How to Get a Woman to Do Anything
You see her across the room.
She’s leggy. Charming. Perfect teeth. Adorable. Seemingly open and friendly – and available…
She looks up. Your eyes meet…
How do you go from that first "look" – to (2) an easy, natural and sexually charged conversation to (3) a sweet first kiss to (4) breathless "take-me" surrender?
Hey – it’s a GREAT question.
The answer – natural law.
What do I mean by that?
It’s not what you think. It’s not, "be the alpha gorilla" and drag her into the bushes.
Rather, as men, as men who succeed in the world, as men who take ourselves seriously, who take our lives seriously, who are committed to evolve and become more powerful, more confident…
… we gather our ideas and our knowledge from more sophisticated sources.
The psychology of influence is a fascinating study and makes you a smarter and more effective man. As the writer of this guest post, I must tell you that I read everything I can — and I test what I read.
This week, I’ve been reading a book on how to change behavior recommended by the CEOs of Hasbro, McKesson, Cessna, Allergan and the Chief of Staff of the US Army – among others. The book is "What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Get Even More Successful" – by Marshall Goldsmith. Marshall is one of the top presenters at the annual WBECS Summit. And I’ve been studying it, looking for even more lessons to share with the guys who are in my Boldness Code 60 Day Transformation Program. And I want to tell you something that struck me… because it makes all the difference with women.
… and it is the heart of the kind of Boldness I teach.
If you remember from our Teaching Webinar on Boldness – I showed you how BOLDNESS is "the ability to make your will felt in the world." And not just your will – but your will without apology and without domineering.
In fact, with no attachment at all and no dependency at all on other people’s reaction or approval.
Boldness is internal freedom and the ability to – in the moment – act, speak and follow through based solely on your desire to make your will felt.
That kind of freedom – demonstrated in word, body and action – electrifies women.
Now – there are two kinds of boldness.
1. Shitty boldness hurts people. Leaves them scarred for life.
2. The kind of Boldness I teach in the course in "Ennobling Boldness" – the kind of strong, internal freedom that INSPIRES women to want to be with you. To see in the first 10 seconds that YOU are that unusual man who stands out from the crowd and can take them for an exciting ride.
Goldsmith says in his book – really a primer for CEOs and other highly successful men – that "natural law" trumps everything…
"The only natural law I’ve witnessed in three decades of observing successful people’s efforts to become more successful is this: People will do something – including changing their behavior – only if it can be demonstrated that doing so in their own best interests as defined by their own values."
Here’s what I want you to know about Boldness and why this course will give you what you need to use to succeed with woman in an entirely new way.
When you meet women…
1: TUNE INTO THE ONE STATION SHE LISTENS TO
To reframe this statement above – every woman is tuned to the same radio station: "WIIFM" – "what’s in it for me."
2: GIVE IN ORDER TO GET
When you approach women with a "needy" attitude of trying to "get" something from her ( a number, her approval) rather than with an empowered, self-contained attitude of "giving" – she will immediately be attuned to the truth that you are the one with the power, the gifts, the overflow – and she’ll be more receptive to you. It’s a simple shift but a crucial one. You can do this with one phrase – properly delivered.
3: YOU MUST DEMONSTRATE YOU ARE THE SEXUAL LEAD
I show you – how at those 5 make-or-break moments with women – those moments where they decide to "f" you or forget you – that you must, must, must demonstrate that you are 100% comfortable in your sexual body – as a sexual being. As men and women we are sexual beings – and to embody that without shame – through speech, touch, breathing, stance, how you take up space – is a SCREAMING indication to her that you are either likely to give her a great sexual experience or not.
Her sexual experience is "in her best self-interests" as Goldsmith would word it. So if she doesn’t FEEL that likelihood from you, she’s not going to "change her behavior" and go home with you. Or even take you seriously.
