You deserve passionate, living, thrilling, creative intimacy with a woman – it creates an upward spiral in your life
… and when you fill her love bucket your life will get better, too!
A man of discernment and experience –KNOWS – to love someone is a CONSCIOUS ACTION.
There is a big difference if you are 20 and looking for a woman or 50 and looking for a woman. Experience, maturity, clarity, all affect what kind of woman you will attract into your life.
Love, cherishment – it is a PRACTICE — a practice that you EACH do even when you don’t feel like it. And by practice, I mean filling the love bucket with the actions and filling the desires of the Rings of Desire of The Love Bucket.
Love is a consciously chosen perception. It is a commitment. And it must go both ways.
Adam, who I wrote about in How to Get a Woman to Do Anything is the creator of The Boldness Code.
Adam had a fascinating and heart-breaking talk that I will recount, with a very talented and intelligent young man who is around 20 and in a love relationship for almost a year now.
And though he and his girl clearly mean a lot to each other, he finds that every day is like playing that old battery-operated game, Operation.
You make one tiny wrong move and – ANNNNGH! – she cries. Or she flips out. She gets angry. She blames you for hurting her.
And because this young man has a kind and caring heart – he is distracted every day, trying to "fix" what he cannot fix.
Loving somebody when you are a young person is not the same as loving somebody as a man of experience.
When young people talk about loving each other, they are talking about an EMOTION.
They are talking about something they FEEL.
An energy. A strange gravity. A hormonal stew in the brain and the balls.
If she’s not playing along with you… That is called triage. That is called therapy. That is called a recipe for your misery.
Don’t Waste Your Affection on The Wrong Girls
Most of the romantic stuff you hear on TV and in popular culture is a lie.
The cult of overblown weddings is a cult of slavery. Adam did not know how to fill the love bucket when he was married. He has two sons so he is not in a protective state over daughters. If you ar divorced, and feeling slightly angry, you may look back at your wedding album and all those drunken slobs and relatives – and think "that" is supposed to remind you of what love is. It’s not.
No matter if you are 20 or 70, you need to fill the love bucket each day. That means daily or at least regular actions to fill the love bucket with a living daily game of playful, engaged one-on-one actions and interaction.
Adam wants to help men, particularly men over 35. He says, screw social rules and customs. They are relics of the past and they are not made for you.
When you don’t cultivate your boldness a man, you’ve sold your freedom for a penny.
The Bold Man creates his own reality.
The Bold Man does not waste his affections on women who are not "in the game" with him, not playing this game of intimacy and passion for mutual growth and evolution.
The Bold Man LOVES to relate, to dig in, to explore what it means to be vulnerable, and true, and in the dirt, and honest and fearless and excruciatingly tender.
The Bold Man is alive to the moment.
And the Bold Woman is thrilled and inspired by him.
Everything’s in motion.
Everything’s vital. Vital, dynamic, pulsing, creative, in-the-moment love and life.
Break Free Into Bold Intimacy – Now with THE BOLDNESS CODE
Boldness TURNS ON women – and when you just start putting the daily techniques and practices I teach you into practice, you will see a change – not only in how women respond to you – but in how you feel about yourself.
Is courage the missing link?
Being “Bold” is definitely one way that creates attraction and leads to you filling her love bucket! My friend Adam Gilad speaks about this.
Another friend said that when he started working on himself, which is a great place to start to be better in any relationship and to attract a woman, his very first coach gave him the opportunity to study courage and cowardice at close range.
Success begins with desire. People all desire success but they don’t always know how to achieve it.
Desire you say? Like the 7 Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket? Yes, it is desire, just a different form of desire.
A man who is a Masterman has this desire mastered so that it channels into success in all aspects of his life. So just what is it that always stops a man becoming a Masterman and from achieving success?
It’s always the same thing. Even though I’ve heard it described a thousand different ways, it’s always the same thing. It’s never about the money or circumstance or time. It’s fear. That’s right, FEAR is all that’s in your way!
