Love Bucket: Love is a Word–Definition

January 23rd, 2012 Posted in The Love Linguist | No Comments »

 

Love Bucket: Love Definition

The Love Linguist® loves words and LOVE is a word to love. Below are some definitions for LOVE ?

Are you thinking of filling the love bucket as we move into Valentine’s Day? Love hearts are being displayed prominently so it is hard to miss.  Find your love definition or take The Man Class to discover how to fill her love bucket and be a Masterman.

LOVE Definitions

American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition

1. n. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. n. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
3. n. Sexual passion.
4. n. Sexual intercourse.
5. n. A love affair.
6. n. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
7. n. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
8. n. An expression of one’s affection: Send him my love.
9. n. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
10. n. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
11. n. Mythology Eros or Cupid.
12. n. Christianity Charity.
13. n. Sports A zero score in tennis.
14. v. To have a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward (a person): We love our parents. I love my friends.
15. v. To have a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward (a person).
16. v. To have an intense emotional attachment to: loves his house.
17. v. To embrace or caress.
18. v. To have sexual intercourse with.
19. v. To like or desire enthusiastically: loves swimming.
20. v. Theology To have charity for.
21. v. To thrive on; need: The cactus loves hot, dry air.
22. v. To experience deep affection or intense desire for another.
23. idiom. for love Out of compassion; with no thought for a reward: She volunteers at the hospital for love.
24. idiom. for love or money Under any circumstances. Usually used in negative sentences: I would not do that for love or money.
25. idiom. for the love of For the sake of; in consideration for: did it all for the love of praise.
26. idiom. in love Deeply or passionately enamored: a young couple in love.
27. idiom. in love Highly or immoderately fond: in love with Japanese painting; in love with the sound of her own voice.
28. idiom. no love lost No affection; animosity: There’s no love lost between them.

Century Dictionary and Cyclopedia

1. n. In Tasmania, the blue-creeper, Comesperma volubile.
2. To praise; commend.
3. To praise as of value; prize; set a price on.
4. To regard with a strong feeling of affection; hold dear; have a strong regard for.
5. Specifically, to regard (one of the opposite sex) with the admiration and devotion characteristic of the sexual relation; be in love with.
6. To have a strong liking, craving, or appetite for; like; take pleasure in; delight in: followed by a noun or an infinitive.
7. To caress; show affection by caresses: a childish use of the word.
8. To have strong affection; especially, to be passionately attached to one of the opposite sex.
9. n. The principle of sympathetic or pleasurable attraction in sentient and thinking beings; that feeling of predilection or solicitude for, or delight in, certain individuals or classes, principles, qualities, or things, which excites a strong desire or craving for the welfare, companionship, possession, enjoyment, or promotion of its object or objects; the yearning desire (whether right or perverted) for what is thought to be best in any relation or from any point of view. In its purest and most universal form, love is regarded in the highest conception of God as the essence of divinity.
10. n. Intimate personal affection between individuals of opposite sex capable of intermarriage; the emotional incentive to and normal basis of conjugal union: as, to be in love; to marry for love.
11. n. A beloved person; an object of affectionate interest, as a sweetheart or a husband or wife: often also used in address as a term of endearment.
12. n. [capitalized] A personification of the passion of love; sexual attraction imagined as an independent power external to its subject: applied especially to Cupid (more properly Amor) or Eros, the classical god of love, and more rarely to Venus or Aphrodite, the goddess of love.
13. n. An embodiment or a representation of Cupid; one of a class of beings poetically imagined as devoted to the interests of lovers, and depicted as winged boys.
14. n. Gratification of a sexual passion or desire, as in an illicit relation.
15. n. A kindness; something done in token of love.
16. n. A thin silk stuff. One variety, soft and translucent, was used for veils. See love-ribbon.
17. n. In some games, nothing: a term indicating that no points have been scored: as, the game was two, love (that is, two points on one side and nothing on the other); love all (all the players have failed to score).
18. n. An old game in which one holds up one or more fingers, and another, without looking, guesses at the number.
19. n. The plant Clematis Vitalba, the virgin’s-bower or traveler’s-joy.
20. n. Synonyms and Love, Liking, Predilection, Attachment, Affection, Fondness, Devotion; friendship, kindness, tenderness, delight, partiality, charity (theological). As between persons, love is the most general of these words, covering much the widest range, both in degree and in kind. Liking is the weakest. Predilection goes a little further, but is only a preparatory liking or readiness to love. Attachment has much of the notion implied in its derivation; it is a love that binds one to another, an unwillingness to be separated. Affection is generally a regulated and conscious love or attachment; it goes deeper than attachment. Attachment and especially affection are often the refined and mellowed fruit of the passion of love. Fondness, originally a foolish tenderness, is not yet altogether redeemed from that idea; it may be an unreasoning and doting attachment, and is never very high in quality. Devotion is a sort of consecration or dedication to the object of one’s feeling, an intense loyalty, as to a superior—a constant service. See esteem.

