Love Bucket In the Boardroom

Saturday, January 28th, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »

Love Bucket In the Boardroom – Why Employees Want Happiness

When the Harvard Business Review starts focusing on happy employees you know that putting people first is a core driver.  That’s because the landscape in business is changing and the attention is people (not just profits).

What does that have to do with the love bucket?  Explanation will follow after a few excerpts in italics from the recent HBR.org article

There is a sign of the growing recognition that happy, engaged employees are more productive and generate better outcomes for their companies.

Just as a full love bucket helps a woman become a more happy, engaged girlfriend, wife and partner who is more attentive, more passionate and a better cheerleader in the relationship.

If you want happy employees, you can just pay them more. You can give them more time off. You can give them free lunches by celebrity chefs. Only a few of the things that make employees "happy," however, result in real, sustained benefit for the company.

The Provisions Ring of Desire of the Love Bucket is about providing which can be in the form of gifts, vacations, presents and other goodies.  And, as noted above with employees, the stuff alone does not sustain happiness.

We have been studying the links between employee engagement and customer loyalty for a few years now, and we’ve found that the only route to employee happiness that also benefits shareholders is through a sense of fulfillment resulting from an important job done well.

For men, the feeling of a job well done on the job is critical.  For women, in a relationship the feeling of being part of a deeply committed relationship where her love bucket is being filled regularly and she is part of making her man’s life better leads to mutual benefit.  Filling the love bucket is part of fulfillment.

Direct feedback from customers. The most important step, of course, is providing a steady stream of feedback from customers and then "closing the loop" quickly by sharing it directly with employees in its most raw form. When frontline employees and managers hear directly from customers — when they see how customers scored their experience, when they hear what went right and wrong in the customer’s own words — the effect is dramatic. Applause in the form of positive feedback inspires them to keep up the good work. Criticism often inspires employees to improve their performance on their own or to seek additional coaching so they can do better next time.

Applause and positive feedback work the same. Here’s where things change from the boardroom to the bedroom.  Criticism usually does not inspire your woman.  It creates distance.  Because criticism in an intimate relationship is personal.  There are ways to broach wanting to make changes but outright criticism is not one of them.

Loyal, passionate employees stay longer, work harder, work more creatively, and find ways to go the extra mile.

Loyal, passionate lovers who have a regularly filled love bucket put more effort into the happiness of the relationship.  And your sex life improves. 

Being the “Chairman of the Relationship” is about having your shareholder become more invested in you and your relationship with more SHARING of love, sex, passion, and FUN!  See Love Bucket Article describing “Chairman of the Relationship” here Chairman of the Relationship

And, speaking of business, boardrooms and bedroom, check out the items with various love bucket logos in The Love Bucket store.

Filling Your Love Bucket With A Fortune

Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Gifts, Her Love Bucket, Lifestyle, Love Dynamics, Lovematism, Romance, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist®, The Man Class Series | No Comments »

Can You Fill Her Love Bucket?

FORTUNE — Operating a successful business is supposed to be a ticket to the good life — but sometimes it comes at a cost. The following Fortune Magazine article is annotated by Sherrie Rose, The Love Linguist, with tips to help guys fill the love bucket and understand how to stay in the (benevolent) power position and remain the Chairman of the Relationship, not just the Chairman of the Board.

Story: Stephen Adele was too busy building his $20 million Golden, Colo., nutritional supplements company, iSatori, to spend much time with his wife and three children.

"I would try to compensate by buying her and my family things," he recalls. The cars and jewelry didn’t work, of course, and the couple just got divorced. => If the Provisions Ring of Desire is not one of her priority Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket, no fancy gifts or presents will make woman happy. <= Stephen Adele is now, finally, spending more time with his three daughters. Here’s a little advice that might help you avoid matrimonial discord.

• 1. Keep a flexible schedule

You may not be able to work less, but you probably have time to take a few items off your spouse’s to-do list. Brad Dresbach, co-founder of the Columbus branding and marketing firm 42Fish, tackles such daily errands for his family as picking up birthday cakes — relieving stress for his wife, Danielle, who has a much more inflexible corporate job. => This is the DO FOR Ring of Desire of the Love Bucket. Again, if this is not one of her priority rings of desire, hire a personal assistant for these tasks. Check out the 5 Love Dynamics: Acclimating Dynamic which all about the business of living, chores, household, etc.

2. Ration e-mail time

When you’re home, be present. Jeff Booth, CEO of BuildDirect, a 63-employee building materials retailer, has a wife, Kelly, who posts what a great dad he is on Facebook, though he spends 60 hours a week working. He attributes that to shutting off his phone as soon as he gets home so he can enjoy activities with her and their children– instead of checking e-mail poolside. => This is one of those common sense things that both men and women ignore. Giving attention especially when you are in physical proximity is a key to love success. If you are out of town, sweet-nothing voice mails, sexy texts (goes for guys and gals) may give her some attention and fun.

3. Hold family summits

D.J. Rezak, founder of KB Building Services, a commercial cleaning company in Omaha, credits weekly meetings with keeping the family organized and freeing up time for him to spend with his wife, Lisa. The family pauses during Sunday dinners to talk about the week, discuss upcoming plans, and hold an occasional talent show. "It makes it feel like our family is a priority," says Lisa. => Repeat from above - Check out the 5 Love Dynamics: Acclimating Dynamic which all about the business of living, chores, household, etc..

4. Share your interests

It’s easy to get so caught up in your own thing that you ignore your partner’s pursuits. Razor Suleman, CEO of I Love Rewards, a Boston rewards and recognition business with $50 million in sales, tries to avoid that mistake. He joined his wife, Kari, a web developer, at a summit she needed to go to for work. "It was amazing that Razor took an interest in an event that I was excited to attend," she says. "It sparked a dialogue we would not have had otherwise." => This is a great tip starting with the Recognition Ring of Desire and the Do With and Lifestyle Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket. This is a triple win for a man and she’s HAPPY!

5. Schedule regular vacations

Brad Feld, founder of VC firm Foundry Group, started scheduling regular vacations after his wife, Amy Batchelor, almost dumped him for working during an entire weekend trip. They now have one-week vacations each quarter — known as their "Qx vacation." The ground rules? He unplugs completely, giving her his smartphone. "She gives it back the following week," he says. Colleagues work around it, and Feld stays married. => The Do With and Lifestyle Rings of Desire of the Love Bucket are active here. Check out the 5 Love Dynamics on how to the Cultivating Dynamic works to build more lovematism in your relationship.

–Verne Harnish is a Fortune Magazine contributor and the CEO of Gazelles Inc., an executive education firm. Source: http://money.cnn.com/2011/06/27/smallbusiness/business_marriage_balance.fortune/index.htm

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