"I’m afraid if I go after this woman, she’ll reject me. I’m afraid if I went for my dream, I would lose my security. I’m afraid my wife wouldn’t understand if I did this. I’m afraid I don’t know how to do it. I’m afraid I won’t have time. Etc, etc."
Do you hear yourself in these words? Most people would admit that most of their life they wrestle with these same fears. The inner coward stops you.
When you take charge of your own life it is the introduction of boldness.
Courage can become the driving force in your life to overcome fear. Some guys have turned becoming courageous into an obsession to overcome fear.
Have you heard of The Serenity Prayer. The prayer goes like this "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
My friend who started into his personal development quest (and who had gone through chemo) always secretly called that prayer "The Courage Prayer" NOT The Serenity Prayer. What he wanted from that prayer was the coverage. The courage to change the things he could. How would that be? Forget serenity for now. That could come later when he was enjoying the benefits of a life well lived.
Courage is all any of the men I have known have ever really wanted. Though they call it a thousand different things. Courage is always what is missing. In all quests for success, what people really want to be is fearless!
The book, The Law of Success, by Napoleon Hill was published initially in 1928 as a multi-volume correspondence course and later more compact formats in recent years. The Law of Success was first used as a lecture, and was delivered by its author in practically every city and in many smaller localities, throughout the United States over a period of more than seven years.
The work was originally commissioned at the request of Andrew Carnegie at the conclusion of a multi-day interview with Hill, and was based upon interviews of over 100 American millionaires across nearly 20 years, including such self-made industrial giants as Henry Ford, J.P. Morgan, John D. Rockefeller, Alexander Graham Bell, and Thomas Edison. Men who were luminaries and who had courage to create the new.
Here’s what Napoleon Hill used to maintain confidence and guide his actions to being courageous each and every day:
I believe in myself. I believe in those who work with me. I believe in my clients, friends and my family. I believe that God will lend me everything I need with which to succeed if I do my best to earn it through faithful and honest service.
I believe in prayer and I will never close my eyes in sleep without praying for divine guidance to the end that I will be patient with other people and tolerant with those who do not believe as I do.
I believe that success is the result of intelligent effort and do not depend upon luck or sharp practices or double crossing friends, fellow men or my employer. I believe I will get out of life exactly what I put into it; therefore I will be careful to conduct myself toward others as I would want them to act toward me. I will not slander those whom I do not like.
I will not slight my work no matter what I may see others doing. I will render the best service of which I am capable because I have pledged myself to succeed in life and I know that success is always the result of conscientious and efficient effort.
Finally, I will forgive those who offend me because I realize that I shall sometimes offend others and I will need their forgiveness.
How you conduct yourself in one part of your life shows up in another. Bold Courage and actions taken with confidence are essential to success. The woman in your life knows that about you. Have the courage to fill her love bucket.
The Love Linguist Recommends Reading: The Law of Success, by Napoleon Hill
How to Get a Woman to Do Anything
You see her across the room.
She’s leggy. Charming. Perfect teeth. Adorable. Seemingly open and friendly – and available…
She looks up. Your eyes meet…
How do you go from that first "look" – to (2) an easy, natural and sexually charged conversation to (3) a sweet first kiss to (4) breathless "take-me" surrender?
Hey – it’s a GREAT question.
The answer – natural law.
What do I mean by that?
It’s not what you think. It’s not, "be the alpha gorilla" and drag her into the bushes.
Rather, as men, as men who succeed in the world, as men who take ourselves seriously, who take our lives seriously, who are committed to evolve and become more powerful, more confident…
… we gather our ideas and our knowledge from more sophisticated sources.
The psychology of influence is a fascinating study and makes you a smarter and more effective man. As the writer of this guest post, I must tell you that I read everything I can — and I test what I read.
