The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire & Appreciation

The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire & Appreciation

The Love Bucket Recognition Ring of Desire has three parts. It is that you recognize a woman’s 1) APPEARANCE 2) ACTIONS 3) ESSENCE. That seems simple enough.

David Shade says that for a married woman to be fulfilled a woman absolutely must have four key things to feel happy in her marriage. She must… 1) Feel special and appreciated, 2) Feel a deep emotional connection, 3) Feel feminine, beautiful, and sexy, 4) Get hot passionate sex. This is part of becoming a Masterman Lover.

As you know, sex is one of the Rings of Desire of the love bucket. There are 7 Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket. The Love Bucket and the 7 Rings are Desire are a registered trademarks presented by Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist.

The first three things that David mentions are part of the Recognition Ring of Desire. There are ways to open up a woman to higher levels of sexual dimension such as knowing all about female orgasm.

The others David mentions all happen when you recognize a woman’s 1) APPEARANCE that causes her to feel feminine, beautiful, and sexy.

And when you recognize a woman’s 2) ACTIONS that causes her to feel special and appreciated.

And when you recognize a woman’s 3) ESSENCE that then causes her to feel a deep emotional connection. Her essence is her spirit.

The Recognition Ring of Desire is on most every woman’s list of her top 3 rings of desire.

You can recognize a woman in many ways with words, actions, participation and contribution. The key is that you initiate the recognition and that you have the INTENTION to recognize her whether you are giving her RECOGNITION FOR HER 1) Appearance 2) Actions 3) Essence.

It is the impact of intention that makes the recognition powerful. Recognition comes before and with appreciation. You must be conscious and have intention of what you are recognizing. If it comes with appreciation, a woman will swoon and her heart will open to more love (and her love bucket will expand to receive the love).

As stated earlier, there are ways to open up a woman to higher levels of sexual dimension and the simplest is the recognition ring of desire when let her know through words and actions that you appreciate her appearance, actions, and essence. That is a huge turn on of her B spot and that’s a pretty direct connection to her O spot.

THE TRINITY OF APPRECIATION

Appreciation is the quickest and simplest gateway to a higher dimension.
This was a statement about appreciation by one of my mentors that I appreciate and remember often.
Appreciation is a miraculous portal into new awareness, empowerment, innovation, inspiration, insight, and delight. It benefits our health, our brain function, and our quality of life in every way. And it’s free!

We know that appreciation creates a uniquely ordered pattern in the heart’s rhythm which benefits our overall health and performance, it boosts our immunity, and it more than quintuples the efficiency and power output of the heart.

It is no mistake that the word “Appreciation” also means “to increase in value.” What we appreciate becomes more valuable to us, and through us. As we literally boost our own vitality, efficiency, brain power, and heart power with appreciation, we become of greater tangible value too (both to ourselves and to others). We are stronger physically, more resilient emotionally, more loving and allowing of others and appreciative of their value. Colors are brighter, tastes are more succulent, life overall is more vibrant when we appreciate.
With so many benefits of appreciation, we have to wonder, “Why we don’t appreciate more?” Appreciation is like a tuning fork for good in our lives, clearing the static on the line to hearing our heart’s signals. It knocks the rust and dust off of our ability to receive and perceive what we already have, and opens pathways to receive and perceive even more.
What if everything in life were designed to be appreciated? What if everything that has ever happened, everyone you have ever encountered, every life situation, has been a gift from your own higher self? Even the things you complain about, resent, regret, lament? Entertaining the possibility that everything that comes your way is a gift of some sort just waiting to be opened with the instrument of your appreciation is to peer through the window of the heart’s perception of things. My heart, when I can clear the static on the line to hearing its guidance, always shows me an angle to appreciate whatever situation I am in.
However, it is not easy to appreciate that fact, at least not all the time. One day when I was really having trouble appreciating something that was said to me, my heart created a tool to use which it called, “The triangle of appreciation.” It gave me three points of appreciation, a calibration system by which I could always find something to be grateful for in any given situation. It is amazing how this simple little tool has changed my life. Start by imagining a triangle.

