William Fills Jacqueline’s Love Bucket!

Monday, August 29th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Gifts, Heart, Her Love Bucket, Love Dynamics, Masterman, Mastermen, Romance | No Comments »

William Fills Jacqueline’s Love Bucket!

When a man wants to honor is wife for their anniversary and takes two months to plan and build a gift he automatically moves up to MASTERMAN status.

That is exactly what William did when he recreated the most amazing and wonderful parts of his wedding and married life. He presented the beautiful Jacqueline with this “Heart & Soul” gift that is hand crafted with intricate detail.

He provided this present in the form of a beautiful physical object that accompanied a weekend getaway. But what he really provided was a memory that will last forever.

Keeping his gift clandestine was tough. He built it at home and had to do it while Jacqueline was not around. William, an attorney, does not usually have cuts on his hand. His clothes are not sprinkled with gold. His two children were sworn to silence which was a miracle in itself that they could keep it a secret. In fact, their daughter told a while lie and said to her mother, “Daddy got you a piece of jewelry and he’s trying to fool you by putting it in a big box!”

The love story of Jacqueline and William goes on long before their twelve years of marriage (Congratulations!). They met when Jacqueline was 21 and William was 34. Jacqueline felt she was too young for marriage and they went their separate ways. Jacqueline moved away. Years later she came home for a funeral and thought of William. Jacqueline decided she would stop by his office and see him on her way to the airport but there was so much traffic that she did not have time.

When she arrived home she found a letter waiting for her. It was from William. He had actually hired a private investigator to find her. He loved her after all those years and wanted to see her. A marriage proposal quickly ensued. Like many marriages it is not perfect but they communicated and work on it together.

Jacqueline and William got married in Venice, Italy, on a Gondola on the Grand Canal. Deep passion fills both their hearts! They have been back to Venice several times and their home is filled with Italian chandeliers and tapestries that reflect their romantic love.

The wedding in Venice represented their romantic sentiments but to make it all legal in the United States they got married again at the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco. All the details of their two weddings are captured in the hand-carved sculpture from William.

William researched the details, painted the gondola seats blue (Jacqueline’s favorite color), covered the stars (which are crystals) and horses with gold foil. He filed off the horses saddles. He painted the hair on the figurines and attended to the minutest details. He ordered the Lion charm to represent the Venetian Lion of St. Marks. The columns represent the columns of the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco.

A gift like this is priceless. A gift like this that represents your love provides a memory that only two lovers can truly appreciate. It is personal, cherished, and intimate. When William explained every detail of his creation to Jacqueline he was beaming with pride. She felt his love coming from every part of his being. Each ornament and item is a monument of his love for her.

William filled the love bucket with the Provisions Ring of Desire. Provisions often has a physical form like gift or present but it is so much more. The Provisions Ring of Desire of Jacqueline’s love bucket provides not just the physical present but the history, memory, and future dreams of a life filled with more love.

CONGRATULATIONS, Jacqueline and William!!!  May you share many love-filled anniversaries, special occasions, and days of love!

"Love is a state of being not a state of feeling. It goes well beyond the realm of the emotions. It’s an attitude of benevolence and kindness towards all creation, including one’s self, at all times and under all circumstances. Love is the most powerful magnetic force in the universe." ~ Carnelian Sage

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

 

 

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63 Ways to Build Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem (and fill the love bucket)

Tuesday, August 9th, 2011 Posted in Love Dipolomat, Love Dynamics, Masterman, Mastermen, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »

 

63 Ways to Build Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem

Steve Errey of Lifehack.org wrote this inspiring post I wanted to share with my Love Bucket Blog readers whose aim is to become Mastermen and Love Diplomats:

Confidence is a tool you can use in your everyday life to do all kinds of cool stuff, not least to stop second-guessing yourself, manage your fears and become able to do more of the things that really matter to you.

But not many people realize that their self-confidence works just like a muscle – it grows in response to the level of performance required of it.  Either you use it or you lose it.  That’s why I’ve given you 63 ways to grow your confidence so that you can become a giant.

Learning is a Good Thing, so sign up for that evening class and enjoy it.

Get out of your own head by asking your partner or best friend what you can do for them today.

Hit the gym.  The physiological effects will leave you feeling great.