If your body is telling her that you’re out for yourself – she’ll turn off. If you are trying to out "display" her, she will turn off. A woman wants to know that you will take her beyond her inhibitions into the blissful land of surrender and release.
Bold men do that. Polite men don’t. Make sure she feels which one you are right away. A bold man is a Masterman.
4: HER VALUES INCLUDE PLEASURE AT THE CENTER
Goldsmith important adds that last phrase. You can’t – and shouldn’t – try to make anyone take actions against their values. What you CAN do is reveal to them that the repressed, withheld, constricted habits they are clinging to are not actually their values…
.. that sexual repression, self-denial and timidity are in fact tyrannical codes of decaying cultural norms designed to control and destroy women’s freedom and independence…
You want to inspire women to change their values, free their values and learn to "love what the soft animal of their bodies" already love.
If you don’t take the lead – you are cheating her of the very pleasure of possessing a life and a body in this delicious world.
Do you want to be the bold man that can lead her into pleasure and happiness, release and surrender, joy and freedom?
If so – you’d better know how to do that for yourself.
… and be the man who is FREE inside, TRUTHFUL outside and SIZZLING with the sexuality of boldness in body, mind, speech and touch.
… you can continue to try to "trick" or "manipulate" or "nice" woman into your bed.
This isn’t just about meeting women
This is about living the life you actually want to live.
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To Your Bold Life,
P.S. Being Bold is definitely one way that creates attraction and leads to you filling her love bucket!
2 Modes for Men in Dating and in Life
There are two modes of being in life for men:
1) You are on the HUNT
2) You are enjoying the FEAST
When you are young, in your 20’s - you SHOULD be on the hunt.
You should have that intense energy of:
I am hunting success, I am hunting for mentors, I am hunting for wisdom, I am hunting for the keys to live my life boldly and gain status and authority and confidence … and of course you are hunting for WOMEN.
This is typically the DFS phase (Dating for Sport or more correctly, Dating for Sex). Winning means you’ve scored in the bedroom. "Hey, Jimmy, are you still DFS or are you looking for ‘the one’?"
That’s typically the average guy in their 20’s.
Older men (and even women) often don’t trust a man in his 20’s who isn’t hungry to conquer the world and taste the pleasures that power and women offer.
If a guy is coasting, he’s hiding or high.
But when you start to gain wisdom and experience and pass 30 and 35 and 40, you look immature if you are too obviously and grossly "on the hunt" for women in particular.
If you are "on the hunt" for finding your life’s purpose that requires a more in-depth discussion.
Have you started taking on the qualities of a full-fledged Masterman?
Have you have secured a certain position that gives a woman a sense of security about who you are, what you do, and what you can offer… “If women didn’t exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning.” One of the richest men in the world said this – Aristotle Onassis.
Your energy with women should not be hungry or needy – but rather – "I am at the feast of my life – and I am inviting you to join me."
You must have something to share to attract her and entice her with your invitation. This is relates to the Provisions Ring of Desire of The Love Bucket and a man needs to become a “pro” with “vision” to fulfill her desires with the right provisions.
You DO want to hunger for those things YOU are passionate about. That will continue throughout your life. And you share the spoils with her. You share the spoils (the material goods, advantages, profits, etc.) that you acquire by your actions or because of your position or situation that you create.
You can do that in small ways – and you can do that in big ways.
You CAN become the MASTERMAN and invite women into your life – rather than be needy, gimme-gimme guy that reminds women of immature adolescent boys or the used-car-salesman.
FYI – today is Manentine’s day
Why I recommend Adam Gilad if you are looking for a Men’s Dating Coach:
I have known Adam Gilad for almost ten years and in that time he has shown me that he is a Masterman. I describe a Masterman as a man who exudes mastery and integrity because he has self-discipline, confidence, clarity of purpose on a daily basis, and strategic direction of his life. Women are extremely attracted to a Masterman (think “Rockstar”), young boys clamor to be lead by a Masterman, and peers seek the counsel of a Masterman.
