Love Bucket: God of Love Fills the Love Bucket
Tuesday, March 1st, 2011 Posted in Heart, Romance, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »
God of Love
Love… The Love Bucket… and the 2011 Oscars. The film God of Love won the Oscar® for short film.
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“God of Love” is a comedic short film written and directed by Luke Matheny who also stars in the film. The love story follows the adventures of lounge-singing darts champion Raymond Goodfellow, whose prayers are answered — literally — when he receives a package of passion-inducing darts.
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EROS was the mischievous god of love, a minion and constant companion of the goddess Aphrodite. Cupid had arrows but in the short film, God of Love, the magic is in the passion-inducing darts! |
Eros (Greek: ?, "Intimate Love"), in Greek mythology, was the primordial god of sexual love and beauty. He was also worshipped as a fertility deity. His Roman counterpart was Cupid ("desire"). In the Theogony Hesiod makes him a primordial god, while in some myths, he was the son of the deities Aphrodite and Ares.
Throughout Greek thought, there appear to be two sides to the conception of Eros. In the first, he is a primeval deity who embodies not only the force of love but also the creative urge of ever-flowing nature, the firstborn Light for the coming into being and ordering of all things in the cosmos. In Hesiod’s Theogony, the most famous Greek creation myth, Eros sprang forth from the primordial Chaos together with Gaia, the Earth, and Tartarus, the underworld; according to Aristophanes’ play The Birds (c. 414 BC), he burgeons forth from an egg laid by Nyx (Night) conceived with Erebus (Darkness). In the Eleusinian Mysteries, he was worshiped as Protogonus, the first-born.[2][3]
Worship of Eros was uncommon in early Greece, but eventually became widespread. He was fervently worshiped by a fertility cult in Thespiae, and played an important role in the Eleusinian Mysteries. In Athens, he shared a very popular cult with Aphrodite, and the fourth day of every month was sacred to him.
Eros and Psyche
The story of Eros and Psyche has a longstanding tradition as a folktale of the ancient Greco-Roman world long before it was put to print; first seen in Apuleius’ Latin novel, The Golden Ass, this is apparent and an interesting intermingling of character roles. The novel itself is picaresque Roman style, yet Psyche and Aphrodite retain their Greek parts. It is only Eros whose role hails from his part in the Roman pantheon.
The story is told as a digression and structural parallel to the main storyline of Apuleius’ novel. It tells of the struggle for love and trust between Eros and Psyche. Aphrodite is jealous of the beauty of mortal Psyche, as men are leaving her altars barren to worship a mere human woman instead, and so commands her son Eros to cause Psyche to fall in love with the ugliest creature on earth. Eros falls in love with Psyche himself and spirits her away to his home. Their fragile peace is ruined by a visit of Psyche’s jealous sisters, who cause Psyche to betray the trust of her husband. Wounded, Eros departs from his wife and Psyche wanders the earth, looking for her lost love.
source – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eros
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Ten Tips for Relationships that Fill “The Love Bucket”
Tuesday, February 8th, 2011 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »
10 Tips for Relationships that Fill The Love Bucket on Valentines Day and Beyond
Happy Valentine’s on February 14th! => Monday, February 14th, 2011
Each of the love dynamics can fill the love bucket in some way. There are basically 10 tips that your lover (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, partner) can follow. This will improve your relationship and your Valentine’s Date. Note, these are not the Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket, they are basic relationship does and don’ts.
To learn more about these tips and the 5 Love Dynamics please click on the link. It is a online access that’s downloadable that may be a good gift for you and your Valentine.
Read the following tips before Valentine’s Day. It could make your day or evening more magical…
- Give your partner what he/she wants before they ask for it. Be a MASTERMAN, be a Lady Love Diplomat, be nice!
- Share in your relationship! Give as much as you receive, talk as much as you listen, pleasure as much as you enjoy. Libra, the sign of relationships is symbolized by the scales. Find harmony in interactions.