The Triangle of Appreciation

Appreciating Challenge = Soul’s View and Personal Growth (Top)

Appreciating Process = Requires Understanding, Compassion, and Allowing (Left)

Appreciating Value = Automatic and Raw (Right)

Appreciating Value = Automatic and Raw

The bottom right hand corner of the triangle represents things that you automatically appreciate. This zone belongs to things that have inherent value to you, simply as they are. Like chocolate and… Great sex.

A blossoming rose. A beautiful sunset. Your favorite music, or skiing, or a great novel, or your best friend’s sense of humor. These are things that you automatically appreciate- things that you are naturally drawn to and love without effort. They give you direct access to raw appreciation of what is.

Appreciating Process = Requires Understanding, Compassion, and Allowing

The bottom left corner of the triangle belongs to the zone of things and people that are harder to appreciate. It is harder to appreciate being stood up by someone, or a toddler screaming after hitting their head on the corner of the coffee table as they learn how to walk. What you can appreciate in those situations is the growth process the person is in- you can appreciate where they are in their journey and have compassion for their process. In this way, compassion is a form of appreciation, a form of appreciating where a person or a situation is currently and where they are going.  This type of appreciation includes understanding, and allowing. It appreciates process where the first type of appreciation enjoys the fruits of process, the results. When you appreciate where you or another person is in their growth, that appreciation is a form of care. It creates a coherent heart field that automatically radiates outward from you as support.

There is a power and value ignited when you appreciate the process something or someone is in, where they are now and where they are going. This is to appreciate evolution, growth, and change, and in appreciating that, to support it. In the Talmud it says, “Every grass blade has an angel over it whispering, “Grow, grow, grow.” When you appreciate things and people in their growth, without needing them to be perfect, you become the angel that facilitates their evolution and growth. This is a very exciting form of appreciation when you can key into its potency. It ultimately brings you back to the right side of our triangle or cross, where you appreciate the inherent value of things. Because when you can truly celebrate and thereby support the growth and evolution of something, you tap into its essence beyond the temporary struggle or challenge it faces. And at the core essence of things there is always something to appreciate.

Appreciating Challenge = Soul’s View and Personal Growth

If your life mirrors mine, there are also some things that seem simply impossible to appreciate at all.

Things that don’t seem to have intrinsic value, and don’t seem to be evolving or growing or changing.

Things that you just plain wish did not happen or did not exist. These are the toughest things to appreciate. These people, behaviors, situations, events, go at the very top of the triangle. How’s that? How can the things that bottom you out be at the top? 

These are the things that are growing you. They are stretching you beyond your comfort zone or beyond your appreciation muscle where it currently is. When you can at least appreciate that they’re bringing you growth, you can still tap into all the physical, emotional and spiritual benefits of appreciation, and still stand a good chance of getting the gift these irritants are the carrier pigeons of. It is this category of things that deepen us the most and cause us to rise the highest in our individual personal growth.

These are the life situations which most support us to deepen in our hearts and challenge us to reach for the pinnacle of perception from a higher point of view. These are they grains of sand in the oyster shell that will turn us into pearls with a little appreciation. They are the pressure on our coal to turn us into diamonds. At the very least, our efforts to appreciate in the face of a challenge strengthens our muscle to appreciate what is around us and fills us with more of the other two forms of appreciation.

The very top of the triangle is the top down perspective- it is your soul’s view of things. What I experience at the top of the cross of appreciation is the insight and growth of the pinnacle of the triangle, after I am willing to go deep and appreciate the things that are the most difficult to appreciate, the things that are demanding that I grow and change my points of view. Going deep down to appreciate that which is difficult is like a giant tree rooting deeper, which allows it to grow higher. As soon as you can appreciate a challenge, the appreciation itself facilitates your higher brain function through heart coherence, and you get to see the challenge itself in a new way. But it does more than that. As it facilitates your higher brain to perceive challenges in a new way, appreciation also opens your senses to receive more of life and therefore amplifies and increases your experience of intrinsic value all around you. How much of life do you want to receive? Appreciation is an access code to receiving immediate abundance and prosperity, without anything else in your world changing. The deeper your foundation, the wider your reach can be.

