Every Man Should Know How To… Fill Her Love Bucket!
Tuesday, May 24th, 2011 Posted in Masterman, Mastermen, The Love Bucket®, The Man Class Series | No Comments »
#everymanshouldknowhowto – The Twitter hashtag (#) that has been the rage is Every Man Should Know How To followed by a suggestion or comment.
Of course, it is obvious that Every Man Should Know How To… Fill Her Love Bucket!
There are a few more variations on the theme all noted in the image above. So Get The Secrets of Her Love Bucket and Drive Her Desire (because the Rings of Desire are every woman’s desires)
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Love Bucket: Does an Ice Cream Sundae Fill The Love Bucket?
Sunday, April 3rd, 2011 Posted in Gifts, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket Books, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist®, The Man Class Series | No Comments »
Today is Sunday, Ice Cream Sundae. The 119th Anniversary.
Does an Ice Cream Sundae Fill The Love Bucket? I guess it depends on you’re your unique requests that fill the provisions Ring of Desire of the Love Bucket.
First, about the ice cream sundae.
Sundaes have been pleasuring our collective senses ever since 1892, when an enterprising Ithaca, New York, soda fountain proprietor accessorized a scoop of ice cream with sweet syrup and candied cherry, then named it after the Sunday Sabbath. A sundae is not just any dish, but a dessert that is original, enduring, and authentically American. For well over a century, the ice cream sundae has been a symbol of our abundance and appetite, our ingenuity, and our never-lost youth. In their assembly, sundaes provide an unrestrained opportunity to express our essential character.
Now, about ‘The Love Bucket.’
The Love Bucket® has been filling up and shining our Rings of Desire® since 2008, when an flustered husband, with an nagging wife, was told that he was not filling her love bucket. The Love Linguist® explained that when her love bucket is full, he’s the hero, she’s happy, and your love and sex life ignite. The Love Linguist® wrote about this concept in a book entitled the 7 Ways to Fill Her Love Bucket that creates more relationship riches. The Love Linguist® was interviewed by David DeAngelo subsequently created a program, called The Man Class Series to accelerate men’s benevolent power position with knowledge that can even turn an average guy into a masterman.
So, does an ice cream sundae fill the love bucket?
When a man provided something a woman wants, needs, requests, or assumes she would like, then it usually does fill a gals love bucket. He ability to receive, be gracious, and appreciative makes her a Love Diplomat. Note: if she is on a diet it probably best not to surprise her with an ice cream sundae.
In any case, may all the sweetness you desire fill your love bucket!
Ice Cream Sundae Sources:
1880s: Historical Event/Fact, by Tamara K. Gross.
A Month of Sundaes: Ithaca’s Gift to the World, by Michael Turback, Red Rock Press, New York, NY, 2002. – Official Website of the Ice Cream Sundae.
Bruce Stoff, Marketing Communications Manager, Ithaca/Tompkins Convention & Visitors Bureau.
Chocolate, Strawberry, and Vanilla: A History of American Ice Cream, by Ann Cooper Funderburg, published by Bowling Green State University Popular Press, 1995.
Greek Trivia: Sweetness and Lies.
History of the Ice Cream Sundae, by Mr. Richard Lloyd Jones, Tulsa Tribune, Evanston Public Library.
Meredith Buchberg and Laura Willemsen, Corson Fellow interns at The History Center in Tompkins county in 2007.
Official website of the Ice Cream Sundae.
Sundae Best: A History of Soda Fountains, by Anne Funderburg, Popular Press, an imprint of University of Wisconsin Press, 2003.
Two Rivers Historical Society, The REAL Birthplace of the Ice Cream Sundae.
Welcome to Ithaca, Home of the Ice Cream Sundae. Copies of the original documents presented here are on display for public review at the History Center in Tompkins County.
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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Text Your Woman Into Bed… The Modern Approach To A HOTTER Sex Life
Tuesday, November 16th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Love Bucket Books, Masterman, Mastermen, Romance, Seduction, SEX, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist®, The Man Class Series | 1 Comment »
FAQ: Text Your Wife Into Bed… The Modern Approach To A HOTTER Sex Life a.k.a How To Make More Love
Texting System Created by Mr. Fiore for husbands and guys in serious relationships (click link to program here)
Q: I have a girlfriend, but I’m not married. Will Text Your Wife Into Bed still work for me?
