This is intended for men who are dating so if you’ve chosen your woman, get to know the top desires of  her love bucket and FILL THEM!!!!  See http://the-man-class.com

Guys, if you are dating, you need to get clear and really hone in on your they type of woman you are interested BEFORE you go out there and start dating market yourself extensively (that particularly applies to what you are writing in your online dating profile). One of the major reasons this is so important is that most guys make the mistake of trying to attract to EVERY WOMAN, fearing that if they clearly define themselves, they’ll narrow down their prospective DATING POOL too much. As a result their dating effort is less than compelling and doesn’t pull ANY women in.

We now know that being a generalist is not Dating Attractive, quite the contrary, because CLARITY OF PURPOSE not being a jack-of-all-trades helps a guy stand out in the dating marketplace and it’s much easier to attract to a specific type of women than it is to attract a whole bunch of different women. Otherwise, your dating message gets lost and isn’t compelling enough and you don’t catch any woman’s attention. Your love and sex life depends on your clarity.

I want to take you on a different spin of your “ideal dating.” I want to talk to you about the surefire signs of women to AVOID; at least in my point of view. I suggest be very selective about whom you date. You should consider cherry-picking your dates and go so far as to state exactly what type of woman you want (personality-wise) and what doesn’t work right up front.

You want to date the best women who are “high caliber” and who meet your carefully thought-out criteria especially the no-compromise criteria. You don’t enjoy dating whiners or skeptics or women who make excuses because its easier to blame others.

I know it’s a little bold, and I’m certain it ticks off some guys (usually though, it’s the women who recognize themselves as bad cases of whiners, skeptics, and women with a general bad or negative attitude about everything). The funny thing is; your IDEAL date will say SHE LOVES it that you have clarity and it strengthens their conviction that they want to date you again. Having clarity is attractive in dating.

So, if it’s a little bit controversial to some women, and turns some women off, why do I suggest you do this? Because, probably like you, in the beginning, you dated ANY woman who was breathing, had a female body, and was remotely interested in dating you, despite sometimes having a strong feeling in your gut that you were doing the wrong thing and might regret it. You were simply desperate for dates.

Lo and behold, every single time you dated one of these non-ideal women, you regretted it. You ignored all the signs, shunned your gut feeling, and later wished you hadn’t taken her on that date. It was always a disaster. Either her attitude made you think “why is this woman SO negative!?” or perhaps they stopped dating with you after just one month, blaming you for the fact they weren’t getting what they needed or the standard, “it’s not you, it’s me” line.

These were the same women who became what call “heart-sink” date. You know the ones. They give you that sinking feeling in your heart. She’s the women you’ll be seeing that night but in reality your heart sinks with the prospect of the looming date. Instead of being excited for the date, you dread it, drag your feet on preparing and generally get in a bad mood knowing you’ll have to interact to her.

You can’t afford to have your energy brought down by ONE dating experience with a woman who’s a chronic cranky-pants. It’s just not fair to you. You’ll never be able to fill her love bucket. Actually, it will be impossible to fill her love bucket:

If you’re not having that “YESSS!!!” feeling with every date, you may need to listen to your intuition more and better yet, make a list of your own surefire signs NOT to pursue a dating relationship with a woman, no matter how much how good looking and sexy she is.

Here’s are some surefire signs of non-ideal date:

1. Women who don’t show up time for the date and make up not-so-believable excuses for why they are late. (Take a no-excuses approach to the early dating experience and to life in general. Start on the right foot.)
2. Women who don’t meet your criteria during interactions prior to your first date. (Don’t let those love biochemicals kick in with her sexy photo or sultry voice. Put the testosterone aside and activate your pre-frontal cortex. If she doesn’t meet your criteria now, she’ll probably not meet them later either.)
3. Women who aren’t nice to a waitress, valet or service staff. (That should be a HUGE no-no for you. If she treats someone like less than equal from the get-go, she should have ZERO chance of a second date with you.)
4. Women who are rude to you too. (Not much more to be said here.)
5. Women who whine, complain, or resist everything, make excuses, or sometimes even lie. (You prefer to hang out with really fun, upbeat women, and women who are “up” to good things.)
6. Women who try to manipulate, despite the fact that you are clear up front about who you are and what works for you in dating and relating. (It’s been my experience that women who take an inch will always try to take a mile down the road.)
7. Women who clearly have two personalities – one for you on the date all lovey-dovey and the real one. The real one is the nightmare.  You’ll start to see this by month three if not beforehand unless she is a really good actress.  