- Breathing Room. While Location, Location, Location is the real estate agents’ mantra, Space, Space, Space should be yours. Give your lover space.
- Communicate about issues immediately. Don’t wait! The longer you hold something in, the more damage it causes. It may be perceived as deception or lack of trust.
- Timing of Talk. Communicate, but not when you are emotionally charged. The clash between the opposing forces of reason and passion is well known in the ancient Greek tragedies (emphasis on the tragedy). Both energy fields of reason and passion are needed in a relationship. However, keep the reason for conversations and switch when you want the passion to lead to the bedroom.
- Gratitude. NEVER take your lover for granted! That is the apocalypse of all relationships. Always spend a few moments thanking the Universe, God, your mother-in-law and your good fortune for sending you your loved one.
- Accept Change. Relationships evolve. Change is going to happen, it’s inevitable. According to Taoism, we start our relationships with the Yang, the masculine principle, but if we want the relationship to continue to evolve we must move to the Yin, the feminine principle. In a simplistic two dimensional way, Yang is the part when we fall in love, have sex several times a day, and act all sweet and lovey-dovey. It’s super fun, but it can burn us if we don’t cool it and move to the second part, the Yin principle. Yin symbolizes the feminine energies of family, security, and commitment.
- It’s About Friends. It’s part of lifestyle. Make friends with your lover’s friends and have your lover connect to your friends. The old adage – “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.” Make sure to establish common friends as a couple. Not all, but some.
- Be forgiving. Do not punish! Forgive him or her, even if your lover is infuriating and did not wash the dishes, won’t sit beside your mother, or check the pockets and mistakenly washed your lipstick. When you punish the one closest to you, you punish yourself. It’s self-destructive.
- Oh, the MYSTERY. Always keep an element of surprise. Spontaneity, adventures, breaking the routine and doing things together that you have never done before (trying something new, camping in the wilderness, traveling to an exotic country) will generate stories that belong only to the two of you. It’s like creating your own mythology to share with family and friends. It is said, God created the Universe with a story. You can recreate your relationship with these stories that will weave your lives together.
- Bonus – CELEBRATE! Find reasons to celebrate the big and small successes in life. Create a toast, a ritual, or simply take the time to respect and honor what your lover or both of you have done. Find more reasons to cheer on and congratulate and the level of your lover’s esteem will raise in your eyes.
This article is an excerpt from Sherrie Rose’s audio recordings.
Sherrie Rose is known officially as The Love Linguist® and fondly as Lady Love Bucket.
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Can You Be ‘in-love’ with 2 People? (and fill the love bucket…)
Friday, December 3rd, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »QUESTION: Do you believe a person can be in love with 2 people at the same time?
ANSWER:
Yes, it is possible.
To sum up: We have different desires. For women their are 7 desires, which I fondly call the 7 Rings of Desire. Typically, women have 3-4 main desires. When these desires are filled it ‘fills the love bucket.’
When a man (husband/boyfriend) is not fulfilling a woman’s desire then her love bucket is not full and could be empty. If another man does fulfill these desires the feelings of love can emerge even if she is married. It is not about rationalization because there is a physiological component when the love bio chemicals surge through the body. Love is the ultimate drug.
So yes, because there are different kinds of love, a person can be in love with 2 people at the same time.
That’s the short answer. See the resources below.
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
See these resources:
First, there are different needs in any relationship. These are Love Dynamics see more:
http://5LoveDynamics.com
Then, there is the bond of love see more: http://lovematism.com
Next, we have the love biochemicals see more http://lovebiochemicals.com/love-biochemicals
Of course, there is the brain, the B spot: http://thebspot.org
Last, is filling The Love Bucket, see more: http://lovebucketblog.com (that’s this blog!)