And, if you seek the counsel of a Men’s Dating Coach, then Adam is one of the few I can truly recommend and vouch for wholeheartedly.
As The Love Lingust®, it helps that Adam has a way with words in both written and spoken forms. He is funny! He is smart and he sees life as adventure to be experienced to the fullest.
Unlike the many 20-something guys who’ve had success with young girls, Adam has lived the spectrum of life and has a couple of sons himself. He knows about relationship and was in a long-term marriage. He’s had many women and life experiences to draw from when he works with you.
Even popular TV shows, like Bones, have characters in dialog where one guy asks another guy for dating advice.
|“She said, ‘Take a hint.’ What did I do wrong?”|
|“It’s not what you did wrong… it’s what you didn’t do.”|
|“Where do you learn this stuff?”|
|“Some things you learn by doing. Riding a bike, driving a car, pleasing a woman.”|
|“I can’t drive a bike or drive a car.”|
|“Or, apparently, please a woman.”|
|“I need specific instructions… a list of techniques to implement… or, a sequence of moves.”|
|“I’m not the guy to talk to about that.”|
|“Why not? You’ve slept with something like 10,000 women.”|
|”Because our relationship is all about what’s up here (points to the brain). What you need to do is talk with someone more earthy.” [I was expecting him to follow with: “Someone like Adam Gilad.”]|
Adam knows more about people than most psychologists. He has trained in many areas and studied with the masters. He is the venerable goldmine ready for you to tap and see the riches come flowing into your own life…. if you are wise enough to take the shortcut!
You can see Adam on this Boldness Code Webinar Encore replay: (Yes, he should have read the book first… The Webinar Way but that aside, there is great free information here for you) http://theboldnesscode.com/replay/
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The Love Linguist® recommends Adam Gilad
The Tarnished Recognition Ring of Desire of The Love Bucket
There are Mastermen out there who are at the top of their game and have their special lady by their side supporting them. These wise Masterman have mastered the art of filling her love bucket. Why? Because they know the benefits come back in so many ways to make their own life better.
A shiny Ring of Desire makes a woman happy.
So what happens when a guy does not fill the love bucket? The Rings of Desire get tarnished. They may even corrode and break. A hole in the love bucket does not give a woman the energy to support or cheer on a man. Smart men know that filling a woman’s love bucket actually gives them an energy boost (instead of a drain).
The Man Class Accelerator is for men only. That doesn’t mean that I don’t hear from women.
And when I do hear from women, it is usually some story of frustration or sadness. Usually the story revolves around one of the 7 Rings of Desire (whether she knows the name of the ring or not). Her special and important Ring of Desire is not getting shined up. It is getting tarnished which weakens the structure of The Love Bucket.
Here’s a recent comment from Anna (name changed for privacy)
Anna: He was using something I gave him. I noticed and said, “Glad this is working out for you!” His response, “You need so much validation…” He was shaking his head back and forth in a disapproving way when he said it. “Why can’t he just say “Thanks” or nod in appreciation?”
She was practically in tears.
He obviously did not shine up her Recognition Ring of Desire. Her focus was lost, her energy was gone, all zapped because of a careless few words that did not fill her love bucket.
His actions and words were like pouring sulfuric acid on her Recognition Ring of Desire. Over time the chances of love to survive wither. The trend is the same and it leads to failure and an empty love bucket. The 7 Rings of Desire are made up of a flesh and blood desire not some high-grade Tantalum metal. This video states that the metal corrodes at a rate of 5 mills per year.
Do you want her love to corrode a little more each month until she is gone? What actions are you taking? Are you corroding your lady’s special Rings of Desire or are you shining up her special Rings of Desire and filling her love bucket?
Is her Ring of Desire tarnished? The most desired of the 7 Rings of Desire is the Recognition Ring of Desire. A kind word or action TODAY will make all the difference in the world to her.
The Love Linguist
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