A Masterman knows to give time to his lover. Attention is key in relationships.
What happens when work gets in the way of love? When you are dating and in hot pursuit you are focusing and paying attention to the object of your desire.
And desire, specifically the 7 Rings of Desire are what the Love Bucket are all about. Those are the seven desires that a woman has. Lifestyle is one of those desires and it may be that part of her lifestyle desire is to work and run her own business.
My friend and business associate has come up with three simple ways to connect and even though this is meant for women business owners, the same ideas are great for men.
Watch this video to learn three simple strategies:
#1 Give FULL ATTENTION to your lover
#2 Keep Your Lover in the Loop
#3 One Day of Love every week
Does your better half complain that you spend “too much time” on the computer? Are you ever accused of being a workaholic?
If your business causes major riffs in your relationship, you’re not alone.
With our 24/7 ability to move business ahead through smart phones, social media and laptops, entrepreneurs around the world are constantly tempted to do “just one more thing” every free second we have.
It makes sense. After all, when you’re super passionate about your work — it doesn’t feel like work at all and you want to do it all the time!
But I can tell you from experience that “too much time on the computer” can totally destroy your relationship.
And an messed up personal relationship will not only wreak havoc on your soul, but it can have a huge, negative impact on your business too.
In the 5 Love Dynamics program the Acclimating Dynamic is day-to-day living. Giving proper attention to your lover sometimes seems to fall in to the taken for granted category. If you do not allocate time and plan, share, and provide details of what’s happening in your life, there will be a disconnect in your relationship.
A recent message received about a “Transformational Course” was entitled Authentic Relationships. Authentic relating fills the love bucket. The art of relating transforms where you are to where you want to be.
It starts with filling your own love bucket so to speak and understanding the 7 Love Dynamics, two of which are personal. Personal love dynamics are your relationship not with another person. Personal love dynamics are love of self and love of God. Some say they are one and the same.
There is a beauty and dignity in all relationships.
Are you finding it?
Or is the joy, the fulfillment of relationships elusive?
Authentic transformation gives you the experience of new ways of perceiving yourself, others, and your environments, opening you to the simplicity of limitless perception where the magical ways of love are found.
The message went on to describe Authentic Relationships Transformation as an experience that breaks through the blocks that prevent you from experiencing our interconnectedness, helping to heal the illusion of isolation and separation. This transformational experience will provide you with the tools that can help you integrate Authentic Relationships into your lives and covers the following aspects of relationships:
- The Experience of Authentic Relationships
- Love and the Infinite Game of Life
- The Law of Polarity in Relationships
- Living as Your Authentic Self
- Divine Delight and
the Play of Masculine and Feminine
- Legacy and Lineage:
Passing on Grace and Consciousness
We are connected to everything in the creation and we exist in connection to everyone and everything else. Our greatest illusion is that we are somehow separated, isolated or hidden from others. That sense of separation is a tool well-wielded by our ego for purposes of defense, control and fear.
Relationships can be just a connection. Or they can be a deeper reflection of your core process as a human being-to fulfill and complete your soul and personality. Experiencing relationships with this sensitivity gives you more perspectives, choices and awareness of the effect of each of your actions.
This sense of Authentic Relationship with yourself and all others requires intuition, depth and caliber.
Heighten your existence. Learn to connect on deep, expanded levels. Allow intrinsic wisdom to become your guiding force. Enter a realm of utter & thorough reality — pure, profound and complete.
And in this everlasting newness of relating find constant and consistent happiness. This is a journey of change to let all the brilliance, gentleness and precision of relating be at your command.
Before jumping into the more esoteric relating, start with understanding the 5 Love Dynamics which are the keys to relationships over time no matter how authentic you are. What your transform today is part of a continuum and if you do not know where the love flows you will need to start over again. Get the 5 Love Dynamics today.
Love Bucket Interview: Successful Dating Dynamics
CARLOS XUMA INTERVIEW WITH THE LOVE LINGUIST
*** So Carlos, first a little introduction about how you got into this business of helping guys meet women… dating is the first of the 5 Love Dynamics.
*** How long have you been doing this and how did you get into it?
I’ve been helping men have more success with women for the last 7 years using the Internet as my medium to share information.
Before that, I went through a long and hard journey of trying to figure out how and why my dating life had gone so very wrong. I was reading books on relationships, and all the stuff you find in the bookstores, but they were all written by people who really weren’t getting very good results in their own lives. They talked about the way things SHOULD be – logically. But, as we know, attraction is anything but logical.