A: Of course. I maybe shoulda called this ‘Text Your Woman Into Bed” While the step-by-step methods described in the program have been “customized” to address the needs of married couples, they work extremely well in any kind of long term relationship. In fact, several of the initial “initial testers” of the program were unmarried long term couples who reported fantastic results.
Q: Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist, says this qualifies as the CONTACT Ring of Desire of the Love Bucket. What do you know about this filling the love bucket?
A: Ahh, The Love Bucket. The love bucket really works for couples and I just said the methods in the program have been “customized” to address the needs of married couples and any kind of long term relationship. Sherrie Rose is a master of words of love a.k.a. love linguistics (that’s why she’s The Love Linguist!) and filling the love bucket is key in relationships. So to tie things together, sending the RIGHT KIND of text message surely does fulfill the Contact Ring of Desire so that you can get to the SEX Ring of Desire and fill her love bucket. Imagine, being a Love Linguist yourself and using your text and oral techniques to drive your wife or woman crazy! You win, she’s happy and satisfied…
Q: Will your seduction system work for folks who have been married for a loooong time?
A: Yup. I’ve had people who have been married just a few months use the program and have received success stories from people who have been married for over 30 years. The technology is new, but the principals I teach you are absolutely timeless. You get to be a MASTERMAN! And, what women want really does not change. 
(She wants her love bucket filled!)
Q: I don’t like “Writing,” can I still use this?
A: Definitely. The Text Your Wife Into Bed system is packed full of “written for you” text messages, story lines and ideas. While you’ll undoubtedly want to “adapt” some stuff to make it really work for Your wife, you don’t actually have to do any “writing” at all.
As I like to say “The system works so you don’t have to.”
Q: How soon can I expect to see results with your system?
A: That really depends on how committed you are to doing this and how good of a communicator you are with your wife now.
Some couples who are already pretty close say this stuff is like a firecracker in their sex lives right away. Folks who have drifted apart more often take a few days or even a week to start seeing results.
With the Icebreaker you should be having flirty, fun text conversations with your wife inside of two or three days her love bucket should be getting full and should be having a lot more fun in the bedroom inside a week.
Q: Do I need a “fancy” cell phone in order to use the Text your Wife Into Bed methods?
A: Not at all. While you’ll probably find the process easier if you have a phone with a dedicated keyboard, any cell phone with texting capabilities will do the job.
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Q: The Text Your Wife Into Bed System looks amazing, am I going to have to take a week off and lock myself in a closet to study it?
I’ve designed Text Your Wife Into Bed as a product “For guys.” That means it’s designed to be digested quickly and to get you results as fast as possible. The main training videos will take you about an hour and a half to go through (though it’s completely possible you’ll want to study them several times or review them on a regular basis.) The “Black Book” is meant to be used as a reference and “bible” for you and isn’t meant to be read cover to cover. And the “Icebreaker” is designed to get you started right away. Order the system today and you’ll be texting your wife and building heat by tomorrow morning.
THE BIG TIME TRUTH – Cutting to the chase: You’ll need to spend about 2 hours total digging through the material before you get started and will be “in action” by tomorrow. So no reading big novels like “War and Peace” or anything like that.
Q: I’ve never “Texted” before . . . should I try this?
A: There’s a first time for everything, right?
Honestly, the reason I like using texting so much for this process is because it’s a way to have a “private” conversation with your wife even when she’s out in public and living her life. If you’ve never texted before, don’t worry about it. There’s a whole process outlined in the “Icebreaker” document that explains exactly how to “warm your wife up” to receiving messages this way.
If you’ve NEVER used text messaging before AT ALL it might take you slightly longer to get “started” with this than if you’re a texting pro. But the results are the same no matter what. This stuff just works.
Q: What if my wife doesn’t like it/reacts badly/threatens me with bodily harm?
A: Funny story.
When I first created this product (and I worked on it for a LOOONG time before finally unleashing it on the world) I had a whole bunch of men and women “Initial Test” for me. I was really interested in seeing if the material was explained in a way that “anybody” could use it, and I was really interested in how women reacted to the material. Would they think it was too dirty? Would they freak out? Would they yell at me and call me a creep?
But that didn’t happen at all.
Instead I got email after email from women (thin women, fat women, old women, young women) saying “I LOVE this and I WANT MY HUSBAND TO DO THIS TO ME.” Like Sherrie Rose says: This shines the CONTACT Ring of Desire and Fills The Love Bucket.