Filled With Appreciation: Manya, an great example for all
I have never met anyone who was more filled with appreciation than Manya, my beloved adopted German grandmother who survived Auschwitz as a teenager. Manya was like an angel that appeared in my life. Because I nearly crumpled at times under what I perceived to be minor challenges, I always wondered how a person could survive something as devastating as the holocaust. When I helped Manya to transcribe her life story into book form, she brought the answer to that question to me: appreciation. While she did not appreciate what the Nazis did to her, she appreciated how spiritually connected and strong the challenges she faced made her. This did not show up for her as a Pollyanna cover-up approach during the holocaust. It was a real and genuine power tool that she attributes to saving her life. It amazes me how Manya, in the worst of circumstances, could always find something to appreciate. In Auschwitz she described the tar roofed bunkers, which delighted her because without proper clothes in the freezing cold Polish winter, she could lean against them during the day and warm herself as the tar heated in the sun. She also loved to sing, and because she appreciated singing so much, she would sing to the other children in the camp to soothe them. A woman walking by the camp heard her, and demanded that the camp guards allow her to take Manya home because she loved her voice. Appreciation got Manya out of the camps, and led her to be one of the few people that was rescued from the Shoah and brought by boat to the United States by Franklin Roosevelt.  Now, she is the most joyful person I know to do things with because she notices the simplest details wherever we are, and she appreciates everything. From the color someone has chosen for the trim in their room, to the cherry tomatoes fresh out of the garden, you can bet that Manya will notice and acknowledge everything with gratitude. Nothing slips through her appreciative eye. Because so much was taken from her in her life, she appreciates for dear life all that she has. And it is contagious- everyone, of all ages, clamors to be around Manya because she has so little entitlement and so much gratitude.

Appreciation Frees Us
Appreciation frees us of the bondage of judgments and affords us greater understanding. When people behave in ways that are difficult for us to understand or difficult for us to relate with they are generally out of balance in some way. This means that their heart rhythms are disordered, they are agitated and uncomfortable, and their higher brain centers are shut down. Whatever a person in this incoherent state says or does has less conscious accountability than someone who is actively appreciating. When you really understand this, it is natural not to take people’s criticisms, attacks, or agitation personally, and to respond with compassion for the discomfort and distortion they must be in. Your compassion is a form of appreciation for their situation, and it radiates in their direction to support more coherence, more clarity, more release and more growth. It is a win/win.

Appreciate the Inherent Value Of Things
I have come to a place where I don’t appreciate the things that grow me any less than I appreciate the inherent value of things. I don’t see challenges as a downer anymore, only because I was taught to look at them through the heart. My heart values my growth as a spirit above all else. I value the relationships that challenge me. I seek out relationships that grow me.

Appreciate Difficult Things To Appreciate
How wide and how deep do you want your triangle to go? The more you appreciate difficult things to appreciate, the deeper it goes, the more foundation it has, the wider the spectrum of value you can experience in life, and the higher your view can ascend to see things in a new and insightful way.

With care from the heart,
Sheva Carr

The Triangle of Appreciation http://fyera.com

The Recognition Ring of Desire is part of the Love Bucket by Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist and taught in The Man Class Series

so Men Win and Women are Happy.

Anatomy of A Woman’s Feelings ("I’m Sorry" fills the love bucket)

The Anatomy of a Woman’s Feelings

HEART AND LUNGS, LIFE AND ENERGY

Imagine, if you will, a woman. Let’s look inside of her. Not the way a doctor might see her, but someone with more intuitive vision. In the center of her chest is a very unique organ. It looks like a disk about the size of a salad plate, up to two inches thick, and it fills her chest. When it is healthy, the color is a vibrant red or magenta or red-orange, and the surface is soft and even bubbly. Like the lungs, it pulls life and energy in from the environment. Specifically from nature, from the joy of loved ones, from beauty. Like the heart, it is connected to every part of her body through a complex circulatory system. As life and energy are pulled into it, life and energy travel to every extremity.
This organ is called “her feelings” and it is the core of her being.

