Are you a love virgin?

Allow me to explain. If you go by the traditional definition of the word “virgin,” it means a person who has not had sexual intercourse. If you’ve ever bumped uglies in the night, hid the hot dog, or taken the bullet train through Yonker’s tunnel, then no, you are not a virgin.

What about a love virgin?

The term “virgin” can also be used in non-sexual contexts to mean a lack of something. A Pina Colada Virgin, for instance, is a Pina Colada cocktail without alcohol. A love virgin, therefore, is someone who has never fallen in love.

If you’ve never fallen in love, you probably have not filled the love bucket….

Some people go through life never experiencing love. Some do and don’t know it. Still others do and won’t admit it. While all three are potential dating hazards, the first kind — the true love virgin — presents an especially difficult case.

Most people have experienced it at least once. While there isn’t a limit to the number of times one could fall in love, it would be logistically difficult to have felt it more than, say, twenty times. Unless, maybe, you’re a thousand-year-old vampire or something.

For most people, love isn’t an emotion or a state of being that happens easily. It’s not like buying ice cream at the supermarket. It’s more like buying a condo or house, relatively speaking.

I’ll bet some of you are shaking your heads right now. “I fall in love almost once a month,” you’re thinking to yourself. “It’s not as rare as this doofus makes it sound.”

Sorry to do this, but see your bubble there? Now look at this pin in my hand. Burst!

If you fall in love that often, chances are you haven’t been feeling love. What you may have been feeling is infatuation. A very deep, passionate infatuation, perhaps, but infatuation nonetheless.

It is easy to confuse infatuation with love. Love isn’t a feeling that fades in a matter of weeks. It takes years, decades, even lifetimes. Or perhaps it never truly fades; it just evolves into a more elemental emotion.

Infatuation, on the other hand, is defined as an “all-absorbing passion” (see why it’s so easy to confuse it with love?) that doesn’t last. It doesn’t grow or evolve. It just remains at that level, then dips like the sunset.

If you are still in your teens or early twenties, it isn’t uncommon to be a love virgin. Some may even argue that you don’t really know what love is until you’re older, though I think that’s bullshit. But if you are still a love virgin at this age, don’t fret. You are not alone.

If you are in your thirties or forties, however, then you should be concerned. That’s a long time to go through life without ever falling in love. It isn’t impossible, but, well, something may be wrong.

Are you afraid of being hurt so much that you avoid relationships? Are you consciously or unconsciously isolating yourself from strangers? Are you ending relationships before they have a chance to mature?

There is something beneath the surface that isn’t quite socially healthy. Or at least, socially acceptable by the norm.

On the flip side, if you are dating a love virgin, then be careful. Just as a sexual virgin isn’t quite sure what to do with all the rods and cones, a love virgin isn’t quite sure what to do with all the messy emotions that come with being in love. This isn’t a slight against love virgins, it’s just a fact. Lack of experience begets lack of understanding.

Don’t expect that your love bucket will be filled right away by a love virgin…

For example, jealousy can play a big part in love. Most people new to love will find this curious, yet nagging emotion sitting on their shoulder from time to time. The little green devil may occasionally nip at them, throw an all-out tantrum, or crawl away and lurk just behind the ears.

With experience, many learn to cope with this emotion. They realize its roots in insecurity and put it away appropriately. However, a love virgin doesn’t yet have this experience. Thusly, the little green devil is out to play.

There is more. Mutual love is a delicate sheet of rice paper. Push too hard and it will crumble. Pull too hard and it will tear. With experience and a few failed relationships under your belt (no pun intended), you will hopefully have learned how hard to push and how hard to pull.

A love virgin at age forty, unfortunately, hasn’t had the benefit of such experience. Such an individual may unknowingly come on too strong and suffocate the object of their desire. So dater beware.

To be fair, there are many patient people in the world who can deal with a middle-aged love virgin, just as there are many understanding people in the world who can deal with a middle-aged virgin. (“You know what? I respect women! I love women! I respect them so much that I completely stay away from them!”) So it isn’t the end of the world if you are a love virgin.

It takes confidence and bold moves to fill the love bucket….

But to those dating a love virgin, if you don’t have the patience or tolerance to deal with a new crop of emotions and lack of experience, be careful. Their only experience with love is what they’ve seen in movies. And as we all know, life isn’t like the movies.

Love Virgin by Mike Lee http://www.mikelee.org/love-virgin.html

See more at Love and Sex Life: http://loveandsexlife.com

Coming today, April 21 to a digital download near you. 
These love bucket books are free. 

