“DFS” does not Fill Her Love Bucket
Saturday, July 10th, 2010 Posted in Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket, Seduction, The Love Linguist | No Comments »“DFS” does not Fill Her Love Bucket
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What is “DFS”? DFS: DEFINITION on Urban Dictionary DFS = Dating For Sport Example:
DFS = Dating for Sex DFS = Desperate for Sex |
Recently I read an email targeting guys who want to pick-up women.
Here’s what they say the 3 HOTTEST TOPICS are for guys who date:
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The focus of this seminar will be on the three hottest topics in Dating Science today as well as special added bonuses reserved only for seminar attendees: SAME NIGHT LAYS: Have you ever met a women at a club, and wanted to sleep with her that night! Well it’s a lot easier then you think. Learn the 3 basic rules to help master Same Night Lays! PHONE & TEXT GAME: Get the number and a fool proof plan to prevent flaking, get her dying to see you again, and learn the magic ways to get the number every time. DAY GAME: This is the most popular trend in dating science today. Learning this skill-set will allow you to meet women at any time. And I’ll let you in on a little secret…usually you come across the highest quality women during the daytime. Excerpt from Love Systems |
Dating Science. It is basic and simple psychology. It is basic and simple physical attraction. We are marvelous creatures, the human. Simple, yet so terribly complicated.
For topic one, it relates to context and the environment. I love to dance and you may often find me dancing on top of the speakers tho’ not a club.
What age are the guys who go to clubs and what’s their mentality? Not so much chronological age but mental age. The same night lays occur if you go to clubs and probably want to tell all the guys about your conquests.
Clubs, they are flashing neon for “pick up.” Easy pickin’s in the clubs because of the context and environment.
(Booty call: If she only wants her “honey love pot” filled then you may get lucky.)
But the gals who want their love bucket filled aren’t looking for a one night stand.
Topic two: Seductive and erotic text messages can ramp up the desire and passion. But if too quickly consummated the value diminishes. Men who pay for sex are willing to pay top dollar while aroused and before the act, and after being serviced, the value of the call girl is gone. So is respect.
Love is not a game. Getting a phone number, albeit important, is only the first step. Guys that want a real woman in their life do not want to play games. Yes, they tease and banter, but love is not a game. Lovematism is a BOND between lovers. Love is fun and flirtatious but it is not a game.
Topic three: Back to the clubs. It is a pick-up scene. So the “day game” as it is now being called apparently represents the highest quality women. Why, because high quality women don’t want to be picked up by men who want same night lays.
I get that sex is on the mind of men. In fact, the sex drive portion of the male brain is 2.5 times larger in men. They are driven by the primal urge to merge sexually. It is good and healthy. And, the young men who want many conquests will find women who just as easily want sex (that honey love pot wants action too). But one night stands leave out respect.
Because so many men of all ages confide in me, I know men want love not just sex. I also know that there is a time that THE SHIFT happens and guys go from DFS to DFL (dating for love). I also know that commitment is a big deal for guys and that they are driven for sex even when they are not at capable of commitment for a number of valid reasons. (See urban dictionary: The Shift)
What is sad is when a woman wants love and falls for the pick-up lines and allows her body to take over (the libido is a very powerful thing…) and then she feels hurt that the sex she has just had is only a one night stand. This has happened to high quality women.
At the end of the day, or the morning after, it is your personal choice. If you want and attract one night stands you may get your body satisfied. Short-term relief, barely satisfaction.
Eventually the longing for lovematism takes over. Then guys WANT to fill her love bucket with the words and actions that keep a women’s attention focused on you. Real LOVE renews and expands with each love-making session.
She’s Happy, He Wins, and Your Sex Life is Enhanced. That’s the Love Bucket® Formula!