This week, I’ve been reading a book on how to change behavior recommended by the CEOs of Hasbro, McKesson, Cessna, Allergan and the Chief of Staff of the US Army – among others. The book is "What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Get Even More Successful" – by Marshall Goldsmith. Marshall is one of the top presenters at the annual WBECS Summit. And I’ve been studying it, looking for even more lessons to share with the guys who are in my Boldness Code 60 Day Transformation Program. And I want to tell you something that struck me… because it makes all the difference with women.
… and it is the heart of the kind of Boldness I teach.
If you remember from our Teaching Webinar on Boldness – I showed you how BOLDNESS is "the ability to make your will felt in the world." And not just your will – but your will without apology and without domineering.
In fact, with no attachment at all and no dependency at all on other people’s reaction or approval.
Boldness is internal freedom and the ability to – in the moment – act, speak and follow through based solely on your desire to make your will felt.
That kind of freedom – demonstrated in word, body and action – electrifies women.
Now – there are two kinds of boldness.
1. Shitty boldness hurts people. Leaves them scarred for life.
2. The kind of Boldness I teach in the course in "Ennobling Boldness" – the kind of strong, internal freedom that INSPIRES women to want to be with you. To see in the first 10 seconds that YOU are that unusual man who stands out from the crowd and can take them for an exciting ride.
Goldsmith says in his book – really a primer for CEOs and other highly successful men – that "natural law" trumps everything…
"The only natural law I’ve witnessed in three decades of observing successful people’s efforts to become more successful is this: People will do something – including changing their behavior – only if it can be demonstrated that doing so in their own best interests as defined by their own values."
Here’s what I want you to know about Boldness and why this course will give you what you need to use to succeed with woman in an entirely new way.
When you meet women…
1: TUNE INTO THE ONE STATION SHE LISTENS TO
To reframe this statement above – every woman is tuned to the same radio station: "WIIFM" – "what’s in it for me."
2: GIVE IN ORDER TO GET
When you approach women with a "needy" attitude of trying to "get" something from her ( a number, her approval) rather than with an empowered, self-contained attitude of "giving" – she will immediately be attuned to the truth that you are the one with the power, the gifts, the overflow – and she’ll be more receptive to you. It’s a simple shift but a crucial one. You can do this with one phrase – properly delivered.
3: YOU MUST DEMONSTRATE YOU ARE THE SEXUAL LEAD
I show you – how at those 5 make-or-break moments with women – those moments where they decide to "f" you or forget you – that you must, must, must demonstrate that you are 100% comfortable in your sexual body – as a sexual being. As men and women we are sexual beings – and to embody that without shame – through speech, touch, breathing, stance, how you take up space – is a SCREAMING indication to her that you are either likely to give her a great sexual experience or not.
Her sexual experience is "in her best self-interests" as Goldsmith would word it. So if she doesn’t FEEL that likelihood from you, she’s not going to "change her behavior" and go home with you. Or even take you seriously.
If your body is telling her that you’re out for yourself – she’ll turn off. If you are trying to out "display" her, she will turn off. A woman wants to know that you will take her beyond her inhibitions into the blissful land of surrender and release.
Bold men do that. Polite men don’t. Make sure she feels which one you are right away. A bold man is a Masterman.
4: HER VALUES INCLUDE PLEASURE AT THE CENTER
Goldsmith important adds that last phrase. You can’t – and shouldn’t – try to make anyone take actions against their values. What you CAN do is reveal to them that the repressed, withheld, constricted habits they are clinging to are not actually their values…
.. that sexual repression, self-denial and timidity are in fact tyrannical codes of decaying cultural norms designed to control and destroy women’s freedom and independence…
You want to inspire women to change their values, free their values and learn to "love what the soft animal of their bodies" already love.
If you don’t take the lead – you are cheating her of the very pleasure of possessing a life and a body in this delicious world.
Do you want to be the bold man that can lead her into pleasure and happiness, release and surrender, joy and freedom?
If so – you’d better know how to do that for yourself.