In fact, I only got ONE negative response from a woman. (She thought some of the language I use in the product was a little too dirty. And I think it was cultural.)
So on the one hand I had women saying “I love this, I want this. Make him do this.”
And on the other hand I had MEN who emailed me and said “Hey, this stuff is great, I really think you’re on to something but I’m SCARED at what my wife will do if I try this.”
This is actually where the “Icebreaker” came from. It was a way to help “scared” guys get over their fear and start texting their wives. Hey anything that helps fill the love bucket…
What I’m trying to say is that the odds are your wife will react like my initial testers did. They’ll LOVE IT when you start sending them these little “bombs” of affection the way I show you to in the program. When you use this system her love bucket gets full and your sex life heats up!
All you’ve got to do is take the first step and order today.
Q: I’m Not From the USA. Will this program work for me?
A: “Maybe.”
If you’re from a “Western” culture everything in this program should work like gangbusters. In some other countries the “code” of how women and men interact is quite a bit different. The main principles should translate well, but you’ll need to adapt some of the idiomatic phrases and language to fit your culture.
Q: How do I actually get the program?
Great question. After you order, you’ll be asked to create an account in the Text Your Wife Into Bed online membership site. Once you log in to the site, you’ll be able to watch the videos online or download them to your hard drive to watch whenever you want.
You’ll also be able to download the e-books of the Text Your Wife Into Bed ‘Black Book’ and the Text Your Wife Into Bed ‘Ice Breaker’ to your hard drive so you can print them out.
If you’ve taken Sherrie Rose’s “The Man Class” or “5 Love Dynamics” programs you can skip the rest of this and simple order now: Text Your Wife Into Bed
What’s an e-book?
An e-book or a digital book is simply an electronic version of a book that you download and save to your computer. Instead of going to the bookstore or waiting for the mail to deliver a hard copy book, you get instant access to your product through the magic of the internet.
Once you place your order, you’ll be taken to a page with instructions on how to download the Text Your Wife Into Bed materials right away. You’ll also receive an email as a back up.
Once you download the materials (which only takes a few minutes), you’ll save them as a PDF file. A PDF file is a readable document file that you can also print out. (You’ll probably want to print out the cheat sheet, the timetable and several other parts of the Black Book.) You’ll need the Adobe PDF reader to view these downloads, which is installed on most newer computers.
You can download the free adobe reader here: http://get.adobe.com/reader/
Finally, you might feel better to see some of the other people who are just like you who have had great success (and done amazing things to their marriages) with the program
Q: I’d really like to order your system as it really looks amazing. I’m a bit nervous about using my credit card online though. How safe is it really?
A: Perfectly understandable concern. I was nervous the first time I bought something online too, but online ordering has come a LONG way since then. In fact, ordering online via credit card is now considered safer and more secure than many traditional forms of payment (ordering over the phone, etc.)
Our merchant account (through Clickbank) uses SSL (secure socket layer) technology to protect your information from being viewed by third parties. Even as the website owner, I don’t have access to the credit card information you use to place your order. On top of that, Clickbank is the most popular and frequently used online credit processing company in the world today for downloadable products. Rest assured, your transaction is secure and safe.
You can get started now. If so, just click the “Order now” button you see below and you’ll be digging into the system (and completely changing the way you interact with your wife) in just a few short minutes. This is one of the easiest ways to fill her love bucket – so just do it!
And remember, you get 30 full days to check out the system and decide if it’s for you. If not, just email me (you’ll get my private email as part of the program) and I’ll issue a full refund and thank you for trying it out. Easy peasy. No fine print.
Get Yours Order Now: Text Your Wife Into Bed
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Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire & Appreciation
Monday, September 27th, 2010 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Heart, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist®, The Man Class Series | 3 Comments »The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire & Appreciation
The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire has three parts. It is that you recognize a woman’s 1) APPEARANCE 2) ACTIONS 3) ESSENCE. That seems simple enough.
David Shade says that for a married woman to be fulfilled a woman absolutely must have four key things to feel happy in her marriage. She must… 1) Feel special and appreciated, 2) Feel a deep emotional connection, 3) Feel feminine, beautiful, and sexy, 4) Get hot passionate sex. This is part of becoming a Masterman Lover.
As you know, sex is one of the Rings of Desire of the love bucket. There are 7 Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket. The Love Bucket and the 7 Rings are Desire are a registered trademarks presented by Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist.
