Breaking Up Is Hard To Do (When The Love Bucket Is Half Full)
Monday, March 14th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Heart, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket, Love Bucket List, Lovematism, The Love Linguist | No Comments »
or… "How To Leave While You’re In Love"
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“I wish one of my relationship expert friends would write a specific article on "How To Leave While You’re In Love". This has been one of the hardest things to do because, right or wrong, I still love him so much. I just had to take a stand for real partnership that I’m committed to having in my life – so choosing to leave may hurt my heart but is a gift to my soul. (someone please write that article, though, ok???)” => So to the lovely lady who made this request, here’s your article. |
First, know that women more than men are constantly evaluating their intimate relationship. Guys, in general think everything seems good at home: she seems happy, we’re having sex, and she’s not nagging me.
Second, breaking up and leaving rarely happen in a moment. Even though there may be some incident that is the proverbial ‘straw that breaks the camel’s back’ there has been in your mind an ongoing database filled with the transgressions of your partner. This is particularly true of women. Often a break-up happens long before the friends and family know of its demise.
So why don’t we “Leave When We’re In Love?"
It is very simple. HOPE DIES LAST.
One of the most beautiful aspects of the human spirit is hope. Hope is defined as, “To wish for something with expectation of its fulfillment.” Some suggest a connection with the word ‘hop’ with the notion of "leaping in expectation."
In the back of your mind, you are thinking, “I still have hope that we can work things out”.
“I love this person. I hope he give me what I want. I hope he can fill my love bucket with my desires.”
The Love Bucket blog is about The Love Bucket®. The 7 Rings of Desire of the love bucket are the things women desire. These desires are related to passion, aspirations, expectations, and wants. To desire is to long for, a craving, and to feel the want of some object or person. Desire is also about sexual appetite and passion. With each desire comes the hope it will be fulfilled.
(Guys, if you think 7 Rings of Desire are too many, relax. Every women wants about 3-4 and it is in your power to fill her love bucket!)
When the love bucket is being filled partially, there is hope that it can be filled up and with the unique rings of desire of each woman. The Love Bucket is a concept and as such, the love bucket can be empty but the love bucket never overflows because the love bucket expands to receive more love just like the heart. If the love bucket is not being filled with the specific rings of desire at least 80% of the time, there is disillusionment, discontentment and it is possible that eventually it dries up. If there is SOMETHING in the love bucket, we don’t leave because hope exists.
Is there a solution?
Due to the nature of this page (a request from an aching heart), there are few additional materials that will be added shortly.
Look for a link to a free document that has tips for the dating process. That includes what you want on your LOVE BUCKET LIST for your Mr. Right or Ms. Right in your life.
It seems that everything gets clearer in hindsight. But, you can start over and there is a way to have a relationship that is more in alignment from the start. When you start dating again you can see who’s out there and it important to figure out more of what you want.
And remember, nobody is 100% perfect, but ask yourself what you truly want in your next relationship, and what can you do without? Breaking up is hard to do, but it happens all the time. Whether you meet up with your ex again, in this lifetime, or the next, be kind to yourself and to the one you loved.
Second, get clarity on your Relationship Design Plan. There is often a mismatch in how you both see your common goal and therefore you’ll be out of alignment. Having a “real partnership” means you have expressed to one another your relationship plan – whether a simple or grand design – no secrets or reading minds. Communication is key. This is the time for vulnerability and honesty. When you navigate to love’s true north defined by your common goal of your relationship design plan, you will be able to course correct when needed and your love bucket will continue to be filled. You may find that you do not need to break up because you simply need to make a few adjustments to your Relationship Design Plan. A little knowledge goes a long way.
Third, you may be found yourself in a Relationship by Default. Well, not exactly found, kinda wished yourself into or possibly tried to fit a “square peg into a round hole.” The yellow, pink, red warning flags were there from the beginning but you just chose to ignore them. Often this will be highlighted when someone cheats because that is not the relationship they really are meant to be in for their highest good and greatest potential.
Last, it is so important to feel you have the basis of the enduring bond of lovematism. Lovematism is such an amazing connection and intimate bond of two lovers. www.Lovematism.com
Bond of Lovematism Connections
MYSTICISM OF THE SPIRIT
Soul Connection: Practices, like praying or meditation. Spiritual philosophies or way of living. Karma or soul purpose to be together. Soul connection of two lovers.
HYPNOTISM OF THE MIND
Mindset Connection: Attitudes, perceptions, tastes, approaches, subject matter of conversation, ways of thinking, levels of consciousness, and appealing to the imagination, intelligence and intellisense of the mind. Mind connection of two lovers.