My big focus now is helping guys overcome their own self-limiting beliefs and master both the INNER game of attraction (confidence, self-esteem, etc.), as well as the skills – the OUTER game of attraction.
I also teach guys about MOTIVATION – which is the fuel for all the things a you will accomplish in your life. This is part of being a “MASTERMAN” as the Love Linguist likes to call it.
This is what I call the "Triple-Threat": Motivation, Inner Game, Outer Game. With all three of these in place, you’re unstoppable. It’s the triple benefit.
*** What is the biggest mistake guys make when they go out to meet women?
In my opinion, the biggest mistake is how most guys THINK when they go out. It is their mental positioning and mindset. You see, all of the questions I get from guys have two parts – the inner and the outer, and one is a matter of *beliefs*, and the other is a matter of knowing the correct WHAT to do – the ACTIONS.
First, when most guys go out, they are thinking about GETTING women. This is the first big mistake. You’re focused on your own needs and wants and not enough on GIVING to other people. If you go out with this "I want to get a woman" mentality, women will pick it up. Even guys can sense a selfish agenda.
But you can have a healthy DESIRE for a woman that creates something much more intense than just physical intimacy, and that involves a change of attitude. You need to focus on her RINGS OF DESIRE. That’s a great concept with the love bucket – desire!
Ask yourself a simple question: "If she knew what my motives were, could I blame her for her reaction?"
Guys don’t realize that women want sex even MORE than they do. That’s why the Sex Ring of Desire is RED HOT! Women enjoy it more than we do, why wouldn’t they? But they have a much better ability to control that desire with protective instinct.
*** What, in your opinion, is one of the best places to meet women that a lot guys don’t know about?
Apart from online dating, honestly, in the real world, speed dating has a lot of promise. I used to run speed dating events all the time, and I’d come away with a girlfriend every time I did one. Plus, they are excellent places to hone and refine your social skills. I’d try out new conversation and new questions, and I’d really get a feel for what works with a woman.
You see, you have to work the numbers. You need to open your horizons and meet many women to hone in on the one you want. 95% of the guys I talk to are meeting LESS than 1 woman a week. Once you get past the "approach anxiety" challenge – something that every guy has, and I show you how to get past it – you see that it’s all about meeting enough women that you can make an educated choice as to the one you create a relationship with. You need to know you can be the Masterman, her hero and fill her love bucket.
The next best place for guys is online dating. Every guy knows about this one, but not every guy is using it to his advantage – or correctly. Most guys quit before they get the results they’re looking for, and it’s simply a job of tweaking his approach. In my opinion, you need to have more than 2 ways to meet women that you’re using ALL the time. Dating is the first of the 5 Love Dynamics and dating dynamics must happen to get to the rest!
*** When you’re training guys could you give a little run down of the process in which take them through?
The first step is a complete reboot of their masculine operating system. This is a clearing out of their old thoughts and mistaken beliefs about women and social dynamics of dating and relating. Next up is a complete reload of their operating system with MASTERMAN or Alpha Man OS. This is simply re-educating a guy to what being a MAN in today’s world really is. The better Masterman you are the better you are with women and in life in general.
Once you understand the changes in thinking that need to take place, you then have to have a game plan for implementing them into your life so that they become your natural way of acting and thinking. Again, I’m teaching guys the big picture stuff here, so you can you can make an educated choice as to eventually create a relationship.
The next step after that is to unlock your motivation.
*** What is one thing a guy can do right now to increase his attractiveness to women?
First of all, get in touch with your real passions in life. A Masterman knows his purpose and passion. There is no single thing that I have found that has had such a drastic effect as really getting in touch with what gets me fired up about LIFE. And let me assure you guys out there that are thinking:
"Women are my passion!" NO. Women are not a true passion. They are an outlet of your sexual drive, but not your TRUE passion. Women can help motivate you so you can have more energy for your purpose and give you a reason to be a better man.
(And when women find a guy that’s just into women, or appears to be, he trips their radar in all sorts of bad ways. She knows that this guy is not a good bet for her evolutionary success.)
When you find the things that get you excited about life – like your hobbies and your goals and your relationships in general – you will pay less attention to women for your fulfillment, which ironically makes you more attractive to them. Women don’t want to be the prize, they want to cheer you on to achieve your “prize” however you define it through your passion and purpose.
Know what you want in a woman and make your “love bucket list.” All the things that you want in a woman.