Go to a networking event and focus on how you can be helpful to other people rather than being nervous about your own stuff.

Get crystal clear on the things that truly matter to you.  If they’re not in your life, you need to bring them in.

Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize or diminish each one.

Look at a great win or success you’ve experienced and give yourself credit for your part in it.  Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

Next time you’re at a social event, don’t just stick with the people you know – go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know and you never know what – or who – you’ll discover.

Next time you talk yourself out of doing something (a party invite, a challenging project or whatever else), say ‘What the Hey’ and go do it anyway.

Do one thing each day that makes you smile (on the inside or on the outside).

Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or over-thinking.  Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back – what would you want to say to them?

Ask out that girl or guy you fancy the pants off (only if you’re single, don’t want to get you into trouble).

You have to keep your mind well fed, so write a list of 20 things that keeps your mind feeling nourished and make sure you’re giving them room in your life.

Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect you to act like.

Learn to catch yourself every single time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get or aren’t good enough to get what you want.

Take yourself off auto-pilot – make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself and look for a way that that inner dialog can be improved.  Ask yourself, “What would make this easier?”

Scared of looking silly? You and everyone else.  It’s no biggie so don’t let it stop you.  Say it with me – “It just doesn’t matter.”

Don’t think for a second that you can’t be confident.  There are already loads of things you do with natural self-confidence, you just have to notice them and get familiar with how it feels.  Look for the things you do where the question of whether you’re confident enough never arises.

Listen to your doubts but be ready to make deliberate decisions once you’ve heard them.  Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards.

Think of a time when it felt like a whole bank of switches in your head flicked to the on position and you were firing on all cylinders.  What were you doing and what’s the reason it felt so great?

You’ve got a whole bunch of out-dated rules that determine what you do, don’t do, should do and shouldn’t do.  These rules limit your thinking and limit your behavior.  Tear up your rule book and notice how free you are to make great decisions.

Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back form an opportunity?  Don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse.  Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on.  Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?

If you’d already done everything in life you’d have no need to be scared.  Don’t ever think that being scared means you’re not confident, it simply means you’re going somewhere new.

If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you owe it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on.  You deserve better.

Flirt.  It’s a harmless way to play around with connecting with people and having fun.

Reveal a little bit of the real you in a relationship that might feel like it’s in a rut.

Acknowledge and welcome all of your experiences – the good stuff as well as the bad stuff.  It’s all equally valid and hiding things away because you don’t like them is just creating conflict.

Always recognize that you’re more than a match for any situation you might find yourself in, no matter how tough the going gets.

Don’t get swept up in the drama of what’s happening right now, look for more useful ways of engaging with what happens in your life.

Don’t automatically give in to the instant pay-off – it often means you’re selling yourself short.

When you feel like stamping your foot and yelling “I deserve better than this!”, take a step back and say “I can BE better than this.”

Confidence sometimes means admitting you’re wrong – always be ready to hold your hands up and change your mind.

Trust your instincts.  They know what they’re talking about.

Fear is a way of letting you know that you’re about to stretch yourself and grow your confidence.  That’s a good thing, so use it to take yourself forwards rather than run away.

Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be.  What do they want to tell you?

Don’t feel like you have to do everything yourself – sometimes the most confident thing to do is ask for help.

Take a chance on something tomorrow.  Anything, big or small, just take a chance.

You need to be around people who make you feel like YOU, so spend more time with the people who support and encourage you and less with those who undermine you.

Stop struggling against the things you don’t like in your life – create a congruent environment around you that flows and allows you to be you.

No man’s an island, and you need to be a part of the world you around to feel confident.  What can you participate in that’s important to you?

Forget the pro’s and con’s – do something bold in the face of your challenges and fears.

Work on developing the skills you need to win at the things that matter to you.  What can you practice that would radically improve your chances of winning?

The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body into a confident state can have surprising results.

Don’t get disheartened or demotivated when you get to 90% with something you’re working on – push through and you’ll see that the last 10% is where the magic happens.

Keep comparing yourself to others?  Stop it, don’t try to validate yourself through comparison – you’re just peachy as you are.

Put your head above the parapet at work and speak up if there’s something you think could be improved or if you have an idea you think has legs.

