Four Seasons of Love Introduction (Fill The Love Bucket)

March 4th, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, The Love Bucket®

Four Seasons of Love Introduction

 

The Love Bucket is all about fulfilling desire. This motivates both sexes as they experience the four seasons of love.

 

The four seasons of weather relate to the four seasons of love. Spring and summer often bring to mind courtship and weddings. Seasons of autumn and winter are times to pull close and prepare for the bleak, blustery and sometimes very frigid moments.

Four Seasons of Love Defined:

 

DATING – Season 1 of the Four Seasons of Love

INTIMACY – Season 2 of the Four Seasons of Love

COMMITMENT – Season 3 of the Four Seasons of Love

BREAK-UP & MAKE-UP – Season 4 of Four Seasons of Love

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The well-known Dummies books have several volumes relating to the four seasons of love.

To honor our friends and authors of the Dummies books we will dedicate the four seasons of love to them.  Here’s some of their sage advice:

 

 

Communicate by Listening to Improve Your Relationship

Improving communication is a key part of improving your relationship. In fact, it’s the single most significant improvement you can make. To be an effective communicator, you have to be a good listener first.

· Attending: This means showing that you’re paying attention. You can do that by ensuring that your body language is open and that you’re facing your partner, and by giving good eye contact. Also nod your head to show you’re listening, and provide minimal verbal cues such as uttering ‘uh, um’ at key points.

· Restating: If your partner has said something particularly important, demonstrate your understanding by repeating it back – ‘So you’re saying you want me to pick up the kids on the way back from work tomorrow.’

· Clarifying: If you’re not sure that you’ve understood something, ask for clarification – ‘So are you saying you want me to pick up the kids on the way back from work tomorrow?’

· Summarizing: When you’ve shared a lot of information, you can draw together the main threads to show that you’ve got the full story – ‘So you’re going to have a really stressful day tomorrow and you’re worried about finishing on time, so you want me to pick up the kids on the way back from work.’

· Encouraging: To demonstrate that you want to listen and you want to hear more, use minimal encouragers to keep your partner flowing. For example, say something like ‘And then what happened?’ or ‘In what way?’ or simply ‘Go on.’

· Being quiet: Make sure that you don’t do all the talking. Give plenty of space for your partner to speak, and allow quiet times when she can think about what she wants to say next. While this is happening, make sure that you don’t get distracted and start fidgeting or writing tomorrow’s shopping list, but continue to attend physically.

 

Rules for Effective Communication In Your Relationship

Communicating effectively is the keystone to any relationship. Use the tips in this list to make sure your message gets across – and to help you listen to what you’re being told.

· Be clear on the objective of the conversation: Before you open your mouth, make sure that you know why you’re doing so. No communication is effective unless you know what you’re hoping to achieve by it.

· Choose your timing: Make sure that you’re both as relaxed as possible, have plenty of time and can’t be interrupted.

· Stick to the matter in hand: Don’t try to get everything of your chest at once. Keep focused on the issue you need to deal with.

· Avoid starting sentences with ‘You . . . ’: Don’t start out with an accusation – or by sounding as though you’re making one.

· Never say never or always: Categorical statements are provocative and unlikely to be true. Cut them out.

· Watch your shoulds and shouldn’ts: Unless you honestly believe that you have the right to take the moral high ground and preach to your partner, don’t do it

· Don’t interrupt: Even if you’re 100 per cent sure that your partner’s got nothing else worth saying, keep quiet and let him finish. If you want your partner to become a better talker, then first you must become a better listener.

· Stay calm or postpone the conversation: When people get angry, reason tends to disappear. Relax or take a time out.

· Avoid sarcasm, monologues or mind reading: Don’t try to manipulate the situation to your advantage. If you speak to your partner or act in a way that you’d never dream of doing with your boss, then ask yourself why.

· Express your feelings as well as your opinions: Saying that you feel unvalued when he’s late explains not just what the problem is, but the effect that the problem is having on you.

Thanks to the Dummies books who are celebrating in March and for kicking off the Four Seasons of Love.

Four Seasons of Love celebrates love providing ideas for experiences for couples in the real world and online. The Love Bucket of romance and intimacy gives you and a chance to rekindle the flames of passion… Four Seasons of Love define the four seasons of the lifecycle of love in four parts. Part1 = Season 1, Part 2 = Season 2, Part 3 = Season 3, Part 4= Season 4

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