Then, with your life, get focused on your passions. So, that being said, guys still want to be more successful with women along the way, so we can do that, too. Here’s a way you can use this right now:
Right now, take out a piece of paper and make a list of all the things that really get you fired up about life (your burning passions). Detail them in terms of their sensory experience. If you like snowboarding (as I do), then you might write something like: Snowboarding – the sense of wind and biting air on my face, the relentless rush of speed down the mountain, the moments of catching air and feeling your heart stop in your chest, etc.
The more sensory description you can put into it the better. Then, memorize this and talk about it when you’re with a woman. I guarantee you this will work better than almost any "script" or fake routine you can find out there. Why? Because it’s genuine and YOURS. Women can feel you passion when you speak.
If there areas from your love bucket list and your passions list that are I sync and you find a women who has similar interests then you’ll ignite a great connection.
Also, the most potent and immediate thing you can do with a woman to generate attraction is to be FUN.
If you’re too serious and too focused on what you’re trying to get, you can’t be fun. And when you create the frame of giving her fun and excitement, you will also be focused on the GIVING.
"Tease to Please!" Make FUN your focus, and you’ll start seeing a radical difference in your results.
*** What was one of your biggest A-HA! moments in learning about attraction and dating social dynamics?
I remember I was reading a book that talked about the fact that relationships between people are not logical. As much as we want things to be the way they SHOULD be – like everyone treating everyone fairly, no prejudice, etc. – it isn’t this way. We don’t relate in any logical ways. And if you fight this reality, you’ll always be crying about life not being "fair" to you.
Then I realized that it didn’t really matter what *I* wanted. I could want a woman to like me and do everything I could to impress her. If she wasn’t attracted to me, it wouldn’t change anything.
You can’t force someone to like you or desire you. Plain and simple.
Unless I can see through a woman’s eyes and see what it is that makes her interested and attracted, I could push forever and never get her interested in me. So I switched my point of view.
Ask yourself this question: What matters more to the woman you’re interested in – what YOU want, or what SHE wants?
Then it all came down to a matter of one more question – What can I do to influence others that gets results? AND does it so that we BOTH win?
The answer to that question is what I teach guys. Because that’s the ethically correct way, and the way that gets me what I want at the same time. Win-Win.
*** What is one of the craziest experiences you have had during your time as a dating guru?
Well, when I had finally started to get the hang of how to handle social interactions with women where I was getting a lot of good results, I remember I once had a weekend where I was meeting 6 different women in two days. I thought that was really cool – complicated, but very cool. I finally had that sense of "arriving," you know? Where my hard work had finally gotten me to a turning point in my life.
Since then, I’ve had up and down times, but I’ve never felt like I would ever be "alone" or wanting for female companionship. I always feel like I’m within a few minutes of meeting a woman, whether that’s on the street, or online, or whatever. I got past my scarcity mindset, and now life truly feels abundant. And not just with women.
Now I spend my time helping other guys get to that same place in their lives.
(I’ve been sworn to secrecy about some of the other crazy times, like waking up in the back of a truck full of band equipment… but that’s another story…)
*** What is it about "Dating Dynamics" that you feel differs from the competition?
I teach a holistic approach to dating. I don’t JUST teach guys how to be attractive to QUALITY women – and I teach them how to attract friends, success, money, and a balanced peaceful lifestyle. I teach guys the BIG picture of how success with women translates to the rest of their lives – and how to do it with honor and integrity.
Guys get massive results from what I teach because I’m not giving you an imaginary magic pill or magic bullet. There is none, and I’m sure there’s quite a few guys reading this that have bought some program in the hopes that it would be.
I give guys lasting and deeply fulfilling success in their dating – and in the rest of their life, too.
*** How do you feel about natural, improvised conversations vs. canned scripted material in meeting and attracting women?
I know there are a lot of guys out there that see this picture as very black-and-white. There’s one camp that thinks that you should NEVER use anything memorized or pre-rehearsed because that’s fake.
The other camp thinks that you must use canned material because you can apply it in a predictable way.
Here’s what I feel…
You DO need pre-rehearsed material to get the hang of how social interactions work.
BUT only as long as you need them to start generating your own results.
If you’re talking with most people with no problem, and your social ability is okay in 90% in most situations, but when you get in front of a woman that you’re attracted to you lose your cool, it’s not a matter of what you’re saying. It’s what you’re THINKING. And that’s part of my Alpha Man operating system that I show guys how to be a Masterman.