… and be the man who is FREE inside, TRUTHFUL outside and SIZZLING with the sexuality of boldness in body, mind, speech and touch.
… you can continue to try to "trick" or "manipulate" or "nice" woman into your bed.
This isn’t just about meeting women
This is about living the life you actually want to live.
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… and genuine spiritual freedom.
Maybe for the first time in your life.
Join Me Here – and know exactly what to say and what to do with women everywhere you go!
There’s absolutely zero risk for you.
To Your Bold Life,
P.S. Being Bold is definitely one way that creates attraction and leads to you filling her love bucket!
WHAT WOMEN WANT FROM MEN BUT CAN’T TELL THEM!
As men, we think about women, dream about women, fantasize about women, spend billions of dollars every year to impress women…
Because WE DESIRE WOMEN!
In fact, we really want women to desire US!
Those 7 Rings of Desire of The Love Bucket are different for men. Men want women to desire them!
Fortunately, you have a realistic chance of that happening to you at least once in your life.
This article will increase your chances of that happening a lot more than once. Here’s why:
1) Women dream of meeting someone just like you. They go to sleep dreaming about you, wanting you, desiring lifelong happiness with you.
If you don’t believe me, look up “dating sites” on the web and you’ll pull up over 2 million competing pages. Check out Cosmopolitan or other woman’s magazine and the main topic will be “What Men Want” or “How to Get a Man” or something like that.
We won’t even get started on all of the bars, clubs, coffee house poetry readings and speed dating singles events occurring each year across the globe.
That’s a hell of a lot of places to look for men to connect with.
2) Women outnumber men from birth until death and they know it. This becomes more important as time moves on – the older we all get, the smaller the male population gets.
3) For many women, there’s something terribly wrong about being without a man and will move heaven and earth to alter that situation. Intellectually, they don’t like being alone but they’ll put up with it. Subconsciously, they often make themselves wrong for not having attracted a man in her life – especially if she’s beautiful. Plus, peer pressure amplifies this – especially if her friends have men in their lives. At the cellular level everything within them screams, “Give Me Testosterone – I need a MAN!”
Women know who they want, what they want you to do, how they hope that you’ll act when they meet you and within 30 seconds of meeting you they even know exactly when they’ll be having sex with you!
In other words, women are practically begging you to experience success with them. Your success results in their happiness. The entire female population is crying out for you to not just BE with a woman that makes you happy, but for you to CHOOSE a woman you’d be ecstatic with!
If this is true, I have a few questions for you:
If women want men and men want women, how come there are so many lonely men and women in the world?
How come you don’t have the woman of your dreams yet?
If God created something better for men than women, he’s keeping it to himself!
What’s stopping you from finding her or having her?
The answer is….
*YOU* ARE THE REASON!
That’s the bad news.
Fortunately, that’s also the good news.
Keep reading, my friend. Keep reading. You’ll see what I mean in a moment.
WHAT WOMEN WANT
Women want to be swept off their feet. They want to feel a delicious, sexy, irresistible chemistry when they’re with you and when they think about you. They want to feel that they can’t help themselves from being with you.
So how do you sweep them off their feet?
Boldness takes women’s breath away. Boldness makes women’s knees weak. Boldness makes women want to be with you because of the energy you exude during an act of boldness. Women feel safe and secure when you act boldly on their behalf.
Boldness makes you look like a hero. It makes you feel most like your true self – masculine and successful. You’ll look like a knight in shining armor and she’ll see you as a knight in shining armor – regardless if you’re a nerdy knight, a business knight, a blue collar knight or a rogue knight.
Doesn’t that sound simple enough? Be Bold! Go for it! Sweep her off her feet! Go ahead – I dare you!
You just read a description of how boldness affects women. That is not the same thing as knowing what boldness is. A description is not a definition. You may be able to recognize boldness when you see it but can you BE bold or ACT boldly from what you’ve just read?
Maybe you can, maybe not.