Have you ever experienced women doing one or more of these things? Most likely if you are breathing. Perhaps you’re not good at recognizing the sighs. After a while, you’ll start recognizing the signs and their consequences.

How do you deal with these situations? If they’re a prospective date, stop before you begin. Move on. Don’t start something that has no future as a relationship, and explain to her that you’re probably not the right guy for her. If she’s been on several dates with you, find a graceful way to end the relationship. It should only happen rarely, but when it needs to happen, do what it takes.

Let’s face it. Non-ideal dates will never get you the love you want. Don’t prolong it. Stay away from them!

At this point in your life, you have to decide if you are DFS or have gone through the SHIFT and you’re DFL. If you know EXACTLY what you want in a woman, then the right women will show up with your dating effort both online in the “sorting” process and offline with your dates in person.

Your Assignment for YOUR IDEAL WOMAN:

• Make a list of common denominators among your non-ideal previous dates (not every bad date has all of these, sometimes just one or two). Find the patterns.
• Set standards and criteria in your love life about whom you’ll date and whom you’ll turn away.
• Then, follow those criteria as if your love life depends on it (it does).
• Even consider sharing your list with a close friend, which shows your commitment and they can keep an eye out for a good catch for you!

You deserve top-notch, top 10 or “A+” dates, not boring “D” women. The only person who can let them into your dating life is you. You’re the ultimate decision-maker. Besides, when your “dance card” is filled with “D” dates, you become so irritable that you’re not going to BE dating attractive for the right woman. That’s not good when the right woman comes along. So take action on this and don’t break your own standards. You have the ultimate choice, so use it.

If you’re not yet attracting only “A+” dates in your love life, you need to start over with your criteria. Get clear. Understand what you have that will appeal to the best women for you. It will take a few passes to fine-tune and hone your list of what you want in your ideal woman and what you have to offer her. Don’t leave it up to chance.

You will be able to fill her love bucket when your criterion matches her personality. Check out the 5 Love Dynamics for more on Real Love Dynamics of men and women. http://5lovedynamics.com

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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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Are you a love virgin?

Allow me to explain. If you go by the traditional definition of the word “virgin,” it means a person who has not had sexual intercourse. If you’ve ever bumped uglies in the night, hid the hot dog, or taken the bullet train through Yonker’s tunnel, then no, you are not a virgin.

What about a love virgin?

The term “virgin” can also be used in non-sexual contexts to mean a lack of something. A Pina Colada Virgin, for instance, is a Pina Colada cocktail without alcohol. A love virgin, therefore, is someone who has never fallen in love.

If you’ve never fallen in love, you probably have not filled the love bucket….

Some people go through life never experiencing love. Some do and don’t know it. Still others do and won’t admit it. While all three are potential dating hazards, the first kind — the true love virgin — presents an especially difficult case.

Most people have experienced it at least once. While there isn’t a limit to the number of times one could fall in love, it would be logistically difficult to have felt it more than, say, twenty times. Unless, maybe, you’re a thousand-year-old vampire or something.

For most people, love isn’t an emotion or a state of being that happens easily. It’s not like buying ice cream at the supermarket. It’s more like buying a condo or house, relatively speaking.

I’ll bet some of you are shaking your heads right now. “I fall in love almost once a month,” you’re thinking to yourself. “It’s not as rare as this doofus makes it sound.”

Sorry to do this, but see your bubble there? Now look at this pin in my hand. Burst!

If you fall in love that often, chances are you haven’t been feeling love. What you may have been feeling is infatuation. A very deep, passionate infatuation, perhaps, but infatuation nonetheless.

It is easy to confuse infatuation with love. Love isn’t a feeling that fades in a matter of weeks. It takes years, decades, even lifetimes. Or perhaps it never truly fades; it just evolves into a more elemental emotion.

Infatuation, on the other hand, is defined as an “all-absorbing passion” (see why it’s so easy to confuse it with love?) that doesn’t last. It doesn’t grow or evolve. It just remains at that level, then dips like the sunset.