MAGNETISM OF THE BODY
Sex Connection: Sexual dimension of physical chemistry, attraction, and energy. Sexual connection of two lovers.
EMOTIONAL RHYTHM OF TWO HEARTS BEATING AS ONE
Emotion Connection: Sharing happiness, joy, fun of romance, caring, and compassion. Heartfelt love vibration, coherence and resonance. Emotional connection of two lovers.
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Another gift … in the form of a poem
How to Leave When You Still Love
by Mayana Blank on Monday, March 14, 2011 at 2:43pm
When you know in your heart what is right
And the circumstances seem wrong
When you know in your heart that the love you feel
Is not enough to balance the situation
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
When you know in your heart what you want
And the relationship falls short
You know that the soul of the one you love
Will always be within you
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
Leaving when you love someone is a hard thing to do
But staying when you know that leaving is better
Will harm the relationship so much more
That goings the thing to do
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
Loving yourself first and best seems to be the hardest test
that humans endure while living in form
We think it is selfish or egoic or wrong
But really its the right thing to do
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
When you love you first you meet your own needs
You know who you are and why you are here
You take care of your body, mind, spirit and soul
and then you love others more.
You continue to love
and then you love more
and then you realize you must love you first.
So I love me first and most and best
and then I love you and you and you
my heart is true and pure and free
and then I love others more.
Mother Mary told me as I walked away
That I could never leave anyone behind
She said that we would weave our lives in and out
In a way most beautiful and sublime
Love Bucket: God of Love Fills the Love Bucket
Tuesday, March 1st, 2011 Posted in Heart, Love Bucket, Romance, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Linguist | No Comments »
God of Love
Love… The Love Bucket… and the 2011 Oscars. The film God of Love won the Oscar® for short film.
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“God of Love” is a comedic short film written and directed by Luke Matheny who also stars in the film. The love story follows the adventures of lounge-singing darts champion Raymond Goodfellow, whose prayers are answered — literally — when he receives a package of passion-inducing darts.
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EROS was the mischievous god of love, a minion and constant companion of the goddess Aphrodite. Cupid had arrows but in the short film, God of Love, the magic is in the passion-inducing darts! |
Eros (Greek: ?, "Intimate Love"), in Greek mythology, was the primordial god of sexual love and beauty. He was also worshipped as a fertility deity. His Roman counterpart was Cupid ("desire"). In the Theogony Hesiod makes him a primordial god, while in some myths, he was the son of the deities Aphrodite and Ares.
Throughout Greek thought, there appear to be two sides to the conception of Eros. In the first, he is a primeval deity who embodies not only the force of love but also the creative urge of ever-flowing nature, the firstborn Light for the coming into being and ordering of all things in the cosmos. In Hesiod’s Theogony, the most famous Greek creation myth, Eros sprang forth from the primordial Chaos together with Gaia, the Earth, and Tartarus, the underworld; according to Aristophanes’ play The Birds (c. 414 BC), he burgeons forth from an egg laid by Nyx (Night) conceived with Erebus (Darkness). In the Eleusinian Mysteries, he was worshiped as Protogonus, the first-born.[2][3]
Worship of Eros was uncommon in early Greece, but eventually became widespread. He was fervently worshiped by a fertility cult in Thespiae, and played an important role in the Eleusinian Mysteries. In Athens, he shared a very popular cult with Aphrodite, and the fourth day of every month was sacred to him.
Eros and Psyche
The story of Eros and Psyche has a longstanding tradition as a folktale of the ancient Greco-Roman world long before it was put to print; first seen in Apuleius’ Latin novel, The Golden Ass, this is apparent and an interesting intermingling of character roles. The novel itself is picaresque Roman style, yet Psyche and Aphrodite retain their Greek parts. It is only Eros whose role hails from his part in the Roman pantheon.