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Text Your Woman Into Bed… The Modern Approach To A HOTTER Sex Life
Tuesday, November 16th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Love Bucket Books, Masterman, Mastermen, Romance, Seduction, SEX, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist®, The Man Class Series | 1 Comment »
FAQ: Text Your Wife Into Bed… The Modern Approach To A HOTTER Sex Life a.k.a How To Make More Love
Texting System Created by Mr. Fiore for husbands and guys in serious relationships (click link to program here)
Q: I have a girlfriend, but I’m not married. Will Text Your Wife Into Bed still work for me?
A: Of course. I maybe shoulda called this ‘Text Your Woman Into Bed” While the step-by-step methods described in the program have been “customized” to address the needs of married couples, they work extremely well in any kind of long term relationship. In fact, several of the initial “initial testers” of the program were unmarried long term couples who reported fantastic results.
Q: Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist, says this qualifies as the CONTACT Ring of Desire of the Love Bucket. What do you know about this filling the love bucket?
A: Ahh, The Love Bucket. The love bucket really works for couples and I just said the methods in the program have been “customized” to address the needs of married couples and any kind of long term relationship. Sherrie Rose is a master of words of love a.k.a. love linguistics (that’s why she’s The Love Linguist!) and filling the love bucket is key in relationships. So to tie things together, sending the RIGHT KIND of text message surely does fulfill the Contact Ring of Desire so that you can get to the SEX Ring of Desire and fill her love bucket. Imagine, being a Love Linguist yourself and using your text and oral techniques to drive your wife or woman crazy! You win, she’s happy and satisfied…
Q: Will your seduction system work for folks who have been married for a loooong time?
A: Yup. I’ve had people who have been married just a few months use the program and have received success stories from people who have been married for over 30 years. The technology is new, but the principals I teach you are absolutely timeless. You get to be a MASTERMAN! And, what women want really does not change. 
(She wants her love bucket filled!)
Q: I don’t like “Writing,” can I still use this?
A: Definitely. The Text Your Wife Into Bed system is packed full of “written for you” text messages, story lines and ideas. While you’ll undoubtedly want to “adapt” some stuff to make it really work for Your wife, you don’t actually have to do any “writing” at all.
As I like to say “The system works so you don’t have to.”
Q: How soon can I expect to see results with your system?
A: That really depends on how committed you are to doing this and how good of a communicator you are with your wife now.
Some couples who are already pretty close say this stuff is like a firecracker in their sex lives right away. Folks who have drifted apart more often take a few days or even a week to start seeing results.
With the Icebreaker you should be having flirty, fun text conversations with your wife inside of two or three days her love bucket should be getting full and should be having a lot more fun in the bedroom inside a week.
Q: Do I need a “fancy” cell phone in order to use the Text your Wife Into Bed methods?
A: Not at all. While you’ll probably find the process easier if you have a phone with a dedicated keyboard, any cell phone with texting capabilities will do the job.
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Q: The Text Your Wife Into Bed System looks amazing, am I going to have to take a week off and lock myself in a closet to study it?
I’ve designed Text Your Wife Into Bed as a product “For guys.” That means it’s designed to be digested quickly and to get you results as fast as possible. The main training videos will take you about an hour and a half to go through (though it’s completely possible you’ll want to study them several times or review them on a regular basis.) The “Black Book” is meant to be used as a reference and “bible” for you and isn’t meant to be read cover to cover. And the “Icebreaker” is designed to get you started right away. Order the system today and you’ll be texting your wife and building heat by tomorrow morning.
THE BIG TIME TRUTH – Cutting to the chase: You’ll need to spend about 2 hours total digging through the material before you get started and will be “in action” by tomorrow. So no reading big novels like “War and Peace” or anything like that.
Q: I’ve never “Texted” before . . . should I try this?
A: There’s a first time for everything, right?
Honestly, the reason I like using texting so much for this process is because it’s a way to have a “private” conversation with your wife even when she’s out in public and living her life. If you’ve never texted before, don’t worry about it. There’s a whole process outlined in the “Icebreaker” document that explains exactly how to “warm your wife up” to receiving messages this way.
If you’ve NEVER used text messaging before AT ALL it might take you slightly longer to get “started” with this than if you’re a texting pro. But the results are the same no matter what. This stuff just works.
