uncertain and unsure. That’s not a good place to be, and instinctively, we know it. So we seek reassurance that erases our doubts and takes them away.

We look to be confident. When we feel confident, we feel able to make good decisions that are right for — which include, of course, saying, “Yes, this is exactly what I need.”

So address those doubts in your interactions. Put them on the table right from the start. Show her that you know she has concerns and worries, and give her the appropriate answer that provides reassurance to her.

This doesn’t mean raising questions that weren’t there to begin with. What it means is acknowledging potential questions and concerns and responding to them appropriately before the she picks her own response that might be NO.

The Best Example: Your Local Garage

Boats and cars are often given a woman’s name. Sometimes women think guys love their cars more than them. They spend time shining, polishing, and driving the “mistress.”

So, following the car theme, here’s an example of how you can address your lady’s doubts:

Let’s say your garage mechanic tells you that repairing your car will cost you $800. You can bet that you’ll have buyer resistance, and it’s highly unlikely that you’ll say, “This is exactly what I need!”

It’s far more likely you’re already trying to figure out how to get out of paying that amount.

Then your mechanic says, “I’m sure you’re wondering how necessary it is to repair these parts.” And he proceeds to tell you exactly how unsafe your car becomes if you don’t have them repaired — and if you have kids, he points out, and their safety means everything.

Then your mechanic says, “Now I know you’re probably wondering whether you can wait a while. But let me explain why that’s a bad idea.” He goes on to show how much more costly repairs will be if you don’t get this fixed soon.

By now, you’re not thinking about how to get out of the repairs. You’re into thinking about where you’ll get the money to pay for it all. You’ve already started moving from no to yes.

The mechanic doesn’t really know what’s going through your mind, but what he’s doing is covering his bases. He’s presuming you might have doubts, he’s assuming which doubts you might have, and he’s addressing them before you even voice them aloud.

If he guesses wrong? No problem — call it extra bonus arguments. You know, just in case. And if he guesses right? Then you haven’t had to say a word, and you have all the answers you need.

Be that proactive in your interactions. Assume the arguments, address them with confidence, reassure your lady and you’ll be turning no into yes before you know it.

How do you feel about addressing doubts in your interactions? Are you great at dismantling arguments? Do you hate forking money over to the auto-garage? And how reassured will she be when her doubts are addressed?

The War of the Sexes is One Filled With Battles

It’s your style, words, actions and integrity that will sway her, and her defensive shields are strong — so very strong. Each time you valiantly knock down an argument she’s presented, verbally or silently, another flies up, as if she’s creating them right out of thin air.

=> “You aren’t forcing her to say yes; you’re taking away her reasons to say no.”

SHE holds all the power, the final decision, the last word. But if you’ve played your cards right and taken away all her reasons to say no, the only word she’ll have left to say is, “YES.”

How do you take away her reasons to say no? Here are five ways to do just that:

“I Don’t Need You.”

When she tells you, verbally or silently, she doesn’t need you what she’s really saying is that she doesn’t want you – RIGHT NOW. There’s a huge difference between need and want and timing.

Take the lowly car, for example. We don’t need more than a basic box with wheels that gets us from A to B, but we consistently buy vehicles that offer far more luxury, bells and whistles — and we pay dearly for them too.

What you do as a Masterman, is turn needs into wants. Tell her why she wants you and start with gestures, innuendo, create intrigue, and a sense of mystery. Get her juices flowing. Get down and dirty in desire, play up how much her life will change for the better and let her visualize how fantastic her future will be – or the evening. You’ll be changing “I don’t need you” into “I want you so bad I can taste it” in no time.

“I’m Busy.”

Let’s face it. When she wants something — really, really wants something — she’ll find a way to make it happen. She’ll put on the right clothes, strut around, make those come hither glances. She’ll wear those stiletto heels until she’s straining. She’ll even go into debt to buy a dress if she thinks it will help her hook her man.