Let’s make this so clear that you’ll never forget it.
WHAT IS BOLDNESS, EXACTLY?
Take a look at the dictionary definition of the root word BOLD:
“Beyond the usual limits of conventional thought or action; imaginative”
Notice the definition says nothing about confidence, courage or arrogance. It emphasizes the imaginative, beyond the usual limits of conventional thoughts or actions. In this case, the emphasis is on ACTION.
In our society we tend to use the words confidence, boldness and arrogance interchangeably, synonymously. We often have unconscious emotional baggage around them. However, they are entirely different ways of being.
Whether you can tell the difference between them or not will determine your effectiveness with women because if you can’t tell the difference, you can’t make a difference.
Let’s take a look at the definition of “Confident”:
“Sure of oneself; having no uncertainty about one’s own abilities, correctness, successfulness”
Confidence will have you approach a woman and ask for her name and number. You may get the result you want or you may not.
Boldness will INSPIRE her to GIVE YOU her name and number!
Many men are fearful and act timid when it comes to women because they mistake boldness for arrogance, confidence or courage. They don’t want to come off as arrogant and if they don’t know what to say or are so worried about rejection they can’t muster any courage, they end up alone.
For those men, let’s look at “Arrogant”:
“Having or displaying a sense of overbearing self-worth or self-importance”
Arrogance may make you feel good about yourself or make your friends think you’re cool but you’ll be alone a lot more often than you care to be. Even if you do get lucky, you won’t like the women you end up with because they’ll be attracted to some figment of your imagination you created – not you.
(Unless you actually ARE authentically arrogant, in which case you have some deprogramming to do because arrogance is an expression of insecurity. We can also help you with that but that’s another report.)
Women can smell insecurity a mile away. Quality women won’t go near you unless they’re insecure as well, in which case you may want to get clear on your definition of “quality”.
WHY BOLDNESS WORKS
Women would rather you be authentically shy than to fake boldness.
Boldness can really only be original, spontaneous and in the moment. Boldness is a great idea carried out without regard to consequences. Boldness, in the case of dealing with women, is an in-the-moment phenomenon. It has the ring of truth to it and it’s such an honor to be on the receiving end of unabashed self expression that it’s inspiring!
If you make plans to take bold actions, you’ve reduced yourself and your actions to the realm of confidence, courage or manipulation. They all work and produce results but none of those ways of being are IRRESISTIBLE!
Boldness is irresistible because it is an authentic expression of how you feel in the moment. Women know when you’ve just said something that’s not a line. Women know when you’ve just done something you may have never done before. Women can smell originality 2 cities away. They experience boldness as if they inspired your boldness and it makes them feel wanted and desired. It tells them you are original, unique and follow your intuition. They experience it as “chemistry” and consider it as “fate”.
You’ll have women thinking, “He did that for me? Wow! I want to know more about this guy – he ‘intrigues’ me!”
Once you have a woman wondering about you and feel the rush of some authentic, bold act, you WILL be spending quality time with her!
You won’t need pickup lines. You won’t need a coach. You won’t have to be scared. All you have to do is stay in the moment, pay attention to what she likes and does not like, follow your gut instincts and take actions before you begin to think (don’t let doubt talk you out of it!) and you’ll be doing the choosing instead of the hoping.
HOW TO CULTIVATE BOLDNESS
First and foremost, learn to relax. The harder you try to “get it right”, the harder it will be for you to “get it right”. The condition is called “Purpose Tremor” – defined as, “excessive carefulness leading to inhibition and anxiety”. An example of this is when your hand shakes while trying to thread a needle or get nervous when asking women for what you want.
Second, stop worrying about whether women like you or not. What she thinks of you is none of your business. Take your attention off of yourself. You should be paying attention to the object of your desire and how to express your interest. Trust yourself. When you’re driving you don’t worry about other drivers, do you? You just drive. The same thing applies here: do what you feel is the right thing to do or what you know to do.