Q: What if my wife doesn’t like it/reacts badly/threatens me with bodily harm?
A: Funny story.
When I first created this product (and I worked on it for a LOOONG time before finally unleashing it on the world) I had a whole bunch of men and women “Initial Test” for me. I was really interested in seeing if the material was explained in a way that “anybody” could use it, and I was really interested in how women reacted to the material. Would they think it was too dirty? Would they freak out? Would they yell at me and call me a creep?
But that didn’t happen at all.
Instead I got email after email from women (thin women, fat women, old women, young women) saying “I LOVE this and I WANT MY HUSBAND TO DO THIS TO ME.” Like Sherrie Rose says: This shines the CONTACT Ring of Desire and Fills The Love Bucket.
In fact, I only got ONE negative response from a woman. (She thought some of the language I use in the product was a little too dirty. And I think it was cultural.)
So on the one hand I had women saying “I love this, I want this. Make him do this.”
And on the other hand I had MEN who emailed me and said “Hey, this stuff is great, I really think you’re on to something but I’m SCARED at what my wife will do if I try this.”
This is actually where the “Icebreaker” came from. It was a way to help “scared” guys get over their fear and start texting their wives. Hey anything that helps fill the love bucket…
What I’m trying to say is that the odds are your wife will react like my initial testers did. They’ll LOVE IT when you start sending them these little “bombs” of affection the way I show you to in the program. When you use this system her love bucket gets full and your sex life heats up!
All you’ve got to do is take the first step and order today.
Q: I’m Not From the USA. Will this program work for me?
A: “Maybe.”
If you’re from a “Western” culture everything in this program should work like gangbusters. In some other countries the “code” of how women and men interact is quite a bit different. The main principles should translate well, but you’ll need to adapt some of the idiomatic phrases and language to fit your culture.
Q: How do I actually get the program?
Great question. After you order, you’ll be asked to create an account in the Text Your Wife Into Bed online membership site. Once you log in to the site, you’ll be able to watch the videos online or download them to your hard drive to watch whenever you want.
You’ll also be able to download the e-books of the Text Your Wife Into Bed ‘Black Book’ and the Text Your Wife Into Bed ‘Ice Breaker’ to your hard drive so you can print them out.
If you’ve taken Sherrie Rose’s “The Man Class” or “5 Love Dynamics” programs you can skip the rest of this and simple order now: Text Your Wife Into Bed
What’s an e-book?
An e-book or a digital book is simply an electronic version of a book that you download and save to your computer. Instead of going to the bookstore or waiting for the mail to deliver a hard copy book, you get instant access to your product through the magic of the internet.
Once you place your order, you’ll be taken to a page with instructions on how to download the Text Your Wife Into Bed materials right away. You’ll also receive an email as a back up.
Once you download the materials (which only takes a few minutes), you’ll save them as a PDF file. A PDF file is a readable document file that you can also print out. (You’ll probably want to print out the cheat sheet, the timetable and several other parts of the Black Book.) You’ll need the Adobe PDF reader to view these downloads, which is installed on most newer computers.
You can download the free adobe reader here: http://get.adobe.com/reader/
Finally, you might feel better to see some of the other people who are just like you who have had great success (and done amazing things to their marriages) with the program
Q: I’d really like to order your system as it really looks amazing. I’m a bit nervous about using my credit card online though. How safe is it really?
A: Perfectly understandable concern. I was nervous the first time I bought something online too, but online ordering has come a LONG way since then. In fact, ordering online via credit card is now considered safer and more secure than many traditional forms of payment (ordering over the phone, etc.)
Our merchant account (through Clickbank) uses SSL (secure socket layer) technology to protect your information from being viewed by third parties. Even as the website owner, I don’t have access to the credit card information you use to place your order. On top of that, Clickbank is the most popular and frequently used online credit processing company in the world today for downloadable products. Rest assured, your transaction is secure and safe.