What you need to make sure she wants you and then you need to make sure YOU ARE *THE* PRIORITY above all other guys in her universe. Show her the benefits you offer and convey the value of what you bring to her.

Make her laugh. Make her an offer too good to pass up. Make it unmistakably clear to her that turning away from you now means losing out in the long run. And make it irresistible — she can’t afford not to take you up on your offer.

“Hmmm… Maybe Later.”

If she’s not feeling the need to give you her attention right now, there’s been a misfire on the priority front. You can guarantee she won’t be back, because out of sight is out of mind. Or, maybe she actually does want to think over her decision to be sure it’s the right one for her (which is fine), but to leave her thinking too long without some form of contact, well, she’ll just plain forget.

Or something more important comes up. And there’s no time left for you.

Convey the priority for her consider your offer now. Give it a timeframe with a “reward” like you’ll give her the foot massage or her dreams (women love this especially if they don’t think there are any strings attached) Give rewards for her “YES” so she’s looking forward to being with you.

“I Don’t Really Know Who You Are.”

If you are trying to meet women and this is your first encounter, this really means, “Why should I date… YOU?” And this baby is a big one these days, with all sorts of unknown guys cropping up with slick lines and cocky claims. No gal wants to risk wasting her time (read: looks and fertility) on some guy who’s a loser.

Show her you’re trustworthy by showing her you’re a gentleman. Eventually she’ll ask about your details: credentials, skills, background, history and family that she’ll need to trust and believe you are who you say you are. Downplay the weird stuff at the beginning (everyone has some) and talk up the things you have in common. Yes, ask her what she likes so you can see if you have anything in common more than sexual chemistry.

She’ll read you fast enough, so be honest; it shows.

The Value of No

If you don’t get the date or the evening of romance you hoped for, don’t despair. There’s a positive in every negative, which means there’s a yes in every no.

There’s a learning experience in why your she didn’t go out on a date or take you up on your sizzling evening offer. Take the opportunity to climb into her head and find out what you need to understand. There are 7 Ways to Fill Her Love Bucket. And there are 5 Love Dynamics. Learn more so you can be a masterman with women.

Which means less “NO” the next time.

You’re not going to change their mind; she’s said no already TODAY, but you do have another chance.

If she did say “YES” at some point after, ask her what might have swayed her to say yes. You’ll probably be surprised at her answer. By understanding what makes her tick you’ll just get better and better at her saying “YES” the next time.

Sherrie Rose Recommends: Filling Her Love Bucket! 

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Authorship: This blogpost is modified from the original by James Chartrand. James is an in-demand web copywriter, author, online business consultant and owner of the leading web design and copywriting agency, Men with Pens. Click here to visit Men with Pens, and while you’re at it, follow James on Twitter.

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Sherrie Rose
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Recently I read an email targeting guys who want to pick-up women.
Here’s what they say the 3 HOTTEST TOPICS are for guys who date:

Dating Science. It is basic and simple psychology. It is basic and simple physical attraction. We are marvelous creatures, the human. Simple, yet so terribly complicated.

For topic one, it relates to context and the environment. I love to dance and you may often find me dancing on top of the speakers tho’ not a club.

What age are the guys who go to clubs and what’s their mentality? Not so much chronological age but mental age. The same night lays occur if you go to clubs and probably want to tell all the guys about your conquests.

Clubs, they are flashing neon for “pick up.” Easy pickin’s in the clubs because of the context and environment.

(Booty call: If she only wants her “honey love pot” filled then you may get lucky.)

But the gals who want their love bucket filled aren’t looking for a one night stand.

Topic two: Seductive and erotic text messages can ramp up the desire and passion. But if too quickly consummated the value diminishes. Men who pay for sex are willing to pay top dollar while aroused and before the act, and after being serviced, the value of the call girl is gone. So is respect.

Love is not a game. Getting a phone number, albeit important, is only the first step. Guys that want a real woman in their life do not want to play games. Yes, they tease and banter, but love is not a game. Lovematism is a BOND between lovers. Love is fun and flirtatious but it is not a game.