If you are still in your teens or early twenties, it isn’t uncommon to be a love virgin. Some may even argue that you don’t really know what love is until you’re older, though I think that’s bullshit. But if you are still a love virgin at this age, don’t fret. You are not alone.

If you are in your thirties or forties, however, then you should be concerned. That’s a long time to go through life without ever falling in love. It isn’t impossible, but, well, something may be wrong.

Are you afraid of being hurt so much that you avoid relationships? Are you consciously or unconsciously isolating yourself from strangers? Are you ending relationships before they have a chance to mature?

There is something beneath the surface that isn’t quite socially healthy. Or at least, socially acceptable by the norm.

On the flip side, if you are dating a love virgin, then be careful. Just as a sexual virgin isn’t quite sure what to do with all the rods and cones, a love virgin isn’t quite sure what to do with all the messy emotions that come with being in love. This isn’t a slight against love virgins, it’s just a fact. Lack of experience begets lack of understanding.

Don’t expect that your love bucket will be filled right away by a love virgin…

For example, jealousy can play a big part in love. Most people new to love will find this curious, yet nagging emotion sitting on their shoulder from time to time. The little green devil may occasionally nip at them, throw an all-out tantrum, or crawl away and lurk just behind the ears.

With experience, many learn to cope with this emotion. They realize its roots in insecurity and put it away appropriately. However, a love virgin doesn’t yet have this experience. Thusly, the little green devil is out to play.

There is more. Mutual love is a delicate sheet of rice paper. Push too hard and it will crumble. Pull too hard and it will tear. With experience and a few failed relationships under your belt (no pun intended), you will hopefully have learned how hard to push and how hard to pull.

A love virgin at age forty, unfortunately, hasn’t had the benefit of such experience. Such an individual may unknowingly come on too strong and suffocate the object of their desire. So dater beware.

To be fair, there are many patient people in the world who can deal with a middle-aged love virgin, just as there are many understanding people in the world who can deal with a middle-aged virgin. (“You know what? I respect women! I love women! I respect them so much that I completely stay away from them!”) So it isn’t the end of the world if you are a love virgin.

It takes confidence and bold moves to fill the love bucket….

But to those dating a love virgin, if you don’t have the patience or tolerance to deal with a new crop of emotions and lack of experience, be careful. Their only experience with love is what they’ve seen in movies. And as we all know, life isn’t like the movies.

Love Virgin by Mike Lee http://www.mikelee.org/love-virgin.html

See more at Love and Sex Life: http://loveandsexlife.com

The “Love Bucket”

Every woman is built at birth with a “love bucket.” Their love bucket is filled with the affection and love they receive from the man in their life.

Are you filling or draining your partner’s bucket?

THE LOVE BUCKET® is encircled by the 7 Rings of Desire® and if those rings are not shined and sustained, holes develop… and her love drains out. THE LOVE BUCKET® because Everybody Loves Love® THE LOVE BUCKET® is a registered trademark. (c) 2008 Love Bucket® Image

…Every time, we show love and affection to our wife, fiance or girlfriend, we add a little bit to their bucket.

Here’s the problem… there are constant holes opening up that will drain this love and affection. These holes can be caused by our actions, inactions or by her simply dealing with “women only” issues. If you don’t show love or affection, even for a few days, a hole opens up and her bucket is not quite as full as it was before. Over a long period of time, if we are not consistently filling her “love bucket,” she will withdraw from us. We’ve all heard someone say, “I just don’t love him anymore,” or we just seemed to grow apart.” This is a good indication that her need for affection and need to feel loved, were not satisfied by her man.

An affair is typically formed between two people who’s buckets’ are empty. Men…, we have to constantly “fill” her with our love and affection, expecting nothing in return. To receive love, you have to give love away. Keep this analogy in mind the next time she asks you, “honey, do you love me?” That’s a good sign it’s time to turn up the love and affection you’re showing her.

(Thanks, imitation is the highest form of flattery – this men’s organization started in 2009 loves the concept behind THE LOVE BUCKET®)

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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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No is a very powerful word.

It’s one too easily spoken, as any parent of a small child will tell you. It’s also detrimental to your love and sex life, because it’s an absolute brick wall of resistance.

