The Expanding Love Bucket
Monday, March 28th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Lovematism, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »The Love Bucket® expands to receive more love just like the heart.
Sometimes people say that the love bucket is so full that it “runneth over” like the saying “my cup runneth over.” This comes from Psalm 23:5 [ Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: Thou hast anointed my head with oil; My cup runneth over ]. Psalm 23 is known as ‘The LORD is my shepherd.’
Wikipedia has a special entry for My Cup Runneth Over. "My Cup Runneth Over" is a quotation from the Hebrew Bible (Psalm 23:5) and means "I have more than enough for my needs" though interpretations and usage may vary.
You can always receive MORE LOVE and give more love. That is why the love bucket does not overflow but simply expands to receive more love.
Once you have tasted more love you know that is what you desire. You won’t settle for mediocre love. You want the full expression of love that can be experienced in the bond of LOVEMATISM.
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do (When The Love Bucket Is Half Full)
Monday, March 14th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Heart, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket List, Lovematism, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »
or… "How To Leave While You’re In Love"
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“I wish one of my relationship expert friends would write a specific article on "How To Leave While You’re In Love". This has been one of the hardest things to do because, right or wrong, I still love him so much. I just had to take a stand for real partnership that I’m committed to having in my life – so choosing to leave may hurt my heart but is a gift to my soul. (someone please write that article, though, ok???)” => So to the lovely lady who made this request, here’s your article. |
First, know that women more than men are constantly evaluating their intimate relationship. Guys, in general think everything seems good at home: she seems happy, we’re having sex, and she’s not nagging me.
Second, breaking up and leaving rarely happen in a moment. Even though there may be some incident that is the proverbial ‘straw that breaks the camel’s back’ there has been in your mind an ongoing database filled with the transgressions of your partner. This is particularly true of women. Often a break-up happens long before the friends and family know of its demise.
So why don’t we “Leave When We’re In Love?"
It is very simple. HOPE DIES LAST.
One of the most beautiful aspects of the human spirit is hope. Hope is defined as, “To wish for something with expectation of its fulfillment.” Some suggest a connection with the word ‘hop’ with the notion of "leaping in expectation."
In the back of your mind, you are thinking, “I still have hope that we can work things out”.
“I love this person. I hope he give me what I want. I hope he can fill my love bucket with my desires.”
The Love Bucket blog is about The Love Bucket®. The 7 Rings of Desire of the love bucket are the things women desire. These desires are related to passion, aspirations, expectations, and wants. To desire is to long for, a craving, and to feel the want of some object or person. Desire is also about sexual appetite and passion. With each desire comes the hope it will be fulfilled.
(Guys, if you think 7 Rings of Desire are too many, relax. Every women wants about 3-4 and it is in your power to fill her love bucket!)
When the love bucket is being filled partially, there is hope that it can be filled up and with the unique rings of desire of each woman. The Love Bucket is a concept and as such, the love bucket can be empty but the love bucket never overflows because the love bucket expands to receive more love just like the heart. If the love bucket is not being filled with the specific rings of desire at least 80% of the time, there is disillusionment, discontentment and it is possible that eventually it dries up. If there is SOMETHING in the love bucket, we don’t leave because hope exists.
Is there a solution?
Due to the nature of this page (a request from an aching heart), there are few additional materials that will be added shortly.
Look for a link to a free document that has tips for the dating process. That includes what you want on your LOVE BUCKET LIST for your Mr. Right or Ms. Right in your life.
It seems that everything gets clearer in hindsight. But, you can start over and there is a way to have a relationship that is more in alignment from the start. When you start dating again you can see who’s out there and it important to figure out more of what you want.
And remember, nobody is 100% perfect, but ask yourself what you truly want in your next relationship, and what can you do without? Breaking up is hard to do, but it happens all the time. Whether you meet up with your ex again, in this lifetime, or the next, be kind to yourself and to the one you loved.
Second, get clarity on your Relationship Design Plan. There is often a mismatch in how you both see your common goal and therefore you’ll be out of alignment. Having a “real partnership” means you have expressed to one another your relationship plan – whether a simple or grand design – no secrets or reading minds. Communication is key. This is the time for vulnerability and honesty. When you navigate to love’s true north defined by your common goal of your relationship design plan, you will be able to course correct when needed and your love bucket will continue to be filled. You may find that you do not need to break up because you simply need to make a few adjustments to your Relationship Design Plan. A little knowledge goes a long way.
Third, you may be found yourself in a Relationship by Default. Well, not exactly found, kinda wished yourself into or possibly tried to fit a “square peg into a round hole.” The yellow, pink, red warning flags were there from the beginning but you just chose to ignore them. Often this will be highlighted when someone cheats because that is not the relationship they really are meant to be in for their highest good and greatest potential.
Last, it is so important to feel you have the basis of the enduring bond of lovematism. Lovematism is such an amazing connection and intimate bond of two lovers. www.Lovematism.com
Bond of Lovematism Connections
MYSTICISM OF THE SPIRIT
Soul Connection: Practices, like praying or meditation. Spiritual philosophies or way of living. Karma or soul purpose to be together. Soul connection of two lovers.
