Four Seasons of Love Part 3 (Fill The Love Bucket)
Wednesday, March 7th, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Romance, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »Four Seasons of Love Part 3
For many people, you would not Fill The Love Bucket unless you were in a committed relationship or married.
Since many relationships are not legal marriages but have a commitment, we are calling Season 3 of the Four Seasons of Love, Commitment.
Here’s a quick recap of the Four Seasons of Love Defined:
DATING - Season 1 of the Four Seasons of Love
INTIMACY - Season 2 of the Four Seasons of Love
COMMITMENT - Season 3 of the Four Seasons of Love
BREAK-UP & MAKE-UP - Season 4 of Four Seasons of Love
Four Seasons of Love celebrates love providing ideas for experiences for couples in the real world and online. The Love Bucket of romance and intimacy gives you and a chance to rekindle the flames of passion… Four Seasons of Love define the four seasons of the lifecycle of love in four parts. Part1 = Season 1, Part 2 = Season 2, Part 3 = Season 3, Part 4= Season 4
The well-known Dummies books have several volumes relating to the four seasons of love.
To honor our friends and authors of the Dummies books we will dedicate the four seasons of love to them. Here’s some of their sage advice:
Finding Ways to Date Your Mate
Taking the person you share your life with for granted is an easy habit to get into. The fact that you have sex on a semi-regular basis, share a checkbook, and discuss whether or not to paint the living room does not mean that you have license to ignore the romantic quotient of your relationship. No couple should expect to be romantic all of the time; you do have a life that needs your attention. The best way to make sure that you do have some romance in your relationship is to continue to date, just the way you did before you began to shack up.
The definition of a date isn’t set in stone. Part of the dating process centers on the activities you do together. Another part centers on the attitude that you bring to a date. You may dine in the most romantic restaurant in the world, but if one of you can’t stop thinking about the big sales meeting scheduled for the following morning, the date is going to be a washout. On the other hand, sharing even a cold can of soup when a storm knocks out your electricity can be very romantic when the two of you ignore your circumstances and give each other your full concentration.
The morning date in committed relationships
Like any other date, a morning date takes planning. In fact, morning dates may require more planning than others. When you first get up, your creative juices may feel drained. How do you overcome your grogginess? Take the time to prepare. For example, if you want to have a romantic breakfast in bed, prepare a breakfast tray the night before. Set an electric pot to brew coffee so that it’s ready when you wake up. You don’t have to think about what to do when you plan ahead; just follow your own instructions.
Lunch dates in committed relationships
Lunch dates are a great way to keep your romance going during the week. If your offices are close enough to each other, meet somewhere for lunch. You don’t have to meet in a restaurant. Maybe there’s a park at the halfway point where you could brown bag it.
The menu for a lunch date is not critical to its success. Your time is limited; you may find the most convenient meal is to grab a couple of hot dogs from a street vendor. If the weather’s nice, just sharing some unaccustomed sunlight on a workday can seem like a mini-vacation.
Phone dates in committed relationships
If you can’t meet in person, use the phone. You can both find a phone out of the office to ensure some privacy and call each other. You may each have a cell phone — you can call from anywhere you like. If not, see if a conference room or nearby phone booth can offer the privacy you need.
You can keep your voice low and whispery to cultivate intimacy. Your intonations are very different than when you speak to your partner in person, even when your partner is sitting only a few feet away. You’re more likely to say something silly or very personal on the phone than when your mate is in the same room.
Traditional dinner dates in committed relationships
What differentiates a date from just a meal? How much time you spend is one factor. If you linger over each course and don’t mind that the waiter is taking his time bringing you the bill, that means you’re deep in conversation and busy rekindling your romance. Another indicator may be what you order. For example, sharing a bottle of wine puts you in a different mood than drinking mineral water.
Keep in mind that not everybody finds a restaurant the ideal place for a date. The problem may be with diversions at the restaurant. At these types of establishments, your partner may get so involved in what is going on around him or her that full attention is not given to your conversation. If your twosome includes someone who is easily distracted, you’re better off ordering takeout for your romantic dinner dates so that you can get him or her to give you undivided attention.
Nontraditional dinner dates in committed relationships
A dinner date usually means that two people get together between about 6 and 9 p.m. to share a meal. However, you may also spend that time together without eating a thing. If you decide that the meal part of the date is not that important, you open up a whole world of possible activities:
· Go for a run, stop at a nearby lake, and watch the sunset or the stars twinkle.
· Take a painting or language class together and stimulate your minds.
· Take in an early movie, when the lines aren’t so long, and dine on buttered popcorn and chocolate-covered raisins.
