This is the gospel of ATTRACTING women and KEEPING women.

It’s there every second if you have the eyes to see.  You don’t need X-RAY vision.

Open your eyes.

Look.  Watch. Listen.

The secret of getting women to be attracted to you is…. CONVEYING VALUE

Do YOU Convey Value?

Create and convey a value that ONLY YOU can fill.  She has to come to you to be satisfied, to quench her desire, to be fulfilled. 

The value you convey let’s her know that you can FILL HER LOVE BUCKET!

The term "conveying value" describes the process.

Here are a few ways you convey value to women.

1.  Show the benefits over time

Show how being with you today results in benefits to her now and in the future.  Great sex, fun, adventure, laughter; did I mention great sex? 

(women typically want long-term, not short-term)

2.  Show the instant benefit

A lot of times women don’t believe they’ll get a benefit.
So if it’s instant, you raise believability.

3.  Show ALL the WAYS a woman benefits

This sparks the imagination to the DEPTH of your value and shows a woman you are a multi-dimensional man.   It is not about YOU it is about what you can do for her in the ways she’ll benefit.

4.  Demonstrate the benefit

Show her instead of just telling about it.  Actions speak louder than words. Even if is simply entertaining her and keeping her intrigued. That’s a benefit.

5.  Have a wing man or wing woman talk about you.

Nothing like a positive recommendation to reinforce the value that you are conveying.

6.  Tell STORIES about other women in your life who benefited. 

A sister, aunt, mother, a female friend who’s similar to her would be good here rather than an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife. Then let her know you want to do it FOR HER.

7.  Your appearance conveys value

You know the saying,"the clothes make the man."  How you look conveys value. This also goes for the things that represent you like the cleanliness of your car and home. 

Here’s my question to you:

HOW could you convey value?

Brainstorm all the ways you could do that.

Your conversation should convey value as well as creating urgency so she wants to take action and go on a date or take it to the next level because she sees you as a “HOT” guy that has value and she needs to act now since OBVIOUSLY other women will see your value, too.

A lot of guys get caught up in pick-up lines and forget it’s all about conveying value.  The more value you convey and display to her, the more she’ll hang onto your words and even “chase you” to be with you.

You’ve got to SHOW and TELL her all the ways you’ll create VALUE for in her life.  Whether it is for THAT NIGHT or value for the long term.  And do it in such a way that she doesn’t think you’re selling yourself.  It must be natural.

She’ll keep coming back for more if you convey value that triggers her desires. If  she feels you can fill those desires and fill her love bucket, you’ve got it made!

To convey value, you’ve gotta get out of your head and into the woman’s head (not easy to do). And say, "What does SHE want?"
 
To help understand what she wants, *HER RINGS OF DESIRE*, if you are dating, you can learn about the 8 TYPES OF WOMEN from my friend Vin DiCarlo. This is a free video and I’ve listed the types for you.  If you’ve got a gal in your life and you want her to be more responsive to her, the you can take the man class and learn about the 7 ways to fill her love bucket.

Because the VALUE is NOT in you.  Conveying value, not surprising, is satisfying the desires of a woman.

That’s how value is demonstrated.

Now once you CREATE that value by showing you can satisfy her desires, you have to CONVEY and DEMONSTRATE the value.  The best guy does NOT win.  The guy that CONVEYS the right VALUE that matches the particular type of women in dating and the guy that fills her love bucket in relating to her, WINS. 

Just knowing about conveying value does not get you the gal or help keep the gal you love.  Those guys who DO the most exquisite job of CONVEYING the value to satisfy her desires are the real winners.

There’s an art to conveying value.

Some guys do it by bragging and hyping really hard.

Some guys do it subtly with skill and implication.

Some guys do it via the brute force of overpowering her senses.

Some guys do it via multiple attempts to get her attention.

It’s more art than science. Although there’s a science to it.

But the common theme is CONVEY VALUE.

I LAUGH so hard (to myself) when I see guys fail with women because they don’t know their own value and don’t understand how their value will positively contribute to a woman’s life.

Because girls and even experienced women can get so caught up in the pick-up lines guys deliver. The pick-up lines can have short term effect.
THINK about it.

The one thing ALL those other guys have in common is they want the girl to satisfy them (basically get laid).  He wants HER to give it up FOR HIM.