Topic three: Back to the clubs. It is a pick-up scene. So the “day game” as it is now being called apparently represents the highest quality women. Why, because high quality women don’t want to be picked up by men who want same night lays.

I get that sex is on the mind of men. In fact, the sex drive portion of the male brain is 2.5 times larger in men. They are driven by the primal urge to merge sexually. It is good and healthy. And, the young men who want many conquests will find women who just as easily want sex (that honey love pot wants action too). But one night stands leave out respect.

Because so many men of all ages confide in me, I know men want love not just sex. I also know that there is a time that THE SHIFT happens and guys go from DFS to DFL (dating for love). I also know that commitment is a big deal for guys and that they are driven for sex even when they are not at capable of commitment for a number of valid reasons. (See urban dictionary: The Shift)

What is sad is when a woman wants love and falls for the pick-up lines and allows her body to take over (the libido is a very powerful thing…) and then she feels hurt that the sex she has just had is only a one night stand. This has happened to high quality women.

At the end of the day, or the morning after, it is your personal choice. If you want and attract one night stands you may get your body satisfied. Short-term relief, barely satisfaction.

Eventually the longing for lovematism takes over. Then guys WANT to fill her love bucket with the words and actions that keep a women’s attention focused on you. Real LOVE renews and expands with each love-making session.

She’s Happy, He Wins, and Your Sex Life is Enhanced. That’s the Love Bucket® Formula!

For programs and classes on love and sexuality, see the Love Linguist.

Sherrie Rose Recommends: Filling Her Love Bucket! 

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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

Follow @SherrieRose on Twitter and you’ll get a Direct Message with bonus link

General George Washington was reeling from his crushing defeats in New York. In a bold and daring move, he had decided to cross the ice-filled Delaware River and attack Trenton, New Jersey. He planned to surprise the thousands of Hessian troops guarding that portal.

He did not know that his surprise attack was almost no surprise.

A farmer, a British sympathizer knocked on the door where the Hessian Commander, Colonel Johann Rall was attending a holiday party. Colonel Rall had always scoffed at the thought of attack, boasting, “Those clod-hoppers will not attack us!”

The farmer had heard of the plans and seen the movement across the shore. He wanted to get the message to the Colonel but he could not get past a servant who accepted a note which spelled out General Washington’s plans and handed it to the commander. Colonel Rall, however, was in the middle of a card game and would not be interrupted. He stuffed the paper in his pocket without even glancing at it. He continued playing through the night until he collapsed from drunken exhaustion.

At dawn, Washington attacked. His ammunition was so waterlogged that his troops could hardly fire a shot. They did not need to. The Hessians were drowsy from the previous night’s festivities and the Colonial Army’s bayonets were as sharp as the troops’ spirit.

After an overwhelming onslaught in which the colonists took nearly 900 prisoners, Colonel Rall who was mortally wounded, surrendered. As the doctor cut away his jacket, a note fell out. Colonel Rall read it and mournfully said, “If I only had read this last night, I would not be here today.”

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It takes effort to plan and prepare and fill the love bucket.  What has you so busy that you forget to give the proper attention to filling the love bucket? 

It may not be a matter of life or death, but every little bit of effort fills the love bucket.  Consistency and regular effort wins the day!

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Sherrie Rose Recommends: Filling Her Love Bucket! 

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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HEART AND LUNGS, LIFE AND ENERGY

Imagine, if you will, a woman. Let’s look inside of her. Not the way a doctor might see her, but someone with more intuitive vision. In the center of her chest is a very unique organ. It looks like a disk about the size of a salad plate, up to two inches thick, and it fills her chest. When it is healthy, the color is a vibrant red or magenta or red-orange, and the surface is soft and even bubbly. Like the lungs, it pulls life and energy in from the environment. Specifically from nature, from the joy of loved ones, from beauty. Like the heart, it is connected to every part of her body through a complex circulatory system. As life and energy are pulled into it, life and energy travel to every extremity.
This organ is called “her feelings” and it is the core of her being.