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"50 Reasons To Fill Her Love Bucket" By Sherrie Rose

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and the hysterical video about her love bucket is also ready for prime time.

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Great Ideas on Talkin’ Health –
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Thursday Feb 18 at 10pm EST/ 7:00pm PST   Replay Available Below with Special Offer      =============================

Today’s show, Talkin’ Health revolves around many things including addressing the primal urge of sex, a healthy body, a healthy state of mind and healthy relationships.

Post-Valentine’s Day, Sherrie will be talking with Joe Kasper about Men and Women, Women and Men, How to Stay Connected to Your Partner- Pillow talk, Romance- and much, much more.

This show is for adults, 18 and over. Click image for replay of show.

Sherrie Rose is The Love Linguist®

Sherrie Rose “The Love Linguist®” is affectionately known as “Lady Love Bucket.” Men refer to Sherrie as a go-to-resource so men can understand and become successful with women both in-and-out of the bedroom.

Sherrie Rose is a masterful teacher and speaker, whose specialty is translating the complexities of how women operate romantically and sexually, into a language and format that men can get and apply with total success!

The Result => He WINS, She’s HAPPY!

It is Sherrie’s passion to help men really understand women to masterfully fill her “love bucket.” The result is that lovers heal, bond, and enjoy mutually satisfying sexual dynamics and feelings of enhanced love and affection.
For MEN – http://HerLoveBucket.com

In addition to Sherrie’s passion, she is on a mission to empower women as "LOVE DIPLOMATS" so that there is love success and peace in relationships, marriages, at home, in the workplace, in our communities, countries and the world. This can happen when women become empowered with the negotiating power of LOVE DIPLOMACY. You must start with your own love success. Ultimately women will be more fulfilled, experience more ecstasy, have a hotter sex life, and be happier! This is part of the Love Success Series and the Academy of Love Linguistics.
For WOMEN – http://HisLoveBucket.com

Sherrie and Joe (the host of Talkin’ Health)  met in January 2010 on a cruise (http://marketerscruise.lovestide.com) along with 420 of their closest marketing friends. Joe is known for his 22-Minute Workout and is the CEO of Fire Your Diet™, a Master Health Coach, Exercise Therapist, and dynamic Motivational and Keynote Speaker with over 20 years experience training and motivating people to the health and body they deserve!

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Just in time for Valentine’s Day…

Listen to this free 40-minute audio on the Art of Gift-Giving and Hotel Get-Aways (where lovers can act out their fantasies!).  What you’ll hear applies to any day of the year in addition to Valentine’s Day (which is Sunday, February 14, 2010 and the same day as Chinese New Years.)

This is completely FREE for your listening pleasure.

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In addition, when you click on the link on the audio page you will find  3 BONUS GIFTS at no-charge and no strings attached.  Our way of saying thanks to our readers and clients.  We appreciate you!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

To Your Love Success,

Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist

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Easily Transform Your LOVE into Words…

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Writing Love Letters Builds Excitement that’s not easily quenched. Each letter, when prepared with care, is like a surprise gift, tucked behind the couch just out of sight, that appeared out of nowhere on Christmas morning.

Stirs Passions that can Activate Her “inner nympho” resulting in more nights together, more mornings with breakfast in bed, and more hugs and kisses with no prompting whatsoever.

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For those who love…

The Love Letter

It has only been a day, an hour, a moment, since I last told you that I love you… but are these three words enough?

Do you know that I love loving you? And when I say the words “I love you” …do you know why and how much?

I love you for what I have become beside you and because of you… I love you for loving me as I am, as I have been, and as I wish to be. It is through your eyes that I have seen little glimpses of myself—glimpses of someone who is changing all the time yet always complete and valued as I am… Yes, through your eyes—your beautiful, loving eyes—I have witnessed my own perfection… and yours.

I love you because you trust me enough to show me all of who you are—and within that trust I have found safety in being all of who I am for you. I love you because in my worst moments, you see not the lesser part of me, but the whole of me; and in that wholeness my heart is touched and my soul is soothed by your tenderness, your kindness… your extraordinary love and devotion.

You have loved me whether I was sitting or standing or falling or flying… and as you have loved me, I have learned to love myself—to honor the person that you honor; to trust the person that you trust; and to see the goodness that you see… in me.

I love you because you have allowed me to discover myself, and you, in my own time and in my own way. I love you, because beside you I feel free—and with that freedom, I have chosen greatness over smallness… and I have become more.