If there’s something you’ve been struggling to understand for a while, stop trying to understand it.  Accept it just as it is, fully and wholly.

Shy with new people?  Not a problem, there’s nothing wrong with being shy and it doesn’t mean you’re not confident.  Just don’t overthink it, start beating yourself up or thinking you’re less than because you’re shy – the more you think like that the worse it gets.

Your environment directly impacts your self-perception, so if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork and rubbish put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get organized.

Write yourself a list of the amazing things you’d love to do in your life, and make a start by simply looking into the first one or two things that leap out at you.

Don’t make your happiness or self-worth dependent on being in a relationship or being validated by someone else.  Find your inherent value first, and your relationships and confidence will be immeasurably better.  (additional note: Fill Your Own Love Bucket First!

Your strengths can be used to overcome any of your weaknesses.  We all have weaknesses but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.

The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list the more it’ll drain you and the bigger it’ll seem – get it done and free yourself up.

What golden threads, themes, patterns and passions have always been in your life?  If those things aren’t present in your life right now, you need to shift your priorities.

Your body image does matter, because if you have a bad relationship with your body you won’t be feeling confident in yourself.  Get trim if you need to, just make sure you get along with your body.

Being confident is an ongoing process.  It isn’t a goal or an end-point that you reach and then stop.  Keep playing to the best of your ability and your confidence will always be there to support you.

Try a new path.  The well-trodden paths of your life can easily turn from familiarity to apathy and disconnection.  A new path wakes you up.

Don’t say “Yes” to taking on a task simply because you don’t want to rock the boat – you can politely decline requests you can’t meet and don’t need to create an excuse for it.

Look at the people you respect who seem confident – don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

Make a plan to do something, then make deliberate choices to follow through.  Seeing progress gives you important self-reinforcement.

When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.

Still beating yourself up for failing or screwing up? It might not be a barrel of laughs but it’s not going to help you get through it.  Much better to recognize that everything, whether it turns out or not, is how you practice living a rich life.

Source: Lifehack.org  Steve Errey

iPhone, iPad, and Jokes–Can they Fill The Love Bucket?

Sunday, July 31st, 2011 Posted in Gifts, Her Love Bucket, Love Dynamics, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »

The Love Bucket: Dynamics of Playful/Romantic Conversation

Tuesday, July 5th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket List, Love Dynamics, Masterman, Mastermen, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »

The dynamics of playful/romantic conversation

The 5 Love Dynamics  are about interpersonal love dynamics. One of the 5 Love Dynamics is the DATING Dynamic. The rest of the love dynamics are when you are more intimate or in married or serious relationship.

Whether you are casually dating or a committed couple having a playful romantic conversation keeps things hot!

When dating, there is more sexual tension and unknown factors that then to lean a conversation or sexting toward a more frisky, catch-me-if-you-can type interaction. If you’ve been together for a long time, inject a little “we just met” romantic flirtation into your conversation.

It all starts with surprise. Mystery, Intrigue. I like to call it the “tantalizing tease.” Lots of sexual innuendo.

So if you are newly dating simply start imagining situations you would like to get into with your date.

If you’ve been a couple for a while and perhaps sunk into a routine, rewind the mental memories and go back to when you first met. What did your lover look like? What turned you on about them? What were some of the things you laughed about? Get into the state of mind when things were fresh and new.

There are two ways to have a conversation. Face to face and through electronic contact (text, phone, email, video or IM chat, etc.). If you’re nervous, choose electronic chat to start but realize you’ll eventually have to meet face to face.

Let’s start with the B-Spot. That’s the brain. Men and women’s brains are wired differently. Turn on a woman’s B-spot to get to her G spot. Her B-spot is her most sexually erogenous zone. Start here and the body will follow.

Men like visual stimulation. So look good! Look first then touch (all over)!

Women want the man to be the Masterman in the powerful take-charge position. A woman wants to be taken. Women want to be seduced and ravished. A woman wants a man to be respectful at the same time being sexy. Easy enough to do when you’re dating because you are not “playing house” together.

However, if you are “playing house” you better be filling her love bucket. Otherwise it will be more effort to shine up the Sex Ring of Desire. But that’s another story. We’ll assume her love bucket is full or almost full for this conversation. When that is the case, the main thing to do is assure the woman that the only thing she has to do is relax. You’ve taken care of everything.