Wiktionary

1. v. To have a strong affection for.
2. v. To need, thrive on.
3. v. To be strongly inclined towards something; an emphatic form of like.
4. v. To care deeply about, to be dedicated to.
5. v. To derive delight from a fact or situation.
6. v. To lust for.
7. v. To have sex with, (perhaps from make love.)
8. n. An intense feeling of affection and care towards another person.
9. n. A deep or abiding liking for something.
10. n. A profound and caring attraction towards someone.
11. n. The object of one’s romantic feelings; a darling or sweetheart
12. n. A term of friendly address, regardless of feelings.
13. n. zero, no score.

GNU Webster’s 1913

1. v. To have a feeling of love for; to regard with affection or good will
2. v. To regard with passionate and devoted affection, as that of one sex for the other.
3. v. To take delight or pleasure in; to have a strong liking or desire for, or interest in; to be pleased with; to like
4. v. To have the feeling of love; to be in love.
5. n. A feeling of strong attachment induced by that which delights or commands admiration; preëminent kindness or devotion to another; affection; tenderness.
6. n. Especially, devoted attachment to, or tender or passionate affection for, one of the opposite sex.
7. n. Courtship; — chiefly in the phrase to make love, i. e., to court, to woo, to solicit union in marriage.
8. n. Affection; kind feeling; friendship; strong liking or desire; fondness; good will; — opposed to hate; often with of and an object.
9. n. Due gratitude and reverence to God.
10. n. The object of affection; — often employed in endearing address.
11. n. Cupid, the god of love; sometimes, Venus.
12. n. A thin silk stuff.
13. n. A climbing species of Clematis (Clematis Vitalba).
14. n. Nothing; no points scored on one side; — used in counting score at tennis, etc.
15. n. Sexual intercourse; — a euphemism.

WordNet 3.0

1. n. any object of warm affection or devotion
2. n. a deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction
3. n. sexual activities (often including sexual intercourse) between two people
4. v. have a great affection or liking for
5. n. a strong positive emotion of regard and affection
6. v. have sexual intercourse with
7. n. a score of zero in tennis or squash
8. n. a beloved person; used as terms of endearment
9. v. be enamored or in love with
10. v. get pleasure from

Etymologies

1. Middle English, from Old English lufu; see leubh- in Indo-European roots.

Love Definition Source

Love Bucket: Ex-Homeless Guy Gets The Girl (his trick inside)

January 23rd, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Love Bucket, Masterman, Mastermen | No Comments »

 

Ex-Homeless Guy Gets The Girl

Several years ago, as the story goes,

co-founder of now successful MLM,

David Woods, was in a natural health

food store grabbing a quick bite to eat

when….

….the sparkle glimmering off the

face of a girl caught his attention

and consumed him almost instantly.