The minute a potential lover or your current wife or girlfriend says no, you’ve either lost a night of passion or possibly a lifetime of love. You will have to pull out some pretty convincing arguments to sway her back to a YES. Chances are you’re not going to make it.

It’s much harder to change her mind when it’s already made up.

Here are practical tips on how to turn a woman’s no into yes, where you’ll learn specific resistance you’ll face and how to magically turn it into passion and love.

First, Address the Doubts

To believe that a woman is immediately going say, “This guy is exactly who I want – or – This guy is the man I want to take home tonight,” is a belief best left to delusional dreamers. (Of which you are not one, because only smart guys read the love bucket blog.)

Everyone has doubts. You have them, I have them, potential lover or current lady has them.

Now, no one enjoys having doubts, because they make us feel worried and uncertain and unsure. That’s not a good place to be, and instinctively, we know it. So we seek reassurance that erases our doubts and takes them away.

We look to be confident. When we feel confident, we feel able to make good decisions that are right for — which include, of course, saying, “Yes, this is exactly what I need.”

So address those doubts in your interactions. Put them on the table right from the start. Show her that you know she has concerns and worries, and give her the appropriate answer that provides reassurance to her.

This doesn’t mean raising questions that weren’t there to begin with. What it means is acknowledging potential questions and concerns and responding to them appropriately before the she picks her own response that might be NO.

The Best Example: Your Local Garage

Boats and cars are often given a woman’s name. Sometimes women think guys love their cars more than them. They spend time shining, polishing, and driving the “mistress.”

So, following the car theme, here’s an example of how you can address your lady’s doubts:

Let’s say your garage mechanic tells you that repairing your car will cost you $800. You can bet that you’ll have buyer resistance, and it’s highly unlikely that you’ll say, “This is exactly what I need!”

It’s far more likely you’re already trying to figure out how to get out of paying that amount.

Then your mechanic says, “I’m sure you’re wondering how necessary it is to repair these parts.” And he proceeds to tell you exactly how unsafe your car becomes if you don’t have them repaired — and if you have kids, he points out, and their safety means everything.

Then your mechanic says, “Now I know you’re probably wondering whether you can wait a while. But let me explain why that’s a bad idea.” He goes on to show how much more costly repairs will be if you don’t get this fixed soon.

By now, you’re not thinking about how to get out of the repairs. You’re into thinking about where you’ll get the money to pay for it all. You’ve already started moving from no to yes.

The mechanic doesn’t really know what’s going through your mind, but what he’s doing is covering his bases. He’s presuming you might have doubts, he’s assuming which doubts you might have, and he’s addressing them before you even voice them aloud.

If he guesses wrong? No problem — call it extra bonus arguments. You know, just in case. And if he guesses right? Then you haven’t had to say a word, and you have all the answers you need.

Be that proactive in your interactions. Assume the arguments, address them with confidence, reassure your lady and you’ll be turning no into yes before you know it.

How do you feel about addressing doubts in your interactions? Are you great at dismantling arguments? Do you hate forking money over to the auto-garage? And how reassured will she be when her doubts are addressed?

The War of the Sexes is One Filled With Battles

It’s your style, words, actions and integrity that will sway her, and her defensive shields are strong — so very strong. Each time you valiantly knock down an argument she’s presented, verbally or silently, another flies up, as if she’s creating them right out of thin air.

=> “You aren’t forcing her to say yes; you’re taking away her reasons to say no.”

SHE holds all the power, the final decision, the last word. But if you’ve played your cards right and taken away all her reasons to say no, the only word she’ll have left to say is, “YES.”

How do you take away her reasons to say no? Here are five ways to do just that:

“I Don’t Need You.”

When she tells you, verbally or silently, she doesn’t need you what she’s really saying is that she doesn’t want you – RIGHT NOW. There’s a huge difference between need and want and timing.

Take the lowly car, for example. We don’t need more than a basic box with wheels that gets us from A to B, but we consistently buy vehicles that offer far more luxury, bells and whistles — and we pay dearly for them too.

What you do as a Masterman, is turn needs into wants. Tell her why she wants you and start with gestures, innuendo, create intrigue, and a sense of mystery. Get her juices flowing. Get down and dirty in desire, play up how much her life will change for the better and let her visualize how fantastic her future will be – or the evening. You’ll be changing “I don’t need you” into “I want you so bad I can taste it” in no time.