The story is told as a digression and structural parallel to the main storyline of Apuleius’ novel. It tells of the struggle for love and trust between Eros and Psyche. Aphrodite is jealous of the beauty of mortal Psyche, as men are leaving her altars barren to worship a mere human woman instead, and so commands her son Eros to cause Psyche to fall in love with the ugliest creature on earth. Eros falls in love with Psyche himself and spirits her away to his home. Their fragile peace is ruined by a visit of Psyche’s jealous sisters, who cause Psyche to betray the trust of her husband. Wounded, Eros departs from his wife and Psyche wanders the earth, looking for her lost love.
source – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eros
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GOD OF LOVE
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Sherrie Rose Recommends: God of Love
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The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Ten Tips for Relationships that Fill “The Love Bucket”
Tuesday, February 8th, 2011 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Love Bucket, The Love Linguist | No Comments »
10 Tips for Relationships that Fill The Love Bucket on Valentines Day and Beyond
Happy Valentine’s on February 14th! => Monday, February 14th, 2011
Each of the love dynamics can fill the love bucket in some way. There are basically 10 tips that your lover (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, partner) can follow. This will improve your relationship and your Valentine’s Date. Note, these are not the Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket, they are basic relationship does and don’ts.
To learn more about these tips and the 5 Love Dynamics please click on the link. It is a online access that’s downloadable that may be a good gift for you and your Valentine.
Read the following tips before Valentine’s Day. It could make your day or evening more magical…
- Give your partner what he/she wants before they ask for it. Be a MASTERMAN, be a Lady Love Diplomat, be nice!
- Share in your relationship! Give as much as you receive, talk as much as you listen, pleasure as much as you enjoy. Libra, the sign of relationships is symbolized by the scales. Find harmony in interactions.
- Breathing Room. While Location, Location, Location is the real estate agents’ mantra, Space, Space, Space should be yours. Give your lover space.
- Communicate about issues immediately. Don’t wait! The longer you hold something in, the more damage it causes. It may be perceived as deception or lack of trust.
- Timing of Talk. Communicate, but not when you are emotionally charged. The clash between the opposing forces of reason and passion is well known in the ancient Greek tragedies (emphasis on the tragedy). Both energy fields of reason and passion are needed in a relationship. However, keep the reason for conversations and switch when you want the passion to lead to the bedroom.
- Gratitude. NEVER take your lover for granted! That is the apocalypse of all relationships. Always spend a few moments thanking the Universe, God, your mother-in-law and your good fortune for sending you your loved one.
- Accept Change. Relationships evolve. Change is going to happen, it’s inevitable. According to Taoism, we start our relationships with the Yang, the masculine principle, but if we want the relationship to continue to evolve we must move to the Yin, the feminine principle. In a simplistic two dimensional way, Yang is the part when we fall in love, have sex several times a day, and act all sweet and lovey-dovey. It’s super fun, but it can burn us if we don’t cool it and move to the second part, the Yin principle. Yin symbolizes the feminine energies of family, security, and commitment.
- It’s About Friends. It’s part of lifestyle. Make friends with your lover’s friends and have your lover connect to your friends. The old adage – “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.” Make sure to establish common friends as a couple. Not all, but some.
- Be forgiving. Do not punish! Forgive him or her, even if your lover is infuriating and did not wash the dishes, won’t sit beside your mother, or check the pockets and mistakenly washed your lipstick. When you punish the one closest to you, you punish yourself. It’s self-destructive.
- Oh, the MYSTERY. Always keep an element of surprise. Spontaneity, adventures, breaking the routine and doing things together that you have never done before (trying something new, camping in the wilderness, traveling to an exotic country) will generate stories that belong only to the two of you. It’s like creating your own mythology to share with family and friends. It is said, God created the Universe with a story. You can recreate your relationship with these stories that will weave your lives together.
- Bonus – CELEBRATE! Find reasons to celebrate the big and small successes in life. Create a toast, a ritual, or simply take the time to respect and honor what your lover or both of you have done. Find more reasons to cheer on and congratulate and the level of your lover’s esteem will raise in your eyes.
This article is an excerpt from Sherrie Rose’s audio recordings.
Sherrie Rose is known officially as The Love Linguist® and fondly as Lady Love Bucket.
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Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Can You Be ‘in-love’ with 2 People? (and fill the love bucket…)
Friday, December 3rd, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket, The Love Linguist | No Comments »QUESTION: Do you believe a person can be in love with 2 people at the same time?
ANSWER:
Yes, it is possible.
To sum up: We have different desires. For women their are 7 desires, which I fondly call the 7 Rings of Desire. Typically, women have 3-4 main desires. When these desires are filled it ‘fills the love bucket.’
When a man (husband/boyfriend) is not fulfilling a woman’s desire then her love bucket is not full and could be empty. If another man does fulfill these desires the feelings of love can emerge even if she is married. It is not about rationalization because there is a physiological component when the love bio chemicals surge through the body. Love is the ultimate drug.
So yes, because there are different kinds of love, a person can be in love with 2 people at the same time.
That’s the short answer. See the resources below.