She was sitting with another man -

obviously her boyfriend – enjoying

lunch and good conversation.

Dave felt his chest tighten up.

Emotion rushed through his veins.

A compelling urge inside him made it

impossible to walk out the door of the

store without saying something to her.

So he mustered up the guts to walk

over….and at the very last minute, he

swerved – and walked away.

"Wussie" he muttered to himself.

He started to walk back over and

again – at the last minute, he swerved.

Sweat puddled up in his hands and

started to bead on his forehead.

His chest was pounding.

The wrinkled dress shirt he was wearing

was sticking to his back.

"Screw it!" he exclaimed.

He walked straight over and said……

"I know you two are together, and I

don’t mean to be rude….but I think

you are the most beautiful girl in the

world…."

"We’re not together…" she said.

"He’s just a friend."

A short period of time later, they

were married.

Everyday people walk away from

situations that could be a defining

moment in their lives.

Don’t walk away, seize your moment.

Don’t be a wussie.

Stop over thinking it.

The results are right there when you have the confidence to act.

Be a Masterman and fill her love bucket!

Check out the interview and Carlos Xuma’s program to
make this happen for you!

Empty Love Bucket: Going to Sleep Angry

January 21st, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Love Bucket | No Comments »

Going to Sleep Angry Empties The Love Bucket

Any negative emotion, like an argument with a spouse or a disagreement at work can cause negative emotions.  The love bucket starts to empty not fill up.

The b-spot (brain) is affected by negative emotional responses particularly at bedtime. A study by University of Massachusetts at Amherst neuroscientists concludes that if you have a negative emotional response—their examples were for viewing an unsettling picture or experiencing a traumatic event—the response is reduced if you stay awake afterwards.

The old anecdotal saying that you should never go to sleep angry just got backed up by science, thanks to the neuroscientists at UMass.

If you go to sleep immediately, the response is "protected," which means that when you are exposed to the effect again, your negative response will be just as negative as the first time. There is a built-in survival value to our ancestors by preserving very negative emotions and memories of life-threatening situations and a strong to incentive to avoid similar occasions in the future.

Don’t go to sleep angry

The scientists pointed to people who suffer from post traumatic stress disorder and witnesses to accidents as examples of how their conclusion is applicable in practical terms. If a witness to a gruesome accident remains awake after the event, the next time they see a reproduction or photograph of the scene, their emotional response will be much lower than if they had slept right after. Researchers even said that their b-spot, as a defense mechanism is averse to going to sleep and the brain keeps active.

The researchers found that contrary to previous assumptions that sleep might soften negative emotional effects of a disturbing event, a period of sleep was associated with participants’ maintaining the strength of their initial negative feelings compared to a period of wakefulness.

The study points to the practice that you should try to resolve negative emotional feelings before you go to sleep so that you can have a less visceral reaction to the problem in the morning.

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Love Bucket Interview: Successful Dating Dynamics

January 20th, 2012 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Love Bucket, Masterman, Mastermen | 1 Comment »

Love Bucket Interview: Successful Dating Dynamics

CARLOS XUMA INTERVIEW WITH THE LOVE LINGUIST

*** So Carlos, first a little introduction about how you got into this business of helping guys meet women… dating is the first of the 5 Love Dynamics.

*** How long have you been doing this and how did you get into it?

I’ve been helping men have more success with women for the last 7 years using the Internet as my medium to share information.

Before that, I went through a long and hard journey of trying to figure out how and why my dating life had gone so very wrong. I was reading books on relationships, and all the stuff you find in the bookstores, but they were all written by people who really weren’t getting very good results in their own lives. They talked about the way things SHOULD be – logically. But, as we know, attraction is anything but logical.

My big focus now is helping guys overcome their own self-limiting beliefs and master both the INNER game of attraction (confidence, self-esteem, etc.), as well as the skills – the OUTER game of attraction.