Now — go and do the opposite.  Convey value that shows what you’ll do for her.  Then she’ll be all over you.

You have to be in the Game a long time before you really see how simple and wise that advice is.

Again, attraction is in conveying value.  Not the pick-up line or technique. 

So the smart woman gives it up to the guy who helps her life and fills her love bucket.  That’s how I see it.

Guys  are a dime a dozen.  Guys have this ILLUSION that if they just act like an Alpha Male they’ll win (tho’ acting with ALPHA Masculinity IS important).  So guys get all caught up in the just be alpha thing that they forget it is about convey value that you know what she wants and that you KNOW how to shine up HER rings of DESIRE and fill her love bucket.   It’s about her, not you.

The best guy does NOT win.  Guys are a dime a dozen.

The guy with best VALUE DISPLAY wins. And the guy wins who does the best job of CONVEYING value that aligns with her desires.

So stop obsessing over being an alpha man (thought that does help) and be the guy that CONVEYS VALUE that’s consistent with her rings of desire.  Shine up her rings and she’s hooked on you.

Then get busy CONVEYING your value via every means possible.   Or at least the values that you enjoy the most or find interesting or challenging to attract the RIGHT woman.  It is not an act, it is your life so you’ve got to able to naturally keep it up.

It’s funny that guys can be in this Game so long and not understand that it’s all about creating value for the woman and then CONVEYING that value effectively through multiple means (The 7 Ways to Fill Her Love Bucket).

Are you a guy that is a value creator? 
(You spark her imagination and she desires and wants it)

Are you a guy that is a value conveyor?
(You listen and observe her and match what she has expressly desired)

If you aren’t doing this, then it’s high time you start to learn how others guys create and convey value.

This goes for any guy that loves women and wants a girlfriend or who wants to make the woman in his life HAPPY.   Here are a few resources:  Vin’s 8 Types of Women (candy store video), Sherrie’s Man Class Accelerator on the 7 Rings of Desire or Women (how to fill her love bucket) and Carlos Xumas Alpha Masculinity Program Stop Wasting Time Learning New Pickup Tricks… Learn To Supercharge Your Masculine Confidence.

And now you know the secret of getting women to be attracted to you and want to stay with you.

To Your Love Success,

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

Special Thanks to Michael Fortin for his contribution to VALUE.

Sherrie Rose Recommends: 8 Types of Women,  Man Class Accelerator, Alpha Masculinity Program

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Adam,

I read your post with amusement not because the information is not good, but because, you (and everyone) see the world through your phase of life, in this case, with two teenage sons sharing custody. And, those teenage sons may be messy and have chaos in their lives. Although, they are both EXTREMELY talented and intelligent young men and you are very proud of them as you should be. Chip off the old block.

Your questions:

“How should you date after 30 - 35 - 40? Should you act different? Should you BE different?”

First, I like the title of your upcoming new book, Adam, “Embodying Mastery.” As you know, the term I use is MASTERMAN. (See definition on urban dictionary)

It is not about having order and slaying chaos as a page, prince, knight or king. Those archetypes from Tarot and other teachings are not about being a MASTERMAN. A MASTERMAN embodies all those archetypes.

About chaos. I’m known for THE LOVE BUCKET® concept. One of the rings of desire of the love bucket is LIFESTYLE. How a person lives with neatness and hygiene, finances, location of home, and the full gamut of the business of living is part of lifestyle. Some areas you can compromise on and others you can’t. But there’s more to the love bucket than lifestyle.

Next, the over-30 - 35 - 40 dating question first revolves around two big “elimination” questions:

PHASE of LIFE: Are you in the “lets play and have fun” or “let’s settle down” phase. These are not mutually exclusive but one is the prime motivator. Which is it?

KIDS: Where do you stand with kids? Do you have kids, do you want kids, does she have kids, does she want kids.

Again, your questions: “How should you date after 35? Should you act different? Should you BE different?”

The answer is not about being different. It is about being clear. Clarity in what you want in dating whether it is dating for fun or dating to get into a serious relationship. Be clear YOURSELF on the two elimination questions. Know what you want out of your phase. If you just want to play and have fun and you start dating a woman who wants to settle down and have kids you are not acting in integrity with either of your best interests.