When a woman is delighted or happy, this organ fills with life and energy, expanding and expanding. The life and energy move from her chest to her lungs, and she may breathe more heavily or deeply. From there, the life and energy move to her throat, and she may laugh or giggle or sing. Continuing upward, her mouth turns into a smile, her skin glows and her eyes sparkle. The life and energy flow through her smile and skin and eyes to the people around her and they are uplifted. When the life and energy reach her brain, they fill her head with hopeful, loving, magnanimous, creative thoughts. And as they reach her arms and legs, hands and feet, her step becomes lighter and she may even dance.

This is when she is her most powerful, and paradoxically, her most vulnerable. Bask in her beauty and light and treat her with care.

PAIN AND BLACKNESS, SILENCE AND IMMOBILITY

Imagine now that something happens which “hurts her feelings.” Intentional act or mere oversight, when a woman’s feelings are hurt, the process works in reverse. The rate at which this occurs depends on how harsh or shocking was the hurtful act or comment. It may take three to thirty minutes for the process to be complete.
Within a few seconds the organ has constricted, changing color to black or dark gray and becoming hard and tight like a rock or fist. Vibrant and pulsing a moment before, it lies lifeless. The woman might gasp as she feels the core of her being shrink and harden. Then this new death travels the pathways that life and energy flowed through just moments before.

Being closest to her lungs, breathing will be the first to go. She will feel as if she can’t breathe and her actual breaths will become shallow. Next is the throat. She will be able to speak for only a few moments longer and then the death-feeling will shut down all energy to her throat. The “silent treatment” that others dread is not voluntary. She cannot speak. Her eyes will suddenly become sensitive to light, and especially to people. She’ll have to avoid all eye contact, for it hurts them. After a few more minutes the life and energy is gone from her arms and legs. If she can’t cocoon, she’ll move slowly. If she can, she’ll find a safe place, curl up and become immobile. As time passes, her body feels heavier and heavier, like dirt is being piled on top of her.

In her experience, she has been completely shut down. Then the real mischief begins.

For one small, crucial part of her brain has a back up generator, which turns on as the rest herself shuts off. And it has access to a specific set of files. Let’s call it “the Rage Machine.” While she lies breathless, speechless, blind and immobile, the Rage Machine dips into all the records of irritations, annoyances, pet peeves, and any unresolved injuries. With only these to work with, the Rage Machine starts churning out speeches. Its fantasy is all-out verbal warfare. It plots revenge.

As time goes on, the Rage Machine will gather momentum. Physical proximity to the person who her hurt her feelings fuels the Rage Machine, giving it energy. Though lying buried under dirt, mute and blind, the woman may try to move to a distance from the source of the hurt, understanding intuitively that this might quiet the beast in her head. She may move to another room or out of the house altogether.

On the surface, the Rage Machine may take over the woman’s facial muscles, making her look angry or upset. But underneath its rantings, a small voice in her head is pleading for help, hoping the person who buried her might come dig her out. For he or she is the only one who can.

ON THE OTHER SIDE

Now let’s look from the point of view of the man. Why a man? Because women are more vulnerable to the men they love than anyone else on Earth. And because feelings are different for men. Or so they have told me. Men’s feelings, while just as deep and significant, don’t have the circulatory system women have. Scientists tell us that men don’t have as many connections in their brains from the feeling centers and language centers. This is good, by the way. Different but valuable for many purposes.

So, having a different relationship to feelings in general, the man does not realize that he has just hurt the woman. Whatever he did or said was not intended to be hurtful. Healthy men (which most are) never intend to hurt women. And that same remark or action would probably not have hurt him. He has no idea that her feelings are the organ at the core of her being from which all life and energy flow. No one has ever explained that to him.