“I’m Busy.”

Let’s face it. When she wants something — really, really wants something — she’ll find a way to make it happen. She’ll put on the right clothes, strut around, make those come hither glances. She’ll wear those stiletto heels until she’s straining. She’ll even go into debt to buy a dress if she thinks it will help her hook her man.

What you need to make sure she wants you and then you need to make sure YOU ARE *THE* PRIORITY above all other guys in her universe. Show her the benefits you offer and convey the value of what you bring to her.

Make her laugh. Make her an offer too good to pass up. Make it unmistakably clear to her that turning away from you now means losing out in the long run. And make it irresistible — she can’t afford not to take you up on your offer.

“Hmmm… Maybe Later.”

If she’s not feeling the need to give you her attention right now, there’s been a misfire on the priority front. You can guarantee she won’t be back, because out of sight is out of mind. Or, maybe she actually does want to think over her decision to be sure it’s the right one for her (which is fine), but to leave her thinking too long without some form of contact, well, she’ll just plain forget.

Or something more important comes up. And there’s no time left for you.

Convey the priority for her consider your offer now. Give it a timeframe with a “reward” like you’ll give her the foot massage or her dreams (women love this especially if they don’t think there are any strings attached) Give rewards for her “YES” so she’s looking forward to being with you.

“I Don’t Really Know Who You Are.”

If you are trying to meet women and this is your first encounter, this really means, “Why should I date… YOU?” And this baby is a big one these days, with all sorts of unknown guys cropping up with slick lines and cocky claims. No gal wants to risk wasting her time (read: looks and fertility) on some guy who’s a loser.

Show her you’re trustworthy by showing her you’re a gentleman. Eventually she’ll ask about your details: credentials, skills, background, history and family that she’ll need to trust and believe you are who you say you are. Downplay the weird stuff at the beginning (everyone has some) and talk up the things you have in common. Yes, ask her what she likes so you can see if you have anything in common more than sexual chemistry.

She’ll read you fast enough, so be honest; it shows.

The Value of No

If you don’t get the date or the evening of romance you hoped for, don’t despair. There’s a positive in every negative, which means there’s a yes in every no.

There’s a learning experience in why your she didn’t go out on a date or take you up on your sizzling evening offer. Take the opportunity to climb into her head and find out what you need to understand. There are 7 Ways to Fill Her Love Bucket. And there are 5 Love Dynamics. Learn more so you can be a masterman with women.

Which means less “NO” the next time.

You’re not going to change their mind; she’s said no already TODAY, but you do have another chance.

If she did say “YES” at some point after, ask her what might have swayed her to say yes. You’ll probably be surprised at her answer. By understanding what makes her tick you’ll just get better and better at her saying “YES” the next time.

Sherrie Rose Recommends: Filling Her Love Bucket! 

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Authorship: This blogpost is modified from the original by James Chartrand. James is an in-demand web copywriter, author, online business consultant and owner of the leading web design and copywriting agency, Men with Pens. Click here to visit Men with Pens, and while you’re at it, follow James on Twitter.

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Recently I read an email targeting guys who want to pick-up women.
Here’s what they say the 3 HOTTEST TOPICS are for guys who date:

Dating Science. It is basic and simple psychology. It is basic and simple physical attraction. We are marvelous creatures, the human. Simple, yet so terribly complicated.

For topic one, it relates to context and the environment. I love to dance and you may often find me dancing on top of the speakers tho’ not a club.

What age are the guys who go to clubs and what’s their mentality? Not so much chronological age but mental age. The same night lays occur if you go to clubs and probably want to tell all the guys about your conquests.

Clubs, they are flashing neon for “pick up.” Easy pickin’s in the clubs because of the context and environment.

(Booty call: If she only wants her “honey love pot” filled then you may get lucky.)

But the gals who want their love bucket filled aren’t looking for a one night stand.

Topic two: Seductive and erotic text messages can ramp up the desire and passion. But if too quickly consummated the value diminishes. Men who pay for sex are willing to pay top dollar while aroused and before the act, and after being serviced, the value of the call girl is gone. So is respect.

Love is not a game. Getting a phone number, albeit important, is only the first step. Guys that want a real woman in their life do not want to play games. Yes, they tease and banter, but love is not a game. Lovematism is a BOND between lovers. Love is fun and flirtatious but it is not a game.