I also teach guys about MOTIVATION – which is the fuel for all the things a you will accomplish in your life. This is part of being a “MASTERMAN” as the Love Linguist likes to call it.

This is what I call the "Triple-Threat": Motivation, Inner Game, Outer Game. With all three of these in place, you’re unstoppable. It’s the triple benefit.

*** What is the biggest mistake guys make when they go out to meet women?

In my opinion, the biggest mistake is how most guys THINK when they go out. It is their mental positioning and mindset. You see, all of the questions I get from guys have two parts – the inner and the outer, and one is a matter of *beliefs*, and the other is a matter of knowing the correct WHAT to do – the ACTIONS.

First, when most guys go out, they are thinking about GETTING women. This is the first big mistake. You’re focused on your own needs and wants and not enough on GIVING to other people. If you go out with this "I want to get a woman" mentality, women will pick it up. Even guys can sense a selfish agenda.

But you can have a healthy DESIRE for a woman that creates something much more intense than just physical intimacy, and that involves a change of attitude. You need to focus on her RINGS OF DESIRE. That’s a great concept with the love bucket – desire!

Ask yourself a simple question: "If she knew what my motives were, could I blame her for her reaction?"

Guys don’t realize that women want sex even MORE than they do. That’s why the Sex Ring of Desire is RED HOT! Women enjoy it more than we do, why wouldn’t they? But they have a much better ability to control that desire with protective instinct.

*** What, in your opinion, is one of the best places to meet women that a lot guys don’t know about?

Apart from online dating, honestly, in the real world, speed dating has a lot of promise. I used to run speed dating events all the time, and I’d come away with a girlfriend every time I did one. Plus, they are excellent places to hone and refine your social skills. I’d try out new conversation and new questions, and I’d really get a feel for what works with a woman.

You see, you have to work the numbers. You need to open your horizons and meet many women to hone in on the one you want. 95% of the guys I talk to are meeting LESS than 1 woman a week. Once you get past the "approach anxiety" challenge – something that every guy has, and I show you how to get past it – you see that it’s all about meeting enough women that you can make an educated choice as to the one you create a relationship with. You need to know you can be the Masterman, her hero and fill her love bucket.

The next best place for guys is online dating. Every guy knows about this one, but not every guy is using it to his advantage – or correctly. Most guys quit before they get the results they’re looking for, and it’s simply a job of tweaking his approach. In my opinion, you need to have more than 2 ways to meet women that you’re using ALL the time. Dating is the first of the 5 Love Dynamics and dating dynamics must happen to get to the rest!

*** When you’re training guys could you give a little run down of the process in which take them through?

The first step is a complete reboot of their masculine operating system. This is a clearing out of their old thoughts and mistaken beliefs about women and social dynamics of dating and relating. Next up is a complete reload of their operating system with MASTERMAN or Alpha Man OS. This is simply re-educating a guy to what being a MAN in today’s world really is. The better Masterman you are the better you are with women and in life in general.

Once you understand the changes in thinking that need to take place, you then have to have a game plan for implementing them into your life so that they become your natural way of acting and thinking. Again, I’m teaching guys the big picture stuff here, so you can you can make an educated choice as to eventually create a relationship.

The next step after that is to unlock your motivation.

*** What is one thing a guy can do right now to increase his attractiveness to women?

First of all, get in touch with your real passions in life. A Masterman knows his purpose and passion. There is no single thing that I have found that has had such a drastic effect as really getting in touch with what gets me fired up about LIFE. And let me assure you guys out there that are thinking:

"Women are my passion!" NO. Women are not a true passion. They are an outlet of your sexual drive, but not your TRUE passion. Women can help motivate you so you can have more energy for your purpose and give you a reason to be a better man.

(And when women find a guy that’s just into women, or appears to be, he trips their radar in all sorts of bad ways. She knows that this guy is not a good bet for her evolutionary success.)