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Anatomy of A Woman’s Feelings ("I’m Sorry" fills the love bucket)
Friday, June 18th, 2010 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket Books, The Love Linguist, The Man Class Series | No Comments »The Anatomy of a Woman’s Feelings
| Note: Although, I do not agree with all of this, particularly using the example of an organ, it has a valuable insight. You can learn more about filling a woman’s love bucket in The Man Class Series Accelerator ~Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist |
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By A. A. Armstrong |
This may be the most important article I have ever written. Please feel free to pass this on to all the women AND all the men in your life. |
HEART AND LUNGS, LIFE AND ENERGY
Imagine, if you will, a woman. Let’s look inside of her. Not the way a doctor might see her, but someone with more intuitive vision. In the center of her chest is a very unique organ. It looks like a disk about the size of a salad plate, up to two inches thick, and it fills her chest. When it is healthy, the color is a vibrant red or magenta or red-orange, and the surface is soft and even bubbly. Like the lungs, it pulls life and energy in from the environment. Specifically from nature, from the joy of loved ones, from beauty. Like the heart, it is connected to every part of her body through a complex circulatory system. As life and energy are pulled into it, life and energy travel to every extremity.
This organ is called “her feelings” and it is the core of her being.
When a woman is delighted or happy, this organ fills with life and energy, expanding and expanding. The life and energy move from her chest to her lungs, and she may breathe more heavily or deeply. From there, the life and energy move to her throat, and she may laugh or giggle or sing. Continuing upward, her mouth turns into a smile, her skin glows and her eyes sparkle. The life and energy flow through her smile and skin and eyes to the people around her and they are uplifted. When the life and energy reach her brain, they fill her head with hopeful, loving, magnanimous, creative thoughts. And as they reach her arms and legs, hands and feet, her step becomes lighter and she may even dance.
This is when she is her most powerful, and paradoxically, her most vulnerable. Bask in her beauty and light and treat her with care.
PAIN AND BLACKNESS, SILENCE AND IMMOBILITY
Imagine now that something happens which “hurts her feelings.” Intentional act or mere oversight, when a woman’s feelings are hurt, the process works in reverse. The rate at which this occurs depends on how harsh or shocking was the hurtful act or comment. It may take three to thirty minutes for the process to be complete.
Within a few seconds the organ has constricted, changing color to black or dark gray and becoming hard and tight like a rock or fist. Vibrant and pulsing a moment before, it lies lifeless. The woman might gasp as she feels the core of her being shrink and harden. Then this new death travels the pathways that life and energy flowed through just moments before.
Being closest to her lungs, breathing will be the first to go. She will feel as if she can’t breathe and her actual breaths will become shallow. Next is the throat. She will be able to speak for only a few moments longer and then the death-feeling will shut down all energy to her throat. The “silent treatment” that others dread is not voluntary. She cannot speak. Her eyes will suddenly become sensitive to light, and especially to people. She’ll have to avoid all eye contact, for it hurts them. After a few more minutes the life and energy is gone from her arms and legs. If she can’t cocoon, she’ll move slowly. If she can, she’ll find a safe place, curl up and become immobile. As time passes, her body feels heavier and heavier, like dirt is being piled on top of her.
In her experience, she has been completely shut down. Then the real mischief begins.
For one small, crucial part of her brain has a back up generator, which turns on as the rest herself shuts off. And it has access to a specific set of files. Let’s call it “the Rage Machine.” While she lies breathless, speechless, blind and immobile, the Rage Machine dips into all the records of irritations, annoyances, pet peeves, and any unresolved injuries. With only these to work with, the Rage Machine starts churning out speeches. Its fantasy is all-out verbal warfare. It plots revenge.
As time goes on, the Rage Machine will gather momentum. Physical proximity to the person who her hurt her feelings fuels the Rage Machine, giving it energy. Though lying buried under dirt, mute and blind, the woman may try to move to a distance from the source of the hurt, understanding intuitively that this might quiet the beast in her head. She may move to another room or out of the house altogether.
On the surface, the Rage Machine may take over the woman’s facial muscles, making her look angry or upset. But underneath its rantings, a small voice in her head is pleading for help, hoping the person who buried her might come dig her out. For he or she is the only one who can.
ON THE OTHER SIDE
Now let’s look from the point of view of the man. Why a man? Because women are more vulnerable to the men they love than anyone else on Earth. And because feelings are different for men. Or so they have told me. Men’s feelings, while just as deep and significant, don’t have the circulatory system women have. Scientists tell us that men don’t have as many connections in their brains from the feeling centers and language centers. This is good, by the way. Different but valuable for many purposes.