After a prolonged silence, he starts to worry that she may be mad at him. He hopes this isn’t true. If he loves her, then her being mad at him is the worst thing that can happen. He is hoping, and maybe praying, that she’s upset at something else, but please, not at him. As one man expressed it, “I’d pay a million, billion, gazillion dollars for her not to be mad at me.” For a being designed to pursue success in every area, this is the worst failure. She is the sun and the moon and both have suddenly deserted his life. And he doesn’t know why.

If she does something that clearly indicates that the anger is directed at him, then hope will die, he’ll know he failed, and there is nothing to do now but fix it. If he has been able to fix it in the past, he’ll quickly respond. If he has never been able to fix it, then he’s really sunk.

Until the woman does something that overtly communicates anger, like going to sleep in the other room or stomping out of the house, he’ll keep hoping that it isn’t him. This is how the woman can be left buried under the dirt in darkness and silence for hours. He doesn’t mean to be cruel. He doesn’t know that she’s drowning and that he’s the only lifeguard.

“I’M SORRY I HURT YOU” RAISES THE DEAD

When he does go her, he’ll want to confront the anger head-on. Because he thinks it is real. He doesn’t know that it is the Rage Machine’s default program of miscellaneous junk that really didn’t bother her that much at the time. If he engages the Rage Machine by being angry himself – perhaps because it seems unfair to him that she is angry – then he’s likely to hear all the trash that has been being gathered and rehearsed. A smart man will treat it like the garbage disposal backing up. An informed man could avoid it altogether.

Beneath the anger is the hurt that shut down the whole system and enabled the Rage Machine to take over. If he says, “I’m sorry” – and means it – life will suddenly flow back into her chest and make its way to the rest of her body. It will take a while to reach all the different parts, so he should be patient. But as soon as he says, “I’m sorry”, with true kindness and remorse.

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Dating Dance Patterns & Persuasion (can fill her love bucket!)

It is said that in the sales process if you mimic (in an understated way) your prospective client that it builds rapport and you get closer to the sale.  The same is true in when you are persuading and seducing a mate.

In the animal kingdom, firefly species use a special pattern of flashing to signal to potential mates.  This happens during mating season.  There’s another species of firefly that appears to be a remarkably successful seducer.  By copying the unique blinking pattern they attract other fireflies. However, this second species goal is not to mate, but to attack and eat them for dinner. 

How do you know if you are falling into love’s embrace or if you are an unsuspecting victim of persuasion?

In the dating dance when you mimic the other person by using exactly the same words phrases, you are generally more liked, but actually receive more green light signals from your prospective mate.  This strategy increases rapport and there is higher likelihood you will “get lucky,” get a phone number, or get a second date.

Following and repeating patterns of speech and movement is an effective persuasive tool.  It may increase a sense of closeness and understanding with another person. After giving someone your phone number, if they repeat it back to you in a way that’s different to how you remember it sounds it breaks rapport. Unexpectedly your phone number doesn’t sound right and you probably take a second (disapproving) look at that person.

When meeting people for the first time, you can develop good relationships in a quicker time by repeating back selectively the same words that they use. It does not matter if it is in dating, sales, business, or family functions.  Communication that follows patterns of words and phrases that are repeated creates closeness.
As a result, your date may be persuaded to go home with you or will be anxiously waiting for your next phone call or text message.

Read more about Persuasion by authors Steve Martin, Noah Goldstein and Robert Cialdini: 
Yes! 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to be Persuasive 
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WOMEN AS EXPLAINED BY ENGINEERS (missing the component to fill the love bucket)

For all the guys who enjoy a good laugh, and to all the ladies who have a good sense of humor.

WOMEN AS EXPLAINED BY ENGINEERS

Part I

Part II

Part III

Part IV

Part V

And Finally!

Have you ever wondered how a woman’s brain works?
Well….it’s finally explained here in one, easy-to-understand illustration:

B
Every one of those little blue balls is a thought about something
that needs to be done, a decision or a problem that needs to be solved.
A man has only 2 b_ _ _ _ and they take up all his thoughts.

Note: The source of this has come in various forms in email messages on websites; original author unknown.

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