Topic three: Back to the clubs. It is a pick-up scene. So the “day game” as it is now being called apparently represents the highest quality women. Why, because high quality women don’t want to be picked up by men who want same night lays.

I get that sex is on the mind of men. In fact, the sex drive portion of the male brain is 2.5 times larger in men. They are driven by the primal urge to merge sexually. It is good and healthy. And, the young men who want many conquests will find women who just as easily want sex (that honey love pot wants action too). But one night stands leave out respect.

Because so many men of all ages confide in me, I know men want love not just sex. I also know that there is a time that THE SHIFT happens and guys go from DFS to DFL (dating for love). I also know that commitment is a big deal for guys and that they are driven for sex even when they are not at capable of commitment for a number of valid reasons. (See urban dictionary: The Shift)

What is sad is when a woman wants love and falls for the pick-up lines and allows her body to take over (the libido is a very powerful thing…) and then she feels hurt that the sex she has just had is only a one night stand. This has happened to high quality women.

At the end of the day, or the morning after, it is your personal choice. If you want and attract one night stands you may get your body satisfied. Short-term relief, barely satisfaction.

Eventually the longing for lovematism takes over. Then guys WANT to fill her love bucket with the words and actions that keep a women’s attention focused on you. Real LOVE renews and expands with each love-making session.

She’s Happy, He Wins, and Your Sex Life is Enhanced. That’s the Love Bucket® Formula!

For programs and classes on love and sexuality, see the Love Linguist.

Sherrie Rose Recommends: Filling Her Love Bucket! 

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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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Love is all around us! Happy Fourth of July!
Sunday, July 4th, 2010

	Love is all around us! "Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along." ~Rumi
	"A man has only one escape from his old self – to see a different self in the mirror of some woman’s eyes." Clare Boothe Luce
	Love me and always give me what I want the most, freedom to love myself. ~Roy E. Klienwachter
See my holiday message: http://myholidaymessage.com	Love and kisses, Sherrie Rose The Love Linguist

Have a happy, safe Independence Day Holiday!

Is seeing believing?  Most people believe their eyes.

What you focus on expands.  What you perceived is based on your focus.

So, men, if you are putting effort into fill your lady’s love bucket, and she appears oblivious, there may be more to it than meets the eye.

And, ladies, if you think he is “not telling the truth” when he does not see the great big pile of dirt, he may very well be completely honest.

It has to do with your level focus and the INTENSITY of that focus.  You CAN block out everything else.  Actually, when you habituate to noises in a big city you learn to block out the noises of sirens, meowing cats, and traffic. This “tuning out” is part how we train our brains.

For new situations, you begin focus intently.  Remember when you first started to learn to drive?  Now when you drive, you do so many things naturally, without consciously thinking.

So, perception, what we SEE, can be an illusion.  Give your girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/lover some slack and turn on your emotional intellisense and social intellisense.  Sense their focus and intensity of focus.

Check out this video on Perception. 

We see what we expect and our visual attention is NOT like a camera that picks everything up.  The failure of awareness is not intentional.  The failure of awareness is a form of misdirection and because you are directing your focus onto one area the eliminates seeing details in another.  That’s why when you lose your keys and ask someone else to find them, and the keys are right under your nose, it is because their level of awareness focuses differently than yours.  It is part of attention.  And visual attention is dependent.  (Gals, you really need to remember this because guys can get SO laser-focused, they stop seeing and hearing.)

In the book, The Invisible Gorilla the author’s aim is to show how easy it is to miss things that are right in front of us when we’re not looking out for them, and how illusions and distorted beliefs lead us astray every day.

They cover what they consider to be six of the most common intuitive errors:

• inattentional blindness (failing to see things that are in plain sight);
• the belief that our memories are more reliable than they are;
• the tendency to think someone is competent if they are confident;
• the illusion of knowledge (we know much less than we think);
• the assumption that things that occur together must be causally related; 
• and the increasingly popular notion that cognitive exercises make us smarter (in fact, physical exercise has a much stronger effect on us).

If you are trying to fill her love bucket and she does not notice, it may because of unattentional blindness.  Remember, your intention, not her sometimes blind intuition, is what counts even if she does not see it right away.  It’s those relevant everyday situations, the daily business of living, that appear to miss seeing the details when you are focused to the “disappearance” of all else around you.  Don’t take it so personally.  Just keep filling the love bucket. It’s all good.