Every day that I have loved you, you have found value in whatever my heart is capable of expressing… No matter how awkward or obscure my feelings may appear—time after time, you’ve found the value and the truth in those feelings… and in me… and in “us.” Always in a new way—always on a higher level—you have shown me that “together” is the most precious way to travel; and every step I take with you I find myself rising further… into love.

You are so much more than my companion, my lover, my best friend… you are my starlight, my sunlight—you are the golden flame of my heart and the bonfire of my soul. Your love surrounds me, astounds me, lifts me into an edgeless sky and carries me to places that I have never been—and with every breath I take, I breathe in the warmth and the love and the light… of you.

I have watched you sleeping and prayed that you would awaken, still beside me, softly calling my name… I have reached for you in the night, knowing that yours is the only hand that fits perfectly with mine… And more than once, I have died in your arms and I have come alive again in those arms—arms that I love, because they are yours—arms that are strong and gentle… and true.

Yes, I love you for what I have become beside you, for what I have become because of you… and for what I have become with you. In loving you I have learned to love higher, further, deeper than I have ever loved before; and from that love has emerged a path that is perfect—perfect, because I am walking it with you.
Thank you, my love… Thank you for being all of who you are for me. It is an honor to love and be loved by you. As I love you now, I will love you always. And as we walk together through this world and into the mists of eternity, it is I who will wrap my arms around you—and, forever beside you… it is I who will whisper your name.

—Heather K. O’Hara, Copyright © 2010 – All rights reserved. Posted with permission by Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist

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Reminder: Valentine’s Day is Sunday, February 14, 2010

Expand Love with LOVEMATISM – http://lovematism.com

1. Write a note

2. Give flowers

3. Take a walk

4. Make lunch

5. Give a massage

6. Let them win

7. Take a trip together

8. Cook together

9. Cuddle

10. Have a picnic

11. Give a present

12. Watch the sunset

13. Let your hands do the talking

14. Share

15. Make a call

16. Sing

17. Kiss

18. Write a love letter/poem

(Get http://LoveLetterForHer.com)

19. Tell them your secrets

20. Heal their wounds

NOTE: { by Justin Hernandez in articles on may 29, 2008 }

and to add to the fun…

20 “Real Life” ways to say I Love You

1. Pretend her cooking isn’t burnt

2. Forget that you could completely wrap your arms around him

3. Give him a pedicure

4. Congratulate her for yelling ‘home run!’ at the football game

5. Get along with the in-laws no matter how much it kills you

6. Shave your pits daily instead of once a week

7. Don’t let them dress themselves

8. Get used to her new hairstyles

9. Use air freshener after bathroom use, you don’t want to be charged for murder

10. Trim his long toe hairs

11. Don’t get irritated when he puts the dishes away in the wrong place

12. Drink the junk beer that she bought because it was on sale

13. Embrace the power of his farts

14. Give them hugs despite the nose hair curling experience

15. Don’t let them drive because you value their life

16. Buy stain hiding dark underwear

17. Watch sappy romantic movies with her

18. Put up with his friends

19. Help them get through a midlife crisis

20. Look forward to 20+ years of this!

NOTE: { by Justin Hernandez in articles on june 6, 2008 }

It needs dedication and determination if you want to stay together for long. Many

relationships are wrecked by jealousy, unfaithfulness, misunderstanding and

differences. How do you make sure that yours will last? How do prepare so that it

will stand the tests and difficulties? Here is a list of the core values necessary

to make it work.

1.Honesty. Be true to yourselves. Tell your partner everything about yourself and

vice-versa. There should be transparency in your relationship. So that whatever

happens, your partner will understand you because he knows everything about you and

everything that you do. Tell your partner what you want or what you want to achieve.

Help each other.

2.Trust. If your partner doesn’t trust you, it is more probable that your

relationship will fail. A bond without trust is like walking on a rotten bridge. One

wrong move and it’s gone. If there is doubt in a relationship, it will easily

succumb to trials and difficulties.

3.Understanding. You have to understand each other. You’re not two different people

but a couple. Listen to each other because you won’t be able to understand your

partner if you don’t listen to what he says.

4.Support. After understanding each other, you have to support your partner. Because

understanding is futile if you won’t lend a hand. It’s the same as saying that what

he’s doing is good, but not helping him and just watching him do all the works. You

have to show that you are there for your partner all the time.

5.Humility and Forgiveness. You have to learn how to accept your mistakes and

apologize if you need to. If you do something wrong, admit it.

6.Bravery. You need to have a strong heart to battle the challenges that lie ahead.