When a woman is delighted or happy, this organ fills with life and energy, expanding and expanding. The life and energy move from her chest to her lungs, and she may breathe more heavily or deeply. From there, the life and energy move to her throat, and she may laugh or giggle or sing. Continuing upward, her mouth turns into a smile, her skin glows and her eyes sparkle. The life and energy flow through her smile and skin and eyes to the people around her and they are uplifted. When the life and energy reach her brain, they fill her head with hopeful, loving, magnanimous, creative thoughts. And as they reach her arms and legs, hands and feet, her step becomes lighter and she may even dance.

This is when she is her most powerful, and paradoxically, her most vulnerable. Bask in her beauty and light and treat her with care.

PAIN AND BLACKNESS, SILENCE AND IMMOBILITY

Imagine now that something happens which “hurts her feelings.” Intentional act or mere oversight, when a woman’s feelings are hurt, the process works in reverse. The rate at which this occurs depends on how harsh or shocking was the hurtful act or comment. It may take three to thirty minutes for the process to be complete.
Within a few seconds the organ has constricted, changing color to black or dark gray and becoming hard and tight like a rock or fist. Vibrant and pulsing a moment before, it lies lifeless. The woman might gasp as she feels the core of her being shrink and harden. Then this new death travels the pathways that life and energy flowed through just moments before.

Being closest to her lungs, breathing will be the first to go. She will feel as if she can’t breathe and her actual breaths will become shallow. Next is the throat. She will be able to speak for only a few moments longer and then the death-feeling will shut down all energy to her throat. The “silent treatment” that others dread is not voluntary. She cannot speak. Her eyes will suddenly become sensitive to light, and especially to people. She’ll have to avoid all eye contact, for it hurts them. After a few more minutes the life and energy is gone from her arms and legs. If she can’t cocoon, she’ll move slowly. If she can, she’ll find a safe place, curl up and become immobile. As time passes, her body feels heavier and heavier, like dirt is being piled on top of her.

In her experience, she has been completely shut down. Then the real mischief begins.

For one small, crucial part of her brain has a back up generator, which turns on as the rest herself shuts off. And it has access to a specific set of files. Let’s call it “the Rage Machine.” While she lies breathless, speechless, blind and immobile, the Rage Machine dips into all the records of irritations, annoyances, pet peeves, and any unresolved injuries. With only these to work with, the Rage Machine starts churning out speeches. Its fantasy is all-out verbal warfare. It plots revenge.

As time goes on, the Rage Machine will gather momentum. Physical proximity to the person who her hurt her feelings fuels the Rage Machine, giving it energy. Though lying buried under dirt, mute and blind, the woman may try to move to a distance from the source of the hurt, understanding intuitively that this might quiet the beast in her head. She may move to another room or out of the house altogether.

On the surface, the Rage Machine may take over the woman’s facial muscles, making her look angry or upset. But underneath its rantings, a small voice in her head is pleading for help, hoping the person who buried her might come dig her out. For he or she is the only one who can.

ON THE OTHER SIDE

Now let’s look from the point of view of the man. Why a man? Because women are more vulnerable to the men they love than anyone else on Earth. And because feelings are different for men. Or so they have told me. Men’s feelings, while just as deep and significant, don’t have the circulatory system women have. Scientists tell us that men don’t have as many connections in their brains from the feeling centers and language centers. This is good, by the way. Different but valuable for many purposes.

So, having a different relationship to feelings in general, the man does not realize that he has just hurt the woman. Whatever he did or said was not intended to be hurtful. Healthy men (which most are) never intend to hurt women. And that same remark or action would probably not have hurt him. He has no idea that her feelings are the organ at the core of her being from which all life and energy flow. No one has ever explained that to him.