The first three things that David mentions are part of the Recognition Ring of Desire. There are ways to open up a woman to higher levels of sexual dimension such as knowing all about female orgasm.
The others David mentions all happen when you recognize a woman’s 1) APPEARANCE that causes her to feel feminine, beautiful, and sexy.
And when you recognize a woman’s 2) ACTIONS that causes her to feel special and appreciated.
And when you recognize a woman’s 3) ESSENCE that then causes her to feel a deep emotional connection. Her essence is her spirit.
The Recognition Ring of Desire is on most every woman’s list of her top 3 rings of desire.
You can recognize a woman in many ways with words, actions, participation and contribution. The key is that you initiate the recognition and that you have the INTENTION to recognize her whether you are giving her RECOGNITION FOR HER 1) Appearance 2) Actions 3) Essence.
It is the impact of intention that makes the recognition powerful. Recognition comes before and with appreciation. You must be conscious and have intention of what you are recognizing. If it comes with appreciation, a woman will swoon and her heart will open to more love (and her love bucket will expand to receive the love).
As stated earlier, there are ways to open up a woman to higher levels of sexual dimension and the simplest is the recognition ring of desire when let her know through words and actions that you appreciate her appearance, actions, and essence. That is a huge turn on of her B spot and that’s a pretty direct connection to her O spot.
THE TRINITY OF APPRECIATION
Appreciation is the quickest and simplest gateway to a higher dimension.
This was a statement about appreciation by one of my mentors that I appreciate and remember often.
Appreciation is a miraculous portal into new awareness, empowerment, innovation, inspiration, insight, and delight. It benefits our health, our brain function, and our quality of life in every way. And it’s free!
We know that appreciation creates a uniquely ordered pattern in the heart’s rhythm which benefits our overall health and performance, it boosts our immunity, and it more than quintuples the efficiency and power output of the heart.
It is no mistake that the word “Appreciation” also means “to increase in value.” What we appreciate becomes more valuable to us, and through us. As we literally boost our own vitality, efficiency, brain power, and heart power with appreciation, we become of greater tangible value too (both to ourselves and to others). We are stronger physically, more resilient emotionally, more loving and allowing of others and appreciative of their value. Colors are brighter, tastes are more succulent, life overall is more vibrant when we appreciate.
With so many benefits of appreciation, we have to wonder, “Why we don’t appreciate more?” Appreciation is like a tuning fork for good in our lives, clearing the static on the line to hearing our heart’s signals. It knocks the rust and dust off of our ability to receive and perceive what we already have, and opens pathways to receive and perceive even more.
What if everything in life were designed to be appreciated? What if everything that has ever happened, everyone you have ever encountered, every life situation, has been a gift from your own higher self? Even the things you complain about, resent, regret, lament? Entertaining the possibility that everything that comes your way is a gift of some sort just waiting to be opened with the instrument of your appreciation is to peer through the window of the heart’s perception of things. My heart, when I can clear the static on the line to hearing its guidance, always shows me an angle to appreciate whatever situation I am in.
However, it is not easy to appreciate that fact, at least not all the time. One day when I was really having trouble appreciating something that was said to me, my heart created a tool to use which it called, “The triangle of appreciation.” It gave me three points of appreciation, a calibration system by which I could always find something to be grateful for in any given situation. It is amazing how this simple little tool has changed my life. Start by imagining a triangle.
The Triangle of Appreciation
Appreciating Challenge = Soul’s View and Personal Growth (Top)
Appreciating Process = Requires Understanding, Compassion, and Allowing (Left)
Appreciating Value = Automatic and Raw (Right)
Appreciating Value = Automatic and Raw
The bottom right hand corner of the triangle represents things that you automatically appreciate. This zone belongs to things that have inherent value to you, simply as they are. Like chocolate and… Great sex. 
A blossoming rose. A beautiful sunset. Your favorite music, or skiing, or a great novel, or your best friend’s sense of humor. These are things that you automatically appreciate- things that you are naturally drawn to and love without effort. They give you direct access to raw appreciation of what is.