You can get started now. If so, just click the “Order now” button you see below and you’ll be digging into the system (and completely changing the way you interact with your wife) in just a few short minutes. This is one of the easiest ways to fill her love bucket – so just do it!
And remember, you get 30 full days to check out the system and decide if it’s for you. If not, just email me (you’ll get my private email as part of the program) and I’ll issue a full refund and thank you for trying it out. Easy peasy. No fine print.
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The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire & Appreciation
Monday, September 27th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Heart, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist®, The Man Class Series | 3 Comments »The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire & Appreciation
The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire has three parts. It is that you recognize a woman’s 1) APPEARANCE 2) ACTIONS 3) ESSENCE. That seems simple enough.
David Shade says that for a married woman to be fulfilled a woman absolutely must have four key things to feel happy in her marriage. She must… 1) Feel special and appreciated, 2) Feel a deep emotional connection, 3) Feel feminine, beautiful, and sexy, 4) Get hot passionate sex. This is part of becoming a Masterman Lover.
As you know, sex is one of the Rings of Desire of the love bucket. There are 7 Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket. The Love Bucket and the 7 Rings are Desire are a registered trademarks presented by Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist.
The first three things that David mentions are part of the Recognition Ring of Desire. There are ways to open up a woman to higher levels of sexual dimension such as knowing all about female orgasm.
The others David mentions all happen when you recognize a woman’s 1) APPEARANCE that causes her to feel feminine, beautiful, and sexy.
And when you recognize a woman’s 2) ACTIONS that causes her to feel special and appreciated.
And when you recognize a woman’s 3) ESSENCE that then causes her to feel a deep emotional connection. Her essence is her spirit.
The Recognition Ring of Desire is on most every woman’s list of her top 3 rings of desire.
You can recognize a woman in many ways with words, actions, participation and contribution. The key is that you initiate the recognition and that you have the INTENTION to recognize her whether you are giving her RECOGNITION FOR HER 1) Appearance 2) Actions 3) Essence.
It is the impact of intention that makes the recognition powerful. Recognition comes before and with appreciation. You must be conscious and have intention of what you are recognizing. If it comes with appreciation, a woman will swoon and her heart will open to more love (and her love bucket will expand to receive the love).
As stated earlier, there are ways to open up a woman to higher levels of sexual dimension and the simplest is the recognition ring of desire when let her know through words and actions that you appreciate her appearance, actions, and essence. That is a huge turn on of her B spot and that’s a pretty direct connection to her O spot.
THE TRINITY OF APPRECIATION
Appreciation is the quickest and simplest gateway to a higher dimension.
This was a statement about appreciation by one of my mentors that I appreciate and remember often.
Appreciation is a miraculous portal into new awareness, empowerment, innovation, inspiration, insight, and delight. It benefits our health, our brain function, and our quality of life in every way. And it’s free!
We know that appreciation creates a uniquely ordered pattern in the heart’s rhythm which benefits our overall health and performance, it boosts our immunity, and it more than quintuples the efficiency and power output of the heart.
It is no mistake that the word “Appreciation” also means “to increase in value.” What we appreciate becomes more valuable to us, and through us. As we literally boost our own vitality, efficiency, brain power, and heart power with appreciation, we become of greater tangible value too (both to ourselves and to others). We are stronger physically, more resilient emotionally, more loving and allowing of others and appreciative of their value. Colors are brighter, tastes are more succulent, life overall is more vibrant when we appreciate.
With so many benefits of appreciation, we have to wonder, “Why we don’t appreciate more?” Appreciation is like a tuning fork for good in our lives, clearing the static on the line to hearing our heart’s signals. It knocks the rust and dust off of our ability to receive and perceive what we already have, and opens pathways to receive and perceive even more.
