The Love Bucket: Dynamics of Playful/Romantic Conversation

Tuesday, July 5th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Her Love Bucket, Love Bucket List, Love Dynamics, Masterman, Mastermen, The Love Bucket®, The Love Linguist® | No Comments »

The dynamics of playful/romantic conversation

The 5 Love Dynamics  are about interpersonal love dynamics. One of the 5 Love Dynamics is the DATING Dynamic. The rest of the love dynamics are when you are more intimate or in married or serious relationship.

Whether you are casually dating or a committed couple having a playful romantic conversation keeps things hot!

When dating, there is more sexual tension and unknown factors that then to lean a conversation or sexting toward a more frisky, catch-me-if-you-can type interaction. If you’ve been together for a long time, inject a little “we just met” romantic flirtation into your conversation.

It all starts with surprise. Mystery, Intrigue. I like to call it the “tantalizing tease.” Lots of sexual innuendo.

So if you are newly dating simply start imagining situations you would like to get into with your date.

If you’ve been a couple for a while and perhaps sunk into a routine, rewind the mental memories and go back to when you first met. What did your lover look like? What turned you on about them? What were some of the things you laughed about? Get into the state of mind when things were fresh and new.

There are two ways to have a conversation. Face to face and through electronic contact (text, phone, email, video or IM chat, etc.). If you’re nervous, choose electronic chat to start but realize you’ll eventually have to meet face to face.

Let’s start with the B-Spot. That’s the brain. Men and women’s brains are wired differently. Turn on a woman’s B-spot to get to her G spot. Her B-spot is her most sexually erogenous zone. Start here and the body will follow.

Men like visual stimulation. So look good! Look first then touch (all over)!

Women want the man to be the Masterman in the powerful take-charge position. A woman wants to be taken. Women want to be seduced and ravished. A woman wants a man to be respectful at the same time being sexy. Easy enough to do when you’re dating because you are not “playing house” together.

However, if you are “playing house” you better be filling her love bucket. Otherwise it will be more effort to shine up the Sex Ring of Desire. But that’s another story. We’ll assume her love bucket is full or almost full for this conversation. When that is the case, the main thing to do is assure the woman that the only thing she has to do is relax. You’ve taken care of everything.

It all starts with a story. Preferably a fantasy. You get to make it up. Use sexual language to amplify sexual energy. Get your lover’s attention with verbal imagery. Make your mate or date seem like a sex goddess or sex god. Yes, flattery does work! Give some direct orders like, go lie down on the bed and close your eyes.

Create curiosity! The story must evoke curiosity. Curiosity is what is tantalizing in the tease. Leave sentences unfinished.

Sexting is sexual foreplay in electronic form. Start early in the day to build anticipation and excitement. The tantalizing tease has a slow build. This is a playful back and forth banter with some long pauses to keep the tension building. Depending on how comfortable your language can be x-rated. Your intention is everything.

“You make me feel so…”

“I get weak in the knees and hot somewhere else the way your eyes smile at me…”

“I can feel your strong muscles when I close my eyes…”

“I can feel your velvet skin on my fingertips…”

Use other sense words like smell, taste, tongue, mouth, lips, eyes, and any body parts

Use action words that show you are more than talk (or text) like lick, nibble, energy, explode, penetrate, come, hot, breath, caress, touch.

Use adjectives like amazing, special, whisper, delightful, thrust, gorgeous,

Your story should have loads of imagination and tell your date or mate what they are experiencing and feeling in every part of their body.

If you are new at this try the “This is what I am going to do” fantasy. You can do this face to face or through electronic contact. If you do this face to face you need undivided attention. Peer into your lover’s eyes. Run your fingers lightly over their body as you tell the story. Expect laughing, blushing, and perhaps shyness.

f you don’t think you have any imagination then re-tell a previous intimate experience and add to it and make it more spicy with a “let’s do it again” ending.  Ladies can get in on the action with texting romance!

Electronic contact and face to face conversations don’t have to end in sex. It is just to build sexual tension that connects a couple. Keeping the mystery and curiosity alive is fun. Letting your partner now that they turn you on is a HUGE turn on. Narrating a fantasy is fun and you can take turns.

Of course, in your conversation including a line like this….

Lover 1: “I was just thinking about…

Lover 2: “About what…

Lover 1: “About how much I love you.”

…definitely will get your lover’s attention.

Think naughtiness, anticipation, and reuniting with hot passion. Focus on your lover’s pleasure and you’ll get yours soon enough. Make your lover #1.

 

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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Love Bucket makes a Freudian Click!

Tuesday, June 28th, 2011 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Dating, Mating, Relating, Love Dynamics, Masterman, Mastermen, Seduction, SEX, Sherrie Rose Recommends, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »

 

A Freudian Click just made the word of the day taking its basic meaning from the well-known “Freudian Slip” of the tongue.

The Contact Ring of Desire of the Love Bucket takes several forms.  One of those forms is electronic contact.  Urban Dictionary gave “Freudian Click” the Urban Word of the day with the meaning sending an email to someone by mistake.

The example, “A second after I hit ‘send’, I realized that I made a Freudian Click and emailed a love note to my ex instead of my girlfriend.  So embarrassing. ”

What’s interesting about Freudian Click is NOT that it mirrors a Freudian slip, also called parapraxis, which is an error in speech, memory, or physical action that is interpreted as occurring due to the interference of some unconscious  wish, conflict, or train of thought ("dynamically repressed" but not the 5 Love Dynamics). The concept is thus part of classical psychoanalysis.

What’s interesting about Freudian Click is that there are 3 entries and this one, today’s word of the day, just sprinted to the winning line after being in the dictionary since Sep 24, 2008.

The moral of this story, good things take time.  So does cultivating love which is part of the 5 Love Dynamics.

Freudian Click is a reflection of our current society particularly texting and sexting.  You can use your cell phone to send mobile messages.  That is one way to fill the love bucket!  Modern day love letters all the way to red hot dirty talking texts – you decide how hot it will get. Works for both men and women. 

If you are a MAN looking for love and you’re a married man or in a relationship, check out this Contact Ring of Desire TEXTING her into bed system.

Texting/Sexting for GUYS to get Gals TEXTING her into bed

If you’re a WOMAN who’s looking to spice things up ROMANTICALLY with the  Contact Ring of Desire check out the TEXTING the romance method.

 

Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!

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Follow @SherrieRose on Twitter and you’ll get a Direct Message with bonus link for a free Love Bucket Book™

The Love Bucket is a registered trademark.  Love Bucket Books™ can be found at http://lovebucketbook.com

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