Appreciating Process = Requires Understanding, Compassion, and Allowing
The bottom left corner of the triangle belongs to the zone of things and people that are harder to appreciate. It is harder to appreciate being stood up by someone, or a toddler screaming after hitting their head on the corner of the coffee table as they learn how to walk. What you can appreciate in those situations is the growth process the person is in- you can appreciate where they are in their journey and have compassion for their process. In this way, compassion is a form of appreciation, a form of appreciating where a person or a situation is currently and where they are going. This type of appreciation includes understanding, and allowing. It appreciates process where the first type of appreciation enjoys the fruits of process, the results. When you appreciate where you or another person is in their growth, that appreciation is a form of care. It creates a coherent heart field that automatically radiates outward from you as support.
There is a power and value ignited when you appreciate the process something or someone is in, where they are now and where they are going. This is to appreciate evolution, growth, and change, and in appreciating that, to support it. In the Talmud it says, “Every grass blade has an angel over it whispering, “Grow, grow, grow.” When you appreciate things and people in their growth, without needing them to be perfect, you become the angel that facilitates their evolution and growth. This is a very exciting form of appreciation when you can key into its potency. It ultimately brings you back to the right side of our triangle or cross, where you appreciate the inherent value of things. Because when you can truly celebrate and thereby support the growth and evolution of something, you tap into its essence beyond the temporary struggle or challenge it faces. And at the core essence of things there is always something to appreciate.
Appreciating Challenge = Soul’s View and Personal Growth
If your life mirrors mine, there are also some things that seem simply impossible to appreciate at all.
Things that don’t seem to have intrinsic value, and don’t seem to be evolving or growing or changing.
Things that you just plain wish did not happen or did not exist. These are the toughest things to appreciate. These people, behaviors, situations, events, go at the very top of the triangle. How’s that? How can the things that bottom you out be at the top?
These are the things that are growing you. They are stretching you beyond your comfort zone or beyond your appreciation muscle where it currently is. When you can at least appreciate that they’re bringing you growth, you can still tap into all the physical, emotional and spiritual benefits of appreciation, and still stand a good chance of getting the gift these irritants are the carrier pigeons of. It is this category of things that deepen us the most and cause us to rise the highest in our individual personal growth.
These are the life situations which most support us to deepen in our hearts and challenge us to reach for the pinnacle of perception from a higher point of view. These are they grains of sand in the oyster shell that will turn us into pearls with a little appreciation. They are the pressure on our coal to turn us into diamonds. At the very least, our efforts to appreciate in the face of a challenge strengthens our muscle to appreciate what is around us and fills us with more of the other two forms of appreciation.
The very top of the triangle is the top down perspective- it is your soul’s view of things. What I experience at the top of the cross of appreciation is the insight and growth of the pinnacle of the triangle, after I am willing to go deep and appreciate the things that are the most difficult to appreciate, the things that are demanding that I grow and change my points of view. Going deep down to appreciate that which is difficult is like a giant tree rooting deeper, which allows it to grow higher. As soon as you can appreciate a challenge, the appreciation itself facilitates your higher brain function through heart coherence, and you get to see the challenge itself in a new way. But it does more than that. As it facilitates your higher brain to perceive challenges in a new way, appreciation also opens your senses to receive more of life and therefore amplifies and increases your experience of intrinsic value all around you. How much of life do you want to receive? Appreciation is an access code to receiving immediate abundance and prosperity, without anything else in your world changing. The deeper your foundation, the wider your reach can be.
Filled With Appreciation: Manya, an great example for all
I have never met anyone who was more filled with appreciation than Manya, my beloved adopted German grandmother who survived Auschwitz as a teenager. Manya was like an angel that appeared in my life. Because I nearly crumpled at times under what I perceived to be minor challenges, I always wondered how a person could survive something as devastating as the holocaust. When I helped Manya to transcribe her life story into book form, she brought the answer to that question to me: appreciation. While she did not appreciate what the Nazis did to her, she appreciated how spiritually connected and strong the challenges she faced made her. This did not show up for her as a Pollyanna cover-up approach during the holocaust. It was a real and genuine power tool that she attributes to saving her life. It amazes me how Manya, in the worst of circumstances, could always find something to appreciate. In Auschwitz she described the tar roofed bunkers, which delighted her because without proper clothes in the freezing cold Polish winter, she could lean against them during the day and warm herself as the tar heated in the sun. She also loved to sing, and because she appreciated singing so much, she would sing to the other children in the camp to soothe them. A woman walking by the camp heard her, and demanded that the camp guards allow her to take Manya home because she loved her voice. Appreciation got Manya out of the camps, and led her to be one of the few people that was rescued from the Shoah and brought by boat to the United States by Franklin Roosevelt. Now, she is the most joyful person I know to do things with because she notices the simplest details wherever we are, and she appreciates everything. From the color someone has chosen for the trim in their room, to the cherry tomatoes fresh out of the garden, you can bet that Manya will notice and acknowledge everything with gratitude. Nothing slips through her appreciative eye. Because so much was taken from her in her life, she appreciates for dear life all that she has. And it is contagious- everyone, of all ages, clamors to be around Manya because she has so little entitlement and so much gratitude.