Be brave for the problems that will test the strength of your relationship. Learn

how to fight, instead of just sitting in a corner and doing nothing. If you’re not

brave enough, your relationship will crumble at the feet of these obstacles. But if

you’re willing to fight and you have each other to fall back on, you’ll surely

overcome these challenges.

7.Loyalty. Being with someone means entrusting your heart and soul to your partner.

You trust him to take care of you and be there for you always. If you’re not loyal

to your partner, what’s the point in having a relationship with him or her?

8.Love. In the end, it is love that glues all these values together. If you love

your partner, you’ll be honest to each other. You will trust and understand your

partner. You’ll be willing to support each other and be brave as you battle the

hurdles together. You’ll easily forgive if he/she has done you wrong or be humble if

you make mistakes.

These core values are essential for your relationship to last. But this is not all.

You have to strive hard to make each other happy and content. It takes time and

effort but it’s worth it.

Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist Comment:

I have a simple philosophy called the “love bucket.” Your personal values alignment determines if you can stay both on track for loves true north.

DATING ADVICE
(by Brandon Grittini: How To Date A Friend – 3 Steps To Make Your Friend Your Lover)

Dating a friend can be a little more difficult than dating someone you just met a few

times. The comfort level you have shared could be something that can put you in a

little awkward situation. Learning how to date a friend can be your first step in

dealing with this situation and you must take note of some considerations, as this

can be a little sensitive situation.

Although it is a little risky, there are also advantages of dating some you know for

years. If you can master how to date a friend, it can also be exciting and fun and

you may not have a hard time having fun and enjoying your dates because you have

already known each other for years – although you may not be able to feel those

‘butterflies-in-the-stomach moments’ because you have practically shared comfortable

times together.

One thing good about dating a friend is that if you both have mutual feelings that

you like each other and you both are looking into possibilities of being more than

friends. Sometimes friends can develop these feelings after some time of hanging out

together. In this case, learning how to date a friend can be a little easier than

starting from the very beginning.

Whatever is your situation, here are 3 steps on how to date a friend and be

successful in your quest to finally make her your lover.

- Think twice. If you want to date your friend, be sure you are sure about what you

are feeling. Is it just admiration? Is it just physical attraction? Do you really

see a potential partner in your friend? Do you accept her flaws and her not-so-good

attitudes? Indeed, dating a friend is risky because it can lead to losing the

friendship. If the relationship leads to a breakup, you have to consider as well

that the friendship will never be the same as before if ever you decide to remain

friends.

- Take your time. If you have finally decided that you want to pursue your feelings

towards your friend and you are willing to take the risk, do not surprise her by

pouring out your feelings right then. Most often, this will not give you good

results. Do not be so engrossed with what you feel. Find hints if your friend is

also having that feeling towards you. As mentioned earlier, the best situation you

can have is if your friend also has the same feelings for you. Drop hints, use body

language and do not rush.

- Be her lover, not her friend. If you want to be her lover, act as one. Start

bringing her to more romantic dates. Treat her to some fun and romantic activities

that you would most likely bring a date. If she has seen how you are as a friend,

this time, you can show her how you are as a lover. Start giving her compliments and

make her feel special. If she enjoys going out with you, the thought of having you

as a lover may come to appeal to her.

The basics of how to date a friend actually lies on having her to like you not as a

friend but as a lover, even without telling her about your feelings. Of course, you

know your friend, so you can find many ways to show her that.

Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist Comment:

Good points, Brandon. I look at “friends” and “dating” as two ladders. That awkward situation you mention is trying to move across from one ladder to the other. It can be tricky. And, if you already have rapport with your friend and know the type of things (rings of desire) that fill her love bucket, you can be much more successful when dating in the long run. The ladder of success is best climbed by stepping on the rungs of opportunity.  Do you know where the opportunity lies?

Sherrie, THE LOVE LINGUIST

You can find more from Brandon here: http://advisingcouples.com/

Public Service Announcement: Facebook Break-up

by Throw’d TV (videos) 5:00

Uh oh, some couples are taking this Facebook thing a little too far!! Let’s find out what happens when Facebook goes wrong…

http://bit.ly/facebook-break-up

This Goes Out To All The Lovers Out There…

Don’t let Facebook, mess up your relationship…

it’s just a website.

Find me, Sherrie Rose, on Facebook – http://www.facebook.com/sherrierose

Facebook, Twitter, and all other forms of electronic contact can be handled if you know
the secrets to her love bucket.  One of the 7 Rings of Desire is contact – so get your
relationship on track with the right kind of contact, physical contact, electronic contact,
and all the other forms of contact that fill her love bucket

Special thanks to THROW’D TV for this great video.