So, having a different relationship to feelings in general, the man does not realize that he has just hurt the woman. Whatever he did or said was not intended to be hurtful. Healthy men (which most are) never intend to hurt women. And that same remark or action would probably not have hurt him. He has no idea that her feelings are the organ at the core of her being from which all life and energy flow. No one has ever explained that to him.
After a prolonged silence, he starts to worry that she may be mad at him. He hopes this isn’t true. If he loves her, then her being mad at him is the worst thing that can happen. He is hoping, and maybe praying, that she’s upset at something else, but please, not at him. As one man expressed it, “I’d pay a million, billion, gazillion dollars for her not to be mad at me.” For a being designed to pursue success in every area, this is the worst failure. She is the sun and the moon and both have suddenly deserted his life. And he doesn’t know why.
If she does something that clearly indicates that the anger is directed at him, then hope will die, he’ll know he failed, and there is nothing to do now but fix it. If he has been able to fix it in the past, he’ll quickly respond. If he has never been able to fix it, then he’s really sunk.
Until the woman does something that overtly communicates anger, like going to sleep in the other room or stomping out of the house, he’ll keep hoping that it isn’t him. This is how the woman can be left buried under the dirt in darkness and silence for hours. He doesn’t mean to be cruel. He doesn’t know that she’s drowning and that he’s the only lifeguard.
“I’M SORRY I HURT YOU” RAISES THE DEAD
When he does go her, he’ll want to confront the anger head-on. Because he thinks it is real. He doesn’t know that it is the Rage Machine’s default program of miscellaneous junk that really didn’t bother her that much at the time. If he engages the Rage Machine by being angry himself – perhaps because it seems unfair to him that she is angry – then he’s likely to hear all the trash that has been being gathered and rehearsed. A smart man will treat it like the garbage disposal backing up. An informed man could avoid it altogether.
Beneath the anger is the hurt that shut down the whole system and enabled the Rage Machine to take over. If he says, “I’m sorry” – and means it – life will suddenly flow back into her chest and make its way to the rest of her body. It will take a while to reach all the different parts, so he should be patient. But as soon as he says, “I’m sorry”, with true kindness and remorse.
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WOMEN AS EXPLAINED BY ENGINEERS (missing the component to fill the love bucket)
Tuesday, May 11th, 2010 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Masterman, Mastermen, The Love Linguist, The Man Class Series | No Comments »For all the guys who enjoy a good laugh, and to all the ladies who have a good sense of humor.
WOMEN AS EXPLAINED BY ENGINEERS
Part I
Part II
Part III
Part IV
Part V
And Finally!
Have you ever wondered how a woman’s brain works?
Well….it’s finally explained here in one, easy-to-understand illustration:
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Every one of those little blue balls is a thought about something
that needs to be done, a decision or a problem that needs to be solved.
A man has only 2 b_ _ _ _ and they take up all his thoughts.
Note: The source of this has come in various forms in email messages on websites; original author unknown.
The LOVE LINGUIST says: The love system that explains her love bucket is easy. Guys that take the MAN CLASS SERIES can easily accelerate their knowledge and win with women. A man’s greatest asset is a woman. (yes, really!)
St. Patrick’s Pot of Gold Fills the Love Bucket!
Wednesday, March 17th, 2010 Posted in Heart, The Love Linguist | No Comments »
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Happy St. Patrick’s Day!
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May you always have work for your hands to do, May your pockets hold always May the sun shine bright on your windowpane, May the rainbow be certain May the hand of a friend always be near you, And may God fill your heart with gladness to cheer you. *Irish Blessing* |
Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist, Wishes the Luck of the Irish to You!
St. Patrick’s Day, March 17, 2010
Photos of the St. Patrick’s Day Parade in Dublin, Ireland by
Jesse Jameson – gorgeous!
MASTERMAN – Dating Over 30 – Response to Adam Gilad
Thursday, March 4th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Lifestyle, Love Bucket, Masterman, Mastermen, The Love Linguist | No Comments »My friend Adam Gilad posed a question on his blog about dating over 35 and accessing your inner king. Here is my response. The link to his blog is at the end.