You want to shift to natural conversation as quickly as you possibly can. Anything you’ve rehearsed or memorized is only a tool to get you past those occasional moments where you have a brain-fart, or you blank out because you’re in a low-energy state.
Your first focus should be relaxation and calming your mind, then use something convenient to open the conversation. From there, your focus is purely on the "vibe" in the interaction. The "vibe" is the ability to be in-the-moment with a woman and get improvisational with her. It’s not hard, and again, it’s a huge topic to discuss here. I wrote a book on vibing that guys can get from me directly.
*** Do you have a favorite opening line when you go up to approach women?
I like to let the situation dictate what I say to a woman because it allows for such a natural flow to the interaction. Being authentic is the most important way to walk up and start a conversation. However, there are some things that I will say if my mind is blank, and that’s where having a few good "lines" memorized can come in handy. (Let me emphasize here that this does not mean you should rely on canned routines for your conversation. ONLY the opening should be memorized.)
One of my favorite openers is this: "Hi, I just had a second to come over and let you know that I think you have a really great energy about you. I really liked that about you and I thought you should know. My name is Carlos…"
It’s simple and direct, and it NEVER fails to get a positive response from a woman – if it’s delivered with sincerity. Again, I won’t say it if it isn’t true.
*** 5 Love Dynamics starts with dating. What type of guy do you feel is most likely to succeed with "dating dynamics?"
Let’s put it this way – if you’re getting all the women you need in your life right now, and your confidence is through the roof every single day, you probably don’t need my programs. But if you feel there’s an area of your life – and not just your dating life! – that you want to take care of – to find more passion and purpose, to live what I call the Alpha Lifestyle to be a Masterman, then you owe it to yourself to take a look at the information I share with guys every week. And especially if you’ve tried other "seduction" programs and found that you aren’t making the progress you think you should.
*** Thanks Carlos for your time.
If guys reading this wanted to take advantage of your services and products, how would they go about doing it?
The best way for them to get acquainted with what I have to offer is to get on my free newsletter list here
I’ve got a ton of great information, including audio and video training on everything from inner confidence to how to approach.
Then, if it makes sense, they can take a look at my other programs, such as dating dynamics that can help them massively increase their skills with women.
And of course, once you get into dating and want success in the other love dynamics, check out, Sherrie’s 5 Love Dynamics.
The Love Bucket, Love Dynamics, and Holiday Love
What kind of love do you have in your life?
The holiday season is a time when you want your love bucket filled with LOVE. If you have a wonderful woman in your life, she definitely wants her love bucket filled. It is a family oriented time with dinners, parties and images that the media creates and holiday music playing everywhere.
What kind of love do you have in your life that makes you happy or cringe? As a single man you may have lost your last girlfriend because you did not know how to fill her love bucket.
You may make make fun of your ex-girlfriends in a playful way like the post below. “To all my ex-girlfriends who send me holiday cards w/pictures of their kids… I get it.. you messed up.”
This was funny enough to get over 70 people to like the post and more than 50 people to make a comment. That’s because some part of this rings true to everyone. Mainly, who is happy enough to have a family and children during the holiday season and who needs to use a little sarcasm to poke fun at the ex-girlfriend who “messed up.”
If you are a man who’s not like Drew (who works out daily and sports 6-pack abs) but you are still a loveable gorilla, there is hope for you. Remember, there is someone for everyone in the love dynamics starting with dating.
If love is what you want this holiday season, check out the 5 Love Dynamics.
Go from Dating to Cultivating and pay attention to the in between dynamics like the Sexual Dynamics!
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Comments on this entry
oh yeah perfect lol
typical man , couldnt just say that ,,, typical
does anyone know if he fixed the problem
I hope he gets the bike running again….lol
Sounds about right..lol
So true. I wonder if he ever got the bike running again… :/
So so true.
This sounds soooo familiar… In my case it was his favorite fishing pole acting up, and couldn’t figure out why…
I hope for his sake he got the bike running!!~!
I think that particular woman needs to chill out and get a life. She depends way to much on her husband for her own sense of self worth and completion.
You start with the electrical system, if all is well, move on to fuel system….eventually you discover the problem….hahaha
Right, like a woman ever gave a straight answer to those questions! 😛
that is exactly me
Hahah! This is funny!
Depends on the two people, if this is a true statement, or not.
The 5 Love Dynamics of inter-personal relationships shows this RELATING DYNAMIC that is right in the middle. Relating and communication balance connection of lovers.
Check out the 5 Love Dynamics Program: http://5LoveDynamics.com