How often do you have to fill The Love Bucket?
The goal is to stay consistent.
It is not how often; it is sustained consistency creates the flow of love between lovers when filling the love bucket. Fits and starts are what dry up or even worse put a “hole in the love bucket” and then you have to start all over again. Any previous effort you put in goes back to zero.
Zig Ziglar, famous salesman who died November 2012, author and public speaker talked about drawing water from a pump. At first, you have to continuously pump pretty hard in order to raise the water out. After doing this for a while, the water begins to flow but you must remember to apply steady pressure in order to keep the water flowing. If you don’t, you have to start all over again.
Instead of pumping water out… you are filling the love bucket. It needs to be filled at a minimum level to keep her happy.
Another way to look at this is how we exercise. You cannot “store” exercise; it needs to be consistent. You cannot workout 10 hours a day in January and February and expect that on December 31st you will still be in shape.
Stay consistent and reap the benefits in your efforts to fill her love bucket.
When you know which of the 7 Rings of Desire she wants shine up, her love bucket can be easily filled and consistently filled.
Have you filled her love bucket today?
You deserve passionate, living, thrilling, creative intimacy with a woman – it creates an upward spiral in your life
… and when you fill her love bucket your life will get better, too!
A man of discernment and experience –KNOWS – to love someone is a CONSCIOUS ACTION.
There is a big difference if you are 20 and looking for a woman or 50 and looking for a woman. Experience, maturity, clarity, all affect what kind of woman you will attract into your life.
Love, cherishment – it is a PRACTICE — a practice that you EACH do even when you don’t feel like it. And by practice, I mean filling the love bucket with the actions and filling the desires of the Rings of Desire of The Love Bucket.
Love is a consciously chosen perception. It is a commitment. And it must go both ways.
Adam, who I wrote about in How to Get a Woman to Do Anything is the creator of The Boldness Code.
Adam had a fascinating and heart-breaking talk that I will recount, with a very talented and intelligent young man who is around 20 and in a love relationship for almost a year now.
And though he and his girl clearly mean a lot to each other, he finds that every day is like playing that old battery-operated game, Operation.
You make one tiny wrong move and – ANNNNGH! – she cries. Or she flips out. She gets angry. She blames you for hurting her.
And because this young man has a kind and caring heart – he is distracted every day, trying to "fix" what he cannot fix.
Loving somebody when you are a young person is not the same as loving somebody as a man of experience.
When young people talk about loving each other, they are talking about an EMOTION.
They are talking about something they FEEL.
An energy. A strange gravity. A hormonal stew in the brain and the balls.
If she’s not playing along with you… That is called triage. That is called therapy. That is called a recipe for your misery.
Don’t Waste Your Affection on The Wrong Girls
Most of the romantic stuff you hear on TV and in popular culture is a lie.
The cult of overblown weddings is a cult of slavery. Adam did not know how to fill the love bucket when he was married. He has two sons so he is not in a protective state over daughters. If you ar divorced, and feeling slightly angry, you may look back at your wedding album and all those drunken slobs and relatives – and think "that" is supposed to remind you of what love is. It’s not.
No matter if you are 20 or 70, you need to fill the love bucket each day. That means daily or at least regular actions to fill the love bucket with a living daily game of playful, engaged one-on-one actions and interaction.
Adam wants to help men, particularly men over 35. He says, screw social rules and customs. They are relics of the past and they are not made for you.
When you don’t cultivate your boldness a man, you’ve sold your freedom for a penny.
The Bold Man creates his own reality.
The Bold Man does not waste his affections on women who are not "in the game" with him, not playing this game of intimacy and passion for mutual growth and evolution.
The Bold Man LOVES to relate, to dig in, to explore what it means to be vulnerable, and true, and in the dirt, and honest and fearless and excruciatingly tender.
The Bold Man is alive to the moment.
And the Bold Woman is thrilled and inspired by him.
Everything’s in motion.
Everything’s vital. Vital, dynamic, pulsing, creative, in-the-moment love and life.
Break Free Into Bold Intimacy – Now with THE BOLDNESS CODE
Boldness TURNS ON women – and when you just start putting the daily techniques and practices I teach you into practice, you will see a change – not only in how women respond to you – but in how you feel about yourself.
For Better Or Worse, Relationships – Are You Filling The Love Bucket?
Relationships, specifically a primary relationship (husband and wife) is one of the most significant connections you will ever have, one that can impact your life for better or worse and for richer or poorer.
Do you fill the love bucket AFTER you have found your special someone? What helps sustain a relationship is continuing to put effort into growing and cultivating your love relationship.
The first of the 5 Love Dynamics is Dating. Blind dating, online dating, double dating, double your dating… Every dating scenario you try that may be uncomfortable and if you create The Love Bucket list helps clarify to attract what you want in a partner but it is not an end goal.