After a prolonged silence, he starts to worry that she may be mad at him. He hopes this isn’t true. If he loves her, then her being mad at him is the worst thing that can happen. He is hoping, and maybe praying, that she’s upset at something else, but please, not at him. As one man expressed it, “I’d pay a million, billion, gazillion dollars for her not to be mad at me.” For a being designed to pursue success in every area, this is the worst failure. She is the sun and the moon and both have suddenly deserted his life. And he doesn’t know why.

If she does something that clearly indicates that the anger is directed at him, then hope will die, he’ll know he failed, and there is nothing to do now but fix it. If he has been able to fix it in the past, he’ll quickly respond. If he has never been able to fix it, then he’s really sunk.

Until the woman does something that overtly communicates anger, like going to sleep in the other room or stomping out of the house, he’ll keep hoping that it isn’t him. This is how the woman can be left buried under the dirt in darkness and silence for hours. He doesn’t mean to be cruel. He doesn’t know that she’s drowning and that he’s the only lifeguard.

“I’M SORRY I HURT YOU” RAISES THE DEAD

When he does go her, he’ll want to confront the anger head-on. Because he thinks it is real. He doesn’t know that it is the Rage Machine’s default program of miscellaneous junk that really didn’t bother her that much at the time. If he engages the Rage Machine by being angry himself – perhaps because it seems unfair to him that she is angry – then he’s likely to hear all the trash that has been being gathered and rehearsed. A smart man will treat it like the garbage disposal backing up. An informed man could avoid it altogether.

Beneath the anger is the hurt that shut down the whole system and enabled the Rage Machine to take over. If he says, “I’m sorry” – and means it – life will suddenly flow back into her chest and make its way to the rest of her body. It will take a while to reach all the different parts, so he should be patient. But as soon as he says, “I’m sorry”, with true kindness and remorse.

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WOMEN AS EXPLAINED BY ENGINEERS

Part I

Part II

Part III

Part IV

Part V

And Finally!

Have you ever wondered how a woman’s brain works?
Well….it’s finally explained here in one, easy-to-understand illustration:

B
Every one of those little blue balls is a thought about something
that needs to be done, a decision or a problem that needs to be solved.
A man has only 2 b_ _ _ _ and they take up all his thoughts.

Note: The source of this has come in various forms in email messages on websites; original author unknown.

The LOVE LINGUIST says: The love system that explains her love bucket is easy.  Guys that take the MAN CLASS SERIES can easily accelerate their knowledge and win with women.  A man’s greatest asset is a woman. (yes, really!)

In general there are three sorts of relationships.

Some don’t "fill us" anymore. Some do.

1) Both “his and hers” love buckets are getting filled.

2) Only one the love buckets is getting filled. You wish things may change; that there may be a chance for love to flow back into the love bucket.

3) Both love buckets are bone dry. Do you feel you can’t let go of the other person’s love bucket or release the connection with another person?

Spring is a time for new beginnings. Sometimes people just do not serve our greater good, not that the person is not good, it is the connection between us that doesn’t work anymore.  The love bucket is not open to receive.  Energy is wasted trying to fill it. Negative intimate connections often take us to a negative place especially if the relationship does not serve the greater good for all involved.

Sometimes people are obsessed with another person. Often it is because the object of their obsession participates in the energy exchange. Obsession is completely destructive. Preventing someone you care about from having the truly good relationship they deserve is just like being a thief.

Why should relationships end? When you end a relationship you release that person to be free. You free that person to be available for someone else. When you release and let go more beneficial connections can be made. There is someone out there that is much better suited to fill the love bucket!

If you are in a romantic relationship fill the love bucket MORE! If only one of the “his and hers” love buckets is getting filled, revitalize your sexual dynamics and relating dynamics and start filling the love bucket again. If the love bucket is bone dry and you’re holding onto the past, release him or her.

Love is the ultimate reality. Love is to be shared completely and unconditionally. The future of love is lovematism. Look into your heart and know if you have the capacity to receive love into your love bucket. Look into your heart and know if you have the ability to share love with a lover and fill their love bucket. It is a give to share love and it is a give to receive love. Filling the love bucket is an act of love.

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