Appreciation Frees Us
Appreciation frees us of the bondage of judgments and affords us greater understanding. When people behave in ways that are difficult for us to understand or difficult for us to relate with they are generally out of balance in some way. This means that their heart rhythms are disordered, they are agitated and uncomfortable, and their higher brain centers are shut down. Whatever a person in this incoherent state says or does has less conscious accountability than someone who is actively appreciating. When you really understand this, it is natural not to take people’s criticisms, attacks, or agitation personally, and to respond with compassion for the discomfort and distortion they must be in. Your compassion is a form of appreciation for their situation, and it radiates in their direction to support more coherence, more clarity, more release and more growth. It is a win/win.
Appreciate the Inherent Value Of Things
I have come to a place where I don’t appreciate the things that grow me any less than I appreciate the inherent value of things. I don’t see challenges as a downer anymore, only because I was taught to look at them through the heart. My heart values my growth as a spirit above all else. I value the relationships that challenge me. I seek out relationships that grow me.
Appreciate Difficult Things To Appreciate
How wide and how deep do you want your triangle to go? The more you appreciate difficult things to appreciate, the deeper it goes, the more foundation it has, the wider the spectrum of value you can experience in life, and the higher your view can ascend to see things in a new and insightful way.
With care from the heart,
Sheva Carr
The Triangle of Appreciation http://fyera.com
The Recognition Ring of Desire is part of the Love Bucket by Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist and taught in The Man Class Series
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Anatomy of A Woman’s Feelings ("I’m Sorry" fills the love bucket)
Friday, June 18th, 2010 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket Books, The Love Linguist®, The Man Class Series | No Comments »The Anatomy of a Woman’s Feelings
| Note: Although, I do not agree with all of this, particularly using the example of an organ, it has a valuable insight. You can learn more about filling a woman’s love bucket in The Man Class Series Accelerator ~Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist |
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By A. A. Armstrong |
This may be the most important article I have ever written. Please feel free to pass this on to all the women AND all the men in your life. |
HEART AND LUNGS, LIFE AND ENERGY
Imagine, if you will, a woman. Let’s look inside of her. Not the way a doctor might see her, but someone with more intuitive vision. In the center of her chest is a very unique organ. It looks like a disk about the size of a salad plate, up to two inches thick, and it fills her chest. When it is healthy, the color is a vibrant red or magenta or red-orange, and the surface is soft and even bubbly. Like the lungs, it pulls life and energy in from the environment. Specifically from nature, from the joy of loved ones, from beauty. Like the heart, it is connected to every part of her body through a complex circulatory system. As life and energy are pulled into it, life and energy travel to every extremity.
This organ is called “her feelings” and it is the core of her being.
When a woman is delighted or happy, this organ fills with life and energy, expanding and expanding. The life and energy move from her chest to her lungs, and she may breathe more heavily or deeply. From there, the life and energy move to her throat, and she may laugh or giggle or sing. Continuing upward, her mouth turns into a smile, her skin glows and her eyes sparkle. The life and energy flow through her smile and skin and eyes to the people around her and they are uplifted. When the life and energy reach her brain, they fill her head with hopeful, loving, magnanimous, creative thoughts. And as they reach her arms and legs, hands and feet, her step becomes lighter and she may even dance.
This is when she is her most powerful, and paradoxically, her most vulnerable. Bask in her beauty and light and treat her with care.
PAIN AND BLACKNESS, SILENCE AND IMMOBILITY
Imagine now that something happens which “hurts her feelings.” Intentional act or mere oversight, when a woman’s feelings are hurt, the process works in reverse. The rate at which this occurs depends on how harsh or shocking was the hurtful act or comment. It may take three to thirty minutes for the process to be complete.