What if everything in life were designed to be appreciated? What if everything that has ever happened, everyone you have ever encountered, every life situation, has been a gift from your own higher self? Even the things you complain about, resent, regret, lament? Entertaining the possibility that everything that comes your way is a gift of some sort just waiting to be opened with the instrument of your appreciation is to peer through the window of the heart’s perception of things. My heart, when I can clear the static on the line to hearing its guidance, always shows me an angle to appreciate whatever situation I am in.
However, it is not easy to appreciate that fact, at least not all the time. One day when I was really having trouble appreciating something that was said to me, my heart created a tool to use which it called, “The triangle of appreciation.” It gave me three points of appreciation, a calibration system by which I could always find something to be grateful for in any given situation. It is amazing how this simple little tool has changed my life. Start by imagining a triangle.
The Triangle of Appreciation
Appreciating Challenge = Soul’s View and Personal Growth (Top)
Appreciating Process = Requires Understanding, Compassion, and Allowing (Left)
Appreciating Value = Automatic and Raw (Right)
Appreciating Value = Automatic and Raw
The bottom right hand corner of the triangle represents things that you automatically appreciate. This zone belongs to things that have inherent value to you, simply as they are. Like chocolate and… Great sex. 
A blossoming rose. A beautiful sunset. Your favorite music, or skiing, or a great novel, or your best friend’s sense of humor. These are things that you automatically appreciate- things that you are naturally drawn to and love without effort. They give you direct access to raw appreciation of what is.
Appreciating Process = Requires Understanding, Compassion, and Allowing
The bottom left corner of the triangle belongs to the zone of things and people that are harder to appreciate. It is harder to appreciate being stood up by someone, or a toddler screaming after hitting their head on the corner of the coffee table as they learn how to walk. What you can appreciate in those situations is the growth process the person is in- you can appreciate where they are in their journey and have compassion for their process. In this way, compassion is a form of appreciation, a form of appreciating where a person or a situation is currently and where they are going. This type of appreciation includes understanding, and allowing. It appreciates process where the first type of appreciation enjoys the fruits of process, the results. When you appreciate where you or another person is in their growth, that appreciation is a form of care. It creates a coherent heart field that automatically radiates outward from you as support.
There is a power and value ignited when you appreciate the process something or someone is in, where they are now and where they are going. This is to appreciate evolution, growth, and change, and in appreciating that, to support it. In the Talmud it says, “Every grass blade has an angel over it whispering, “Grow, grow, grow.” When you appreciate things and people in their growth, without needing them to be perfect, you become the angel that facilitates their evolution and growth. This is a very exciting form of appreciation when you can key into its potency. It ultimately brings you back to the right side of our triangle or cross, where you appreciate the inherent value of things. Because when you can truly celebrate and thereby support the growth and evolution of something, you tap into its essence beyond the temporary struggle or challenge it faces. And at the core essence of things there is always something to appreciate.
Appreciating Challenge = Soul’s View and Personal Growth
If your life mirrors mine, there are also some things that seem simply impossible to appreciate at all.
Things that don’t seem to have intrinsic value, and don’t seem to be evolving or growing or changing.
Things that you just plain wish did not happen or did not exist. These are the toughest things to appreciate. These people, behaviors, situations, events, go at the very top of the triangle. How’s that? How can the things that bottom you out be at the top?
These are the things that are growing you. They are stretching you beyond your comfort zone or beyond your appreciation muscle where it currently is. When you can at least appreciate that they’re bringing you growth, you can still tap into all the physical, emotional and spiritual benefits of appreciation, and still stand a good chance of getting the gift these irritants are the carrier pigeons of. It is this category of things that deepen us the most and cause us to rise the highest in our individual personal growth.
These are the life situations which most support us to deepen in our hearts and challenge us to reach for the pinnacle of perception from a higher point of view. These are they grains of sand in the oyster shell that will turn us into pearls with a little appreciation. They are the pressure on our coal to turn us into diamonds. At the very least, our efforts to appreciate in the face of a challenge strengthens our muscle to appreciate what is around us and fills us with more of the other two forms of appreciation.