Original Study on Perception

http://wjh-www.harvard.edu/~cfc/Simons1999.pdf

Sherrie Rose Recommends the book: The Invisible Gorilla And Other Ways Our Intuitions Deceive Us

Sherrie Rose
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Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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"It is not what you give, but the spirit (your intention) in which you give that counts." ~ @Sherrie Rose http://twitter.com/sherrierose

There are different levels or ways of giving.

This is not just in your intimate relationships, but with friends, in your community, in your business and professional life, and in your charitable contributions. These fill the personal and the life “love bucket.”

1. Tit for Tat (As my Dad liked to say). I give to you so you give back to me.
   The intention here is that there is an exchange and I am doing this for my own benefit. It is not anonymous because to get the RETURN “something” whether it is physical or material, whether it is a kind word or compliment, whether is it to add to your ego or self-aggrandizement; it is giving with a catch. There is the requirement, whether direct or indirect for reciprocation. The key here is INTENTION. Do you pre-mediate the outcome and the desire for a return something as in the quid pro quo: "something for something"?
2. The Spirit of Love In The Form of Charity. Giving from the heart (see more here: http://fyera.com) to expand the heart.. This is giving out of pure love. The etymology of the word "charity" comes from through the Old French word "charité" which was derived from the Latin "caritas". "Caritas" or love also looks like the root of the word CARE.  Caring for another by giving charity. This act of giving charity is selfless. It is true that we are often reminded that we can benefit with a tax-deductible donation when we give charity. If the tax-deduction is the intention, then is more like the first level, Tit for Tat/Quid pro quo. If the intent in mind is to add to the sum total of love in the world by helping another, then it is real charity. In modern usage, per Wikipedia, charity definition: the practice of charity means the giving of help to those in need who are not related to the giver. This would be filling the love bucket of a complete stranger.  Spiritual and Religious wisdom from many walks of life are part of the Love Bucket LIFESTYLE RING OF DESIRE.
3. Giving It All. The ultimate generosity of spirit.  It is mutual sharing. There is no separation between giver and receiver. You offer up your whole of yourself, and in return life makes you more whole.  This is really filling the love bucket. The love bucket expands to receive more love and in turn you have more love to share. A real miracle. Knowing the great power of the universe, the infinite intelligence, the creator, God, is behind every action, thought, word and deed, the cycles always returns to the source. So, there is no need to make giving be about the WIIFM “What’s In It For Me” attitude. Feel that everything your have is borrowed including your brains and therefore giving is easy. You know that there are infinite resources in universe and massive abundance. IT is all about sharing. This is all part of the circuit of transformation that can occur with sharing.

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When the spirit of life really sinks in, and we realize the incredible gift we’ve received, the only possible act of appreciation is to give back with equal generosity. It is all about sharing.

In other words, sharing should be twenty-four hours a day. At the level of spirit you can share and give of yourself completely. We are all evolving toward as we learn and develop ourselves

When we love we give. When we make love we fill the love bucket. The more love we make the more peace in the world. When you share, respect, revere life, violence disappears. We are all connected to one another, and by magic, every gift you give becomes a gift to yourself.

Napoleon Hill said, “Action is the real measure of intelligence.”  Act now by giving and sharing.

Share today. Fill the love bucket.

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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However it is
However it turned out
Wherever you are
Whatever you are doing
With your kids
Without your kids
Greetings
No Greetings

Just know this
This one thing
This real thing

Your never alone
It passes
It heals
They love you

And if you’re stuck today
You can unstick

If you are lost
You can be found

You are always loved
Your kids love you

You are always DAD

*~A.F.S.~*

Reprinted with permission by *~A.F.S.~*
Father’s Day 2010
http://myholidaymessage.com

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
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Be Proud and Fly an America Flag Today! Flag Day officially started in 1916. See More about Flag Day Here: MyHolidayMessage

If you are patriotic and share the love of your country with your sweetheart, you can fill her love bucket by being a proud American and flying the flag today.  All over the country the American Flag is prominently flown. It’s a great excuse to bring home or send a bouquet of flowers with a flag as in Red, White and Blossoms

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