Within a few seconds the organ has constricted, changing color to black or dark gray and becoming hard and tight like a rock or fist. Vibrant and pulsing a moment before, it lies lifeless. The woman might gasp as she feels the core of her being shrink and harden. Then this new death travels the pathways that life and energy flowed through just moments before.
Being closest to her lungs, breathing will be the first to go. She will feel as if she can’t breathe and her actual breaths will become shallow. Next is the throat. She will be able to speak for only a few moments longer and then the death-feeling will shut down all energy to her throat. The “silent treatment” that others dread is not voluntary. She cannot speak. Her eyes will suddenly become sensitive to light, and especially to people. She’ll have to avoid all eye contact, for it hurts them. After a few more minutes the life and energy is gone from her arms and legs. If she can’t cocoon, she’ll move slowly. If she can, she’ll find a safe place, curl up and become immobile. As time passes, her body feels heavier and heavier, like dirt is being piled on top of her.
In her experience, she has been completely shut down. Then the real mischief begins.
For one small, crucial part of her brain has a back up generator, which turns on as the rest herself shuts off. And it has access to a specific set of files. Let’s call it “the Rage Machine.” While she lies breathless, speechless, blind and immobile, the Rage Machine dips into all the records of irritations, annoyances, pet peeves, and any unresolved injuries. With only these to work with, the Rage Machine starts churning out speeches. Its fantasy is all-out verbal warfare. It plots revenge.
As time goes on, the Rage Machine will gather momentum. Physical proximity to the person who her hurt her feelings fuels the Rage Machine, giving it energy. Though lying buried under dirt, mute and blind, the woman may try to move to a distance from the source of the hurt, understanding intuitively that this might quiet the beast in her head. She may move to another room or out of the house altogether.
On the surface, the Rage Machine may take over the woman’s facial muscles, making her look angry or upset. But underneath its rantings, a small voice in her head is pleading for help, hoping the person who buried her might come dig her out. For he or she is the only one who can.
ON THE OTHER SIDE
Now let’s look from the point of view of the man. Why a man? Because women are more vulnerable to the men they love than anyone else on Earth. And because feelings are different for men. Or so they have told me. Men’s feelings, while just as deep and significant, don’t have the circulatory system women have. Scientists tell us that men don’t have as many connections in their brains from the feeling centers and language centers. This is good, by the way. Different but valuable for many purposes.
So, having a different relationship to feelings in general, the man does not realize that he has just hurt the woman. Whatever he did or said was not intended to be hurtful. Healthy men (which most are) never intend to hurt women. And that same remark or action would probably not have hurt him. He has no idea that her feelings are the organ at the core of her being from which all life and energy flow. No one has ever explained that to him.
After a prolonged silence, he starts to worry that she may be mad at him. He hopes this isn’t true. If he loves her, then her being mad at him is the worst thing that can happen. He is hoping, and maybe praying, that she’s upset at something else, but please, not at him. As one man expressed it, “I’d pay a million, billion, gazillion dollars for her not to be mad at me.” For a being designed to pursue success in every area, this is the worst failure. She is the sun and the moon and both have suddenly deserted his life. And he doesn’t know why.
If she does something that clearly indicates that the anger is directed at him, then hope will die, he’ll know he failed, and there is nothing to do now but fix it. If he has been able to fix it in the past, he’ll quickly respond. If he has never been able to fix it, then he’s really sunk.
Until the woman does something that overtly communicates anger, like going to sleep in the other room or stomping out of the house, he’ll keep hoping that it isn’t him. This is how the woman can be left buried under the dirt in darkness and silence for hours. He doesn’t mean to be cruel. He doesn’t know that she’s drowning and that he’s the only lifeguard.
“I’M SORRY I HURT YOU” RAISES THE DEAD
When he does go her, he’ll want to confront the anger head-on. Because he thinks it is real. He doesn’t know that it is the Rage Machine’s default program of miscellaneous junk that really didn’t bother her that much at the time. If he engages the Rage Machine by being angry himself – perhaps because it seems unfair to him that she is angry – then he’s likely to hear all the trash that has been being gathered and rehearsed. A smart man will treat it like the garbage disposal backing up. An informed man could avoid it altogether.
Beneath the anger is the hurt that shut down the whole system and enabled the Rage Machine to take over. If he says, “I’m sorry” – and means it – life will suddenly flow back into her chest and make its way to the rest of her body. It will take a while to reach all the different parts, so he should be patient. But as soon as he says, “I’m sorry”, with true kindness and remorse.
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