Next, learn how to distinguish your intuition from your “inner thinker”. Your intuition is the thought or feeling that has your best interest at heart, most inspires you and makes you feel great. Let’s say you’re either about to approach a woman, you’re on a date or you just saw someone you’re attracted to and you have a thought that makes you smile and you think, “That would be great if I did that”. Do not hesitate – JUST DO IT! That’s your intuition telling you to be BOLD!
Women want you to be a leader – to be decisive and strong willed. You want to be the same way: a leader – decisive and strong willed. So make up your mind and go for what you want.
The place to start….
Boldness will only take you but so far on its own; it’s not enough to keep a woman attracted to you.
Sprinkled sporadically, it works wonders. It could be all you’ll need to get a 1st or even a second date. However, you’ll eventually need to be more than a “one trick pony”.
In baseball, players are rated on their ability to produce results in 5 areas: run, catch, throw, hit for average and hit for power. Anyone who excels in all 5 areas is considered a “5 tool player” and will likely play in many All Star games. In dating there are 3 distinct areas you’ll need to be skillful in if you intend to be an “All Star” with women. These areas are:
Inner Game – the conversations you have with yourself, especially when you’re in the most crucial of moments. Do you believe in yourself? Do you understand your value as a man to women?
Outer Game – the skill of your interactions with women: the things you say, the things you do and the way you engage and have them engaged with you. Do you know how to start conversations and keep them going?
Lifestyle – how you live your life. This includes your residence, how you take care of yourself and how you go about doing the things that matter to you the most. Do you have a life women want to be a part of? Are women excited with what you do with your life? Are you living the life you’ve always wanted or at least working towards that life?
In "The Boldness Code" you will be given a chance to join a live Tele-Training Series and ask the questions you’ve always wanted to ask. This training session will give you that decisive edge of boldness to succeed with women.
Table of Contents/ List of Topics Covered:
MODULE #1: APPROACH HER FEARLESSLY
– How to boldly approach women anywhere, anytime
MODULE #2: LIVE FEARLESSLY
– How to dissolve your fears around women – in a flash!
MODULE #3. EXCITE HER WITH YOUR “BAD BOY” CONVERSATION
– How to “live” bad boy technique – even if it feels new or “odd”
MODULE #4: ASTOUND HER WITH YOUR BRASS BALLS
– Surprise her and yourself with brass-balls moments to make you stand out from other men.
MODULE #5: IMPRESS HER BY BOLDLY LEADING HER EMOTIONS
– Replace Mr. Nice Guy habits with powerful emotional leadership
MODULE #6: BOLDLY ESCALATE HER SEXUALLY
– Master the golden art of sexual escalation
MODULE #7: LOCK IN YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE
– Blow her away with your Bold Confidence – even if you still have self-doubts
MODULE #8: GET HER “HOT” WITH BOLD TEXTING – Master the irresistible secrets of bold “hot” texting
MODULE #9: STAND OUT ONLINE WITH BOLD POWER SHIFTING
– Get bold online – from first profile to emailing to First Date
MODULE #10: STAY BOLD EVEN IN THE FACE OF “REJECTION”
– The secret inner life of boldness
MODLUE #11: THE TAO OF [BADA**]
– How to work out your boldness “muscle” every day, for your benefit – -and to her RELIEF!
MODULE #12: BOLD PHONE FOREPLAY/BOLD PHONE SEX
– How to turn the phone into something more sexually exciting than her vibrator.
MODULE #13: BOLD ESCALATION
– More tips, tools and actions to take to lift you from the "friend zone" into the "erotic zone"
MODULE #14: BE BOLDLY ICONIC
– Learn the shortcuts to separating yourself from the herd – via technology, marketing and new tools
MODULE #15: THE ULTIMATE APHRODISIAC: BOLDNESS IN BED
– How to be boldly sexual from the the first minute you meet until her last exhausted moan
(topics may be updated)
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