It all starts with a story. Preferably a fantasy. You get to make it up. Use sexual language to amplify sexual energy. Get your lover’s attention with verbal imagery. Make your mate or date seem like a sex goddess or sex god. Yes, flattery does work! Give some direct orders like, go lie down on the bed and close your eyes.

Create curiosity! The story must evoke curiosity. Curiosity is what is tantalizing in the tease. Leave sentences unfinished.

Sexting is sexual foreplay in electronic form. Start early in the day to build anticipation and excitement. The tantalizing tease has a slow build. This is a playful back and forth banter with some long pauses to keep the tension building. Depending on how comfortable your language can be x-rated. Your intention is everything.

“You make me feel so…”

“I get weak in the knees and hot somewhere else the way your eyes smile at me…”

“I can feel your strong muscles when I close my eyes…”

“I can feel your velvet skin on my fingertips…”

Use other sense words like smell, taste, tongue, mouth, lips, eyes, and any body parts

Use action words that show you are more than talk (or text) like lick, nibble, energy, explode, penetrate, come, hot, breath, caress, touch.

Use adjectives like amazing, special, whisper, delightful, thrust, gorgeous,

Your story should have loads of imagination and tell your date or mate what they are experiencing and feeling in every part of their body.

If you are new at this try the “This is what I am going to do” fantasy. You can do this face to face or through electronic contact. If you do this face to face you need undivided attention. Peer into your lover’s eyes. Run your fingers lightly over their body as you tell the story. Expect laughing, blushing, and perhaps shyness.

f you don’t think you have any imagination then re-tell a previous intimate experience and add to it and make it more spicy with a “let’s do it again” ending.  Ladies can get in on the action with texting romance!

Electronic contact and face to face conversations don’t have to end in sex. It is just to build sexual tension that connects a couple. Keeping the mystery and curiosity alive is fun. Letting your partner now that they turn you on is a HUGE turn on. Narrating a fantasy is fun and you can take turns.

Of course, in your conversation including a line like this….

Lover 1: “I was just thinking about…

Lover 2: “About what…

Lover 1: “About how much I love you.”

…definitely will get your lover’s attention.

Think naughtiness, anticipation, and reuniting with hot passion. Focus on your lover’s pleasure and you’ll get yours soon enough. Make your lover #1.

 

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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Love, Independence, and Filling the Love Bucket

Sunday, July 3rd, 2011 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Lifestyle, Love Dynamics, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »

Love, Independence, and Filling the Love Bucket

Since Independence Day, the 4^th of July is tomorrow, the subject of Independence is a good one.

Someone asked recently: “Does being in a love relationship make you lose your independence?”

Followed by, “Is it possible to achieve bliss without feeling bitter about losing premarital independence?”

It is generally assumed that marriage, clearly a committed relationship, does NOT create freedom, it curtails it. But, the other gains and payoffs can be huge. It all depends on your individual truths, personal values, and feeling of lovematism for one another.

This can get right down to the business of living and the 4^th of the 5 Love Dynamics, the Acclimating Dynamic in interpersonal love relationships. This is often the balancing act of a couple juggling so many things, work or business, kids, family, community, obligations, healthy living, and even getting enough sleep!

If you are in a love relationship and your love bucket is not getting filled, then the lack of fulfillment will shine a spotlight on your loss of independence. The upcoming movie, The Change-Up,  is about two men, Mitch (single) and Dave (married), who wish they had each other’s lives and the tagline is – Who Says Men Can’t Change?

Back on the subject of Independence and the July 4th holiday:  As Oprah said in her last email to me, “Nothing like going out of country to have an even deeper appreciation for our own U.S.A. The Freedom to have options, something we often take for granted, is the most striking to me.

When Chris Rock was last on the show he said, "real wealth is having options". I thought that was pretty profound… [Relationship Riches would agree!]

I know the 4th of July has turned into picnics and fireworks, and barbecue moments. But it’s worthy of a pause, to think about what it really means to have Freedom. And while we’re pausing, think about those who sacrifice to make it so.”

Wishing you all a Peaceful and Happy 4th of July!

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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