When you find the things that get you excited about life – like your hobbies and your goals and your relationships in general – you will pay less attention to women for your fulfillment, which ironically makes you more attractive to them. Women don’t want to be the prize, they want to cheer you on to achieve your “prize” however you define it through your passion and purpose.

Know what you want in a woman and make your “love bucket list.” All the things that you want in a woman.

Then, with your life, get focused on your passions. So, that being said, guys still want to be more successful with women along the way, so we can do that, too. Here’s a way you can use this right now:

Right now, take out a piece of paper and make a list of all the things that really get you fired up about life (your burning passions). Detail them in terms of their sensory experience. If you like snowboarding (as I do), then you might write something like: Snowboarding – the sense of wind and biting air on my face, the relentless rush of speed down the mountain, the moments of catching air and feeling your heart stop in your chest, etc.

The more sensory description you can put into it the better. Then, memorize this and talk about it when you’re with a woman. I guarantee you this will work better than almost any "script" or fake routine you can find out there. Why? Because it’s genuine and YOURS. Women can feel you passion when you speak.

If there areas from your love bucket list and your passions list that are I sync and you find a women who has similar interests then you’ll ignite a great connection.

Also, the most potent and immediate thing you can do with a woman to generate attraction is to be FUN.

If you’re too serious and too focused on what you’re trying to get, you can’t be fun. And when you create the frame of giving her fun and excitement, you will also be focused on the GIVING.

"Tease to Please!" Make FUN your focus, and you’ll start seeing a radical difference in your results.

*** What was one of your biggest A-HA! moments in learning about attraction and dating social dynamics?

I remember I was reading a book that talked about the fact that relationships between people are not logical. As much as we want things to be the way they SHOULD be – like everyone treating everyone fairly, no prejudice, etc. – it isn’t this way. We don’t relate in any logical ways. And if you fight this reality, you’ll always be crying about life not being "fair" to you.

Then I realized that it didn’t really matter what *I* wanted. I could want a woman to like me and do everything I could to impress her. If she wasn’t attracted to me, it wouldn’t change anything.

You can’t force someone to like you or desire you. Plain and simple.

Unless I can see through a woman’s eyes and see what it is that makes her interested and attracted, I could push forever and never get her interested in me. So I switched my point of view.

Ask yourself this question: What matters more to the woman you’re interested in – what YOU want, or what SHE wants?

Then it all came down to a matter of one more question – What can I do to influence others that gets results? AND does it so that we BOTH win?

The answer to that question is what I teach guys. Because that’s the ethically correct way, and the way that gets me what I want at the same time. Win-Win.

*** What is one of the craziest experiences you have had during your time as a dating guru?

Well, when I had finally started to get the hang of how to handle social interactions with women where I was getting a lot of good results, I remember I once had a weekend where I was meeting 6 different women in two days. I thought that was really cool – complicated, but very cool. I finally had that sense of "arriving," you know? Where my hard work had finally gotten me to a turning point in my life.

Since then, I’ve had up and down times, but I’ve never felt like I would ever be "alone" or wanting for female companionship. I always feel like I’m within a few minutes of meeting a woman, whether that’s on the street, or online, or whatever. I got past my scarcity mindset, and now life truly feels abundant. And not just with women.

Now I spend my time helping other guys get to that same place in their lives.

(I’ve been sworn to secrecy about some of the other crazy times, like waking up in the back of a truck full of band equipment… but that’s another story…)

*** What is it about "Dating Dynamics" that you feel differs from the competition?

I teach a holistic approach to dating. I don’t JUST teach guys how to be attractive to QUALITY women – and I teach them how to attract friends, success, money, and a balanced peaceful lifestyle. I teach guys the BIG picture of how success with women translates to the rest of their lives – and how to do it with honor and integrity.

Guys get massive results from what I teach because I’m not giving you an imaginary magic pill or magic bullet. There is none, and I’m sure there’s quite a few guys reading this that have bought some program in the hopes that it would be.