A MASTERMAN would determine the answer to the elimination questions up front so he can act in integrity when he is dating. Remember the dating experience is for the highest good for all involved. If you don’t have clarity you’ll be wasting your time and her time.

Now about TIME: Time is an investment. As you get older, time is more in the forefront of the mind of men and women. When you date over thirty you realize that you are investing your time (and possibly your money) into the date or several dates that may lead to a relationship.

For women, what is the TIME INVESTMENT in dating? Men need to understand and value the two very essential capital investments that a woman brings to the dating game.       1) A woman is investing HER LOOKS.       2) A woman is investing HER FERTILITY. Both LOOKS and FERTILITY have an expiration  “shelf life.”

That is why it is so important to be clear upfront with what you want while dating as dating can lead to a relationship. If you date and she wants a commitment and kids you are spending her fertility. Over 35 it is much more serious. Enough said.

Even with LOOKS. If she wants a serious relationship, with or without kids, and the guy is spending her looks because he has no intention giving her a commitment even though you may be serious and exclusive, you are spending her looks. When a guy is “done” she is now older, has another wrinkle, and the guy is off to a younger woman.

Her LOOKS helped attract you to her. Spending her looks when she is young is not that big a deal. If you spend her looks over 35 you’ve got to keep the timeline in check past three months of dating.

So if you are not conscious or are unaware of the expiration date of these two capital investments that women bring, you become part of the angry conversation that women have about men.

So how should you BE (as a man) when dating?

Be a MASTERMAN. Here’s the MASTERMAN definition: A man who exudes mastery and integrity because he has self-discipline, confidence, clarity of purpose on a daily basis, and strategic direction of his life. Women are extremely attracted to a masterman (think Rockstar), young boys clamor to be lead by a masterman, and peers seek the counsel of a masterman often in the context of a mastermind group.

A MASTERMAN has mastered the art of initiative and positively contributes and participates in the lives of others.

A MASTERMAN is a success in all aspects of his life.

Again, a MASTERMAN would determine the answer to the elimination questions (phase and kids) up front so he can act in integrity when he is dating.

A MASTERMAN does not need validation or approval of women. A MASTERMAN has other strong men in his life in a group or BROTHERHOOD of MASTERMAN that keep each other in check, activate friendly competition, and challenge each other to rise to their greatness and potential.

The concepts and ideas here will soon in be available in a free PDF document.

To Your Love Success,

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist®
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

Adam’s Blog: http://attractconnectinspire.com/dating-after-30-accessing-your-inner-king/

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Today’s show, Talkin’ Health revolves around many things including addressing the primal urge of sex, a healthy body, a healthy state of mind and healthy relationships.

Post-Valentine’s Day, Sherrie will be talking with Joe Kasper about Men and Women, Women and Men, How to Stay Connected to Your Partner- Pillow talk, Romance- and much, much more.

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Sherrie Rose “The Love Linguist®” is affectionately known as “Lady Love Bucket.” Men refer to Sherrie as a go-to-resource so men can understand and become successful with women both in-and-out of the bedroom.

Sherrie Rose is a masterful teacher and speaker, whose specialty is translating the complexities of how women operate romantically and sexually, into a language and format that men can get and apply with total success!

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It is Sherrie’s passion to help men really understand women to masterfully fill her “love bucket.” The result is that lovers heal, bond, and enjoy mutually satisfying sexual dynamics and feelings of enhanced love and affection.
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In addition to Sherrie’s passion, she is on a mission to empower women as "LOVE DIPLOMATS" so that there is love success and peace in relationships, marriages, at home, in the workplace, in our communities, countries and the world. This can happen when women become empowered with the negotiating power of LOVE DIPLOMACY. You must start with your own love success. Ultimately women will be more fulfilled, experience more ecstasy, have a hotter sex life, and be happier! This is part of the Love Success Series and the Academy of Love Linguistics.
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Sherrie and Joe (the host of Talkin’ Health)  met in January 2010 on a cruise (http://marketerscruise.lovestide.com) along with 420 of their closest marketing friends. Joe is known for his 22-Minute Workout and is the CEO of Fire Your Diet™, a Master Health Coach, Exercise Therapist, and dynamic Motivational and Keynote Speaker with over 20 years experience training and motivating people to the health and body they deserve!

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