The very top of the triangle is the top down perspective- it is your soul’s view of things. What I experience at the top of the cross of appreciation is the insight and growth of the pinnacle of the triangle, after I am willing to go deep and appreciate the things that are the most difficult to appreciate, the things that are demanding that I grow and change my points of view. Going deep down to appreciate that which is difficult is like a giant tree rooting deeper, which allows it to grow higher. As soon as you can appreciate a challenge, the appreciation itself facilitates your higher brain function through heart coherence, and you get to see the challenge itself in a new way. But it does more than that. As it facilitates your higher brain to perceive challenges in a new way, appreciation also opens your senses to receive more of life and therefore amplifies and increases your experience of intrinsic value all around you. How much of life do you want to receive? Appreciation is an access code to receiving immediate abundance and prosperity, without anything else in your world changing. The deeper your foundation, the wider your reach can be.
Filled With Appreciation: Manya, an great example for all
I have never met anyone who was more filled with appreciation than Manya, my beloved adopted German grandmother who survived Auschwitz as a teenager. Manya was like an angel that appeared in my life. Because I nearly crumpled at times under what I perceived to be minor challenges, I always wondered how a person could survive something as devastating as the holocaust. When I helped Manya to transcribe her life story into book form, she brought the answer to that question to me: appreciation. While she did not appreciate what the Nazis did to her, she appreciated how spiritually connected and strong the challenges she faced made her. This did not show up for her as a Pollyanna cover-up approach during the holocaust. It was a real and genuine power tool that she attributes to saving her life. It amazes me how Manya, in the worst of circumstances, could always find something to appreciate. In Auschwitz she described the tar roofed bunkers, which delighted her because without proper clothes in the freezing cold Polish winter, she could lean against them during the day and warm herself as the tar heated in the sun. She also loved to sing, and because she appreciated singing so much, she would sing to the other children in the camp to soothe them. A woman walking by the camp heard her, and demanded that the camp guards allow her to take Manya home because she loved her voice. Appreciation got Manya out of the camps, and led her to be one of the few people that was rescued from the Shoah and brought by boat to the United States by Franklin Roosevelt. Now, she is the most joyful person I know to do things with because she notices the simplest details wherever we are, and she appreciates everything. From the color someone has chosen for the trim in their room, to the cherry tomatoes fresh out of the garden, you can bet that Manya will notice and acknowledge everything with gratitude. Nothing slips through her appreciative eye. Because so much was taken from her in her life, she appreciates for dear life all that she has. And it is contagious- everyone, of all ages, clamors to be around Manya because she has so little entitlement and so much gratitude.
Appreciation Frees Us
Appreciation frees us of the bondage of judgments and affords us greater understanding. When people behave in ways that are difficult for us to understand or difficult for us to relate with they are generally out of balance in some way. This means that their heart rhythms are disordered, they are agitated and uncomfortable, and their higher brain centers are shut down. Whatever a person in this incoherent state says or does has less conscious accountability than someone who is actively appreciating. When you really understand this, it is natural not to take people’s criticisms, attacks, or agitation personally, and to respond with compassion for the discomfort and distortion they must be in. Your compassion is a form of appreciation for their situation, and it radiates in their direction to support more coherence, more clarity, more release and more growth. It is a win/win.
Appreciate the Inherent Value Of Things
I have come to a place where I don’t appreciate the things that grow me any less than I appreciate the inherent value of things. I don’t see challenges as a downer anymore, only because I was taught to look at them through the heart. My heart values my growth as a spirit above all else. I value the relationships that challenge me. I seek out relationships that grow me.
Appreciate Difficult Things To Appreciate
How wide and how deep do you want your triangle to go? The more you appreciate difficult things to appreciate, the deeper it goes, the more foundation it has, the wider the spectrum of value you can experience in life, and the higher your view can ascend to see things in a new and insightful way.
With care from the heart,
Sheva Carr
The Triangle of Appreciation http://fyera.com
The Recognition Ring of Desire is part of the Love Bucket by Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist and taught in The Man Class Series
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