· Take advantage of the last hours of daylight to work on your garden; then have a salad from the greens you picked in your back yard.
In other words, a nontraditional dinner date means that you set aside your dinner time to do something different together, rather than sit at home, eat leftovers, and watch TV.
Extended dates in committed relationships
How great would it be if you could hop on a plane Friday afternoon and spend the weekend in Paris? Relaxing and being pampered at a 5 star hotel or resort is a great getaway. Such glamorous voyages don’t mix with most people’s budgets. However, you can find less extravagant ways of spending an entire weekend together.
Many people take weekend trips that involve getting into the family vehicle, picking a place on the map a few hours away, and enjoying whatever that community has to offer.
You may also have a particular goal in mind for your trip. If you like to shop for antiques, you could head for areas that have lots of antique dealers. If you want to check out the fall foliage, a nearby state park would be another great weekend destination.
Some trips, like a visit to an orchard to go apple picking, are perfect for sharing with your children. However, your kids should know that some weekend trips are only for mom and dad. Set this precedent early and they won’t howl quite as loudly when you leave them with their grandparents.
Don’t try to pack too much into these long weekends. For a trip to qualify as a date, you need some time to unwind and get close to one another. That closeness is difficult to achieve if you never remove your seat belts.
Here are some additional resources on the Four Seasons of Love at Dummies.com
Thanks to the Dummies books who are celebrating in March and for being part of the Four Seasons of Love.
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Fill The Love Bucket: Married or not… you should read this.
Sunday, February 12th, 2012 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, The Love Bucket® | 2 Comments »
Marriage.
Married or not… you should read this.
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore.
Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you share this, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
shared by Razel Miguel
Love Bucket Filled for 50 Years: Larry & Pat
Friday, January 13th, 2012 Posted in 7 Rings of Desire, Heart, Her Love Bucket, Romance, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »
Love Bucket Filled for 50 Years: Larry Fills Pat’s Love Bucket!
The beginning of a love journey often starts with a date, then an engagement, then a wedding. Pat and Larry have love that reaches to the moon and back and since their last name is Moon, that’s a good thing!
I met Pat online. She wanted to be my Facebook friend. I have hundred of Facebook friend requests and I look at every one individually. What struck me about Pat was her cover photo showing the two love birds with a handcrafted “Happy 50th Anniversary” cover photo with handprints of family members. And the really do look happy in the photo. Real love shows in the smile.
50 years of marriage. Wow! 50 Years of HAPPY Marriage! That only happens when the love bucket is being filled regularly, consistently, and with the rings of desire that a unique to the special lady. Pat is a lucky wife to have a husband who fills her love bucket. 50 years of filling the love bucket is quite an achievement!
Sherrie Rose recommends Filling Her Love Bucket!
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Love Bucket Filled with Marriage and Babies on New Year’s 2012
Sunday, January 1st, 2012 Posted in Heart, Her Love Bucket, Love Dynamics | No Comments »Love Bucket Filled with Marriage (Frank Kern) and Baby (Lindsay Wilson) on New Year’s 2012
Frank Kern married Natalia Muntean on News Year’s Day 2012. Relationship status changes are big news on Facebook.
He took the time to post this twice on Facebook.
Frank also posted his marriage news on his Facebook page.
Frank and Mike Koenigs put The Love Linguist on the hot seat in 2008. Here’s the video about The Love Bucket on How to Satisfy Your Wife (video 4:10 duration).
Frank’s lovely wife, Natalia, is pregnant and expecting a boy in February. He has two daughters with his first wife, India.
Speaking of babies, Social media strategist, Lindsay Wilson, just had a baby boy. Welcome Henry! A new life event for her Facebook Timeline.
Great way to start off the year filled with love, hope, happiness and baby’s breath! Congratulations to all!
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
Dedicated to Enhancing Your Love and S*X Life!
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The best way to fill her love bucket is to discover the 5 Love Dynamics that will lead you to Great Love, Sex, and Life!
Love Bucket Engagements, Weddings and Lovematism!
Monday, November 14th, 2011 Posted in Dating, Mating, Relating, Lovematism, The Love Bucket® | No Comments »Love Bucket Engagements, Weddings and Lovematism!
We can share our love with friends and family. The wedding and marriage of Melanie and Michael has received many comments and the couple is showered with love. May they experience the deep bond of lovematism.
Weddings aren’t the only big relationship activity of the day. Engagements get top-billing on facebook. The red heart shows prominently on the profile as the name of the fiancé and fiancée is now clearly attached together.
LOVE IS IN THE AIR!!!
Even Google got in on the action alerting this post “Love Bucket Engagements, Weddings and Lovematism!” Share the Love!