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
See these resources:
First, there are different needs in any relationship. These are Love Dynamics see more:
http://5LoveDynamics.com
Then, there is the bond of love see more: http://lovematism.com
Next, we have the love biochemicals see more http://lovebiochemicals.com/love-biochemicals
Of course, there is the brain, the B spot: http://thebspot.org
Last, is filling The Love Bucket, see more: http://lovebucketblog.com (that’s this blog!)
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Text Your Woman Into Bed… The Modern Approach To A HOTTER Sex Life
Tuesday, November 16th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Love Bucket, Love Bucket Books, Masterman, Mastermen, Romance, Seduction, SEX, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Linguist, The Man Class Series | 1 Comment »
FAQ: Text Your Wife Into Bed… The Modern Approach To A HOTTER Sex Life a.k.a How To Make More Love
Texting System Created by Mr. Fiore for husbands and guys in serious relationships (click link to program here)
Q: I have a girlfriend, but I’m not married. Will Text Your Wife Into Bed still work for me?
A: Of course. I maybe shoulda called this ‘Text Your Woman Into Bed” While the step-by-step methods described in the program have been “customized” to address the needs of married couples, they work extremely well in any kind of long term relationship. In fact, several of the initial “initial testers” of the program were unmarried long term couples who reported fantastic results.
Q: Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist, says this qualifies as the CONTACT Ring of Desire of the Love Bucket. What do you know about this filling the love bucket?
A: Ahh, The Love Bucket. The love bucket really works for couples and I just said the methods in the program have been “customized” to address the needs of married couples and any kind of long term relationship. Sherrie Rose is a master of words of love a.k.a. love linguistics (that’s why she’s The Love Linguist!) and filling the love bucket is key in relationships. So to tie things together, sending the RIGHT KIND of text message surely does fulfill the Contact Ring of Desire so that you can get to the SEX Ring of Desire and fill her love bucket. Imagine, being a Love Linguist yourself and using your text and oral techniques to drive your wife or woman crazy! You win, she’s happy and satisfied…
Q: Will your seduction system work for folks who have been married for a loooong time?
A: Yup. I’ve had people who have been married just a few months use the program and have received success stories from people who have been married for over 30 years. The technology is new, but the principals I teach you are absolutely timeless. You get to be a MASTERMAN! And, what women want really does not change. 
(She wants her love bucket filled!)
Q: I don’t like “Writing,” can I still use this?
A: Definitely. The Text Your Wife Into Bed system is packed full of “written for you” text messages, story lines and ideas. While you’ll undoubtedly want to “adapt” some stuff to make it really work for Your wife, you don’t actually have to do any “writing” at all.
As I like to say “The system works so you don’t have to.”
Q: How soon can I expect to see results with your system?
A: That really depends on how committed you are to doing this and how good of a communicator you are with your wife now.
Some couples who are already pretty close say this stuff is like a firecracker in their sex lives right away. Folks who have drifted apart more often take a few days or even a week to start seeing results.
With the Icebreaker you should be having flirty, fun text conversations with your wife inside of two or three days her love bucket should be getting full and should be having a lot more fun in the bedroom inside a week.
Q: Do I need a “fancy” cell phone in order to use the Text your Wife Into Bed methods?
A: Not at all. While you’ll probably find the process easier if you have a phone with a dedicated keyboard, any cell phone with texting capabilities will do the job.
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Q: The Text Your Wife Into Bed System looks amazing, am I going to have to take a week off and lock myself in a closet to study it?
I’ve designed Text Your Wife Into Bed as a product “For guys.” That means it’s designed to be digested quickly and to get you results as fast as possible. The main training videos will take you about an hour and a half to go through (though it’s completely possible you’ll want to study them several times or review them on a regular basis.) The “Black Book” is meant to be used as a reference and “bible” for you and isn’t meant to be read cover to cover. And the “Icebreaker” is designed to get you started right away. Order the system today and you’ll be texting your wife and building heat by tomorrow morning.
THE BIG TIME TRUTH – Cutting to the chase: You’ll need to spend about 2 hours total digging through the material before you get started and will be “in action” by tomorrow. So no reading big novels like “War and Peace” or anything like that.
Q: I’ve never “Texted” before . . . should I try this?
A: There’s a first time for everything, right?
Honestly, the reason I like using texting so much for this process is because it’s a way to have a “private” conversation with your wife even when she’s out in public and living her life. If you’ve never texted before, don’t worry about it. There’s a whole process outlined in the “Icebreaker” document that explains exactly how to “warm your wife up” to receiving messages this way.