I give guys lasting and deeply fulfilling success in their dating – and in the rest of their life, too.

*** How do you feel about natural, improvised conversations vs. canned scripted material in meeting and attracting women?

I know there are a lot of guys out there that see this picture as very black-and-white. There’s one camp that thinks that you should NEVER use anything memorized or pre-rehearsed because that’s fake.

The other camp thinks that you must use canned material because you can apply it in a predictable way.

Here’s what I feel…

You DO need pre-rehearsed material to get the hang of how social interactions work.

BUT only as long as you need them to start generating your own results.

If you’re talking with most people with no problem, and your social ability is okay in 90% in most situations, but when you get in front of a woman that you’re attracted to you lose your cool, it’s not a matter of what you’re saying. It’s what you’re THINKING. And that’s part of my Alpha Man operating system that I show guys how to be a Masterman.

You want to shift to natural conversation as quickly as you possibly can. Anything you’ve rehearsed or memorized is only a tool to get you past those occasional moments where you have a brain-fart, or you blank out because you’re in a low-energy state.

Your first focus should be relaxation and calming your mind, then use something convenient to open the conversation. From there, your focus is purely on the "vibe" in the interaction. The "vibe" is the ability to be in-the-moment with a woman and get improvisational with her. It’s not hard, and again, it’s a huge topic to discuss here. I wrote a book on vibing that guys can get from me directly.

*** Do you have a favorite opening line when you go up to approach women?

I like to let the situation dictate what I say to a woman because it allows for such a natural flow to the interaction. Being authentic is the most important way to walk up and start a conversation. However, there are some things that I will say if my mind is blank, and that’s where having a few good "lines" memorized can come in handy. (Let me emphasize here that this does not mean you should rely on canned routines for your conversation. ONLY the opening should be memorized.)

One of my favorite openers is this: "Hi, I just had a second to come over and let you know that I think you have a really great energy about you. I really liked that about you and I thought you should know. My name is Carlos…"

It’s simple and direct, and it NEVER fails to get a positive response from a woman – if it’s delivered with sincerity. Again, I won’t say it if it isn’t true.

*** 5 Love Dynamics starts with dating. What type of guy do you feel is most likely to succeed with "dating dynamics?"

Let’s put it this way – if you’re getting all the women you need in your life right now, and your confidence is through the roof every single day, you probably don’t need my programs. But if you feel there’s an area of your life – and not just your dating life! – that you want to take care of – to find more passion and purpose, to live what I call the Alpha Lifestyle to be a Masterman, then you owe it to yourself to take a look at the information I share with guys every week. And especially if you’ve tried other "seduction" programs and found that you aren’t making the progress you think you should.

*** Thanks Carlos for your time.

If guys reading this wanted to take advantage of your services and products, how would they go about doing it?

CARLOS:

The best way for them to get acquainted with what I have to offer is to get on my free newsletter list here

 

I’ve got a ton of great information, including audio and video training on everything from inner confidence to how to approach.

Then, if it makes sense, they can take a look at my other programs, such as dating dynamics that can help them massively increase their skills with women.

And of course, once you get into dating and want success in the other love dynamics, check out, Sherrie’s 5 Love Dynamics.

Love Bucket List: Has Facebook Caused Us To Change Our Dating Patterns?

January 17th, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Romance, Social Dating | No Comments »

Has Facebook Caused You To Change Your Dating Patterns?

Do you have an entry on your love bucket list of a wish for your date to ‘friend you Facebook’ and to change Facebook relationship status to “in a relationship”?  Is your social dating life and relationship life on your love bucket list?

Here’s a Facebook Relationship Status Post and Comments about Facebook and Dating (images and names removed)

Post: Is FACEBOOK a friend or foe in the early stages of a relationship (and why), how can FACEBOOK be used for a higher good? When to "friend" someone you met organically or on a dating site, when to change your relationship status, using Facebook as a background check, stalking a past relationship or even spying on a current date.