HYPNOTISM OF THE MIND
Mindset Connection: Attitudes, perceptions, tastes, approaches, subject matter of conversation, ways of thinking, levels of consciousness, and appealing to the imagination, intelligence and intellisense of the mind. Mind connection of two lovers.
MAGNETISM OF THE BODY
Sex Connection: Sexual dimension of physical chemistry, attraction, and energy. Sexual connection of two lovers.
EMOTIONAL RHYTHM OF TWO HEARTS BEATING AS ONE
Emotion Connection: Sharing happiness, joy, fun of romance, caring, and compassion. Heartfelt love vibration, coherence and resonance. Emotional connection of two lovers.
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Another gift … in the form of a poem
How to Leave When You Still Love
by Mayana Blank on Monday, March 14, 2011 at 2:43pm
When you know in your heart what is right
And the circumstances seem wrong
When you know in your heart that the love you feel
Is not enough to balance the situation
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
When you know in your heart what you want
And the relationship falls short
You know that the soul of the one you love
Will always be within you
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
Leaving when you love someone is a hard thing to do
But staying when you know that leaving is better
Will harm the relationship so much more
That goings the thing to do
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
Loving yourself first and best seems to be the hardest test
that humans endure while living in form
We think it is selfish or egoic or wrong
But really its the right thing to do
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
When you love you first you meet your own needs
You know who you are and why you are here
You take care of your body, mind, spirit and soul
and then you love others more.
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
So I love me first and most and best
and then I love you and you and you
my heart is true and pure and free
and then I love others more.
Mother Mary told me as I walked away
That I could never leave anyone behind
She said that we would weave our lives in and out
In a way most beautiful and sublime
Everyone loves the word YES: YES Fill The Love Bucket!
Sunday, September 12th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Her Love Bucket, Lovematism, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »
Everyone loves the word yes, but few, especially, sales people, enjoy hearing the word no! It is not a word that most of us would consider a positive indicator of success. To some business experts, the word NO is a beautiful word and the key to real success in sales. “No” can go from being an obstacle into one of a salesperson’s greatest asset.
But how does NO relate to filling the love bucket?
Yes and No can fill the love bucket.
The love bucket expands to receive more love.
The Love Bucket® concept is the brainchild of Sherrie Rose®, The Love Linguist®.
No is not just a rejection in the sales arena. In sales, you can move onto the next opportunity. Your livelihood does not rest one sale. Sales is a one to many experience.
Love, well, love is a 1:1 experience. Of course the polygamists and polyamorists may disagree. But the majority of people focus their intimate love on just one person.
If you hear NO loudly is can be heart-breaking. The love biochemicals can kick in and affect your state of mind and your body.
The idea of bouncing back and bouncing forward, often called being on the rebound, takes tenacity. Tenacity is pumped up persistence.
We often think of children who ‘don’t take no for an answer’ when they have their sights set on some object of their desire.
Have you ever witnessed the following exchange in the grocery store aisle?
Can I have a cookie, mommy? No.
I want a cookie! No.
Please can I have a cookie? No.
Please? I said no.
Pretty please with sugar on top? No I said.
Why can’t I have a cookie? Because I said so.
But why? Listen to me, young man. I am not going to say this again. The answer is N-O!
Ten seconds later…
Mommy, I want a cookie! Oh, for heaven’s sake, just one!
That tenacity wears down the mother and you may have witnessed it…or you’ve been the parent in the exchange! (and probably the kid at some point in your life, right?) As kids we weren’t affected at all when we heard the word no, were we? A kid takes a ‘no’ in stride on their way to success.
Somewhere along the line that natural sense of tenacity we had instinctively as children got drummed out of us.
Particularly when it comes to love. As kids we don’t think, “My parent doesn’t love me if they say no.” Not at all! Instead it’s more likely that a kid thinks, “Getting a cookie is going to take a little more work.” And as kids we knew not to take the rejection personally, but as adults we forget. We never felt the ‘no’ was a condition to LOVE.
When it comes to love, for many of us, as we grew up, we were hurt by boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives. Their commitment to us we felt is CONDITIONAL. It may feel worse after years of ‘togetherness’ when your loved one has something new – some new criteria – that you are not measuring up. So without your know it, you are now on the reject pile like last year’s fashion.
As you grew up. you were told by well meaning teachers, parents, coaches etc, to “draw within the lines” and came to learn that “no” was something to avoid – and that when we heard it – we felt we were doing something wrong.
Fast forward to today. Many people do everything they can to avoid ”rejection” and NOT have their loved one say NO to them! So you recreate yourself into someone else’s image until you were a pretzel. You do everything to make her happy. And yet avoiding situations where you may face rejection and hear “No” is a recipe for unhappiness.
So it may work for sales to use the strategy to hear “No” more often! “Go for No” means the more people that tell you “no” the closer you will get to ultimate success – or in other words, “yes” because the pond is filled with multiple opportunities.