If you’ve NEVER used text messaging before AT ALL it might take you slightly longer to get “started” with this than if you’re a texting pro. But the results are the same no matter what. This stuff just works.
Q: What if my wife doesn’t like it/reacts badly/threatens me with bodily harm?
A: Funny story.
When I first created this product (and I worked on it for a LOOONG time before finally unleashing it on the world) I had a whole bunch of men and women “Initial Test” for me. I was really interested in seeing if the material was explained in a way that “anybody” could use it, and I was really interested in how women reacted to the material. Would they think it was too dirty? Would they freak out? Would they yell at me and call me a creep?
But that didn’t happen at all.
Instead I got email after email from women (thin women, fat women, old women, young women) saying “I LOVE this and I WANT MY HUSBAND TO DO THIS TO ME.” Like Sherrie Rose says: This shines the CONTACT Ring of Desire and Fills The Love Bucket.
In fact, I only got ONE negative response from a woman. (She thought some of the language I use in the product was a little too dirty. And I think it was cultural.)
So on the one hand I had women saying “I love this, I want this. Make him do this.”
And on the other hand I had MEN who emailed me and said “Hey, this stuff is great, I really think you’re on to something but I’m SCARED at what my wife will do if I try this.”
This is actually where the “Icebreaker” came from. It was a way to help “scared” guys get over their fear and start texting their wives. Hey anything that helps fill the love bucket…
What I’m trying to say is that the odds are your wife will react like my initial testers did. They’ll LOVE IT when you start sending them these little “bombs” of affection the way I show you to in the program. When you use this system her love bucket gets full and your sex life heats up!
All you’ve got to do is take the first step and order today.
Q: I’m Not From the USA. Will this program work for me?
A: “Maybe.”
If you’re from a “Western” culture everything in this program should work like gangbusters. In some other countries the “code” of how women and men interact is quite a bit different. The main principles should translate well, but you’ll need to adapt some of the idiomatic phrases and language to fit your culture.
Q: How do I actually get the program?
Great question. After you order, you’ll be asked to create an account in the Text Your Wife Into Bed online membership site. Once you log in to the site, you’ll be able to watch the videos online or download them to your hard drive to watch whenever you want.
You’ll also be able to download the e-books of the Text Your Wife Into Bed ‘Black Book’ and the Text Your Wife Into Bed ‘Ice Breaker’ to your hard drive so you can print them out.
If you’ve taken Sherrie Rose’s “The Man Class” or “5 Love Dynamics” programs you can skip the rest of this and simple order now: Text Your Wife Into Bed
What’s an e-book?
An e-book or a digital book is simply an electronic version of a book that you download and save to your computer. Instead of going to the bookstore or waiting for the mail to deliver a hard copy book, you get instant access to your product through the magic of the internet.
Once you place your order, you’ll be taken to a page with instructions on how to download the Text Your Wife Into Bed materials right away. You’ll also receive an email as a back up.
Once you download the materials (which only takes a few minutes), you’ll save them as a PDF file. A PDF file is a readable document file that you can also print out. (You’ll probably want to print out the cheat sheet, the timetable and several other parts of the Black Book.) You’ll need the Adobe PDF reader to view these downloads, which is installed on most newer computers.
You can download the free adobe reader here: http://get.adobe.com/reader/
Finally, you might feel better to see some of the other people who are just like you who have had great success (and done amazing things to their marriages) with the program
Q: I’d really like to order your system as it really looks amazing. I’m a bit nervous about using my credit card online though. How safe is it really?
A: Perfectly understandable concern. I was nervous the first time I bought something online too, but online ordering has come a LONG way since then. In fact, ordering online via credit card is now considered safer and more secure than many traditional forms of payment (ordering over the phone, etc.)
Our merchant account (through Clickbank) uses SSL (secure socket layer) technology to protect your information from being viewed by third parties. Even as the website owner, I don’t have access to the credit card information you use to place your order. On top of that, Clickbank is the most popular and frequently used online credit processing company in the world today for downloadable products. Rest assured, your transaction is secure and safe.
You can get started now. If so, just click the “Order now” button you see below and you’ll be digging into the system (and completely changing the way you interact with your wife) in just a few short minutes. This is one of the easiest ways to fill her love bucket – so just do it!
And remember, you get 30 full days to check out the system and decide if it’s for you. If not, just email me (you’ll get my private email as part of the program) and I’ll issue a full refund and thank you for trying it out. Easy peasy. No fine print.
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