This Valentine’s Day give love to another unconditionally – The simplest way to fill The Love Bucket.
We all want love and spend time searching for a lasting relationship. But, soon after we find it, many start running in the opposite direction. It always seems as if relationships are difficult; difficult to find, difficult to keep and enjoy.
The fundamental truth is, there is no inherent problem with relationships. “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi
There is never a scarcity of relationships or love. Love is our natural condition, why aren’t we in it all the time? What keeps us from this love we are so hungry for?
In dating, the usual answer is that there are no good men or women around, or that there is something essentially wrong with me.
The truth is that we don’t know what love really is. We fall in love with a fantasy and when it starts to wear off and the real person peeks through, we recoil. Where has the love gone? We complain. That person hasn’t fulfilled our longings or dreams. We become so disappointed.
The answer is that the love hasn’t gone anywhere, because it wasn’t love from the start. We haven’t been in love with that person, we haven’t known them. We’ve fallen in love with a fantasy, dreaming of what that fantasy will do for us.
When the person before you appears and you know everything about them, and still love them, that is love.
A great teacher Virginia Lloyd, once put it beautifully, she said, "Love is wanting for the other what they want for themselves, even if you aren’t the one who is able to give it to them."
Love isn’t about getting your own needs and dreams met, it’s about opening your hand and giving. And as Rumi the poet said, ‘Open your hands if you want to be held.’ ~Rumi
Love is based in action. Pure-hearted giving, with no thought of what is coming in return is not only a wonderful gift to the other, it is the ultimate gift to yourself as well. Try and see.
“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” ~Rumi
By Dr Brenda Shoshana shared by Dr Harlan Kilstein