Comment 1 facebook can be a very slippery slope when part of romantic relationships in many ways…

33 minutes ago · Like · 2

Comment 2 one of the biggest deficits I see is it circumvents actual conversations and can result in a lot of projection and assumptions

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Comment 3 I see nothing wrong with looking at a past or present’s Facebook page. That’s just curiosity. I see a big problem with creating a fake profile and acting in an obsessive manner. A slippery slope indeed.

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Comment 4 I really hate the relationship status feature….I have hidden mine for now ….waiting for the divorce to happen and plan to fix it in the middle of the night when no one is up LOL! I will never use that feature again. so much on Face Book isn’t real I would hate to use it for any real measure against any future relationship I may have. I try to keep things fun on here, after all, my kid is a "friend" and that helps me tow the line!

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Comment 5 name – good observations. It can be wonderful as a way to connect initially and ongoing but no way is it, for me, as good as or ato replacement for direct connection voice to voice or especially in person.

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Comment 6 Auto correct thinks "ato" is a word lol.

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Comment 7 Just a side note….one thing my ex did do when Yoville (Facebook app) was popular. He did go to my fake "pad" and leave a box of chocolates…..It was nice to know he was thinking about me (then again, he could have been stalking!)

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Comment 8 I’ve toyed with the idea of telling anyone I’m dating "I will not friend you on facebook, nor will I text back and forth on any "relationship" subject". I might friend them once the relationship is well established, but not in the beginning… too much potential drama.

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Comment 9 I think it is an excellent platform to launch relationships and from then on it’s not about FACEBOOK at all. It’s fun and that’s all it is….but it does turn us into snoops sometimes.

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Comment 10 I have a line on my online profile that says "No lateral moves to Facebook or iChat" !!!!!!

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Comment 11 Plus, my facebook profile is my home… lots and lots of personal information there (including exposure to my children). I’m very selective about who I friend. I also think it can be too much info, too soon when just starting to learn about someone. Best to let some of the life details unfold more gradually…

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Comment 12 Love it name!!!

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Comment 13 Foe when comments with others appear inappropriate…or when there is never a recognition given to a partner, yet the person is definitely on FACEBOOK. It can certainly be used for the higher good when there is still an occasional endearing acknowledgment of your partner….if not just to let people know that your partner is actually important to you.

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Comment 14 That’s a wee bit hostile name..just don’t say anything about it. You either will or you won’t.

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Comment 15 If you use your privacy options and blocking option correctly non one will be able to spy on anyone.

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Comment 16 I think too many people want to "e-maintain" vs. engage. I’m with name, if you want to get to know me, man up and do so in the real world..

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Comment 17 Any "drama" that happens is caused by issues that need to be dealt with anyway – facebook just reveals them faster and more blatantly. Better to shine the light on it all I say. You have to really be ready for an intimate relationship though.

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Comment 18 However, some people don’t deal as well with that bright light but need more baby steps and softer lighting for facing those demons, name. Doesn’t mean they aren’t ready, they just aren’t ready for THAT much exposure so quickly.

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Comment 19 I would say they’re not quite ready then for an *intimate* relationship but may be well on their way… in a relationship and easing toward intimacy…

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Comment 20 Nothing wrong with that either…

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Comment 11 I never ever friend anyone I am dating– -or potentially dating– on FACEBOOK

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Comment 22 It is what it us. FACEBOOK is here to stay. What I find interesting is married couples who don’t friend with the spouse. I always thought that was not cool. Having privacy is one thing, but privacy from your primary partner when the rest of the world is allowed to see doesn’t make sense. The spy factor is a bit invasive but then it does allow you to see your potential partner and vice versa being their true selves! If they can’t be trusted, or IF YOU can’t be trusted, it’s gonna reveal itself one way or the other. Why not here?

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