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Adam,
I read your post with amusement not because the information is not good, but because, you (and everyone) see the world through your phase of life, in this case, with two teenage sons sharing custody. And, those teenage sons may be messy and have chaos in their lives. Although, they are both EXTREMELY talented and intelligent young men and you are very proud of them as you should be. Chip off the old block.
Your questions:
“How should you date after 30 – 35 – 40? Should you act different? Should you BE different?”
First, I like the title of your upcoming new book, Adam, “Embodying Mastery.” As you know, the term I use is MASTERMAN. (See definition on urban dictionary)
It is not about having order and slaying chaos as a page, prince, knight or king. Those archetypes from Tarot and other teachings are not about being a MASTERMAN. A MASTERMAN embodies all those archetypes.
About chaos. I’m known for THE LOVE BUCKET® concept. One of the rings of desire of the love bucket is LIFESTYLE. How a person lives with neatness and hygiene, finances, location of home, and the full gamut of the business of living is part of lifestyle. Some areas you can compromise on and others you can’t. But there’s more to the love bucket than lifestyle.
Next, the over-30 – 35 – 40 dating question first revolves around two big “elimination” questions:
PHASE of LIFE: Are you in the “lets play and have fun” or “let’s settle down” phase. These are not mutually exclusive but one is the prime motivator. Which is it?
KIDS: Where do you stand with kids? Do you have kids, do you want kids, does she have kids, does she want kids.
Again, your questions: “How should you date after 35? Should you act different? Should you BE different?”
The answer is not about being different. It is about being clear. Clarity in what you want in dating whether it is dating for fun or dating to get into a serious relationship. Be clear YOURSELF on the two elimination questions. Know what you want out of your phase. If you just want to play and have fun and you start dating a woman who wants to settle down and have kids you are not acting in integrity with either of your best interests.
A MASTERMAN would determine the answer to the elimination questions up front so he can act in integrity when he is dating. Remember the dating experience is for the highest good for all involved. If you don’t have clarity you’ll be wasting your time and her time.
Now about TIME: Time is an investment. As you get older, time is more in the forefront of the mind of men and women. When you date over thirty you realize that you are investing your time (and possibly your money) into the date or several dates that may lead to a relationship.
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For women, what is the TIME INVESTMENT in dating? Men need to understand and value the two very essential capital investments that a woman brings to the dating game. 1) A woman is investing HER LOOKS. 2) A woman is investing HER FERTILITY. Both LOOKS and FERTILITY have an expiration “shelf life.” |
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That is why it is so important to be clear upfront with what you want while dating as dating can lead to a relationship. If you date and she wants a commitment and kids you are spending her fertility. Over 35 it is much more serious. Enough said.
Even with LOOKS. If she wants a serious relationship, with or without kids, and the guy is spending her looks because he has no intention giving her a commitment even though you may be serious and exclusive, you are spending her looks. When a guy is “done” she is now older, has another wrinkle, and the guy is off to a younger woman.
Her LOOKS helped attract you to her. Spending her looks when she is young is not that big a deal. If you spend her looks over 35 you’ve got to keep the timeline in check past three months of dating.
So if you are not conscious or are unaware of the expiration date of these two capital investments that women bring, you become part of the angry conversation that women have about men.
So how should you BE (as a man) when dating?
Be a MASTERMAN. Here’s the MASTERMAN definition: A man who exudes mastery and integrity because he has self-discipline, confidence, clarity of purpose on a daily basis, and strategic direction of his life. Women are extremely attracted to a masterman (think Rockstar), young boys clamor to be lead by a masterman, and peers seek the counsel of a masterman often in the context of a mastermind group.
A MASTERMAN has mastered the art of initiative and positively contributes and participates in the lives of others.
A MASTERMAN is a success in all aspects of his life.
Again, a MASTERMAN would determine the answer to the elimination questions (phase and kids) up front so he can act in integrity when he is dating.
A MASTERMAN does not need validation or approval of women. A MASTERMAN has other strong men in his life in a group or BROTHERHOOD of MASTERMAN that keep each other in check, activate friendly competition, and challenge each other to rise to their greatness and potential.
The concepts and ideas here will soon in be available in a free PDF document.
To Your Love Success,
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
Adam’s Blog: http://attractconnectinspire.com/dating-after-30-accessing-your-inner-king/