The ‘no’ in sales that is a closer correlation to a love relationship is when you are trying to retain a client to renew a contract. There are many other suitors clamoring for the business. Have you done what it takes to sustain and provide? It has to be honest, genuine and authentic.
In dating, you have the whole sea of dates to choose from. The contract is not closed. Of course that seems easy enough and you might be thinking, “Oh, I get it – it’s a numbers game. And when you “go for no” you may feel like you are failing. But, you have the sense that you hear more NO’s to get more yeses.” You are correct, that is the general idea.
So when you have chosen your mate and perhaps are married the stakes are much higher. Can you still accept, like when you were a kid, the willingness to fail?
As adults now it has become very important that we not look like we’re “failing!” Separation and divorce are viewed as failures. Lisa Jimenez, author of Conquer Fear! says, ‘It’s an interesting reality that we are more committed to looking good. When you get a ‘no’ you don’t look good, it doesn’t feel good. So we have to be OK with not looking good. We have to be OK with getting dirty, messing up, falling down.”
So what to do? What if you are simply going about your day and someone you love pronounces a BIG NO? They don’t like you anymore, they don’t love you anymore, and the proverbial ‘it is not you, it is me.’ All of these are the form of ‘no’ when you are probably NOT going for the ‘no’ and it may come out of the blue. This is not the type of contact you envisioned when you started your day.
Tap into that persistence and tenacity you had as a kid. Some people would get into a manipulation at this point. Either get down to the root of the ‘no’ and see if it is an absolute deal breaker. Or see if the ‘no’ is a reaction to some external cause that is used to get your attention. If your love relationship was highly conditional to begin with you may not want to be there in the first place. Get used to failing if things can’t be turned around.
Maybe it is now time to really start to pay attention to filling the love bucket. Every guy CAN fill the love bucket. It is a matter of choice, of sharing, and giving her what she desires. If your attitude is “that’s not the way I operate” or “I don’t think like that” it is time to change. The change is an improvement for you and for your relationship. You must maintain your honesty and authenticity and not turn into pretzel. Most of the rings of desire of the love bucket are simple and free. If you are getting a lot of NOs in your love life, you are probably not filling the love bucket.
So, go fill her love bucket today. You’ll be glad you did.
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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Another friend. Another lover. Fill the love bucket!
Monday, April 26th, 2010 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket Books, Lovematism, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »
In general there are three sorts of relationships.
Some don’t "fill us" anymore. Some do.
1) Both “his and hers” love buckets are getting filled.
2) Only one the love buckets is getting filled. You wish things may change; that there may be a chance for love to flow back into the love bucket.
3) Both love buckets are bone dry. Do you feel you can’t let go of the other person’s love bucket or release the connection with another person?
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Spring is a time for new beginnings.
Sometimes people just do not serve our greater good, not that the person is not good, it is the connection between us that doesn’t work anymore. The love bucket is not open to receive. Energy is wasted trying to fill it. Negative intimate connections often take us to a negative place especially if the relationship does not serve the greater good for all involved. |
Sometimes people are obsessed with another person. Often it is because the object of their obsession participates in the energy exchange. Obsession is completely destructive. Preventing someone you care about from having the truly good relationship they deserve is just like being a thief.
Why should relationships end? When you end a relationship you release that person to be free. You free that person to be available for someone else. When you release and let go more beneficial connections can be made. There is someone out there that is much better suited to fill the love bucket!
If you are in a romantic relationship fill the love bucket MORE! If only one of the “his and hers” love buckets is getting filled, revitalize your sexual dynamics and relating dynamics and start filling the love bucket again. If the love bucket is bone dry and you’re holding onto the past, release him or her.
Love is the ultimate reality. Love is to be shared completely and unconditionally. The future of love is lovematism. Look into your heart and know if you have the capacity to receive love into your love bucket. Look into your heart and know if you have the ability to share love with a lover and fill their love bucket. It is a give to share love and it is a give to receive love. Filling the love bucket is an act of love.
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Sexual Ecstasy Fills Her Love Bucket – Listen to the Talk Show
Wednesday, February 10th, 2010 Posted in Heart, Her Love Bucket, Lovematism, SEX, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »Sherrie Rose, “The Love Linguist” and Phil Johncock, Master Tantra Facilitator, talk about SEXUAL ECSTASY on blog talk radio. Listen to the recording here:
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Join me, Sherrie Rose and Philip Johncock, Tantra Master and author of The SEXUAL ECSTACY workbook.
Hot Topics for Valetine’s Day Romance to be discussed on this show:
* Open the heart
* Intimacy Building
* Relax the Body
* Expand Pleasure
ADULTS ONLY: You must be 18 years old to listen to this show.
Sherrie Rose “The Love Linguist” and Phil Johncock, SkyDancing Tantra Facilitator, share unique Valentines Day Romance Secrets for you and your lover. Open the Heart, Build Intimacy, Relax the Body, and Expand Sexual Pleasure.
Heart, Intimacy, and Pleasure
(Get Yours this Valentine’s Day!)