Some people think, finally I’ve got the person and once you get married, it is almost as if it’s another item to crossed off your checklist. Married, check. Career/business, check. Children, check. Very often people have a romanticized idea in mind as to what our lives will be like after we get married, one that is often not based in reality. That’s why there are 5 Love Dynamics and Dynamic #4 is often a big issue.
Inevitably, the honeymoon ends and life goes on.
You get busy at work, spending time with coworkers, chat with your friends (guys talk about their big deals or sports and ladies often focus on discussing relationship woes as a main topic because their love bucket is not being filled).
If you have kids they take your attention and your love relationship withers, and perhaps your sexual dynamic also takes a back seat. You may end up spending more time apart and confiding in those people with whom we share our day instead of our lover and life partner.
Create time where you can come back together with your significant other to reconnect and share. This is a fundamental aspect of any relationship. You must put the time in. This connection has the potential to be totally satisfying and complete, helping you grow to levels of emotional intimacy that you are not aware exist. You can add some romance and power her passion. The Love Linguist estimates that you can do this in just four hours per week – a Four Hour Relationship.
Unfortunately, too often couples do not consistently invest in nurturing their love and when challenges arise, there isn’t a strong base from which to work. That means every week – a minimum of four hours. The idea of nurturing your relationship four hours per week is a simple step but takes planning. Make love a priority. If you put in the time it may be the very foundation on which the outcome of future experiences and conflicts are based.
Here are four keys that are important for growing and cultivating your relationship.
KEY 1. GOOD – Consciously focus on the good in one another.
Make a conscious effort to focus on the good because this is what allows us to appreciate our lover. This is something we do when we first start dating. We de-emphasize the negative and overemphasize the positive. Unfortunately, the scales shift to the opposite after we’re married. Only through a conscious effort can we create a consistent kindness, fondness and appreciation towards one another, where we actually want to honor "until death do us part." Stop criticizing. Focus on the Recognition Ring of Desire of The Love Bucket.
KEY 2. TIME Cherish small moments of intimacy and laughter.
Finding the opportunities in day-to-day experiences to engage and create beautiful moments and memories together is what it’s all about. Making a commitment to each other that no problem or obstacle will be bigger than your commitment to each other is so important. Plan your Four Hour Relationship in advance before the week gets started so you have special time together.
KEY 3. BE OPEN Be vulnerable with one another.
Perhaps you have been open and vulnerable in the past and someone you trusted used it against you. When you give your heart to somebody you trust and love can blossom. Forget being be too proud or untrusting to become vulnerable, because so much love and connection can come from this type of openness.
KEY 4. RESTORE. When things are bad, repair.
Restore the balance and repair the problems. Do not bury. If you argue, say, "I regret what I said." I forgive you now. Otherwise, if there is a new fight, the previous argument gets added in to it until things blow up. Break the cycle. You cannot cultivate if the environment is toxic. Come back together for repair is important. Discuss what happened and how to grow from it.
If you didn’t know this already, there are no perfect or consistent marriages. There may be happy ones, but not consistent or perfect partnerships. Either you are growing forward or falling backwards in your relationship. There is no constant; there is only change and movement. This is true in all areas of our life. This is "the way of life," so find your four hour relationship to connect and be intimate, not just sex, but cultivating your connection. You owe it to your love life not to settle for mediocrity in any way, and instead to cultivate and allow your relationship to become the source that boosts your life with joy, support and love.
If you are man who wants to improve his relationship with his wife or lover, then take The Man Class. Discover what she wants and how to fill her love bucket. You’ll be the hero and win with her and she will be happy.
Happy Easter Fills The Love Bucket!
The concept of The Love Bucket® in romance and relationships holds the image of a bucket filled with love. Holidays increase the focus on your love ones to share your love with. Holidays, like Easter and Passover, are times to fill The Love Bucket®!
The Love Bucket®! has been compared with an Easter Basket full of sweetness but it is a concept not a physical bucket. Even though the 7 Rings of Desire® and The Love Bucket® are represented by images what fills the love bucket is intangible because love is a feeling!
Watching your loved ones smile and laugh at holiday time and every time fills The Love Bucket®
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iPhone, iPad, and Jokes – Can they Fill The Love Bucket?
Filling the love bucket could include a present such as a piece of technology. That would shine up the Provisions Ring of Desire. However, a guy needs to be pro with his vision.
(the worst part of this joke that is passed around via email is not the fighting, but because of the hospital photo, that it ended violence – never funny.)
The joker who gave the household appliance is missing his key to vision for Pro-vision. Observation is the key to understanding. If you don’t know, ask. A women will quickly volunteer her opinion.
Another joke about the nagging wife could have been avoided if the husband had just hired an iMaid instead.
In the 5 Love Dynamics, the Acclimating Dynamic has to do with how you live together. In the Love Bucket Concept, the Lifestyle Ring of Desire determines your choices in lifestyle.
Guys learn more about the Love Bucket in the Man Class.
Guys and Gays learn more about the 5 Love Dynamics Program here.
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